Take CONTROL. OR BE CONTROLLED ‼️ #empath #narcissism #healing #npd

Join me, join me on tonight's live, y'all. What you up to? You see what I'm doing. Peace Williams, I see you. Welcome in. What's up, fam? How y'all doing, man? We're checking in on a Monday night. I do not know the words, but I love this song. Yes, Lord. What's up, guys? How y'all doing? Queen Leandria, I see you. What's up, sis? I see you checking in. How you doing? It's good to be here tonight, y'all. All praise be to the most high, for we are here. We're still here. We're still standing. And I am just giving God the glory for all of us. We're still here. We're still going. Matter of fact, I feel stronger than I felt yesterday. Thank you, God, for continuing strength to keep going. How y'all doing tonight, y'all? Welcome to my Monday Night Live with your girl, Mommy So True. man I can't help but to start my lives with this type of a vibe because why not you know why not I have so much to be grateful and thankful for in spite of the circumstances that a fool with NPD sprinkled into my world I'm so happy to share with y'all today because the the the feeling behind what I'm feeling is is entwined with that message that title that y'all see take control or be controlled because how many are no longer being controlled the feeling of freedom from from a narcissist or any other any kind of narcissistic situation is is great even though you might be suffering it might be a little hard how you done talking tell me baby how you done talking yeah how you done talking tell me baby how you done talking yeah, are you done talking? Queen Leandria says I need this tonight I'm still a warrior in the midst of the storm yes sis I'm here for you don't even worry about it that's why we're gonna talk about it because man a warrior in the storm whoo I like that I like that thank you for being here tonight sis I pray that the word you know helps you keeps you going motivates you and inspires you to continue to grow and and push through those hard days those hard times um because it's not easy it's not easy y'all some of us are dealing with narcissists right now we're still living with these folks still married to these folks you know got children with these folks raising children with these folks these are parents grandparents family these are blood members and as much as we like to throw them away or want to throw them away sometimes that's not the easiest sometimes that's not the case and sometimes because we've been dealing with them for so long we might actually need to depend on them for things and that as crazy as that may be it is what it is you're still a warrior in spite of your situation this message is for everybody today no matter what your situation is so I'm happy if you're here good evening to you wherever you are all over the world G Palau I see you says good evening thanks for the live miss may god continue to grant us strength and support from each other yes yes yes I am all for it I love this community so much each and every one of you are so dear and special to me you don't even understand um brother hype man nerd for the word how you doing good evening good to see you today so happy that you're here i'm happy to know that you guys are pushing through no matter what trust me um every day is not the easiest so i i get it i get it i'm glad that you guys are utilizing each other as support because we need it we need it so man welcome to the family. If you're new here, if you're new to the fam, welcome, welcome in. Make sure to subscribe to the channel if you're looking for a community of thrivers, warriors, and champions. This is it. You found us. I am your girl, Mommy So True, and this is my world. This is my story, my journey, my thoughts, my perspectives, and the knowledge, education, and wisdom behind what you're going through. If you're here today, I know why you're here. So welcome. Have a seat. Get your drink ready. Be prepared for this engagement. Hello, Gemini Flames. What's up? Said I needed this. I'm so glad. AJ, so glad you're here with me. Thanks for the support. Keep on learning. Keep on growing. Miss Love, I'm here with you. I am here with you. You guys, I titled this message today, Take Control or Be Controlled. And I just got to take a moment to just let those words sink in. Just think about that for a moment. If you're dealing with narcissistic abuse on any level, the words take control or be controlled, what does that sound like to you? Because if you haven't realized already, you're in a battle. You're in a battle. This is a battlefield. You're fighting a war. This is why we call ourselves warriors. We call ourselves fighters because we're fighting. This is a fight. This is the fight of many of our lives. And if you have dealt with a narcissist, you are, you have. Part of this fight is knowing that you have two options here dealing with these people. And when I say these people, you guys, I'm not always talking about people with NPD. I'm talking about people who have narcissistic traits as well. because there's a difference. But both of these people are toxic. People with NPD, we got to throw them away, bury them on an island by themselves, you know? But people with narcissistic traits, they're the real problem to me, honestly, in all honesty, because everyone is not a narcissist. Most people do have narcissistic traits though. And in order to survive this world, in order to go through this fight, and come up a winner or go through it as a winner you need to know that the two options are to take control or to be controlled Gemini Flame said I cried as soon as I read the title don't do that to me y'all today I'm gonna try not to be be all over here crying so