Narcissists on Fathers Day #narcissist #narcabuse #npd #fathersday

Hey guys, Spiritual Whistleblower here with a special Father's Day video for those of you who are survivors of narcissistic abuse and you know for a fact that your father is a narcissist. As always, I do a video for Mother's Day for those of you who have narcissistic mothers, but I also do the same on Father's Day. And I want to take this time to acknowledge your feelings and validate you and help you cope with getting through your day tomorrow. And I also want to acknowledge those that are co-parenting with a narcissistic father and he's giving you straight hell, you know, with the whole co-parenting thing. Ladies, I know what that's like. I've done it for 21 years. I've dealt with the toxic family court system. So, you know, I just want to do this video to help y'all get through Father's Day tomorrow. Before I go in with the video, I just want to promote my summer tour. It's called the Chosen One Tour. I'm back at it again. I'll be in London, England next month, Paris. I'll be in Philly, D.C. I'll be in Los Angeles and Chicago, Detroit, Toronto, Canada, and Houston, Texas for the next three months. If you would like tickets to come to the Narcissistic Abuse Seminar in the meetup, you can email me at chaneljasmin at gmail.com. And my brand new book, Dad, I'm Not Your Side Chicken, You Are Not My Pimp. I've decided to postpone releasing it tomorrow. What I'm going to do is I'm going to offer it to those. exclusively if you attend my support group meetup this summer in any of one of those cities you will be able to buy the book first i'm not going to release the book to the public until my tour is over however i will have exclusive copies of this book at my seminar okay you might want to try to make it to one of one of the seminars in one of the cities one of the large cities near you hey guys um so let's talk about this father's day stuff here um tomorrow i think it is it's messed up because a lot of people who have narcissistic fathers um their fathers were either not around they abandoned their responsibilities or they were around and they saw them abuse their mothers um and ladies a lot of our fathers do not defend us or protect us from our abusive relationships and this is why I tell women if your father is a narcissist I can assure you he will set you up to fail in your relationships and what this means is it's like a triangulation system your father has groomed you and trained you to have no boundaries to be a caretaker because he wants you to take care of him a lot of us that have narcissistic fathers our fathers are greedy for money he feels entitled to your money um if you're not his favorite child he'll compare you um to your siblings and if you are his favorite child so he says he will use you and pit you against your siblings um ladies our fathers are good for trying to use us as side chicks to make other women jealous he will try to throw you in his your your mother's face okay he will pit you against your own mother if he has a new girlfriend or new wife he will pit you against her your father is insecure and weak and jealous and he he wants to see women constantly fighting or making a fuss over him and he will include his own daughter in on the three-way love triangle so don't think for one minute you know if your father's new girlfriend or new wife she's acting funky or funny acting around you every time you come around that's because your father is running his mouth behind your back and he's pitting you unknowingly unbeknownst to you he's pitting you against his new woman okay this is triangulation um your father um they're no good with their grandchildren either they use their grandchildren as pawn pieces to draw in their own children closer but they're not connected to their kids or their grandchildren there's no emotional connection he's using everybody involved um ladies we we've got to break this pattern if you really want to get to the root of you know you want to stop attracting narcissists then you have to look at your daddy if your daddy was not around number one you have abandonment issues because you have no father figure um or if your mother is a narcissist you will attract men like your mother because your mother raised you so if you were raised in a single parent home your mother's going to take on the masculine father role and if she's abusive you're going to attract men with her personality now if your mother remarried and she you know your stepfather is a narcissist you're going to attract men like your stepfather so how do you break this pattern you're going to have to cut off your family your mother your father your stepfather if your brothers are narcissists and they have children multiple baby mamas they got you got to cut them off too even if you have relationships with the baby mamas it's too dangerous if you plan on healing anyone that is connected to the narcissist in your family have to get cut off okay um what else I want to talk about co-parenting A lot of ladies, I've been asked this question a couple of times already all this week. Should you allow your child to see their narcissistic father tomorrow for Father's Day? That's up to you But if it was me, the answer would be no. Why would you force your child to connect with an abuser? You know the father, the child's father is abusive. He's a narc. He's an emotional abuser. He's going to manipulate your child. even if it's just a phone call that phone call will contain lots of manipulation emotional manipulation emotional abuse why would you want your child to interact with the with your baby father knowing he's a ******* narc no he doesn't deserve a gift um you gotta really stop and step back and realize you're forcing your child to interact with an abuser because you feel guilty it's not even about the children like you're sitting there like well I don't want to look like a bad parent and what about your children are interacting with an abuser I don't know how to put it any other way you have to toughen up get a backbone and start weaning your children away from their father your children are going to suffer in the long run um if you can't get supervised visitation right away you know set up you know set up the visits where y'all are out in the public and y'all are somewhere where there's video cameras i don't know but if you do not step in and monitor and control the access that your child's father has to your children he will destroy them he will destroy their behaviors uh he will ruin them he will turn them narcissistic he will turn them suicidal as they become teenagers their behaviors are going to worsen and it's going to be tough on you so for those of you thinking about buying a gift for you know your toxic baby father and giving it to your child and forcing your child that ---- is wrong um stop holding conversations about him to your children that are unnecessary um try to divert their attention if they ask questions politely divert their attention without bad mouthing him but at some point you're going to have to wean your children away from your abuser until you can get supervised visitations until you can move and relocate you know make sure you cover your tail and um so he can't sue you for parental kidnapping you want to make sure that the courts know you're moving or at least you consult with the lawyer but you're going to have to move you got to get you got to get away from him he's going to ruin your children um but in terms of father's day tomorrow don't feel guilty you don't have to buy him anything you know if if i could put it a different way if you do buy a gift so that your children can give it to him tomorrow he doesn't care about the gift he does not ******* care about the gift all he cares is that he has access to you through the children now when are you going to start limiting the child's access to the abuser when are you going to start weaning them off weaning them from communicating what are you going to do because if you don't think your children are going to suffer in the long run yes they will yes they will because you felt guilty and you you know you felt like well i don't have to talk to him just the kids he's he's ******* abusing your kids you can stay out the picture he if you won't cooperate he's going to get your children he'll hurt your children just so you can hurt he can hurt you he knows if he hurts the children abuse manipulates him he knows it'll get back to you and it'll hurt you so when are you going to step in and protect your children from your abuser i know it's difficult i know the family court system doesn't do much but you got to keep trying you got to keep records you got to keep pushing for supervised visits to scare him off or you can like i said relocate to another city and state and get the **** away from him and his family so um on that note tomorrow i want y'all to you know don't get hung up on father's day the same thing applies for mother's day if you have a narcissistic mother she was she treated you like a piece of ---- you do not have to acknowledge her you do not have to acknowledge your father tomorrow you do not have to acknowledge your baby father tomorrow you don't have to force your children to buy him a gift okay and on that note um y'all be safe tomorrow and put up some boundaries and do something nice with your kids for all my single moms that act more like the father you make father's day about you tomorrow you and your kids go out and do something don't even mention father's day to your kids just go and have a good time tomorrow that's all y'all got to do okay then the spiritual whistleblower i love you guys bye