Mental Peace: Protecting Your Peace in a Noisy World| Cele's Reflections

Understand what steals your own peace. So you need to understand exactly. Is it the people you are with? Wanashinangwa ki kukompea. Oh, how old are you again? Unafaa kuolewa? Unafaa ku umepeta waltutu awili? These are things that disturb. Like, you need to avoid those conversations. Because if they are comparing you, of course you are doing the best you can, but you are not where they expect you to be. Na tulisha sema, My life. I know. There's no such thing as by this age you should do this or by this age you should do this. So you need to avoid such people. There are also other conversations that are toxic. Like there's a friend of mine, you know I'm going to commit to you. Friend, today I'm leaving. I'm going to have a heavy heart. Because he doesn't do anything good. It's like, oh, you know, even they said... I am so happy doing this. I love where I am the guest. Okay, I love my guest, but I also love where I am the guest just sharing the little I've learned. We used to say that it's a girl who is learning and unlearning. I don't want to unlearn and learn on my own. So when I learn something, I come here, then we discuss. Then we learn together and bring them to my community. So I bring you on board. So last week we were here with a guest where we did emotional healing. I saw how you were happy. I think most of us have a lot of things that we need to heal from. So I saw how we were happy in the comments. You guys were happy. You guys were like, thank you so much. The feedback, I get a DM, I get an inbox and that is what keeps me going guys. That is what keeps me going. That is what keeps me like on Wednesday, I come to talk to you. On Wednesday, I come to talk to you. So today I have something, I feel, I have started to understand, when I feel some type of way about something, then I research, I get a man to tell me why I am feeling that way, he understands me, he teaches me something, I feel like okay, maybe there are women who understand reflection, they feel like me. Let's talk about it and see if I'm alone. And you guys make me feel justified or make me feel like I'm not alone when you resonate or you relate to what I'm always sharing about. So today, I want us to discuss about, or just share in the comments, not just me talking, even you type in the comments, about protecting our peace. Especially in this noisy world, we need to protect our peace. Now, it's only me, as Celestine, who can protect my peace. Because you don't know what is my peace. You don't know what makes me feel at ease, what makes me feel at peace. So it's only me, or you, who can protect your peace. And in this world that we are in, there is so much, so much around us, whether it's on social media, so most likely, my viewer who is watching, whether it's on social media, whether it's on Facebook, TikTok, IG, or YouTube that you are watching now, there is so much noise from social media, there is so much noise from friends, there is so much noise from families, so much noise from just life, life in general. You can just sit like this, call a friend, or just someone, and start telling you things that won't make you be at ease or make you be at peace. Like, just so much noise. I think, I don't know if it's what we call unsolicited advice, or, I don't know, you don't want to tell people things, but they just get you. I'm Sometimes, this noise can make you feel very overwhelming. starting Coz. I did not ask for it. You see, when you come to watch Celeste's Reflection, you are the ones who have been chosen. You chose to go to Celeste's, to premiere, to watch Celeste's Reflection. Now imagine if Celeste's Reflection just came to you, to you haven't chosen, it's not by choice, speak. I have just been listening to Celeste's, you will hear a noise, because it disturbs your peace. Okay? So when you look around, there are always people who are telling you what to do or what not to do. That is what I'm calling unsolicited advice. You did not ask for it, but if you're a mom. That is noise. Because I never came and asked her, Mama, what are you doing? My child is walking around. What are you doing? It's me who came and started bombarding her with information. You haven't noticed? Either at her, or at her father's house, or at the hospital you took her to. I'm going to knock on that door. Now... If you did not ask for that information, it's going to disturb your peace. You won't have peace. Because this is information that I did not ask for. Usha anza kunisumbua kichwa. Because the moment you tell me my kid is working funnily, ama my kid has something that is not okay, na si kuwa nime yona, ita nisumbua automatically. If I'm a mom, I'm a guardian, I'm a whoever, that information is going to disturb. I won't have my peace. I won't have peace. So, I will start looking for it. Maybe I will go to the doctor. I have told him about my child's leg. I have told him to stay normal. You see, because this is information that I have just received from outside. Even if you say you are a stranger. Even if you are not a neighbor. Even if you are not a person you know. Trust you me, that information will disturb your peace. You won't be at peace. You will just be feeling like... Something is wrong with my baby. Yet, you yourself, you are okay with your baby. If something is wrong, trust you me, you as the mother, you will be the first person to know. And if you know, you will know where to go. If it's to see a doctor, a pediatrician, you know where to go. Not to get information from a stranger or someone who is just, that he has seen her on Facebook, he is telling you, why is a child seeing her on Facebook, she is being funny. Even if it's a picture I took that day, she was being funny. So, I think at such times, that's when you need to block. Just block it, because, I mean, why are they telling us, why are they telling you if they're not helping, you know? So, some of the things you need to do, I think that is what I'm talking about, blocking. You