let me I'm not even gonna look at those those chats because y'all be killing me I'll be trying to talking and not looking I'm like oh they saying stuff that's getting to my heart hang in there with me Gemini flames. Look, I'm with y'all. I'm Gemini flames. I'm with y'all. I'm with y'all. Look, it's all good. No worries. No worries. But the two options that we have, y'all, is are we going to take control? Are we going to learn to take control? Are we going to sit around and continue to be controlled? Because whether we're dealing with people with narcissistic traits or someone with NPD. The reason why I say we got to focus on both people, both types of situations is because most of the people that we are addressing as narcissists, we don't have it on paper. It's not medically diagnosed. A lot of us think we are dealing with narcissists, but we may never freaking know because these clowns are never going to go sit somewhere and let somebody properly diagnose them. We can only assume that we've dealt with a narcissist, but for the most part, we know that the person we're talking about has disgusting narcissistic traits, narcissistic tendencies. Borderline, they are damn near narcissists as far as you're concerned. And if you're dealing with one, you have been under their control or you are subject to being controlled because that's all they care for. That is all they want. That is all they want. But the thing is, once you discover that there's a narcissistic person or a narcissist around you, it means that their mask has started to slip. The one thing that they fear the most is starting to happen, and that is they are losing control or they've lost control. Let's talk about what to be controlled means or what that looks like for us. What am I saying when I say to be controlled? The choice is take control or to be controlled. Let's talk about to be controlled. When you're being controlled by a narcissist, let's just remember that NPD and people with narcissistic traits, they're just obsessed and have a desire for control. That's all it's about. And it's not about just having control just to have control. It's about having control because they can't risk narcissistic injuries they can't risk anybody putting a blow to their ego that inflated falsified ego they'll do anything to protect that that is why they want control that is why they do anything to keep the control that they have over you the risk of hurting or injuring their self-esteem in my opinion they don't have a self-esteem so it's really the risk of hurting any little bit of self-esteem or any little bit of an idea that they think is some type of confidence or self-esteem to risk anybody making them feel like they are not who they believe they are. This entitled person, this God, that is all they live to protect. Living in fear of losing control. This is a narcissist's biggest, biggest fear. Biggest, biggest fear. At home, at work, friends, relatives, neighbors. It's all about control. That's why everyone is just an extension of themselves. That's why everyone's just treated like an object. They make themselves the center of the world and the center of attention. It's all about being idolized. It's all about being accepted and admired and adored, you know, playing victim so everyone can be nice and treat them a certain way. It's all about control. And even further, how do they control you? They control. There's a lot of things they do to control. We'll talk about it. I see someone saying strawberry happiness. What do you do when you're living with someone who is controlling and you are getting sick every day? They would not let you work. What advice will you give? Wow. What a great question for what I'm talking about. And we'll definitely talk a lot more about what you just asked me. But in short, living with someone who is controlling and you're getting sick every day. where do you want to be is what I will ask you it sounds like that is not where you want to be the only advice that I can give if you're feeling like you're in an environment that is making you sick making you ill it's time to come up with a plan to run away because that is an indication that whatever is happening to you is trying to kill you narcissistic abuse and illnesses go from something small to something big. And the best way is to get away. We'll talk more about this as we continue the subject, but thank you for asking that question. I know it's deep and I know there's a lot that comes with having to leave, but are you going to be controlled or are you going to take control? As controlling as these people are, as much as they have control over your life and the things that they're doing to you to make you feel bound. The power is with you because they only have control if you allow it. A narcissist can only do what you really allow, especially when you get to the point where you see what's in front of you. You see that, okay, they're the problem. So the only way to fix the problem is to exit the situation. So how are ways narcissists control us? There is a lot. Matter of fact, almost everything they do is controlling. To me, it starts with, or I'm not going to say it starts with, to me, one of the biggest things is projection. One of the biggest things is projection because they have a habit of accusing other people of doing things that they are actually doing. If you're dealing with a narcissist or if you've dealt with narcissists who project towards you. It's because they're telling you what they're doing to you behind your back. The false accusations is confirmation. It's confirmation. And how does projection control you? Number one, it allows this person to avoid responsibility for what they're doing and what's