Càng già càng tủi nhục nếu nhúng tay 3 việc này - Triết Lý Cuộc Sống

Don't let your old age get in the way of these three things. Ladies and gentlemen, life is full of irreversible changes that no one can predict. Among them are the risks that each of us has to face. So when we are old, we should learn to treat ourselves well, give ourselves the opportunity to be happy, not to be too greedy or too greedy in everything. At the same time, not to take advantage of the happiness when we are old. No matter how carefree and carefree you are, you must be determined not to let these three things get in the way. Let's listen and reflect on life together. First, raise your children. The mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship between Ms. Giang and Mrs. Thoa in Ho Chi Minh City has been transformed face to face, but not by heart, since she gave birth to a son. Happy to have a grandson, Mrs. Thoa took full responsibility for taking care of her son right from the moment he was in her womb. She said, just let it go and worry about it. If you want to give him something to eat or do something, you have to do it. It made Ms. Giang feel that she had taken away her role as a mother. Every meal of Ms. Giang's life was interfered with by her. She was always afraid that doing something would affect her baby's health. The conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law grew stronger when the baby shrimp was born. Mrs. Thoa wanted to apply the experiences of raising young people in the past, while the daughter-in-law intended to raise according to modern knowledge. Afraid of her child being neglected when raising her mother, Mrs. Thoa only let her daughter-in-law eat rice with boiled vegetables, meat, eggs, and chicken, absolutely not to eat vegetables for the first six months. Ms. Thoa had to hide her mother-in-law several times to go out to eat shrimp and fish. She liked to let her child stay in the school, so she bought a few packs of panties for the shrimp before it was too late. She interfered too much in raising her child, so every time she heard her feet step on the stairs, Ms. Giang was thinking about putting her child in the shelter. Although she was happy, her mood had deteriorated. As soon as the shrimp fell, or there was any health problem such as cough, fever, Ms. Giang was paralyzed and could not love her child. Then when the child was in school age, Mrs. Thoa went to each school to find out and ask Han, and she decided for herself which school to send her child to, without asking the opinion of the son and daughter-in-law. Unable to stand the pressure and interference of her mother-in-law, Ms. Giang quarreled with her mother-in-law, making her angry, crying, and sighing because she was so heartbroken about raising her child, but she was also blamed by her daughter. The case of Mrs. Thoa is not rare. Many grandparents at the age of retirement should have enjoyed their old age life, but they were busy with their children's affairs, especially raising their children. Spend a little money on raising their children, to support their small family. Then the father-in-law, mother-in-law, looked after the eldest child, and took care of the youngest child. In addition to 70 years old, he still took care of his children. In fact, the fact that parents help their children to help them reduce their worries is also understandable. That action also stems from love, to feel responsible for taking care of their children. Moreover, grandparents often think that they have experience in raising children, so they certainly do better than their children in taking care of their children. But sometimes, too much interference in taking care of their children can lead to unresolved conflicts, or make children become dependent on their grandparents completely. As someone said, too much tolerance gives birth to ungrateful children. Therefore, taking care of their children is not their current duty, while their parents sleep late, wake up late, or stay up late, or have no time to take care of their children. Someone will say, if I don't take care of my children now, what if they leave me when I'm old? Not taking care of your children does not mean not caring, not helping your children, but helping them in a different way, at a certain level. It depends on the circumstances of the family that we can help and support our children in different ways. But support, the most important thing is that the parents need to understand that taking care of and raising their children is not and should not be their responsibility. They should only support a part of it, and should not interfere or be too much involved in this. This will create an opportunity for the children to grow up, and have time to rest and take care of their health. When the children ask for it, they are ready to do it and give advice, let them decide. Second, the life of the children. Although they have only been married for a few months, Mai always felt extremely frustrated when her parents interfered too much in her marriage. At first, her father-in-law asked his daughter to call Han frequently, while she was often busy at work. Moreover, around the neighborhood, there were only a few questions about health and food. However, her father-in-law still called her often. If he hadn't called, she would have called and not cared about her parents. Her father-in-law often imposed on others, so every time he called, he was like a father-in-law. Where are you? What are you doing? Are you cooking at home or outside? Mai's husband got used to that life, so he always answered gently. As for her, she felt really uncomfortable. After a long time, sometimes she came home. Her husband had just been married for a few months, so she still had no children. However, her father-in-law often asked her to go to the hospital early. Knowing that her parents had children, her husband took the initiative to call her to inform her not to ask too much, but her mother-in-law was not satisfied. After that, her father-in-law taught his daughter-in-law to take care of her. But whenever she met him or called him, he asked her if she had a fever. He told her to remember to do it. At first, Mai answered gently, but after many times her father-in-law asked like that, she felt uncomfortable and told him firmly that her father-in-law didn't have to remind her of that job. She always remembered and did it fully. He thought he understood, but that night, when his husband called, he told him to remind his wife, which made Mai feel not trusted. At the end of last week, Mai went on a trip with some close friends. Knowing that, the next day, her father-in-law called her to advise her to take care of her husband, to help her father-in-law cook for him. At the end of the week, she had to clean up the house. Mai thought that she had never given up on those things. The house was always tidy and clean. Moreover, it was the responsibility of both husband and wife. But her father-in-law suddenly thought that she had to take care of everything. She went to work all week, had a weekend to hang out with her friends, but she was told like that, which made her really tired and bored. Then her father-in-law continued to repeatedly remind her that her husband had to remind his wife like this and like that. That made Mai feel that her husband and her wife's private life was too tight and controlled. Ladies and gentlemen, there are many factors that make a