[Tâm an sống khỏe] Giáo dục giới tính cho con - Ba mẹ chủ động  con an toàn

Hello everyone, welcome to the new episode of The Haciend TV. Ladies and gentlemen, having a miscarriage has a huge impact on the body, mind and future of a child. It can even cause physical and mental damage to the child's life. In fact, on the media, we can easily see very sad stories. According to the report of the Ministry of Labor, Social Welfare and Society, from June 2019 to June 2021, more than 4,000 children in the country were miscarried, while more than 3,600 children were female. The number of children who were miscarried over the past few years is expected to be higher next year than last year. Statistics from the Vietnam Family Planning Association show that on average, each year, the country has about 300,000 miscarriages between the ages of 15 and 19, of which 60-70% are students. Although the rate of miscarriage in Vietnam has decreased in the past 10 years, the rate of miscarriage among adolescents is increasing. Whether the child is miscarried or early in love, early relationships leading to miscarriage all leave severe consequences for physical and mental health. It also has a huge impact on the future of the child, even the children after that. Therefore, sexual education plays a very important role in protecting children and reducing early birth, miscarriage, miscarriage or sexual abuse in adolescents. To help children, especially girls, to avoid harm, sexual intercourse or miscarriage, education is very important. In addition to the school's educational programs, education in the family is the most important foundation. Many parents are aware that they have to educate their children, but they don't know how to do it, how to bring it to the highest effect. The program Tâm An Sống Khỏe Số Năm with the theme Sexual education for children, parents take the initiative, children are safe, will bring you knowledge on this issue. And with the program Tâm An Sống Khỏe Số Năm today, I would like to especially introduce two special guests, Professor Dinh Thanh Tuyến, Director of the Department of Child Education at Hanoi University of Medicine, and Psychologist Master Coach Duy Thị Thu Hà, Director of the Center for Psychological Training at HC Vietnam, Tran Duy Hung Institution, Hanoi. Yes, Professor Dinh Thanh Tuyến, What are the consequences of early relationship, pregnancy, abortion, or having an unwanted pregnancy, how does it affect the health of children? Thank you, MC, for the question for me. Before answering this question, I would like to say hello and wish good health to all the audience who are watching the program Tâm An Sống Khỏe Số Năm. Now I would like to mention the main contents of the question. As we know, health and fertility are very important for the development of human society and for the survival of all human beings. Therefore, we should pay attention to when we can best perform this divine function. According to the research of the world, the average age that can best perform this function is from 21 to 35 years old for women. Therefore, if we see that our sisters are facing problems such as early relationship, pregnancy, unwanted pregnancy, or being harmed, it leaves a lot of consequences. First of all, I mentioned the consequences on the physical side. We see that when the organs in the body that receive the divine function are in the process of development and perfection, when they receive the divine function, it causes a lot of risks to the girls. For example, pregnancy, birth, and when they are about to give birth, there is a risk of death for both mother and child. That is a risk in the process of giving birth. Another risk comes from giving birth and unwanted pregnancy which makes the girls want to stop giving birth. Therefore, with the feeling of shame, you will find unsafe facilities and places that are not safe enough. Therefore, it leads to situations that during the process of performing surgery, you may have problems such as bleeding, or bleeding, and if you do it over and over again, it will weaken the uterus and may damage the uterus. This leads to future risks for the girls, such as the risk of premature birth. This not only affects the girls themselves, but also affects the whole family. These are the physical risks that we can see right away, the immediate consequences. What about the psychological and mental health of the girls? Can you share with us, Ms. Thu Ha? Thank you for your question. Regarding the risk of premature birth, it will not only affect the physical health, as Ms. Tuyen has just mentioned, but it will also seriously affect the spirit and the whole life of the girl. First of all, when a girl is in such a situation, she will have the first reaction of fear, then panic, then almost everything collapses, and she will feel like she doesn't know where to go. She will blame herself and have self-destructive behaviors. And the people around her will be afraid of men, even close friends. For example, I can give you an example that I used to treat this girl. When she was a child, she was sexually assaulted by a Chinese man. And she didn't dare to tell anyone about this pain. Only once did she tell her mother, but she didn't believe it. And after that, she couldn't tell anyone. And since then, she tore herself apart. Since then, she kept away from all men. And finally, she was very depressed. She couldn't get out of it. She went to work, which affected her relationship with other people. She quit her job because of men. And when she couldn't stand it anymore, she went to the center. And I consulted and treated her. After a while, she regained her balance. And now she has returned to her normal life. But if she hadn't come to the center, if she hadn't had our support, I don't know what would have happened to her. Because at that time, she was in her thirties. That means she had been busy for more than 20 years, but she couldn't get out of it. So we can understand that the consequences of it were very long. And sometimes, in a lifetime, there are very serious consequences. I'll give you an example. In fact, there are a lot of customers who come to us to support you. Yes, so to avoid serious consequences affecting the health, physical and mental health of children, it is very important to educate children, so that they understand more, take the initiative to protect themselves. So, Dr. Thanh Tuyen, how does the family play a role in educating children? Where should we start? And what knowledge should parents provide so that children can better understand this issue? Thank you for your question, MC. One question, but actually, it's a double question. First of all, I will separate it into three points. The first point is that I will say what the role of the family is. The first thing is to affirm that the role of the family is extremely important. There are books that say that in all the content of children's education, all the famous books affirm that a good mother is better than a good teacher. Therefore, the family here is not just the mother, but also the father and relatives in the family have a very important role in educating gender and gender for children, especially young adults. Because we have the closest opportunity to understand our children and have the most opportunities to connect with our children, to connect with our children in many ways, and to be directly responsible for taking care of our children before the law. So that role is both important and it can be said that it belongs to the family that we cannot avoid. That's it. What young people have to do, the first responsibility belongs to the family. That's why I affirm that the role of the family in this content is extremely important and quite decisive. The second thing is that Ms. Tuyen will share about when to start. Everyone thinks that the issue of gender and gender