How to Spot a Narcissistic Fake Friend (Mirroring) #npd #narcabuse #narcissist

Hey guys, Spiritual Whistleblower here with another video on narcissistic abuse. I'm going to be talking about toxic friends, narcissistic friends, how you can identify another way that you can identify that you have a narcissist amongst your group of friends. Pay attention. I'm dropping free game. I've been giving y'all what y'all want. Y'all say I don't talk about this enough and I'm going to give y'all some free game. I've been dropping videos on toxic narcissistic friends over the past week And this is going to be another good one I'm going to talk about mirroring, the mirroring effect And how narcissists use this amongst their friends Before we jump into it, I'm excited to say I have two more dates left over in my tour My chosen one tour On Saturday, September 24th, I'll be in Toronto, Canada for the very first time Tickets have started selling, y'all are buying tickets I'm so honored. This will be my first time in Toronto. So y'all, the tickets are available. You can email me. 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And you're going to meet other people and connect. All right. So let's go. Let's get into this video. Um, how you know, this is another way because I've been giving y'all free game, free tips on how you can spot and identify a narcissist amongst your group of friends. um and I have experienced this too I've been through you know I've gotten rid of excuse me not been through but I'll just say I've gotten rid of uh a lot of toxic friends who are fake and on my way of dealing with it I don't do the confrontation that's another thing like Dr. Romany and so many excellent therapists have videos on this when you realize that someone is narcissistic they have heavy narcissistic tendencies or what have you you you pick up this behavior um a lot of people like, well, do you call out a narcissist? Do you tell them they're a narcissist? Do you tell them, you know, do you point out their character and pattern of toxic behavior that you've picked up? And the answer is always no, never, ever, ever, ever confront or call out someone for being a narcissist. What you have to do is either you gradually distance yourself and then you completely cut them off or you can abruptly. That's my preference. I do it abruptly without looking back. No questions asked. I don't second guess myself. I blocked the phone number. I blocked them on social media. I blocked them across the board and I blocked them on email and I make it known with my actions. I'm not going to confront. I'm just going to cut you off and I don't have to explain myself. And if I find that you're trying to guilt me or bait me or even coerce me into giving you an explanation, you're not going to get one. And I'm just going to, you know, I'm pretty damn good y'all I'm excellent my discernment is is through the roof you cannot play with me or my discernment I don't go back and forth when I feel confused confusion means you have a demon amongst you when you get into this energy of feeling confused about whether or not someone is a narcissist you better trust that they are because confusion is an indication that you are amongst a demon because the devil is the master of confusion that's biblical, First Corinthians I want to say First Corinthians chapter 13, 44. For God is not the author of confusion. Satan is. So anytime you're, you know, we're not talking about relationships, nothing romantic today. We're talking about friendships. So when you're amongst someone and their behavior and their character and their moral compass is making you confused or uneasy about them, you better trust that they're toxic. Confusion equals narcissist. Confusion equals toxicity. If their behavior was good one minute and then they switch up or, you know, you find out that they're one way with you and then they switch up and they're another way with somebody else in your group of friends, that is confusion. That is inconsistency. That is narcissistic behavior. Let's talk about it. I want to talk about mirroring. What is mirroring to a narcissist when it comes to toxic friendships? You have a group of friends, right? See, I'm putting y'all onto game because I'm like a, I'm like a hundred year old woman with so much wisdom. Like I, I'm scary. People say I'm scary, but I scare myself on how, how well my discernment is and how I can pick apart somebody's character. And it's like, I can read people's thoughts you don't want to **** with me because because if if I look at you and and and I I start looking at you in a negative light nothing's going to pull me away from that I'm not going to have a discussion with you I'm not going to confront you I'm going to stand on my decision that you're a fucked up human being you're a narcissist you're a demon I'm gonna get the **** away from you goodbye and if you come near me or violate my boundaries there will be some serious consequences i don't play that ---- i am the spiritual whistleblower okay god is working through me i am a vessel for god i do not ******* play when it comes to doing this type of work when you are amongst a group a group of friends mutual friends you got a small tight-knit group of friends and you want to know if this you know somebody's a narcissist amongst your group of friends one of the ways because there's several ways i could talk about this all day one of the ways that you can identify them as being narcissistic is this technique called mirroring mirroring is when a narcissist toxic abusive manipulative individual copies your personality and they take it and steal it for their own this is why you know a lot of times when you hear a lot of experts and psychologists psychiatrists they'll tell you when you get in a romantic relationship with a narcissist you're not actually falling in love with the narcissist because he's mirroring your behavior you're falling in love with yourself all he did was steal your identity he stole your personality he he morphed into you so that he could get you to fall in love with him because he has no identity now we're going to apply that same technique when it comes to friendships okay this is what a toxic abusive manipulative narcissistic friend will do and if you don't if you're not if your discernment is not you're going to miss it but see my discernment is ******* razor sharp ain't nothing getting past me it might take me six months to a year but I will catch your ass I put that on everything don't try to be slick with me don't try to be fake phony don't try