Siblings Are Trying To Cut Me Out of My Dad's Will

Brought to you by the EveryDollar app. Start budgeting for free today. I don't know how direct I need to be with my dad in asking about our inheritance. And long story short, my dad has four kids. The three, you know, grew up in the household I did not. You know, I grew up in the States with my mom. So I've never been entitled to any of that stuff. And it's fine, right? I've made my own way. I told the screener, I'm a baby steps millionaire. thanks to you guys, wow, good for you, thank you so I was always led to believe, sorry if I get emotional, um, but it was hundreds of thousands of dollars which I didn't want to fight for, right like I don't want to fight for, you know, like 50k, it's not going to change my life anyway, I got a phone call this week and it might be more in like the millions of dollars that this inheritance this might be. And anyway, I'm just like feeling conflicted because, you know, two of my siblings are trying to get me out of the will. You know, my dad's starting to get dementia. Um, but I guess as the will stands, I'm supposed to get the house and some money. So again, like I was always of the camp of, I'm not fighting for this. Like, it's not, not something I expect, you know, at the time I said, it's not going to change my life, but now that it's, I don't know, a life-changing number, I don't know am I being greedy? Like, should I pursue that? Like, I just I'm struggling, like I couldn't even sleep last night trying to figure out what I should do next all right, do you have any relationship with the siblings at all? I do with one, um, the oldest one has kind of been on my side of like hey this is about fairness, like it doesn't matter that you know she's not like she's a half sister so um, so anyway yeah, so just with one, the other two it's like friendly, but you know it, I mean they have put me in my place before, of you know you're like that midlife mistake, you know what I mean so see, and that's the part, I hate all this for you so much like it sounds like there's a lot of emotions it sounds like there's a lot of water under this bridge that has gone on and I feel like that's what's clouding this discussion and I get it I'm not saying you wouldn't be clouded by that because that's there's a lot there just in the few things that you've told us but what I would want to keep first and foremost is what you said which is you were going throughout life and you were fine with your baby steps millionaire doing your thing and at the end of the day whatever happens I would just keep in mind It's not yours nor your sibling's money at this point. It's your dad's money, and he's going to make a plan that he sees fit. Now, I do want to know, whatever it is, like these bits and pieces that you guys do know about the will, how do you know that? Is that from your dad's mouth? Was there at one point a reading of the will, or is this just jibber-jabber from the family? Don't wait for the interest rate to be perfect before buying or refinancing a home. Talk to Churchill Mortgage. Smart buyers buy the home they can afford now and then refinance later if rates improve. Churchill helps you make decisions with confidence instead of guessing. And Churchill Mortgage has a webpage with special offers just for our audience. Go to churchillmortgage.com slash Ramsey offer. This is a paid advertisement. NMLS ID 1591. NMLSconsumeraccess.org. Equal housing lender. It's from my oldest sibling. Um, so I got a call, like I said, and, uh, she was, sorry, I'm getting emotional, but, um, again, she said, so anyway, there's a lot of properties involved, right? And pretty much they're getting the lion's share. And it's basically, how does she know, how does she know, because she knows what all it's worth. She's kind of had her hand in all these things. She helped him, um, make the will. No, she, I mean, she is, she knows what's in it. basically she didn't make it um but she said yes basically you know you're you're supposed to get this fourth home plus you know whatever is in the bank and they're trying to make it so you don't get the home and you know it basically goes to the grandkids which i don't hate that either right i just wouldn't bet on what she's saying i think i would go straight to your dad and i'd say dad talk to your health is going we all know that but you need to i would love if you would speak to us about what your final wishes are going to be with the property so that we're hearing it directly from you and with the spirit of what you have in mind behind it you know our family is messed up and it's going to mean a lot to me to hear your wishes from you versus one of my siblings that's all you can ask for okay so just address it straight on how do you bring that conversation up though without entitlement yeah a lot a lot of gratitude and humility um but just say dad this is starting to weigh on me because it's getting dragged so deeply, and it's starting to feel really personal. I don't want it to be. I hate that it is, but this is what I'm feeling, and I just think it's going to be helpful and best for you, Dad. You've worked really hard. You have a lot to show for it, and I want your wishes to be what they are. I think that it's fair for all of us to hear those together just for your legacy to be able to be lived out the way you want it to be when you're not here anymore and yeah i mean i feel like that i feel like that is totally fair totally and and i would also say to grace at the end of the day um does it it feels i think it's yes is the amount of money maybe becoming more motivating for you to be like whoa hold on but also what can easily be attached to someone's value to an amount of money and grace regardless of if you get this money or not that's right you are valuable that you're not some mistake midlife mistake like what they're naming um because it can easily going to start to feel like if this money does not come to you you have less value because of that and i would detach that from a spiritual element as fast as possible because it's just not true will it be heartbreaking absolutely but your value is still there create your free every dollar budget today the simplest way to budget for your life