need to understand what steals your peace, yes. So, we are trying to protect our peace. You see, like I told you, we are not in a bar, or in a plot, or in an estate, we don't have an opinion, we don't have that. So, what do you need to do to protect your peace, especially in this? Noisy world. You need to understand, I as the lesson, what steals my peace. Like, what I see, it will destroy me. And this can be either on social media, what I see. It can be, I just like to sit with people on the base, they just talk things that don't help me. You know, I just feel like I have anxiety, I just feel like I'm not okay. So I need to sit down and analyze. When I wake up, when I do this, when I do that, I feel sorry. But if there's something I do, I don't have peace anymore. So if it is a noisy environment, like they're always talking about negativity. Like I know people who thrive on content like this one's divorced, or this one died, or like when you enter the timeline of that person. It's like I'm on a TikTok for you page. Like those things that you see when you search. You just immediately start to sit in the middle. Like his profile or timeline for his page is just for him to do bitter things. It's like they find, they don't find joy. It's like they just love associating themselves with such sad things. Like this time I got, I think, I don't know. A while ago, I think the bus stopped. I don't know whether it's after school or school. I think it's a college bus. So, if you watch that video on TikTok, TikTok is starting to recommend what people are searching. It's something else. It's the last video, latest video before the accident. If you click, you get it. So you're moving into, like you're going deeper and deeper and deeper. But all your information is not going to make you happy. It's just, oh, the last videos before they got into the crash. Oh, this is what they were doing in the bus before they got into the crash. Oh. Little by little, without you knowing, you will get your timeline of TikTok in a V4 or losing someone. I'm not saying they are bad, but whatever you're doing is interrupting your peace, is disturbing your peace. Like you're not going to be okay, you're going to feel some type of, you're going to be sad. You know what they say, another day I'm crying with strangers. So imagine you are okay, but now you're crying. I'm not saying it's bad content, but I'm just saying understand what steals your own peace. So you need to understand exactly. Is it the people you are with? The people you are with are trying to compare you. Oh, how old are you again? You are trying to understand. You are trying to find two children. These are the things that disturb. Like, you need to avoid those conversations. Because if they are comparing you, now, of course you are doing the best you can. But you are not where they expect you to be. And we have already said that this life is not... There's no such thing as by this age you should do this or by this age you should do this. So you need to avoid such people. There are also other conversations that are toxic. Like there's a relationship that you know you're going to meet today and you're going to leave today. A heavy heart. Because he doesn't do anything good. It's like, oh, you know, even they said... We have those types of friends, right? I know you know them. So you need to understand, is it such a friend who disturbs you, steals your peace? Is it this toxic conversation that I'm always having with this neighbor, this colleague? You need to understand. If it's that, then stay away. Stay away, by all means. It's not that I'm calling you a bash, you're available, yet you know, when I get out of that bash, I will not be okay. I will not be okay. I will not be okay. Pressure to Haziko. So, you know, so once you understand what steals your peace, you need to avoid it as much as you can. The next thing is you need to guard your mind. Curate what you consume. We said to scroll TikTok. Do you know how, personally, how I did it? Because after scrolling, I don't know, the last moments before the crash. Oh, I don't know, I found, oh, I don't know, the boyfriend. I've been able to take those search engines with me until the next time you enter the TikTok timeline. It's death, death, death. So, it's for you. Again, another day crying with a stranger. So, what I did, I started searching for things. I started searching for things. I think South Africa, they dance. You know, those dancing styles. Those are challenge one to challenge nine. So, all of a sudden, my timeline changed. Because I had to change what I'm consuming. It was not protecting my peace. It was stealing away my own peace. So, you curate what you're consuming. Be it at work, there are always toxic conversations that we have to listen to because there are colleagues, there is your boss. If you can go back home, you can say, and five minutes, just shut up, like, cry, read a book, listen to music, like, even if it's to stay off social media, just put off that phone, if that's what's stealing your peace, and then guard your mind. Listen to good music that will lift spirits, listen to a little music, read a book, journal a bit, work out a bit, so after you understand exactly what steals your peace, now you need to at least guard your mind. It doesn't consume what it has. Personally, I love it every time I go to run, like every time. Whether I work out in the morning, until I get a picture done, after teasing. So, at that time, the only thing I'm consuming is whatever is around me. So, is it working out? Is it the friends around? And the friends around, you know, at the gym we have a very nice community. So, the friends around are not toxic. So, you see, my mind is at peace. I'm at a state where... I'm present, I'm okay, I'm... Do you know peace? By the way, peace is very precious, guys. People think money is everything, but let me tell you, you can have money and without peace... Like, I know people say, oh, Harry, I don't have money. Let me tell you, if you don't lack peace, you