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Ladies and gentlemen, no one denies that caring for others is a good thing and tolerating others is also a good thing. However, if you care too much, they will make it difficult for you thousands of times. If you tolerate too much, they will get wet and even hurt you. It means that when you give something to someone, they will no longer think of it as a gift, but think of it as a duty, as your responsibility. And when you no longer give them what they want, they will immediately turn to you. If you are in such a situation, can you continue to live well, live well and give more? Let's find the answer in today's video. First, don't think of anything for others. Caring for others' thoughts and not hurting them is what you should do. But you shouldn't sacrifice what you have just to please others. Because when you think of anything for others, you will always compromise with yourself to put yourself at the bottom. Thinking of others too much will also make you psychologically full of fear of others hating you or being rejected. This fear will urge you to do something to please others and avoid being rejected. You will also be eager to be needed by everyone and believe that you will have a chance to receive more love from those who need you. But at some point, you will see that when you think too much for others, you will hurt yourself a lot because of your hopes for them. After all, in this life, whether it's right or wrong, you have to think for yourself first. Don't think for anyone, because in this life, apart from your family, no one can love you unconditionally. Moreover, if you think too much for others, you will make them psychologically full of fear. Being good to them, always thinking of them as a given, they will only accept but not give, not appreciate your love. They will even take advantage of your kindness and kindness. Some people can take advantage of that and make you do what they want. At that time, your kindness has really become a tool for others to take advantage of you. Second, the more you are lenient, the more others come to you. There are things that seem to be the opposite of life, but they are the essence of humanity. It is not natural that people often say that a good person is often bullied, a bad person is often rejected. Sometimes, the more you are lenient, the more others want to come to you. The more you are lenient, the more others are cruel, the more they want to chase you and kill you. The more you are lenient, the more others are cunning, they don't respect you. The more you are lenient, the more others are greedy. That's why when we grow up, it's time for us to understand that truth more and more. For example, if you are kind enough to get water from everyone a few times, they will form a habit of considering getting water as your duty. Whenever there is no water, they will decide to call you the wrong foot without thinking. That is the reality, the place where the kind person will be the first object to be oppressed. So never be afraid to refuse others. If you don't want to help, just explain the reason. There is no reason for us to be reluctant to agree. Dare to be cruel to yourself and to those around you, then we can win the essence of humanity. The sooner you understand, the more time you have to build a steadfast spirit. Otherwise, the experiences and ups and downs of life will give you some unforgettable lessons so that you know that kindness is a precious thing that should only be given to those who deserve it. There are those who are greedy and selfish. The more you know about yourself but don't understand its value, the less you should have it. 3. Kindness must go hand in hand with reason. Thomas Fuller, a British poet and historian, has a famous saying that a kind person is more likely to be hurt than to be kind. Kindness must go hand in hand with reason. Before you think about being grateful, calm down and think about your actions. Do they accidentally have a negative impact? Because kindness lacks wisdom, there is always no difference between good and evil. So kindness must go hand in hand with reason 3. Kindness must go hand in hand with reason. Kindness must go hand in hand with reason. Everyone should be kind. But how to be kind so that you won't be looked down upon? When should you be a good person and good to everyone? Kindness must go hand in hand with reason. Sometimes some people think that if they bring their true feelings to others, others will be sincere to them. Finally, they realize that they are so stupid. If reason does not exist, kindness is meaningless. So pay attention to your kindness. And the best thing is to be kind, have a brain and keep your self-esteem for yourself. Remember that everything has a price. If kindness is too much, it is useless. In this life, no one has the duty to be kind to anyone. No matter what it is, it is the meaning of love. If you give your kindness to the ungrateful, no one will pour water into the well. Your kindness can't live up to those greedy aspirations. So your kindness needs a little more. If you are not kind to others, you will be a liar. If you are not kind to others, you will be a liar. If you are not kind to others, you will be a liar. If you are not kind to others, you will be a liar. If you are not kind to others, you will be a liar. If you are not kind to others, you will be a liar. If you are not kind to others, you will be a liar. But in fact, sometimes it is not like that. The more kind and generous people are, the more kind and generous people are, the more ungrateful people are. If you are kind to the ungrateful, they will use that kindness to take advantage of you. When your sincerity is replaced by hypocrisy, you will feel pain. And when your kindness is replaced by exploitation, you will be disappointed. In fact, if you are used to being kind, you are used to being kind, you are used to accepting people's words, then you will forget. In fact, you may have an attitude, you may have an opinion, you may have the ability, you may live the life you want. You are prone to being wrong, not because you have made a mistake between being comfortable and generous. Therefore, you do not know how to refuse. Although there are many things within your ability, if you can't help one hand out of your ability, you have to decide to refuse. For those who need help, do not regret it. And for those who are not worth it, do not regret it. Especially for those ungrateful people who only know how to take advantage of your kindness and generosity, do not waste your kindness and kindness. After all, they come to you just to take advantage of you. Fifth, patience is not limited. Everything in this life always has its limit, especially the patience of each person. If you only know how to obey others, respond to others' needs while you do not agree with them, but still try to avoid some unintentional problems, sometimes too much patience will turn you into a patient person with some unworthy, to the point that you don't know how much patience you have. A patient person always tries to be patient in any case to avoid conflicts. Therefore, others may think that they can be whatever they want without being afraid or sad. But the repetition will only make people worry about your existence. Being too kind will only make others believe that