Don’t Date Girls That Act Like THIS…

Hi everyone, welcome back to my channel if you're new here i'm courtney ryan and today i'm with my friend shaley Hello, so we are going to be reacting to tiktok videos. You guys know the drill. I normally do this myself I try to give a more healthy mature spin on some of the very bad advice that is on tiktok Um, but shaley's going to join in with me today We're going to give our two cents on what we think about some of these people. So let's get started I don't know Okay, it says making him think you're so obsessed with him so when you're detaching he misses it and becomes crazily obsessed with you Again, why are we making the manipulation videos? Why are we posting these? Why are we flaunting it bragging about it? It's not cute. You don't look powerful or cool and hopefully other girls don't see this and aspire to be like that Because that's not the type of when you go The sad thing is when you go to the comment section everyone's like yes queen Yes, and then when you disagree with a girl like this people call you a pick me girl and it's like no I'm just saying that this behavior is toxic and it's manipulative and it's not good for anyone and it's what's interesting about this trend of videos that are coming from female creators and Tiktokers is that they're doing the things that they've complained about for years that men do to them And so they're trying to like take some sort of power back by being the the f-boy But it's really you can't it's not an eye for an eye So you're not making yourself look any better and you're not rising above that type of behavior No, and the guy that was doing it to you that now is the reason you're doing it shouldn't have been doing it either right like use that as a lesson to be better be a better human rather than to Try to get revenge and play hard to get and like be vengeful because it just makes you look bad And you're putting so much energy into acting like that instead of finding the right person It says I don't know why no one ever mentions this in their ick posts But a man paying for tinder gold is the biggest ick of them all like why are you paying for that? Why are you struggling to find women? Should I not be associating with you? I get where she's coming from with this because it's like Like why do you have to pay so much to get girls to like you but also I think a lot of girls don't realize how swayed dating apps are for women and guys don't get as many matches They don't get as many messages They don't get all the options that women get like it is so much easier for women on dating apps no matter what you look like compared to Guys on dating apps like it's just a fact. It's just the way they're designed It's but there have been like proven studies about it. So Also, I think it's important to keep that in mind Have you heard the ick thing? No, I was gonna ask. Okay. It's this girl named tink. She's the one that started it Okay, you might have seen her before. I actually like her. This is just one thing She says that I do not agree with at all Basically an ick is something that the other person does that is like a turnoff for you, but it's a very surface level Oh, you know what? I have seen videos of this. I've seen like podcast clubs. His sheets were white. Yes Okay, or like the way he sneezes or the way he holds his fork it's like To make it in your head Not as painful if it doesn't work out with him Okay, but if you have to constantly pick out someone else's flaws to feel better about yourself You got to work on yourself. Like it's not gonna make it any better for you I guarantee you that that person probably has a thousand icks about you too that they just choose to overlook because that's what love is But anyway, yeah, like there's not one person that you're gonna love everything about them or like everything about them Even if that's like where this post is coming from I wouldn't consider that an ick It doesn't seem like it really is the same type of no issue that people are talking about in their videos So, I don't know also like don't judge. I'm sure you've done icky things too Yeah, if you pay for a photo editing app, I would argue that that's just as bad as paying for uh, tender gold I would totally agree Yikes If you just recently started dating a guy He invites you for a trip But you're not sure if he's gonna pay for it or you're supposed to like you just get confused with the finances because you're so New this is what you should say to make sure that he comes Oh my god, i'm so excited for a trip. Please. Let me know what info you need from me when you're gonna do the cooking Let me know if it helps Okay, um Some of her videos have been a little controversial in the past. I know all of you guys don't really care for them Um in that situation I would say if I had just started seeing someone and a guy invited me on a trip Like told me he wanted to take me somewhere or whatever like I would assume that he would pay for most of it Yeah, one time I had a guy was dating like I had been dating him for a year He was like, oh, I want to take you to niagara falls for your birthday and I was like, oh, okay So I assumed he was paying for it. We get there and I paid for everything Yeah, he took me on a trip and then I paid for everything it was Looking back i'm like embarrassed. Yeah, I mean it's kind of it is implied You know when someone invites you somewhere to do something, you know, especially on a trip Yeah, like a date or something. Yeah, like you would be the one to pay for it. Um, but trying to like Finesse your way around it to make sure that to make sure that they're gonna pay for it Like just have