Teaching Presence to Children in the Digital Age
Parenting in the digital age is a challenge for many parents. Digital increasingly occupies a large part of every family's life, reducing interaction time between husband and wife, between parents and children. Even many parents find it difficult to talk peacefully with their children. The presence of each family member is assessed by the level of completion of daily activities that lack spiritual value, forgetting the true meaning of the present life. In this video, Eckhart Tolle points out that “nowadays many home environments have a very nervous energy field because everybody is so busy getting things done.” If this is something that worries you too, this video will be what you are looking for.
0:47 - I have four-year-old twins and an eight-year-old. So my question is how to teach them, to expose them to this
2:26 - So what is the general energy field that on a daily basis, you and your wife manifest, generate, in this home environment?
2:41 - I do know that nowadays many home environments have a very nervous energy field because everybody is so busy getting things done.
4:04 - Many good-meaning, well-meaning parents interact with their children predominantly, 90% or more, even a hundred percent, on the level of doing. Either do this or stop doing that.
4:35 - To acknowledge the child's being, you have to spend moments when you give the child your fullest attention.
5:22 - Because by observing them at play, for example, without telling them to do this or that, or don't do this or that, but simply allow your attention to rest on them and watch them, if possible, in that state of relatively, as much as possible, thoughtless awareness,
6:36 - You truly acknowledge their being.
8:21 - You don't give them the attention when they demand it through throwing a tantrum,
8:50 - If you can then take that as a signal to be really alert and present and observe.
10:04 - And the real attention is to let your awareness rest upon them. Look at them, see them. They want to be seen. That's their being. Acknowledge their being.
10:38 - And with your wife, the same. Make sure that there is some spaciousness in your relationship. Even though you may be busy, there's some peace emanation into the energy field in your home that comes from you.
11:18 - So that interaction between you and your wife is what generates that energy field. And then give them attention.
11:45 Just listen. Just look. Acknowledge their beautiful being. And that's the greatest thing you can do for the child.