How to Shut Down a Fake Friend #npd #narcissist #narcabuse

Hey guys, Spiritual Whistleblower here with another video on narcissistic abuse. Countdown time, guys, is less than a week away. I will be in Toronto, Canada next week, Saturday, September 24th. Y'all been buying tickets. I'm super hyped. This will be my first time in Toronto. There are tickets left. We're going to be at the Dufferin Grove Comedy Theater. Dufferin Grove, y'all know where that's at. Toronto, get at me. Tickets are still available. $27, $27 Canadian dollars to get in. and i will be bringing books i will be autographing pictures food that type of stuff we're gonna have a great time okay so toronto canada i'll see y'all next week let the countdown begin houston texas to kick off to kick off the my mind went blank for a minute to kick off domestic violence awareness month october is domestic violence awareness month and breast cancer awareness month on october 1st i will be in houston texas all right my texas people y'all come through if you're in dallas you're in austin if you and y'all y'all drive it's only a three-hour drive san antonio y'all come through to houston we're gonna have a great time okay i'm already uh putting out the location those who bought their tickets you should have the location at this point y'all there's tickets left get at me okay so i want to talk about um how an empath we're going to talk about narcissistic friends because y'all really like when i go into this and and um you know i've been going through my own things and i don't mind using my you know being transparent and tying my stuff with you know teach you know the teachings that i i provide for you guys because it's all relatable and i again like i said i love to be transparent i love to be transparent and i think transparency shows that um you know narcissistic people hide their ---- and for these you know for those of you that survive this type of abuse you you don't trust anybody rightfully so if you've been abused into the ground by family friends lovers you who can you trust so when you get on a platform like this one you have to build people's trust and one thing you cannot say about spiritual whistleblower is that she's never transparent and she's inconsistent i am i'm the most consistent ************ on this platform nobody could ever come for me nobody could ever say ---- about me because when i say something i mean it and if i tell you i'm gonna be somewhere i'm gonna do something if i'm a i it's done nobody could ever and i keep receipts nobody could ever catch me slipping ever but if i do a seminar and i say i'm gonna be at such and such place i'm there so you know the enemy is mad that i'm out here helping y'all because the attacks there's stuff that i don't even tell y'all that i go through on a daily behind closed doors i've been robbed this summer my motherfuckers pretending to be empaths i've been lied on i've been you know they they're full of tricks you know they pretend to be empaths just to get close to me because they oh i want to meet spiritual whistleblower but there's a sick envy about me with these these mutants i call them mutants they you're not an empath you're pretending to be an empath because you want to get close to me because you're envious and you want to destroy me because i'm helping people that's some sick ---- you know how sick you gotta be to fake being an empath you're faking you know pretending to be spiritual you're pretending to be a man or woman of god just to get close to me you're pretending to care about domestic violence issues you're you're a fraud and i deal with these people all the time ******* with me behind closed doors so i want to teach y'all you know how to deal with cutting off a narcissistic friend because a lot of people don't know how to approach these situations when they happen and you know i'm here to teach you this there is a difference you know when people get cut off whether you cut off somebody or somebody cuts off you and i'm talking about friendships you can find out a lot about a person by telling them no when you cut them off or you tell them no or you set a boundary you're gonna find out who they really are because toxic personalities people with narcissistic personalities they don't handle rejection very well they don't handle um when they've hurt somebody whether it's intentional or not they don't know how to approach the situation from a mature standpoint because they're going to go into victim mode it's all about them me me me how dare you abandon me how dare you accuse me of something that i didn't do how dare you how dare you how dare you they're they're not going to approach the situation from, from, from an accountable standpoint. See empaths, whether we, let's just say you hurt a friend, you do something to hurt somebody. It wasn't your intention to hurt them. You might've done something unknowingly and this person, your friend brings it to your attention. An empath is going to react and respond totally different than a toxic narcissistic individual an empath is going to be like look i don't know what i did but i know i did something and what whatever i did whether i feel whether i feel if i'm wrong or right all i care about is that you and i get to a really good place again i love you um it hurts me to see that i've hurt you you're my friend i love and respect you and nothing would mean more to me than to get back on track so whatever i did i am going to be 100 accountable and i'm going to give you the time and space to process things and when you're feeling better if you're up to it i will be here waiting and i all like all that i care about is our friendship this is not about ego or pride all that goes out the window when i don't play with my friends. I will, I will, I will listen. I am overprotective. I don't, I won't let anyone hurt my friends, bully my friends, um, disrespect my friends, even if it's me. So if I have to self check and self correct, I'm going to let my friend know immediately. I am willing to be a hundred percent accountable. Okay. And whether I feel I'm right or wrong, that's irrelevant right now. this friendship is everything to me i value it i honor it and i respect it so when you're ready to talk about things i will be here i'll give you time and space i'm not going to be pushy i'm not going to be aggressive and you know definitely not going to be defensive or or play victim all i want to do is love you back and get us back to where we was that's all i care about that's how an empath approaches a situation when they know they've hurt somebody whether they intended to or not they're always going to approach the situation from from you know accountability i don't know what i did but my god i can't stand to see my friend hurting i i can't eat or sleep knowing i played a part in hurting my friends that's how empaths react not the narcissist no a toxic manipulator will not respond the same way they're not going to respond from a place of accountability this is how they're going to respond victim victim mindset what did i do see you know what i think you're trying to set me up i feel i feel a type of way i feel i feel used i feel violated you know i don't know what i did but i'm not gonna apologize until i know what i did and you know how dare you come