a conversation just be normal Also, like I don't even think that's a foolproof Uh tip anyway, because if you're like, let me know what info you need They could be like what's your credit card information? Like I don't know how that's Gonna make sure that you don't pay for the trip, right? Yeah, that's a good point too. And I think if you're dating someone you should be able to have an open conversation about that like Okay, you know, I didn't budget for this. So what are the you know obligate like you just have a conversation Yeah, it's not that hard. You don't have to finesse Oh, I saw this When I saw this When I saw this video I said to myself Is this fake? I thought it was fake too and then I went to her profile and looked at everything and i'm like Oh my god, it's not and she's got friends who have similar Hobbies, I am all about doing things to make yourself look and feel more confident, but it gets to this point where it's like That looks unhealthy unhealthy like that has to be dangerous. How do you lay down you'd be elevated your butt's so big You'd be floating. I know like I just don't get it and I know guys don't Like yeah, I find anything to wear it's horrible. I don't know. I mean, yeah, there's definitely her lips are so So overdone if you watch her other videos, she can't even speak. I know it's bizarre And I think this is what guys think you mean when you say like, oh, I have lip filler. I have botox They picture a girl like this. I just want you all to know this is someone who has had an extensive amount of surgery Injectable, I mean like x like Extensive. Yeah, it can't be healthy. Yeah beyond what's safe and I guarantee you Wherever she went they were not the most reputable. No, because if they were they would have told her no Nobody would let her do that. No, so just so you know, that's the most extreme version of doing anything, you know cosmetic I just I saw that and I couldn't believe it And it makes me sad that girls feel like they need to go to this extreme Do they like and I I wonder do they think it looks good? I don't know. I think it's like one of those things like people who go overboard with lip filler you start Small and then you feel like it's not enough and you feel like it's not enough Yeah, like with tanning so I feel like there is level of addiction to it Um, some people also just like the attention I do think a lot of the girls that go to this extent just want the attention and they get it because I mean Look at us now. We're right now in the video. Yeah, and this blew up big time Yeah, yeah, but not in a good way like all of all of the feedback was very negative and I mean I understand why but a clown He's a clown Why didn't I see it before? Again, another story as old as time meet me after romanticizing false potential in someone too soon Yeah, I think everyone is guilty of this at one point or another you get really excited about somebody and you start thinking everything's Great, and oh my gosh, I can see us and you've like gone on one date. Yeah, like just try to be my future husband Like no, he's not you just met him. Yeah, and sometimes that works out and it's awesome Yeah, but be try to be a little bit more aware. Um, you can be excited about somebody But you also be realistic and don't be blind to the red flags like courtney's talked about so many times Yeah, this is how you end up in a situation with someone who's not good for you and You've ignored every single red flag that was waving your face clear as day Because you were romanticizing them and you wanted it to work out so bad that you totally just ignored all of that. So It's a mistake. A lot of people make I've done this where I have no intention of seeing this dude in the flesh whatsoever, but i'm just bored. So I do it Yeah, I mean, I think that's what dating apps are for for women. They're video games for us to use at our discretion I've done this. Yeah. No, they're not No, they're not. I know and that makes that's those are the type of women that make all of us look bad and those are the type of women that Um, you know make guys afraid to put themselves out there. Yeah Uh, so those are who a lot of the comments I get are about is, you know girls who act like that We're not all like that. No at all. I promise there are actually girls on dating apps and guys I think a lot of girls say this about guys too is like Guys are just on there for one thing or guys are just on there for attention girls are just on there for attention There are girls on there who are genuinely like looking for Something serious. I met my boyfriend in a dating app. We've been together for four years I know so many people that have done that. Yeah, so I don't know just don't completely write people off because you see something like this. It gives everyone a bad rap Um, yeah, I personally don't know any girls or guys who view dating apps like that. So I don't that's not We don't associate with people like that. That's also very true. Like it's just kind of embarrassing And I love her till she's sore So basically She's showing her boyfriend's dating app or for you page and it's like all animals and then this girl is showing hers And it's all naked girls. Yep Again, it goes back to the disrespect thing If you go on your boyfriend's for you page or who or who he's liked or who he follows And it's all half naked girls girls in lingerie. I mean that's just disrespectful to you and that's not normal I would say that's a huge red flag. Yeah, and i've seen videos of uh, you know girls looking at their boyfriends explore pages or Whatever it is and the guys are like, oh, I don't know how they got there Like I don't even look at