Hold Your Toxic Parents Accountable #npd #narcissist #toxicparents #domesticviolence

Good morning, everybody from San Juan, Puerto Rico. It's 7am here. I'm up super early. I came out to go to the beach, but it was raining. So y'all see that the resort is wet outside. It's raining. So just waiting for things to clear up so we can go out on the beach. But in the meantime, I will do a video for you guys. I'm gonna sit down here. Okay. Yesterday I posted two videos and I discussed how to narcissistic parents they set you up to fail in life you know in your childhood they are prepping you and grooming you to be codependent to lack self-respect um to have low self-esteem so that when you become an adult you're going to attract toxic friendships toxic uh relationships and they're all going to sabotage and you have no choice but to run back home to your mommy and but for refuge and they're your original abusers so when you run back home to them they're just gonna abuse you all over again it's one big trap it's like a it's technically a love triangle between your parents and whoever abuses you out in the world you're stuck in between two abusive entities okay it's a love triangle your parents and whoever your fake friendship that's toxic or a fake lover that's toxic once that fake friendship destroys you or that fake lover destroys you you're sitting there like oh my god who can I turn to I I feel so abandoned so alone so isolated and you run back home to mommy but daddy and those are your original abusers it's all a setup your parents have set you up to fail in life if y'all don't understand how the game runs i feel sorry for you because i understand the game and i shut that ---- down neither one of my parents can run that game on me ever again i'd rather be homeless sleeping on the streets in a cardboard box than to run back to my mom mommy and daddy because i know they're gonna **** me over if i run back to them y'all better wake the **** up and understand how this game is played with a toxic mother and father huh so um i got a lot of backlash i got a lot you know people praised me for the last videos that I made but I did get some backlash um I want to talk about holding your parents accountable excuse me accountable accountable accountable holding your mommy and daddy accountable for their choices their choices yes yes now let me let me just be very clear. Nobody is perfect. None of us. Those of you that are parents, I'm a parent, especially when you're a new parent, you're new to it and you're learning along the way. None of us are perfect. None of us are. These children and teenagers today, they have social media, they have cell phones. You know, they're a bit, they're way different than what we was. We were more sheltered and things were way different back in the day today these kids and teenagers are very outspoken um they're very knowledgeable and they're obtaining large masses of information through social media through their cell phones so even though even if they they come from a very structured family you could teach your children all all types of wonderful things to keep them spiritually and morally grounded however you have social media working against you okay even though you taught your child your child the right way and you raised them up correctly you still have social media working against you because when your child is on their cell phone and on social media all day they're being influenced by all types of demonic entities money sex ladies you know with these fake plastic bodies you know having fake boobs and a Brazilian butt lift that's influencing our young teenage girls there's so many negative influences on social media that are programming our children and working against our healthy parenting let's be very clear so times are times have changed drastically back in the day we didn't have a social media we didn't have all these negative influences persuading our children so you could be the greatest parent in the world teaching your child the right way but you still have social media and society as a whole distracting and pulling your child away from the things that you taught them so in this video i want to clearly um stand my ground by expressing that even though your mom and dad were toxic narcissistic they taught you that codependency was normal they taught you that your money is their money yeah any money that you make they feel entitled to your motherfucking money you done worked hard and got your degrees and you got a good job they still want to control you and your ******* money huh don't tell me i'm lying when i was a teenager in high school let me understand let me make y'all understand my mother was unemployed I went to high school I had two jobs I was always a hard worker I was always responsible in my teenager years that's why I'm motherfucking responsible now nobody could ever take that from me I've always been ******* responsible always been independent high school I had two jobs every week I got paid my mother took my paychecks oh we need food in the house we need to keep the lights on I'm not your husband bitch I'm your child why aren't you working a job why are you feeling entitled to my money I'm a teenager I have a daughter my daughter is 20 years old you know what I don't ask my daughter for a dime of her money I understand she's young uh my daughter's trying to start a clothing line she has her friends she has her life she's entitled to her money how she wants to