Is Moving Back In With Your Parents In Your 30s OK?

Should you move back home with your parents in your 30s or 40s because this influencer just did that and she's going viral for it Yeah, let's play the clip from Sarah on so I'm 27 and I live at home with my parents and no It's not because I'm not able to afford to move out or because I'm codependent But I just don't agree with the culture and pressure to move out once you reach a certain point in your life now Don't get me wrong If you have parents that are kind of a pain to live with it totally makes sense to move out but luckily for me I have the privilege to have pretty chill parents who are very open-minded and Quite fun to live with by no means are my parents perfect and I've gotten into many heated arguments with them But at the end of the day, I feel so much happier being able to see them every day and to get through those conflicts With them and yeah to be frank. I live rent-free I do contribute to the household and pay certain bills But for the most part I'm able to save that rent money and use it to invest in my own finances I'm definitely a firm believer that you shouldn't have to do what everyone else is doing just because everyone else is doing it You know what works best for you and just disregard what stigma tells you I know myself and I know I will be thankful for the time I spent with my parents and to me that's the type of luxury that is irreplaceable. Boom I mean, I think immediately first of all this sparked a bunch of comments Some people agree with her some people disagree with her. It caused a lot of people to reflect on their own situation I think it depends and number two Andrew her mom looks like an amazing chef. Yeah, so we're gonna break it down We're gonna give you some things that you need to consider before moving home with your parents and then also kind of break down Just out even our situation like cuz it made me think about moving back home Not that I'm thinking about it, but I did just run that scenario through my brain Yeah, kudos to Sarah on man, because that's a good piece of like self-reflective content So, please hit that like button check out other episodes of the hot pot boys real quick guys a note from small a sauce This is our very own chili oil made with truffle with a tingly search one Peppercorn kick and also it tastes really good on dumplings and pizza and also tacos Especially put if you put on the guac part of the tacos if those are the type of tacos you're eating it's delicious Yeah, I mean, I think she has some additional incentive to move live at home, you know But I think it's interesting because it really causes you everybody to examine their own situation Whether they would move home or not in their 30s or 40s. Yeah, I mean honestly, so she's only actually 27 in the video So honestly, she's not that old. So it's really not that big of a deal But also I mean, I think she is like an influencer. She obviously creates a lot of content with her mom She is very pretty herself And I think that I'm gonna be honest and just this is a I think a lot of people said this in the comments But I do think it's a little bit different for a woman to move back when she's 27 versus like a guy Live with his parents when he's 30 35 because moving out for men and this is like I guess across all cultures But maybe particularly America is almost like a rite of passage, right? Yeah and I'll say this like I know it is more Eastern to take care of your parents and shout out to those people who do because I'm not saying that's Easy, and it's very admirable and I hope you enjoy it but I guess like for a lot of people moving out and making your own home and making your life outside of your home is Like a very Western masculine thing to do now you can argue whether that's right or wrong And I do think we should actually appreciate people who live back with their parents, you know and contribute something back to the home But of course, we all know how things work and not only that though Andrew There is starting to be a trend of a lot of Millennials moving back home possibly due to the rising housing housing prices inflation Stagnant wages or whatever. Actually, I think quite a number of Millennials move back home during kovat Right because they're their parents, you know, they come from that generation where they literally own the houses, right? Um, I think there's a couple questions that you need to ask yourself Andrew Do your parents even want you there? Like I think that that's just a pretty big assumption to assume that your parents want you to be right Where do they live and how close is it to the things that you like because at the end of the day? If it's unless if it's like a one-year thing fine But if you're gonna live with your parents for an extended period of time You need to know that you got the gym around you. You got friends around you Obviously, what is their health and mental health, you know? And obviously if you're going back to help with your parents like health care and stuff shout out to you That's not gonna be easy job So, you know that's admirable, but I guess like you you do want to think about that to be honest Right, what type of social life? Do you want to live like if all your friends live in the city and you're out in the suburbs is gonna cramp your style Maybe you don't care. Maybe you're just like in a committed long-term relationship How is living with them going to benefit your goals long-term now if it helps you save