Is This Worth Buying a Cheaper House?

[Music] brought to you by the every dooll app start budgeting for free today Courtney is in Los Angeles hi Courtney welcome to the ramsy show hi guys thanks for taking my call sure what's up uh my question is should we sell our home to purchase one that's bigger and has lower monthly payments um but my husband would have to commute about two hours to work no no way he's going to hate that okay he's going to hate you well can I elaborate a little bit if I may you can but I don't think it's talking me into commuting two hours not a chance I would do that right no it wouldn't be an everyday thing it would be so he's in law enforcement so he has chunks of days where he's working where he could be staying with his mom and then on his stretches of days off he would be commuting up to us I don't like it I'm just being honest with you you want a part-time husband yeah yeah I mean I'm kind of used to solil Parenting with him being gone H if you want to do it you do it you called and ask if we would do it we were both unanimous in a no what did he say when you when you guys have talked about suggest that he lives with his mother instead of you so that you can get this house what did he say um I mean he's he's open to it he's very cautious we've looked at the area and at the housing and it you know everything looks good but we're just doing a lot of thinking a lot of praying lot I think you're prioritizing the size of the house and the housing situation over the quality of your life of your family and I think it's a bad choice I'd agree with that I agree I mean that's the way she framed it up a bigger house in a lower payment but I lose control of our family relationships they're all over the place you scatterbrain the whole place yeah that's not a a chance not a chance I live 8 minutes from my house and there's no one there but my wife and my dog but I'm still still going home in a few minutes wow that would drown me bananas I couldn't do it in 2 hours I can almost be in Knoxville Tennessee and is it two is it two is it two hours going and two hours coming home that's four hour oh no way there life is too short for all that yeah I mean I understand in Los Angeles you're going to have longer commutes than we have in Nashville sure we have a better quality of life than you do that's right but but just the same 2 hours is not it's not it's not sustainable in the in a relation context no for your kids your kids need their dad more than that and and more than they need their dad living with his mom part-time so you can have this house not a chance yeah I'm not doing it no no no no no no no so it's um here's the other thing um if if both answers suck you have you don't have enough options if the answer that that toour commute sucks and staying where we are is super expensive sucks there's always a third you know what's the what's another option's a fourth option and a fifth option a sixth option uh maybe we don't live in that area of California at all that's right maybe he takes a job in law enforcement in a different place uh that is more affordable that we can live in uh I mean you know maybe you don't make enough to live in that area that's a fact uh and so then you're forced into other decisions people have done that for centuries oh yeah in the United States of America yeah you causes people to move to other areas uh all the time there's always a migration in this country and it a lot of it is driven by economics mhm so um yeah that's a possibility but yeah those aren't the only two options in your life cuz both the options you gave me suck you need more options