that stuff. It's just like randomized like it's not it's not like it's pulled directly from what you interact with So yeah, don't try to do that and if you look at yours as a man and you're like yikes, I wouldn't want a girl that i'm dating or Whatever to look at that Change up your content that you're unfollow some people start to Really be mindful of the content that you're interacting with because I think it does play a huge role in how we view ourselves Other people when we're dating. I mean it plays a huge role. So be mindful of that I think people don't realize that I think so too and you know as a guy and a girl If you're looking at a lot of really attractive people all the time then Subconsciously your standards are that and it's unrealistic. So just be careful how much of that you're consuming even if you're a single guy Ladies if he does this at lunch, what are you doing? um leaving Guys, if you are out with your girlfriend, don't be on your phone the whole time Don't be sitting there watching a game on your phone while she's just sitting there by herself I've seen videos of guys like going to weddings and setting their phone up at the table and watching football games during like a wedding Ceremony and like reception and yeah, even worse if you're like at brunch like a one-on-one date It's that's horrible. Like I promise you you can wait you can check the highlights later You can talk to your friends about it, whatever But like if you're taking time to hang out with the girl that you're interested in or you're dating Then don't it's one or the other you're either watching the game or you're hanging out with her be present Yeah, and listen to her and have a conversation instead of staring at your phone and watching a game You can easily check the highlights of later And if she also likes sports that you guys can go somewhere together and watch the game or sit home watch the game But you're not don't do this like while you're supposed to be hanging out with her She might not even know that he's doing that necessarily depending on where she's sitting. She's around the corner So I don't think she can't see it rookie mistake on his part He should have just picked a restaurant where they have it on the tv Correct. That's a hack. That's a hack right there Like just choose if you know you have a game but your girlfriend wants to go to brunch You can meet in the middle have a happy compromise and yeah, you know You've stayed at the booth that faces the tv and she doesn't even know you're watching it. Yeah, great I support women's rights But more importantly I support women's wrongs Me when my bestie catches her boyfriend cheating So she financially mentally drains him and slowly detaches from the relationship So the breakup is easy and he is left unstable All right. Okay cheating is never okay But again, we don't want to stoop to their level. We don't want to be vengeful It says more about you than it does about them Just the most powerful thing you can do is just walk away gracefully. I was I was to say that exactly I was to say handle it with grace Walk away and you're gonna look like the bigger person and you know, you're gonna be the bigger person Yeah, don't waste your time and energy trying to get back at somebody Yeah, because you walk away from this like very few people are going to be like wow That was so awesome. Like you handled that so great You really showed him like just walk away from it and be better and find better. You don't need to Yeah stoop to their level. Yeah, it's more powerful that way anyway big time That made me want to die When he says you're so chill But you just finished going through his insta following twitter likes and pics from his family vacation in 2011 I'm i have done this guilty as charged if a girl says she hasn't done this. She's lying. Yeah Some of us are just really good at hiding it Um and doing it secretly and then acting like we know nothing But I promise you we do know exactly where you went on vacation in 2011 with three girlfriends ago So don't somehow probably ended up on your aunt's page that we've never met before and know the names of your cousins and all their friends like Girls get very deep into creeping and then you just keep going. Yeah, it's like it's just too easy And um, but I feel like guys don't do this. I don't feel like guys do this either Or maybe they're better at hiding it too, but none of them talk about it then if they do it But yeah, I don't know. I think girls we are just known for doing this. We all do it if you think that Someone you're dating or talking to hasn't done it She probably has not necessarily in a bad way, but just it's just too easy. Um, do I think it's good for you? No, do I think it's unhealthy? Yes, I do And I think you get to a point where you don't really do it as much But you still do it. Mm-hmm. Like it just is what it is guys. So just be aware of this. Um, that's why I say She's going to look at who you follow on instagram whether you like that or not. So don't be following all naked models and insta thoughts like Seriously like if that's all you're following it makes you look really bad. So clean up your social media All right, guys, that is all we have for today's video I hope you all like this and found it helpful If you did be sure to give it a thumbs up and subscribe to my channel to be in the loop for when I release New content if you haven't already be sure to follow me on instagram at courtney christine ryan I love connecting with all of you guys on there as well You can give shaley a follow too if you'd like but as always thank you all so much for watching And I will see you all next time