really going on. It gives them a chance to run away from being responsible for how dysfunctional they are that's number one so if they're doing that so you the person on the other end probably an empath you're looking at yourself like okay so maybe the problem is me if I'm being accused if I'm doing something wrong maybe I need to walk on eggshells maybe I need to behave better maybe I need to watch what I say maybe I need to be careful with my words yeah this is my husband this is my wife but I can't talk to them about everything I gotta keep certain secrets I gotta watch how I react this is all a form of control when they when they project and they tell you how untrustworthy you are and you're this type of person who know you're trustworthy you know you know you're not doing anything this type of abuse because projection is abuse it's mental torture that's how people keep you stuck in toxic relationships by making you feel bad making you feel guilty by accusing you falsely of every and every little thing now you're unreliable when really they're unreliable. Projection is the reason why narcissistic abuse survivors and victims isolate themselves because they become afraid to live. You're scared to wear certain things. You're scared to go certain places. You're cutting friends off because this person does not approve. They're accusing you of sleeping with your friends, girls and boys. Hell, they'll accuse you of sleeping with the pastors. You can't even go to church. Complete control. And the worst type of projection is when they do things to make you angry and then try to tell you that you're the one who needs help oh you need anger management oh you need a therapist talk about control y'all so much project projection they will they are just paranoid and are quick to accuse it's like instant they are super convinced that their accusations are the truth too that's how you end up stuck in these relationships because you're always arguing about what is not true that they believe is true they swear up and down you didn't go to the grocery store you were sleeping with the neighbor they swear up and down you left and you didn't go door dash you went to go do something else you're texting other people you don't want to be around me because you want to talk to other people every time they see you on your phone it's a problem control do you want to stay in this type of a relationship or do you want to take your power back and understand that you're a human and that no one should be able to treat you like that that's that's animal treatment animals don't even deserve to be treated the way narcissists treat people these people blame others they they're so emotionally charged with temper tantrums the childishness is uncontrollable so everything is everybody's fault just like a child they don't they don't see no other way And that forces control on people. And let me go back real quick to end that the reason why they control you through projection is because you end up trying to become a better performer for them, if you understand what I'm saying. When you're falsely being accused of doing things you're not doing, you find yourself trying to prove them wrong. That's what I mean by that. You find yourself trying to make sure you do whatever you can to avoid from them getting mad, from them accusing you again. You'll go as far as to change your number. You'll do anything and sacrifice whatever just so you can look like you're not doing nothing wrong. You got to perform and be on your bestest behavior like a little kid. They got you under control like a little kid. It's crazy. Minimizing situations to blame other people is a form of control. To sit around and allow somebody who will continue to blame you for their problems, the choice has to be made. Are you going to take control or be controlled? It's never your fault. A grown woman, a grown man, and you can't seem to take accountability for anything, even the things that you're getting caught doing. It's still not you. It's still somehow somebody's fault that you lied. It's still somebody's fault that you cheated. It's still somebody's fault that you just have a horrible character, all because they can't control their strongest impulses and feelings that's what makes them act like children that's where the temper tantrums come from that's when they start calling names making scenes embarrassing you in public these people take people through hell y'all they take people through hell they do not care how you feel when they blame you they do not care how you feel even when they know they're wrong they'll take that lie to their grave blaming you and making you feel like it's all your fault and you're always the problem, it's going to always leave you in this uncomfortable state, always in your mind trying to figure out what did you do wrong. And here you are once again trying to be the perfect person for this imperfect person. Now the choice still remains, are you going to take control or be controlled? Because this person is never going to stop blaming you and everybody else for their problems. They'll never stop harassing you. They'll never stop badgering you. The constant pestering is all about control because they're entitled to get what they want by any means necessary. So to pester you, to harass you, oh, oh yeah. Oh yeah. That's how they get their demands met. That's how they put fear in you. That's how they get you to do what they want you to do that's why being with them feels like a prison this is a prison guard that you're with this is not the love of your life this shouldn't be someone that's hard to leave because they've only given you two options are you going to take control or are you going to