[健身与好习惯养成] 战胜拖延症

But why? Why is it okay for some people? We see a lot of people who have already succeeded, who are more diligent than us. Kobe trained at 4 a.m. in Los Angeles. Peng Yuyan learned a new skill every time he shot a scene. Jin Yong wrote 1,400 words on average every day It seems that the difficulty for them is like a small puddle. It's gone in a flash. But for us, we have to drag it out. In the end, we gave up. Are they born to be someone else's child? It's not the same as our structure. With such curiosity, I went to look up some information. It really made me discover some magical things. Part of our brain is called the edge system. It is the part that guides us to entertainment. And the other part is called the frontal lobe of the brain. It is the part that is responsible for our work and study. These two things continue to fight for the initiative in our minds. And when fear, loss, anxiety, anger, and such negative emotions come, the frontal lobe of the brain that guides our rational behavior will stop working. At this time, the edge system will take the lead. We will subconsciously choose something that can bring us temporary pleasure. For example, playing games, drinking, watching dramas, smoking, etc. For example, if you have been procrastinating for a long time, and you finally make up your mind to start studying. At this time, your parents push the door and say, Why don't you start studying? What will you do? You don't want to study anymore. Because the urge of parents will cause us anxiety. This anxiety will make us close the rational part and not go to work. So you see, the successful people we admire are not three heads and six arms more than us, but maybe they have a way to avoid this negative emotion as much as possible. But what really makes me admire and envy is that kind of artist who is both highly productive and can constantly break through their own. Because this kind of creative work is very easy to fall into the whirlpool of negative emotions. I am very curious how they constantly overcome their own doubts and inspiration. By observing their way of working, I found these things in common. The reason why we usually don't do something is that we have too high expectations for a momentary effort. For example, if you lose 10 pounds in a week, you can get a high score by studying for two days. Once you don't meet this expectation, this feeling of disappointment will make us resist this thing. Most achievements take time. Now the most reliable YouTuber, MrBeast, used to spend three years in his room shooting Minecraft with his mobile phone. At first, he didn't have many views and didn't expect many people to watch his videos. He just kept doing this. But now he has become one of the highest-playing bloggers on YouTube. He has too high expectations for what we are going to do. If we make the worst plan, it will make it easier for us to start and last longer. Why do many successful people insist on running, exercising or working out every day? Because these things can produce dopamine and bring pleasure. When I encounter difficult difficulties, I will go back to the exercise itself and focus on every action and every effort. Although sometimes it is very tiring, I have never regretted any exercise. Because it makes me feel that no matter how bad things I do outside, I have always done something. I am still making progress. This sense of accomplishment can make us more invested and more active in other jobs. The guidance in your life may not have to be exercise. It can also be meditation, running, painting, music. Using these tools that can produce positive emotions to drive away negative emotions will make it easier for us to challenge difficult things. When I'm working, I work every day, three, four hours. And I try to get those six pages and I try to get them fairly clean. And you do hit six pages a day? I usually do. My favorite writer, Stephen Kin, stipulates that he must write six-page novels within three to four hours a day. He hardly rests for 365 days a year. His attitude of constantly setting a deadline and completing his work on time not only made him create a masterpiece like The Shining. And now he continues to create almost one feature-length novel every year. People who wait for inspiration are destined not to wait for inspiration. Only those who work hard to find inspiration will it come to you constantly. Now that social media is so developed, we see other people's lives on various platforms every day. We would think, why is other people's life always so perfect but we can't do anything about it? These seemingly beautiful things not only don't motivate us to act, but also make us feel more anxious, more disappointed, so we don't want to do anything. We need to find a way to create an environment where we can save time for ourselves. Even if it's only one or two hours, we should abstain from social media, friends, family, and any factors that interfere with our lives. Because only in such an environment can we calm down and do something that we usually can't do. But no matter what, even if we understand these methods, procrastination will always exist. Because human nature is to make an effort to avoid harm. No one can guarantee that you can overcome your weakness But no matter how difficult your situation is, how resistant you are, how scared you are, don't run away because no one can help you. And often you only need to take the first step. The remaining second, third, and fourth steps are much easier than you think.