to be don't try it with me and a lot of people try me a lot of people get around me and they be like oh that spiritual whistleblower she's good but I'm gonna test the waters and see if I could play with her and I always blindside and cut they ******* ass off don't ever play with me because there's this this gift that God gave me is something serious I can damn near read people's thoughts I you know I don't like the word psychic but if we want to take it there and a lot of people test me and they can't they be in disbelief at damn how does she do it how does she figure me out bitch because I'm good this is a God-given gift but see like like a narcissist in a romantic relationship a toxic narcissistic friend will also mirror the personalities in that group of friends setting this is what they'll do right especially if it's a new friend and they're they're you know you're introducing them into a group of friends right or you pull somebody in to meet your group of friends you show them around you you know you introduce them you show them love and you you know you you let them be in your group right what this toxic individual will do with it they'll be fake and phony oh the the the charm and the personality and the ass kissing will be at an all-time high they're gonna come with that with their fake bubbly personality their fake charisma oh hi you know they're gonna turn up the charm something they're gonna be trying to woo everybody over this is the love bombing phase in the friendship the fake phony facade the fake charisma the fake you know bubbly personality is all fake i'm telling write the **** down now what this narcissist will do he will be you know he's a predator this so-called friend he or she they're predators you've got to before they are male or female they are predators so that you're bringing them into this group of friends you're introducing them and pulling them into your circle of friends to welcome them because they really are lonely and they don't have no ******* life because they usually push everybody the **** away because with a toxic asses or they they don't have no friends because they they're best friends with a toxic ass mommy and daddy anyway um what this narcissist will do when you pull them into that group of friends and introduce them they're going to be sizing up all the friends in the circle that's what predators do they're going to be trying to size everybody up who's the slowest who's the dumbest who's the fastest who's the messiest who has the most money who has the least money how can i benefit out of this one how can i benefit out of this one can i sit up and gossip with this one? Can I be messy with this one? They're picking apart everybody's personality. They're studying everybody in that group of friends. Then at some later point down the line, when they're good and comfortable, they're going to get too comfortable in that group of friends. And then the real behavior is going to start to slip. Now, we don't know if that group of friends is paying attention and if their discernment is not there, they're going to miss this toxic behavior. It's going to go over their heads. It's going to go over their heads. They're going to miss all the clues and everything. But if there's one individual in that group of friends who is very, very full of wisdom and they have lots of discernment, they're going to pick up on that toxic behavior because the narcissist is not going to drop it all at once. He's going to give he's going to give it in really small doses. He's going to breadcrumb this behavior. So you got to be quick and you got to be sharp to catch it. So what he's doing after he's figured out everybody's personality because he's he's he has no identity the narcissist has no ******* identity so once he studied everybody in that group of friends he's going to get around everybody he's going to pull everybody one by one he's going to spend some quality time as a group ha ha he he he he he everybody's kicking having a good time yeah it's all good when the group is together kicking it but individually he's going to get everybody alone individually then what he's going to do He's going to mirror. Imagine a narcissist holding up a mirror to you, your friend, your fake ass, toxic ass friend. So he's going to start turning his personality into yours. He's going to start thinking and he's going to start stealing your slang. The words that you say, the way that you talk, he's going to steal your slang. He's going to steal your personality. He's studying you and stealing from you. And he's morphing, morphing into you. So let's just say one of your friends makes a lot of money. he's ******* broke as **** living way above his means but when he gets around this friend who has a lot of money and he gets her alone he's going to start thinking he's on her level he's going to start pretending to be rich and bougie and he flies first class and he does this and that and he makes six figures he's going to start thinking that he's on her level when he gets around her and he's not that's because he's mirroring her behavior let's just say there's a broke person a broke you know someone out of the group of friends that doesn't have a lot of money but it's cool as **** and ratchet as hell but cool and funny with lots of personality so when he gets around that friend he's going to hold up a mirror to that friend and he's going to mirror that behavior and he's going to turn he's going to morph into a ratchet fun crazy cool person when he gets he's he's he's going to turn himself into everybody's personalities individually and then you're going to notice he's going to play people against each other and his behavior is going to slip because he can't be consistent with everybody he's not going to treat this one as nice as he treats the one that makes the most money he might ass kiss a little bit more with this person and mistreat this other friend so he's playing people against each other and he's not treating everybody equally in a group and nobody in a group knows about it because he's being sneaky about it and doing it in a manner where all the friends you know don't know all the friends have not compared notes yet but individually he has done each and every one of them differently he has morphed into a different personality with each of them y'all let's talk about this in a comment have you ever been mirrored by a narcissistic friend and how did you handle it I know how I handled it I cut that ************ off Toronto and Houston I'll see y'all in a little bit spiritual whistleblower