up so you can invest money in It's a different in your own business. Like Sarah on she said it allows me to save up and I can invest in myself So thank you mom and dad that shout out to them But I guess like you are gonna have to run that scenario through your mind. Yeah Let's get in the comment section again guys. Make sure you like this video Somebody said in Chinese culture, you can take your parents in when they're elderly They took care of you and now it is your turn to take care of them and other people were saying just in general In Asia, it is very common to take care of the older generation. Yeah, you know, I think in the Western world Like I said, man, there's something about all right, Billy You're on your own and you you make a lot for yourself and the bill is like dad I just turned 18. Like are you serious now? I don't I never supported it when I saw my white friends get kicked out of the house at 18 or like right after college It didn't fully make sense to me that their parents would be so strict on it. Like nope, you're paying me rent You're paying me rent. I mean, you know, I guess whatever the setup is But there's different ways to do the truth is it depends right because somebody said don't fall for the individualism in Western societies But that's part of being Western is being individualistic, too Yeah So and I think it could be a pro or con because you could get kicked out of the house at 18 Andrew learn to become a crazy entrepreneur because you're on your own and you start all these crazy businesses which by the way happens in America or you can Go get a house with your friends do a bunch of drugs and start this like spiral downwards in life Guess what Andrew that also happens quite often in America. Yeah, I'm saying like both. It's just a it's a forced catalytic Fork in the road, you know. Yeah, my personal feeling is like if you come from a family that You know or you're the type of person that like maybe being a D gen is not very likely for you And you got big dreams most likely you'll have to move out of the house Yeah, because you're gonna be like maybe stuck in that adolescent mindset when your parents I'm not saying it's unhealthy for you to live with your parents if anything it is it is healthy But but I'm just saying if you have huge dreams that require all this these other things you'll probably have to move it Yeah, yeah, but it depends. It depends. Everybody's situation is different. Somebody was saying Andrew It is only Northwestern European culture Anglo culture Scandinavian culture to move out For example, even in Italy the Middle East Latino countries people dip typically do not move out until they get married. That's true Yeah, no, it is very I guess Western European or like yeah that Anglo-saxon go and explore and conquer the world Yeah Do you know what's really different than I would not do because I'm not as Western obviously as like some white kids I grew up With I would never move out of the house, but be in the same city It's like you got if you're Asian and you got to move it's because you're like moving to a whole different state You know, that's like, of course, it's way more logical, right? Somebody was saying it definitely needs to be normalized in this economy Obviously and or there's a lot of economic things going on right now, whether that's stagflation inflation Wage, you know the rising housing prices getting bought up by Blackrock How much is it that Americans are gonna need to learn to be like other countries that never broke this frame? that's really interesting that I think in a weird way like as America becomes more of an immigrant country with more minorities from different backgrounds that I think that even this trend is gonna increase and Maybe even like the white families are are even gonna learn from this too Oh, that's really interesting. Yeah. Um, somebody said this white lady said I hundred percent disagree You should want to be independent and establish a life separate of your parents You are delaying adulthood and missing out on a lot again. There's some truth to this too, though There's no it is it is somewhat true, but it depends on who you are again, you know I mean if you got to support the family and support if you because we have a friend in LA who Still lives with his parents He's in his 30s, but he has he spends like he pretty much gives a family like a third of his paycheck, right? You know what I'm saying? So, of course, you got to stay with the family. I get it No, it's it's very very situational because I've seen everything and you know, I like some families that are Asian They almost operate like a small clan or like a business, you know Like people are in and now everybody's got to check in with each other and everybody's like business is intermingled But then like other people like for example, like our family, it's not it's just not like no Well, I think it's because our family we don't do business together like with our parents like we wouldn't like if we move back what would be the mission of moving back together because if we had if I had a kid and I moved back with mom and Dad or something that would make more sense or like if we were running some type of organization together Yeah, I mean, let's be honest Sarah on she runs a mom's cookbook like business. It helps it helps Definitely give incentivize her. All right, Andrew. This is a really interesting perspective This guy said honestly as a Chinese American who's traveled the world