be controlled with all the pestering and all the harassment all the questions and all the opinions that you didn't ask for because they don't want none of your opinions and they're going to run from your questions but they're going to question every little thing you do you can't make a move without them asking wondering and trying to figure out what you got going on all up in your business but you don't know none of theirs at least not the truth keep jabbing and jabbing and jabbing pressuring you intimidating you for answers wanting you to give instant decisions a narcissist will piss you off and then want you to talk about it on their terms while you're still pissed off fluttered, confused, brain fog. Now they're telling you, you don't know how to communicate because you're in your feelings and don't want to talk. Just like a narcissist. Let's focus on your reactions, but not my actions that caused your reactions. So then again, the choice is yours. Do you want to be controlled or do you want to take control? Because as a survivor and someone who's been victimized by narcissistic abuse, it boils down to those very two options. Am I going to let this person continue to control me like they are or am I going to wake up and take my power back because this person talks to me like a child and when they're pestering me and harassing me and making me talk when they want me to talk forcing me to answer questions I don't want to answer just messing with me creating arguments out of nothing you know what that's doing you know how that controls you it exhausts you the more they do that the less you feel like fighting now you drained and you know what happens when you're drained and exhausted it's hard to leave it's hard to leave now you're being controlled because it's hard to leave you're drained you don't you can't think straight you can't even formulate a plan to leave because you're drained you're fighting all the time you're defending yourself all the time because of all the badgering all the constant pestering always harassing you always on your case but don't you dare question them about what they're doing or what they do to you, all hell is going to break loose. But to have you feeling drained and exhausted and just saying, you know what, forget it. I'm just going to give in. For them, that's mission accomplished. For you to just give in is mission accomplished. Yep, that's what I thought. You need me. That's what I thought. They truly believe this. This is why another form of controlling you is treating you like a child. They talk to you like you're a child. They they treat you as if you are a child and and play on your intelligence as if you're just so dumb You see what you see and they're telling you that it's not true And you know, it's true as if you're just so dumb. You're not an infant to a narcissist Everybody is is dumb. Everyone has lesser intelligence than they do for me That's enough for me to walk away from a narcissistic person Because what you're not going to do is play on my intelligence You're not going to insult me because I am not dumb too nice maybe but not dumb far from stupid what you're not going to do is is hit me with condescending words demeaning words and I'm just gonna sit there and and just you know let you feel superior so for me and I don't know how anybody else feel but these things that I'm talking about when a narcissist hits me with some of these blows the reaction they get from me oh I make them feel what they tried to make me feel because for me the option is I am going to take control I won't be controlled you cannot control me not in that type of a way not in that negative disgusting type of a way because actually I am a healthy human being sorry not sorry so once I notice that you're talking to me like I'm a child you're you're you're gaslighting me you're trying to tell me that what I know is real is not real oh I might get disrespectful with you I might start saying things that you thought that I was too nice to say. I'm not. Because I know the power that I have and I know who I am. And that is something a narcissist wants you to forget. That's why they're so, so determined to control you. That's why their energy is so intense. Everything they do is so intense because they have to control you. That's the only way to keep you broken and to break you. To break you and keep you broken, they got to control you. But are you going to let them? Are you going to keep letting them? Because this person enjoys shaming you. They're full of shame, but they enjoy shaming you, though. Let's talk about, you know, everything you've done wrong in life. Let's talk about all your mistakes. Let's shame you for the type of parent that you are. Let's shame you because you're not married yet. Let's shame you because you don't have kids. Or let's shame you because you lost your kids. Let's shame because you don't work. Meanwhile, they don't work. Meanwhile, they've never had a job. Meanwhile, they've probably never even went to school. Meanwhile, they probably can't even read. Meanwhile, they don't even know how to take care of their own kids. Meanwhile, their kids don't even like them, don't even live with them, have never even really spent real quality time with them. But they want to shame you though, because to shame you is to break you. And to break you is to make you feel like, you know, you're just not good enough. You're just not good enough. That's how they feel. They want you to join the club. They want you to join the club. And that's why one of the main ways they were able to control us was with their flattery, their phony affection. Yeah. They, they are very flattering. They're very charming. They can be, some of