spend it. I encourage her to save. However, I would never try to control my daughter's life by taking her money. My mother took all my paychecks to pay the bills in the house because she didn't want to work. She felt entitled and it didn't stop there. When I went to college, any refund checks, I got a refund check from my loans. She felt entitled. I got a check from my lawsuit. I had a lawsuit where I slipped and fell. She took the entire check. My mother is so greedy and financially controlling so in this video where I'm going with this a lot of people are like give your mother and father a pass they didn't know what they was doing back in the day it was the 50s 1950 1960 1970 our parents back in the day they didn't know any better they didn't have therapists back then they didn't have doctors psychologists all that so your parents basically didn't have the resources to treat their disorder and their dysfunction that's that's what I'm getting right now and let me tell y'all something all of that is bullshit all of that is bullshit because let me explain something had your parents back in the 1950s and 60s and 70s let's just say they had access to therapists let's just say they had access to doctors psychiatrists psychologists family counseling they trust me hear me and hear me good your parents would have never took advantage of the therapy or the counseling you want to know why because if your parents are are true narcissists sociopaths psychopaths borderline personality disorder these types of people lack accountability they don't think nothing is wrong with their behavior they blame everybody around them for their fucked up behavior and they will not look in that mirror and say i did this it's my fault they lack accountability so if they're what let's just say back in the day 50s 60s they had all the resources they would have never they wouldn't have gone to counseling they wouldn't have gone to therapy they would have said **** that ---- ain't nothing wrong with me it's everybody else's fault stop trying to give your parents a pass they don't get a pass they had a choice they had a choice just like you and me we have a choice when I gave birth to my baby before I got into any therapy I said I choose not to repeat the cycle dysfunction with my child I don't even want to put my child through anything I went through I don't want to be cold and heartless to my child the way that my mother was cold and heartless to me I'm gonna break this ---- I was given a choice and I chose to do things differently with my child because I suffered a tremendous amount of pain and suffering with my mother because she was too much of a weak bitch to change what she was taught see her mother treated her trifling her mother neglected her and treated her like ---- and my mother had a choice to be a better mother than her mother and she didn't do that she didn't do that she chose to be abusive she chose to transfer her pain onto her children everybody has a choice this is why i do not give toxic parents a pass they don't deserve a pass you can forgive them forgive your parents but you do not let your foot up off their neck keep your foot on their ******* neck hold them accountable because they had a choice and they chose violence they chose to neglect you they chose not to give you the love that you deserve they chose to invalidate you they had a choice and they chose they're sadistic they want you to suffer the same way that they suffered in their childhood they didn't change they didn't turn that behavior off they didn't go get treatment or help they chose keep your motherfucking foot on your parents neck i don't care how much they they hate it i don't care if they out here in the streets telling everybody you're crazy and psycho keep your foot on your their motherfucking neck let them call you crazy you've been to therapy bitch i've been to therapy I got my paperwork all my doctors and therapists say stay the **** away from your toxic parents because you work hard you're successful you have no criminal background you raised a daughter beautifully and your toxic parents want to sabotage and destroy your reputation and everything you work hard for because they're still ******* miserable they're still suffering from their childhood ---- and they want to destroy you because you were smart enough to distance yourself from them and make a better way for yourself and be a better parent than both of them was hold your parents accountable don't keep your keep your motherfucking foot on their necks no they you are owed an apology you are owed an explanation they are to hold themselves accountable and don't just accept you listen get them in front of a psychiatrist hey mom and dad let's go to family counseling so a licensed professional can document your toxic behavior and hold you motherfucking accountable and make you apologize to your adult children for the pain trauma and dysfunction you have caused your children they won't do that though ask your parents to go to family therapy where a professional can document their behavior I bet you they won't do it don't let up off your parents they don't get a pass because they made a choice they had a choice and they chose violence they chose dysfunction they chose to pass down their trauma to their children they had a choice they had a choice nobody put a gun to their head and chose them to be a terrible parent they made that choice I said what the **** I said now y'all have a blessed day