for me this way and and you know i've did this they're gonna start throwing everything in your face that they ever did for you they're going to go into victim mindset. It's all about them. You've triggered their abandonment issues. So automatically the projection begins. The gaslighting begins. The woe is me. Oh my God, I'm such a victim that they're going to turn all of that up. So there is a difference. If you're an empath, you're going to hurt because you know that you played a part in hurting your friend and you want, you want to fix it. You don't want to be on bad terms with your friend. You're not going be wondering whether you're right or wrong you're gonna wonder what you did to hurt your friend but you definitely you're gonna be like i don't give a **** if i'm right or wrong i just want to get back right with my friends but a narcissist is like **** you i didn't do it you know it you know i can't apologize to you when i don't know what the **** i did and how dare you um i feel violated i feel like you're the one that did this they're gonna go into this victim mindset so the way that you handle these situations when you when you feel that your friend is a narcissist and you're starting to pick up this pattern of behavior how do you know well look back at your last relationship how did your ex make you feel you were constantly walking on eggshells you were triggered there were things that they were doing the gas lighting and the projection and the mind games in a minute manipulation when you get around a narcissistic friend he's going he or she they're going to ignite those same uneasy feelings your intuition is going to start going off when you're around a toxic friend now they're going to be on their best behavior they're going to be the best friends you've ever met they're always in the beginning everything's always good but the thing about a narcissistic friend when they feel that they're comfortable and they're secure they get real arrogant oh she ain't going nowhere now i'm good i'm in there now then the mask their real behavior Their real character will start to show through. If you're paying attention, you will catch them in the most quiet, covert moments, switching up their behavior, acting one way in front of a group and switching up and treating you differently when nobody's looking. That's the real, that's, that's who they really are. Their character is who they are when nobody's looking and they will reveal that. Give them some time. It may take three months. It may take six months. It might take a year, but they will slip up. one thing that a narcissist cannot be is consistent with their character or behavior you will catch them i promise so what do you do here's my advice do not gossip about this person to the rest of your friends even though they're doing this low-down ---- to you they're gaslighting and doing evil hateful ---- and nobody can see it because they they've wooed your friends they they have their your friends might love this friend so you exposing them your friends are going to be doubtful. They're going to be like, wow, I would never think of this. I would never think so-and-so would behave. They're not going to believe you. So you're better off keeping it to yourself and let you, you allow time to expose this narcissistic friend, because I guarantee you they're going to, that behavior is going to come out. I'm telling you, you just give it some time. I know it's frustrating. I know you want to say something so bad, but if you're watching a pattern of behavior unfold over several months and your intuition is bothering you and you can't unsee it this person is a narcissist you know what a narc is because you've been through this abuse before and when you see it you can't unsee it so you're not crazy and you're going to have to trust your intuition because your intuition is going to bug the **** out of you for a long time until this narcissistic friend exposes himself or herself don't gossip about them what you do is you cut them off and the rest of the friends the rest of your friends are going to come to you and they're gonna be like oh my god what happened why did you cut him off and you say you know what i don't want to talk bad about him i don't want to put him down and i definitely don't want to come in between your relationship or friendship i want you to continue hanging with this person i want you to continue um you know go on vacations hang out do you know invite whatever y'all do i just it's none of my business y'all hang out together just keep me out of it i don't want to be around this person set a clean boundary and you tell your friends i'm not going to speak ill of this person i actually want you to continue being friends because what happens is now that you've blocked this toxic friend and you've removed yourself you have fucked up this person's game plan this narcissistic friend is using every one of his friends he's playing them against each other so you play a specific role to your narcissistic friend and he's using you as a crutch and a tool to play he's playing you against all the other people in the group of friends so what happens when you remove yourself and you block that narcissist and you move the **** on you force him he has to go back to the drawing board and come up with a brand new game plan to manipulate the rest of the friends he has to find a new scapegoat because he was using you as a scapegoat now he can't use you no more he has to pick another person in the group as a scapegoat so what happens he's going to start raging and acting out of character. And then your friends are going to be like, wait, wait, wait, wait, where did this behavior come from? He's exposing his character to your friends. Now that you've removed yourself, checkmate, checkmate, let time do its job. Keep your mouth closed, remove yourself because all your actions will speak louder than words. The narcissist will know that you're onto them the moment you remove yourself and block them. That's why they're raging that's why they're talking ---- and spreading rumors and smear campaigning you then you put them in a position where they they if they attack you they know you're going to tell the rest of the friends and they don't want that so you put them in a tight spot and you put them in a tight corner trust me on this one it works perfectly remove yourself block them and they will expose their real character everything they've been doing to you is going to come out in the end when you block them they're going to expose that behavior to the rest of your friends and then your friends will see it for themselves instead of blaming you and saying you're bitter you're trying to drive a wedge and break up our friendship no i want you to stay friends with the narcissist i just don't want to then the narc will expose himself his behavior he'll he'll expose himself to the rest of the friends you just got to give it time then your friends will be able to make a decision okay now i see why she cut you off we see it for ourselves thank me later y'all i just gave y'all some excellent game and on that note i gotta go toronto canada next week saturday september 24th in houston texas saturday october 1st get y'all tickets the email is down below in the comment section i love y'all take care