them are fine as hell. Some of them got bomb sex. Some of them know how to sweet talk you off your feet. They, went above and beyond in their flattery because they were so determined to control you. That's how determined they were. That's how much they knew they needed to entice you. They needed to stroke your ego. All of this just for you to find out that you're dealing with a fake and phony definition of a human being. All of this just to figure out, dang, I'm left with one choice. I need to take control. I need to take control of this situation ---- because that's what it is. You're dealing with a narcissist. You're in a situation ----. I can't even say situationship at the moment. This is a situation ---- because everything about it is shitty. You're being controlled by somebody who that's all they care for. Whether they're doing it openly and overtly or they're doing it secretly and covertly, they're doing it. They're doing it. They're doing it and and and as much as they put in all this work to get you where they got you for so many of us who are thriving out of this for so many survivors as much as a narcissist has exhausted us drained us completely left us empty because of how much we've had to exhaust ourselves in defending ourselves the option was to take control there is no other option there is no other option the only thing left to do is take my power back and take control especially when I've learned that oh this is what you wanted this is all you want so I'm going to cut the life support I am going to make you feel humiliated, illegitimate, inferior, like the degenerate that you are. I'm going to make you hate me and I'm going to take control. Yes, I am. I'm going to take control, man. Because these tactics of this controlling behavior of these narcissists, once you finally notice what they're doing, you sit back and you watch how powerless they really are. Completely powerless. You did all of this to inflate an ego that's not even there. It don't take much for me to really ---- on you. It don't take much for me to really cause a narcissistic injury. It don't take much for me to really let you know how insignificant you really are. It don't take much for me to really let you know how much you really don't mean nothing to me. Once I discovered that I don't mean nothing to you, I took control. I'm taking control. Control is mine. These people prove to us over and over and over again that they don't want us. They don't want you. They don't want nothing to do with you they just came around to steal time honestly I don't know what else they came around to do with me except just waste my time because if you talk about you know the financial losses and all the other losses oh that ain't nothing it's my time that I can't get back when I think about that that's what pisses me off I'm like oh man I could have been doing something else that whole year or two god dang it once you realize their motives and you move away from them y'all don't see why there's so many stories about being hoovered these people hoover because they lose control a hoover ain't got nothing to do with being missed or anything it's all about the fact that you've caught on you've cut the life support they don't have you to control anymore and after you they go out here and try to control other people and that don't work out so well because this is a narcissist and the toxic cycle continues wash rinse repeat do it again wash rinse repeat do it again and every supply out there ain't the same so they come knocking back around come creeping back around trying to control the supply that you gave but when you make the choice to take control and to stop being controlled hoovering don't work thriving is all you care about moving on with your life is all you care about educating yourself about NPD learning about what has happened to you building your self-esteem and getting your life in order focusing on me because it taught you a lot of lessons about you. I'm taking my power back. I take control because I won't be controlled. No, absolutely not. They got the game messed up. They thought this was that. This ain't that. This ain't that, y'all. Take control. That means I'm engaging in positive self-talk, baby. I've learned that I don't need nobody to tell me they love me. I tell myself, I love me. That's the greatest feeling in the world to say it and really believe it. Can't nobody convince me they love me more than me ever again in my life because I took control. Speaking up for myself, setting boundaries. I've learned the power and the beauty of doing all of that by taking control. Isn't that something y'all? Somebody said like, how dare you think? like how dare you think you can just meet me use me abuse me and you just i'ma just be stuck with you forever no at some point i gotta take control i gotta take control even in the beginning in in these relationships those of you in spousal relationships or that have dealt with spousal relationships even if you gave them control in the beginning eventually all that devaluing ---- that they do all that you know you ain't good enough and now all of a sudden i'm too fat too skinny too ugly not smart enough it's time for me to take control back because you got me messed up who are you talking to taking control nowadays you know out here in this world many people are narcissistic people are just looking to control people so once you keep game you ain't interested in playing no more i'm exiting i don't want no parts of this i don't want no parts of is I'm taking control by cutting people off, knowing and paying attention to red flags because I've chose to take control. That's what that means. Take control or be controlled. I know that