won't know why. By the way, Harry, you have everything and you don't have money. So, just protect it. Being intentional about what you're going to consume. Whether it's on TikTok, whether it's on YouTube. If you want to watch celebs, you can watch celebs. But. Surprisingly, I think human beings love things that steal their peace. You want something to be heard. You want to watch a celebrity who has a scandal that will be heard all day long. You don't want a celebrity who has just come and made a celebrity's reflection and told them to guard their peace, curate what they watch. You know, you want drama after drama, drama after drama, and somehow, you don't even know, but because you're consuming the content, you're consuming the social media, you're consuming whatever it is, somehow, it is robbing your peace, but you won't know. Tell me why we can watch something online. I watched it at night on bed. I scrolled through TikTok. Those TikTok, by the way, those crashing, I watched. Next, I met with a colleague. What I'm telling the colleague is all those negative things I saw. Unlike, I watch Celeste's reflection, I gain, I learn something, then tomorrow I share what I learned with my colleague. Really, we don't share positive things, we want the bad ones. What you saw, you saw that bus, check those videos, like, anything, even what he's saying, even if he hasn't watched TikTok, he's ready to be with a heavy heart. You know, it's not some nice news, it's not, I don't know, joy, it's not celebration, it is, did you see, did you see, and that's why personally, I think, there are people I follow, even on Instagram, I just want them to say they're going to check me out, me, by the way, I follow a guy who posts memes, because I want to, I want to, I want to, I want to be. Happy. The reason why we like memes is because we just want something to make us happy. Yeah? You know how many times I've said that? Because that meme has uplifted your spirit. You feel like... Hey, I think this person who's doing this, he knows I need to check, actually, okay? So you need to guard your mind, and by that you need to be intentional with what you're consuming. If I'm consuming toxic content online, definitely, you'll just have a man who's drunk. Like, you'll just have a man who's drunk. You're drunk because every time you get into a fight, you just want bad things. You just want bad things. Thank you, Zawa. Like, just bad things. They're not things that will... Look out, a person who enters online and starts to learn. Like, how do you do this? How do you do this? There, you find a person who tells you to go to a videography or photography school. But when you look at the work he does, he calls a picture fit. Like, one of the best photographers we have, one of the best videographers. Or a makeup artist. How did you learn? He was entering YouTube, he was learning how to learn. Not that he enters YouTube and starts looking for who killed so-and-so. Or show me how to. Now. The other thing is, we need to learn the power of saying no. I think we've heard this a lot in the past. And also, like Dr. Mewa Nye, he knows how to say no the last few years. Because saying no, every time you say yes to something that you don't feel like doing it, is saying no to your peace. So every time I'm called by someone and I feel like I want to go to this event, then I just say yes. You're robbing yourself. You're stealing your peace. Just because you want to please this person or because you didn't want to say no, you end up hurting, like saying no to your peace. Okay? So learn how to say no. It's not necessary that no comes with a why. I can just say no. I won't make it. And if that person is someone who understands, they'll understand. It's not like, ah, why are you coming? I want to do something. Why are you coming? Why are you squeezing? Imagine I've avoided all that. I'm sitting at home, I'm at peace. If I come, I know I'll meet so and so. Or I know I'll do this, this. Or I know I'll... Which will not make me happy. So I'd rather say no. Just listen a little bit. Then we move on. When I'm saying yes to you, it has to be aligning with my peace. I'm saying yes knowing very well I'm going to enjoy. It's going to be... Good for me. It's going to be great. You know, I'm not saying yes, but deep down, please don't go. Okay? So it is not selfish to say no. You're guarding your peace. Sometimes, you'll find someone who requests their energy or the crowd that will be higher line with your well-being. So if I feel like today, by going for that event or going to meet those people, we'll not It will rob me some peace. Let me just say no. I will look for an excuse because I know they expect excuses. As much as we say you don't say why. No is a complete statement. But there are people who say why. So, we will look for a story. And even if I just say no. I know it is hard but try and say no. Yeah, then the next thing is create, have something. Create a daily routine that will make you have that quiet moment. Just you by yourself. No social media, no people, just you by yourself. For example, I know the only time... Not daily, but I try. The only time I want to get up, I want to get out, I want to climb or walk. Is it the only time I want to walk? Well, it's on and off. It's not that I walk daily. But when I'm doing that walk, that is when you listen to the best music, the best worship. You return as if you're listening. And this thing, by the way, let me tell you, until you get to exercise what I am saying, that's when you get to understand. Sometimes you just need to have some time alone. It's not like you have groupies, you have friends, you have... Even if you leave the office to go buy a smokey, you're still drunk. Just walk by yourself and see how that moment of silence, like just quiet. You've gone, you've taken a smokey. It is you. You mind you. So it's not that we want to go... Me? Okay. Personally. Personally, I don't like it. We call it, we call it, we call it, I don't like that word. I have to do something. I