내 아이를 한 단계 성장시키기 위해 필요한 선생님과의 대화

Of course, listening to bad stories about my child is actually a sad story. I hope you hear good stories. But development happens a lot when you improve the shortcomings. Hello, everyone. I'm Jeon Byung-gyu, a bean sprout teacher. Now that the second semester has begun, the counseling will begin again. Today, I'm going to talk about what questions to ask for the second semester counseling. There are two major counseling periods in the first semester. Once in the first semester and once in the second semester. Of course, even if you're not a counselor, you can always consult. If you have a problem with your child, you want to consult with your teacher. I don't think there's a teacher who's going to refuse to be a counselor. These days, teachers are very intimidated and careful. If you show me the attitude of understanding the teacher, I think it would be better for you to consult. Of course, I believe that bean sprout moms are doing well. Actually, this is not for you. I really need it to have a sincere consultation. Human relationships are mutual. So depending on how the other person does it, the way they act changes. If you say hello a little bit more gently, The teacher will be much more open-minded. You can have an honest consultation without any worries. Of course, I'm not that kind of person. Why are you so careful about me? You might think this is a bad feeling. Your worries are not about you. There's always one or two people when you're dealing with 20 to 30 people. I'm worried about those two people. I hope you don't get me wrong. When you deal with a lot of people, There are good people, bad people, and weird people. It's natural wherever you go. It's a universal position. Of course, among the teachers, There may be good teachers, bad teachers, and weird teachers. Likewise, there are people like that among parents. However, because the teacher is controlled by the country, Even if it's bad and weird, there's a line. Parents don't have anyone to control them. There's no end to this. So there are some parents who you can't even imagine. So things like Seo Yi-cho are still happening all over the country. In the past, it was said that he was a sinner who left his child. Parents were careful about the teacher. These days, the student's identity is a sinner. The teachers are now careful about their parents. Of course, neither of them is normal. It's a bad situation. Anyway, because of the current situation, Our bean sprouts moms are always thinking about the right education. You're our bean sprouts moms. That's how much our bean sprouts moms are. It would be great if you could treat the teacher with a little more open mind. Now, what should I ask when I actually consult? What should I ask? First of all, we need to understand the characteristics of the second semester counseling. I have an Instagram account. And you know the class 101 class, right? And there's a book called the King of Proverbs. I'd like you to pay a lot of attention. The first semester counseling is mainly for parents. It's a counseling session to give you some information. I'll start the first semester and talk to you in a month or two. The teacher doesn't have much to say. So, in the first semester, parents usually talk about our child. I'm giving you information. I want you to help me guide my child for a year. On the other hand, the second semester counseling is about giving and receiving opinions with the teacher. There's a little bit more to it. Because you've seen the child for about a semester. You've figured out enough to figure out about the child. So, what you've seen, what you've heard, what you've experienced. You can listen and talk about the future direction. It's better for parents to speak first than to ask questions. Of course, the person who has seen our child the most is the parent. As a parent who has seen it since birth, And as a parent who has custody and rights over the child, Please tell me what I'm most worried about and what I'm most interested in. There are two main effects of parents talking about what they're most worried about. First of all, it's not about the job. It's the most important part that parents are most interested in. It has the effect of focusing. Second, I'm going to tell you about the shortcomings and shortcomings of the child. I'm trying to create an atmosphere so that you can talk comfortably. Some parents only want to hear good stories. If you tell me a little bad story, you'll look a little stiff. There are some people who feel a little bad. So, in fact, the teacher is talking about the negative side. I'm very careful. Even if you're not like that, If you've been through this a few times, It's hard for teachers to be honest from then on. So it's better for you to show your open mind first. I'm not here to hear a good story. I'm ready to hear about the problem of the child. I want to hear about the problem and discuss improvements in a progressive direction. You have to show this kind of mind and will. That's when the teacher said, Oh, this parent is safe even if I'm honest. You can judge that there won't be any problems. I can't be honest about the problem of the child. It's such a ridiculous situation for good education. Anyway, that's the reality, so there's nothing we can do. So, first of all, it would be better to have this kind of concern. My child has this problem at home. I think you have this problem. You're telling me first. For example, it's not organized. I'm too timid. I can't concentrate. There's a lot of stuff. But don't put too many of these things in. One of the most serious things. Just pick one and tell me. That's how we can have a more focused conversation. If you talk about this and that, The focus doesn't match. It's just a conversation that increases complaints and problems. So, at home, this is a concern because of this behavior. So, how are you trying? It's good to talk about it. Those of you who consulted during the first semester, Maybe you've already talked about this. Then, while recalling the stories we shared at that time, Since then, how have things been so far? Is it the same? Or has it improved? It's good to talk about it. If you're done talking about my child's current condition, Now it's time to ask questions. The first question is, How is it at school? Please ask me about the child's condition at school. Then, first of all, my parents told me. The teacher will be honest. With these stories, the biggest drawback of the child. About the shortcomings. Parents and teachers share the appearance at home and school. This is a big help to the map. In this process, you can see how serious the child's behavior is. It's not easy for our parents to judge objectively how serious the child's behavior is. It's not that serious. That's what most kids do. That's normal. There are people who think this is too serious. On the other hand, there are people who don't realize the seriousness of the problem. So, unlike the child I see at home, When the teacher who has seen a lot of children saw it, Is it serious? Or is it the same for ordinary children? You can judge this. Secondly, please ask me this question. What should I do at home? To improve the child. The teacher and the parents have to work together. There are three bodies in education. It's a student, a parent, and a teacher. The education is made up of these three bodies. When these three bodies come together, the change happens the fastest. So I left it to the school, so the school will take care of it. This is a complete misunderstanding. It's almost impossible in a situation where a teacher is tied up like these days. In the past, when the teacher had strong authority, In fact, it's not that easy for a teacher to change a child alone. Because no matter how good the teacher is at school, If you have a bad story about your parents at home, The child doesn't change well. When a teacher and a parent teach the same problem in the same direction, The child recognizes that this is important and follows it. That's when the change happens quickly. So, what should I do at home? I'd like you to listen to the teacher's opinion and refer to it. Of course, what you're saying isn't all right. Some people have little experience. You may not have thought deeply about the problem. Maybe you're constantly looking for information on child education. You may have a better idea. But by asking these questions, You can get a new idea. You can understand what the teacher thinks. And to the teacher, I can give you a chance to think about this problem. And if the teacher tells you some idea, You can teach in the same direction as the teacher. So, what should I do at home? I'd like you to ask me. The third question you're going to ask is, Is there anything else to fix? There's not only one thing to fix for the child. And when your parents think about it, It's not the most important problem. The other problem is more important to the teacher. You might think it's more serious. So the first and second questions are, Tell me what you're worried about. Did you see it at school? And how can I fix this? It's a question about sharing thoughts. The third and second questions are, I'm asking you what you haven't thought about. Through the first and second questions, I'm ready to hear negative stories. No, I'm here to hear a negative story. I'm not here to hear only good stories. Because you expressed your mind like this, In the third question, I'm sure you'll be able to tell me more honestly. Of course, it's not good to hear about my child. It's actually a sad story. I hope you have a good story. But what about development? It happens a lot when you improve on the shortcomings. If you hear the shortcomings, If you block your ears because you feel uncomfortable, I don't know if you'll feel better for a while. There's no development at all. With a really open mind about the shortcomings of the child. I'm ready to hear any story. No, to fix the problem. I'm here to hear that story. I hope you'll take the consultation with this mind. Have a good consultation. I'll be preparing good child education information. All parents in Korea who always think of their children first. I'm rooting for you.