going through this is so difficult when you're freshly going through it. Oh, trust me, I know. Trust me, I know. This is not an easy journey. But what you really have to take out of everything I'm telling you tonight is that you have so much power over your own life. You, a narcissist is in your life trying to make you believe that you don't have no power and that you can't do this and you can't do that. You're not strong enough. It's a lie. This is all programmed up here in your mental and then it's messing with you spiritually and it got your body thrown all the way off. But if you can start talking to yourself, I guarantee you, you will find some strength because it's there. It's there. There is a warrior behind what you're going through. There is a warrior there. There is a lion and a lioness that is well equipped for this fight. They're only doing what they're doing to you and you're going what you're going through because they want you to be weak and to remain weak. But weakness is not who you are. I don't know who I'm talking to today, but I need somebody to really understand that. You only have two options dealing with a narcissist. Are you going to take control or are you going to be controlled? It's only going to go two ways. You're either going to survive, thrive, and become a warrior in this life, or you're going to be controlled and leave this earth very early because what you're going through is silent murder. narcissistic abuse is silent murder y'all hear me no one understands what you're going through unless they've really been through it themselves but you are going through silent murder this person is trying to kill you they want you dead matter of fact and the power is in your hands to make sure that that mission is not accomplished take control or be controlled for many of us they wasted enough of our time enough of our life and we cried enough tears to finally say you know what I don't have enough tears anymore I am going to take control I have to I don't have no choice for me it hurt so bad the only choice was to take control there is no other choice there is no other choice it does not it does not sound doable for a lot of people who are there right now but trust more. It's very much doable. This person is not as strong as you think. They don't have that much power over your life like you feel. It's just a professional demonic manipulator that you're dealing with. Anybody who knows how to manipulate knows how to destroy someone. And this is a master manipulator. They have manipulated you so severely that you may not feel like there's any other option. You may not feel like you will get through it, but you will get through it. The whole point is for them to make you feel like you won't. But like I told you, this is the fight of your life. This is the fight of your life. And don't you dare think that you're not equipped to fight it. If you reverse everything that's happening to you, you'll start gaining some strength. You'll start seeing that you're actually taking your power back. These people are lying to you, giving you fake love deceiving you leaving you coming back doing it again and the last thing you need to be doing is calling any of that love or considering any of that to be love or any of that to be worth holding on to or worth fighting for the only thing you need to be fighting for is you your life because if you're dealing with a narcissist you've probably lost yourself and if you hang on to them, you will lose yourself. You will lose yourself. I love how you guys support each other in the chats. I'm looking at it now. Zara Yerquab. Sorry if I said it wrong. The most got me away from my husband by not caring for my disabled mother and two babies. Oh man. When you have kids, you have to move different. That's absolutely true. It's tough out here, man. That's why everyone needs to understand you cannot give these people control. It's already hard and they want you to just be exhausted and drained so you can just give up and then they can feel like, mission accomplished, job well done to me. Don't give these people that satisfaction, y'all. Every single one of you watching this right now is a beautiful and an amazing person and you carry something so great. And this person will never value that. They'll never see that. So you need to see it. All the love that you have in this world for this love. I mean, for this world, give it to yourself. All the love that you carry and that you exhibit, give it to those who really deserve it in life. Your children, you, these people don't deserve your love. They don't even deserve your fight Kareem Mill says meanwhile they don't care about hygiene no but for real worried about everything else but won't even wash their ass nah for real a lot of narcissists have major hygiene problems this tells y'all a lot tell me so for me i'm gonna take control because i am i'm not about to let no no five-day underwear wearing person tell me how to run my life how to live my life how to be tell me how good and bad i'm not or how unworthy i am excuse me go wash your ass excuse me brush your teeth okay like sick sad dealing with a whole demon baby y'all like i can't stop saying that i need to get a shirt that say these are demon babies you are a demon baby this is a demon baby oh my gosh it's a big mess thank you for saying that miss ty it's a big mess it is I see that comment Vince Brown said it took me 20 years to get out so I left Houston and moved to another state till this day I've never looked back was it hard absolutely however it saved my life thank you so much for sharing that thank you so much because that just confirms everything I'm saying if I didn't say nothing at all tonight Vince