everything you do is natural. Kindness does not mean patience is not limited. Do not make yourself miserable by being too patient with your own limits, especially when you feel it is not right and not worth it to be so patient. Do not let others influence you or your feelings excessively. The patience of each person is limited, so reveal to others that you are not the one who can stand or be patient with something for such a long time. Sixth, forgive everything this time until next time, people will think that hurting you is not worth it. There is no one in this world who has done the right thing for a lifetime. How many mistakes inspire people like us? If those mistakes are not too serious, choose to forgive for what has passed. Forgiving is also a way to calm your mind, but how many times is enough to forgive the person who betrayed your trust and hurt you this time until next time? If you forgive too much for others, they will feel guilty when they do something wrong to you because they know that no matter how bad you are, as long as you apologize three times, you will feel weak and accept to let it go right away. In fact, when you forgive continuously, others will think that your love and compassion is a natural and available thing that does not need to be achieved. In fact, trust and compassion are not infinite. One mistake can teach the other how to grow up and respect each other. But if that person repeatedly makes mistakes, it means that they no longer respect you. So forgiving once or twice may be because of love and compassion, but forgetting yourself is your stupidity and stupidity. Therefore, don't let your kindness and compassion become something stupid in the eyes of others. Dear friends, as a person, you can be kind but you need to meet a loving person or else your kindness and compassion will be useless. Let's talk about people who don't understand other people's kindness. Don't think you are a fool. You can easily forgive them just because you see them as equals. For friends, forgive but not bluntly. For love, respect but not always. You have a heartache but need someone to understand. You used to see me as a blind person. Now I see you as a stranger. You have never cared about me. Now I don't want to care about you either. Have a good heart and a sincere heart for the most deserving people. Before we end today's video, let's listen to the following story. My parents made a living by running a small grocery store. My father divided the store into two rooms and sold things outside. He built a bed inside so he could rest and cook when he came to the store in the afternoon. My parents' daily work was quite stable. Their regular customers were neighbors who lived nearby. During the summer vacation, I often helped my father run the store. My father suggested that I take care of the farm to improve my ability to calculate and manage my income. I was young and liked to run. So I had to sit still and play with my mobile phone while running the store. One day, I woke up early and finished all the chores at home and rode my bike from home to the store at 8 o'clock. I happily walked in and saw an old lady in a ragged shirt carrying a small bag receiving 10,000 VND from my father and walking out of the store. My father said, you came early today. I was very proud of myself. My father said, it's too early. The sun hasn't set yet. He hugged me and sat down on the chair. My father said, why did she buy so little rice? I asked. My father said, she didn't have money so she bought three bags of rice. One kilogram was 15,000 VND. She bought three bags of rice. Three bags of rice was 4,500 VND. I miscalculated and lost all the money. Dad, did you pay the wrong money? She bought three bags of rice and you paid her 10,000 VND. So how much did she give you? She gave me 5,000 VND. She gave me 5,000 VND. I said, Dad, you can count on your fingers. You miscalculated. She bought three bags of rice and you paid her 10,000 VND. You miscalculated. She is an old neighbor in this street. She is too married and has no children. She only lives on a little money and works as a garbage collector. For more than 10 years, she has been very interested in our business. No matter what she buys, she will come to our store to buy. But these two years, she seems to have lost her memory. Sometimes she is confused and can't remember clearly. I think she has become like that so I have to help her. In the past two years, I bought some rice and gave her 10,000 VND. Otherwise, she disappeared like a ghost. How can she live? On the following day morning, when I switched off the alarm and fell asleep, I heard Dad wake up and I followed him. The two of them cooked noodles and ran to the store. When I opened the door, Her hands were shaking. She took out 5,000 VND from her bag, put it on her lips and smiled. Then she quickly gave the money to her father. The shopkeeper said, 3 grams of rice. Yes. I took 5,000 VND from my father's hand and put it in my pocket. Then I took a bag of nylon and put the rice in it. Then I tied it up and gave it to my father. Grandma, here is 3 grams of rice. She carefully picked up the bag of rice. It looked quite heavy. She looked up and looked at me. Oh, I forgot to pay you back. I shook my head and quickly took out 10,000 VND from my pocket. Grandma, I sent you a letter. She carefully took the money, put it in her pocket, and walked away. Did your son catch you first? My father shook his head. Your bag of rice is at least 2 grams. Be a good person, do it to the end. At this time, I felt really old and tall, my face was swollen and warm. Dad, I haven't learned yet. I'm trying to be a good person. A few days later, I followed my father to the shop. Every time I opened the door, my grandmother came. She still took 5,000 VND to buy 3 grams of rice every day. I also got used to giving her 10,000 VND of rice. A month later, my grandmother didn't come for a few days. I asked my father, Dad, why hasn't she come to the shop for a few days? I heard she was sick and was in the hospital. My father expressed his helplessness. She only lives on a little money from the market and the garbage collection. Life is so hard. A few days later, my father received a letter from an old woman's husband. He opened the envelope and found a certificate of real estate and a will. Mr. Hai, thank you and your son. The last days in the hospital, my mind was bright all the time. I realized that without the care and kindness of my parents in the past 2 years, I would not have lived to this day. Thank you everyone. I left without a trace. Except for one thing, which is the sincerity of my father for 2 years, I have nothing to repay. The only thing left for me is this old house where I used to live for decades. I hope you will accept it. Thank you very much. I am in heaven blessing everyone. My father held the letter in his hand. Tears fell. The letter was silent. I hugged my father tightly. Dear friends, In the journey of life, there are times when we walk too fast and forget the people around us. But as long as you stop for a moment and put your hand out to help someone in need, at some point, you will receive a wonderful gift of life for you. Just let it go. And just give your heart. You will see the happiness you bring to others and appreciate the faith in this life. Thank you for listening. Goodbye and see you again.