for the past six years I love the individualism and an independence of America Yes, there are some crazy unhealthy values as well But the fierce independence and assertion of individual expression is something to be deeply cherished I know that it's gifted me so much about how I interact with the world I would never trade it definitely not just for the feeling of feeling financially ahead because obviously you can save a lot of money Living at home. Yeah, I mean, I mean clearly this guy found so much freedom In being his own person and I think that if you have particularly Suffocating parents parents that are very nagging parents that are not like chill parents You're to move back. You'll essentially need some form of a chill You mean if their parents are still treating you like you're like 15 telling you what to do or something like that, right? I'm gonna work it really depends man It's family to family not everybody has like the same relationship with their parents, right? Like even our cousins is raised by our dad's brother They don't have the same relationship either and you know This guy said Burmese American here You know We are so happy to live together of as a family and we I have no interest of moving out unless there's pressure or time To get married. Yeah, like I said, you know, some people are really different other people Andrew have different situations Maybe like health situations and other things like that Yeah I mean at the end of the day listen if you want to live a lit life for yourself If you want to have a social life bring people over hang out It's gonna be easier to do that outside of the home, right? It really depends man. Somebody said, you know, we should not have the social shame to move out is completely manufactured by capitalism How much is it? You know I heard it actually stems from Andrew World War two when housing prices were really cheap and all the soldiers came back and they like I don't know It was just like the economy American economy was booming thing is a capitalism and also the idea of freedom and independence But then why do we want to be independent? I don't know. Yeah, I just like I said, man There's a fork in the road Andrew Sometimes people it really inspires them to be like a 10 out of 10 businessman or entrepreneur But I seen it go completely other the other way Someone said the key is that she has a good relationship with her parents while living with them That's not always the case exactly your parents need to be down for what you want to do and then it's gonna work That's key Um, cuz you know old-school Asian parents sometimes they are sometimes they aren't this guy said girls will always look down on a guy in The dating phase if he lives with his parents any girl that says that otherwise is just lying and somebody said yes But nobody cares that girls live with their parents. They made it a gender. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, I think it's generally true Let's be real that obviously a woman who's in her 30s that live with her parents That's not as looked down upon as a dude in his 30s Let's be honest aren't they gonna just care about how that girl looks at the end of the day? Well, yeah, but other things but I mean because her living with her parents means she's like a sweet girl But the guy living with his parents means he's a weak man. That's how it's gonna be viewed. I'm not saying that's true I'm just saying that is how it is viewed in this world and at least in America at least in America in another country in India, it's probably different cuz like everybody has that normalized culture Yeah because that the whole thing in America is like listen if you're a strong man and you can make it on your own and make Something of yourself. You're gonna build a life of your own outside of your home, but you can still support your parents You could send money back, but you're not gonna have to rely on them Yeah, I mean and or just personally it once we get into our takeaways Like I probably haven't lived at home basically since I was like 18 and I'll tell you this It does force you out of your comfort zone and it can force you to rise to those new heights But at the same time I knew some people who was like they were putting a lot of unnecessary Strain on themselves for a number of years, but sometimes it can really like the fire underneath you cuz you're like I'm just here to make it. That's all I'm down here in this other place. I got to make it I think it's just about your plan man. It's what is why are you moving back home? And what's your plan is it to save money? And are you actually using that money? Are you just gonna use that money spend it and then five years later realize that you had no savings from it? You know, I mean, so it really depends on the industry. You're trying to get into too, right? Let's say for example, you are writing stories You may need to be away from your parents to gain more perspective and hang out with more people and be in the city To stimulate your brain and your stories. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. No, I mean again, I Obviously, we all know the answer just depends on what your life is about what life you want to live in Aussie What your parents are doing? Yeah, so let us know what you guys think in the comment section below I thought it was a really great piece of content from Sarah on just because it caused so many people to be self-reflective and Until next time we'd hop out boys. We out. Peace