Brown just wrapped it up for everybody he just wrapped it up for everybody it although it took 20 years that man got out. Sometimes we are in so deep with narcissists, our escape plan is going to take a while. It took me years to get away from my family, but I did it. I was determined like hell. I started planning that ---- when I was 14. By the time I was 23, freedom started kicking in for me. So I feel that. I feel that. That's deep. Thank you for sharing that. Somebody said, well maybe i may need to leave my state and live my life maybe you do seriously see vince brown you help somebody in the chat for with that i appreciate you for being here relationship ---- says robert frederick yep krypton ninja used me for two cars i purchased had kids solely for child support taught all of us taught all this by her mother i am so sorry i feel that these people ain't ---- oh lord twice something lake pushing i can't say it my ex narc will not stop with the hoovers and i have been gone since 6 15 is that june 15th he keeps using his our daughter as an excuse to keep keep with the hoovers this is so exhausting that's sad because he wants control he missed that control that's sad that's sad keep on ducking them hoovers girl handle him accordingly if it ain't about the baby we ain't got nothing else to talk about if i had a child with a narcissist honestly y'all know what i would do if i had to co-parent because a lot of people do, you know some people do depending on what type of narcissist because if he's violent and ----, no my baby, no my baby's not gonna know you, I'm sorry no I'm not sorry, but um the way I would handle co-parenting with a narcissist, I'm literally gonna drop that child off, pick him up and that's it, ain't gonna be no conversation in between, ain't gonna be no hi, bye, hey I might not even let him close the door when the baby get out the car, run his foot off run his foot over the tires a few times, now don't listen to me y'all don't go get yourself in trouble, I'm talking ---- right now but they are cowards though, I see you crypto ninjas, they are cowards, they are cowards man, uh Gemini flames and seeing you on talking about taking control or be in control moved me. I know God sent you to preach to his child. Oh my God, I'm so glad you're here tonight. And that's so powerful. That word hit me this morning. I said, oh, I can't wait to get on live today because take control or be controlled. I was asked that question yesterday. I had such a very hard time yesterday. Those of you who are members on my channel, I dropped the video yesterday, just pouring my little heart out. Because if y'all don't know, survivors of narcissistic abuse, one of the symptoms that followed this is dissociation, that that disconnection from reality, just completely numb sometimes I experienced that and yesterday I was I was going through it I was going through it and um I prayed about it before I went to sleep and I woke up and this was the word, it was like that's that that's what I was led to feel it's like girls shake that depression off girls shake that ---- off and take control take your power back because you've dealt with a situation that led you with just two options. Are you going to be controlled or are you going to take control? Because if you take control, you'll thrive. You'll heal. You'll move forward. You'll get over it. Eventually, the dissociation, I can't even say it, it'll fade. Eventually, the issues and the problems that you have now, it'll just be a memory, something to talk about. You'll add it to your books later on. But for now, take control. Wake up and go to the gym and that's what i woke up today and did take control when you're feeling a certain way find something to do find some new hobbies gain support find a new support system take control because if you don't you will be controlled thank you guys so much for joining me tonight i really appreciate it i appreciate all of the encouragement the engagement um those of you who were here tonight thanks for being here um those of you who are going to catch the replay i i i hope that you know you leave your comments if if you're driven to and if it resonates like the video um subscribe if you're new to the channel but um i'm so happy to have stopped in and had this conversation with you guys i really pray that it motivates and inspires you to keep going don't you dare give up take control and keep control because all they want is control and for you to be somewhere sad drained exhausted tired confused want to beat yourself up that's what they want that's what they want they want us to be like this they want us to stay like this yeah we have every right to be feeling how we're feeling right now but let's not stay there at some point let the choice be to take control. Okay, guys, I appreciate y'all. Man, screw these time stealers, y'all. They stole our time, but we're going to take our time back because we're taking control back. We're taking control back. We're thriving. We're going to continue to thrive. I appreciate all y'all for being here with me. I'll see y'all very soon. I'll be on live again this week. So catch me on another live. I will be back with more words of encouragement for you. Stay blessed. If you're interested in being a member, make sure to look at the description box. All of my information is there for you. Life coaching sessions as well, and contact information on how to reach me. I love you guys. Thank you so much. I see you just Kim says so fatigued. I understand. I understand. I've been there and I still have my days where I'm extremely fatigued. I understand. Hang in there. okay keep thriving much love much light you guys stay blessed until next time guys