father a mother. A child is always just a young child who needs to be looked after, to be protected. That makes them intervene too deeply, too roughly into the child's private life, think too much, decide too much, or even make the child too much, even though they have their own family. As a result, parents have limited their children's autonomy, even making the relationship with their children more and more negative. Children may be more and more attached to their parents, or feel uncomfortable, want to get out, and stay away from their parents. The factors that make a father a mother when intervening in their child's private life all say that they do so out of love, worry for their child, without any intention, and sometimes they think that they have taught their child to do what they love, to live where they want, to marry the person they love, and to take care of their own life. Sometimes, we spend time visiting our children for three days. When they need our help, just let them know. Don't intervene too deeply into your child's private life and accidentally push them Children have their own private life. Parents also have their own private life. Don't live your life because of your child. Don't cover your child too much. When you are mature enough, let go of your child so that you can live your own private life. We can give advice on your child's private family so that they can refer to whether they are successful or not. It is up to you not to blame them. We only do our own responsibility and our children have to choose their own solutions for their own life after receiving advice from their parents. 3. Conflicts between siblings The two siblings had a conflict in dividing the land and taking care of their mother, so their brother became a burden for both of them. Witnessing the two siblings arguing without looking at each other, Mr. Nguyen found each person to analyze the right and wrong with the hope that both would listen. However, Mr. Nguyen's two siblings suspected that he was standing on the other side and finally turned to him. Standing in the middle, he did not know how to deal with it. He did not think that one day he would be grateful The conflict between siblings is a very sensitive issue because it involves close relationships in a big family. When you do not know everything, it is impossible to make a right judgment and not to interfere in the family's business to avoid bringing unworthy misfortune to yourself. Ladies and gentlemen, to have a peaceful, peaceful and happy life, you have to learn how to let go and not hold on to the things above. And our parents not only struggled to take good care of their current life, but also prepared for us to live a carefree life. If you like to eat, eat. If you like to sleep, sleep. If you like to play, play. Everyone has a youth to strive for, so everyone deserves a real rest and not to hold on to the things below. First, health. Human life is extremely weak. Many people when they reach middle age discover that their health is not as good as before. When people are sick and tired, they often think and regret that they did not work and get a reasonable rest. But when the disease has a good transformation, people often forget this truth. Second, family. Family is the warmest side of each person. People at middle age have to understand the meaning and importance of family. At middle age, it is not love that the family has the strength to help us overcome all difficulties. Third, friendship. There are many good friends just like you have many warm shirts in the cold winter. The personality and character of a person determines how many really good friends he has around. When you reach middle age, everyone needs to cherish that thing. Fourth, dignity. Dignity is something that not only people at middle age need to cherish. People at middle age have experienced many ups and downs of life and need to understand that dignity is precious to everyone. Fifth, behavior and speech. Language is a sharp weapon that can hurt others. People at middle age need to understand that speech is a kind of art. When you have seen a person, you don't need to say too much. People at middle age should not use their eyes to look up and down but speak in a polite way. When you are upset, you should speak slowly. If you live too rationally, you may become an extreme person. But if you are not smart, you may become a bad person. Therefore, at middle age, you should know what to let go and what to keep to have a safe and happy life. At the end of today's video, let's listen to a story from a martial arts teacher. A 10-year-old boy decided to learn judo even though he lost his left arm in a car accident. He studied judo with a Japanese martial arts teacher because he believed that he had studied very carefully and progressively. So he was very curious why after 3 months of training, the teacher only taught him one martial arts. Finally, he couldn't stand it anymore and asked the teacher if he couldn't learn other martial arts. He replied, this is the only martial arts you need to learn. Although he didn't understand the teacher's words, but he believed in the teacher and continued to practice. Many months later, the old master took him to a judo competition. The boy was very surprised when he found himself easy to win in the first two matches. The third match was more difficult, but after a while, the opponent was impatient in the attacks, but because of his success, he confidently entered the final match. This time, his opponent was a tall, big, healthy and more experienced martial artist. Not long after the match, the boy was repeatedly hit and was completely overwhelmed by the opponent. After the first round, he was afraid that the boy would be injured and decided to end the match early, but his teacher did not agree. Just let the boy continue, the martial artist asked so. Right after the match began, the opponent made a serious mistake, he considered the opponent injured and was unaware. Immediately, the boy used his only martial art to knock down the opponent and choke him on the floor. And the boy won the title of invincible. On the way home, the two players continued to fight in each match. At this time, the boy had just taken a picture of himself for a long time. Dear teacher, how can you become invincible just with a martial art like that? I won for two reasons, the teacher replied. The first reason is that I almost dominated one of the most dangerous and effective martial arts. The second reason is that the only way for your opponent to break that martial art is that they have to hold the opponent's hand. The other reason is that they don't have a left hand. Life is not a straight road, not always as we expect. Life always has ups and downs, it is a journey full of challenges. Life is always fair, not for everyone, not for everyone. Has anyone lived a happy life but never felt depressed? Everything has its own way to solve it. Willy Jolly used to say let's turn adversity into an opportunity to help you achieve better things. Sometimes, a weakness of someone becomes their strongest point. Having advantages is a good thing, but if it can turn a disadvantage into an advantage, it is even more miraculous. Having advantages is a good thing, but if it can turn a disadvantage into an advantage, it is even more miraculous. Believe in yourself, you can do everything. Thank you for listening. Goodbye and see you in the next video.