is a very sensitive issue, right? And I think that adults give themselves the right to only talk about these things, these forbidden things, or these sexual things with each other and do not want our children to know, right? However, with Ms. Tuyen, Ms. Tuyen is an education from the kindergarten, so she sees that the content of gender and gender actually started from the kindergarten age. And even earlier, because our children are all objective and can observe the image of the father and the mother in the family. Therefore, in an unofficial way, they have been taught since they were young. And in a more official way, when they go to kindergarten, they will be introduced to the content of education. For example, in kindergarten, children from 2 to 3 years old have been taught about their body parts. In that body part, in addition to the fingertips, there are also parts related to the genitals. And there is a content about toilet training, which is about going to the toilet. Since then, we have been able to combine the content of gender and gender education for children, the names of the parts, the functions of the parts, and how to clean the body. From the age of 2 to 3, the children have been able to access it. And from the age of 3 to 5, we can introduce more to the children how to make the baby come to life. And we explain in a way that is realistic, scientific, and we have a pure spirit to introduce it without being shy. Because when we talk about people, about people's problems, about people's parts, about people's functions, and we keep a feeling of shyness, shame, we accidentally spread that feeling to the children. And naturally, the children will feel that this topic is a topic that is difficult to talk about, or naturally, it will be difficult to share with them. It means that if we talk about the time to start, we can start very early. From there, we create a connection until our children grow up, they are ready to share with us, or we have enough confidence to talk to them about difficult topics. I think that that is one of the reasons why we have to start very early. Next, what are the topics? We have to base it on the age and the level of access of the children. For example, you just shared 2 to 3, or 3 to 5, it is simply about the body parts, the functions of the body, the hygiene of the body. 3 to 5 years old, how does the child form? How does the combination of the mother's egg and the father's sperm create the fetus and how is it nurtured in the mother's womb? Ms. Tuyen also remembers that when she introduced her son to her 3-year-old son, she said only to a pregnant mother, she said Minh, Minh, do you know that in the past, I was also in my mother's womb and my mother's womb was my first home. So her logic was very logical. She asked, Mom, where is the door to enter? Because the house has a door, right? So she pointed to me and said when you are a little older, I will tell you, I will show you more clearly. It means that we will share according to each age group. And when you are older, we will make the content about gender. But gender is related to biological issues. Gender is related to social issues, functional relationships, the roles of men and women in the family, social expectations for men and women, the diversity of genders, the health of the baby, the concept of marriage, of love, the way parents interact with each other in the family is also a content about education about gender and gender. Because the ancients taught that husband and wife are like-minded. Like-minded, that is, they always interact like guests. Like guests, it's not a guest, but here is a respect for each other. Understand the needs, interests, and support each other in family work, no matter if it's husband's wife's job or husband's job. So, living in a family environment with both unofficial and official educational content with such practical experiences, it is clear that our children will also have a chance to be better understood. And from a better understanding point of view, better awareness, feelings about it, feelings about those things are also stronger. And the skills and behavioral behaviors are also more accurate. According to Vuong Tuyen, she summarized three contents from the role, to the starting point, and to the contents. Thank you for your questions and listening. Thank you, Ms. Thu Ha. The most important role of a family is the foundation. But many parents often think that they are shy, shy, don't know how to raise their children right. I wonder if you can share with the audience how parents can raise their children in the most effective and natural way. Thank you for your question. I am very grateful to Dr. Thanh Tuyen for sharing with us quite a lot. However, I would like to add a little bit about psychology. Yes, the emphasis is on psychology. Why? In fact, in our generation, and Dr. Thanh Tuyen here, when I asked my parents when I was young, they didn't dare to answer, right? They were all shy. Because at that time, with the thought of sex or the gender of boys and girls, my parents were shy because they thought it was a bad thing, they had to avoid it, not to say it, or to say it in a wrong way. When parents are so shy, their children will not know the functions of the genitals and how to give birth. Therefore, they will not know how to protect themselves. It leads to many disorders, as we have just said, right? However, today, with parents like us here, there is a lot of information about the genitals. Parents, please prepare the knowledge for us in a very easy way so that we can approach our children in the most natural way so that we can share with our children in the most natural way. First, we have to be friends with our children, we have to be able to accompany our children and we talk about these things in a normal way because it is real. Let's look directly at the reality to share and understand because we have to change our mind. This is a practical knowledge, a knowledge about human biology, right? It is science, not bad. Especially now, children starting from the second grade, they also understand very clearly about gender, as well as the reproductive organs and even the relationship to make it safe for them to know more than their parents. Because in fact, I have consulted as well as the data for the young adults at the end of the second grade and the beginning of the third grade. They have very good knowledge and they share with you very openly. But you say, do you share these things with your parents? Do you share with your mother? She said, no, my mother cannot share with her. That is a very bad thing. That is why parents should spend time for their children. How to accompany your children? We should spend time in a quality way. When we are with our children, we should spend 100%, 100% time, mind and energy with our children to share a problem. So, the children can feel that their mother loves them very much and that they want to be good to them. And with the power of their mother, they can feel that their mother is their place. So, slowly you will share with your parents and especially with your mother about gender. So, you should spend time with your children to share their problems with their children. And when you share with your children about their problems, you should think about your children. But when you share with your children about their problems, you should think about your children. And when you share with your children about their problems, you should think about your children. And when you share with your children about their problems, you should think about your children. And when you share with your children about their problems, you should think about your children. And when you share with your children about their problems, you should think about your children. 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