have to call you, call you, call you. Just find some quiet, alone time, moment. Alone. Not what you want. Oh. Because that's how you're going to create your own peace. You're trying to create peace from within. It's not like you're saying, I have money, I'm good. It has to be from within. So create your own peace. And your own peace cannot be at ease. The only time I'm at peace is when I'm with so-and-so doing so-and-so. Have a routine. There are people who do self-care, they come home, they do self-care, they wear a mask. You know, when you wear a mask, you've been there. You like it or you don't like it. So, yeah. So, whether it's walking five minutes, whether it's... Taking a... Some of us actually stay in the car. You arrive at the gate, you sit in front of the car. You realise one hour later. Just to live. Because in this world that we are in, as I've said, there's so much noise from the outside. And then we are all up and down. We are walking. We are walking. So, on Saturday, I'm doing this. On this, I'm doing this. So, what I'm saying is just get five minutes. Five minutes. And you'll notice, if I'm in the car, you'll find that you're not even aware because you're at peace. You're not aware that you're sitting, you're not even aware that you're sleeping. You're not even aware because you're crying. Then when you're done with that, resting you. Get back to your motherhood life. You know, you're starting to wake up, you're continuing. Be it reading a book, be it just find time for yourself. At least daily, you're quiet, then you experience some quiet moments. You know? Then the other one is you need to let go. They need to react to everything or to respond to everything. Now, allow me to again, go back to social media. Those people I mentioned, they like to consume. Negative. Like content. They just want what they have. What they have. What they have. And it's funny that even the content that they have, the content that is good, the content that will help you grow as a better Celestine, people don't like it. But the way they talk, I don't know how our mind is built. Our mind looks like it thrives more in negativity. Now those people, now also it's okay. Consume. I mean, you will consume too. But, The urge or the need to feel like I need to respond to everything I see, you know, so I'm like, sorry, where, where, you know, so there's those people who feel like I have I have the right. Of course, we have freedom to speech. But protect yourself from all this noise. So, I know, even though I don't know how to say it, but if there's something that comes out of a comment, he'll comment on it. And not those jokes comments, because we love those comments. For example, this joke has been going on for a long time, and when it started, guys were saying, we said this table has been hurt, and then he said, what is that table saying? Those ones were funny, and those are funny things. So everywhere you go, you're like, what is that man saying? Those ones were funny. But then we have these comments for guys who feel like, he was just watching, what he did, he just entered the comment, and he's starting to comment. There are those we ask you to comment. Like right now, I'm saying, tell your mom something. You're telling your mom. But it's not that negative every time you feel like, if you finish commenting, you're ranting, you're going to another place, you're like, hey, Bana, you even have so much time. And you're not doing, you're not helping yourself. You're actually harming your peace. Because if this is a video I've seen, when they do it, you go in, you cut it, you go to another page. And those people, we tell them, they don't even know. Sometimes those comments, they don't even understand. Who said we're going to tell you? It's 50 cents. Or whoever we're commenting on, we're telling him. Like, even 50 cents, even that. You know? So sometimes, do not respond to everything. Even in the three. If he tells you something, well, you can answer him politely. But really, you're always ready to attack. Sometimes, you don't have to. Silence is precious also, if I may say. Silence is also a superpower. Protecting your peace, sometimes you just need to keep quiet. You know you have something to say, but you're like, do I really need to say it right now? Who am I telling? Will they even take time to listen to what I'm saying, not to read my comments? So, you brush off. So, yeah. So, I think those are some of the things that I know you can do to protect your peace. I know there are a lot more things you can do to protect your peace. So many things. Now, all we are trying to do, we are in a very noisy world. Very noisy. If you start watching news at 1 o'clock, let's say it's night time, you can watch news, watch news, you will be shocked. You will be shocked because of the news. So what I'm trying to do is, how can we protect? How can we protect our peace? Especially in these times that we are in. So if you have another way that we can do to protect our peace, kindly, on the comment section, let's help each other, let's share. We are trying to learn together. We are trying to help each other. The world is noisy. Maybe even those who work, my boss is toxic. Maybe even in my family, people are toxic. So we are trying to find these small, small things that I can do that can make me feel lighter. Like, okay, it's tough, but I can feel it after a five-minute walk. I'm listening to music. Okay, so that's it from me today, guys. I hope you enjoyed. I hope it was a nice topic. You can tell me more, what you want me to come and talk about. I'm doing research, and then I'll come and talk. And if you also want to be my guest, the email to reach on is [email protected] We come, we say, we analyze, we see what works, we see what's perfect with self-reflection. We see what's good for our people, or for us as a community. Yes, and then, We continue learning and unlearning together. Thank you for watching. That has been an amazing episode from me as your guest and your host. Bye-bye. See you next time.