Why Women See You as Friendly, Not Romantic (6 Ways to Fix It)

Men often think it's obvious when they like a woman. I mean you've asked her out, you've planned a date, you've chosen a nice venue. In your mind all this effort is saying I'm interested in you. If right now you're constantly getting stuck at the first date hurdle and she's never really feeling the chemistry, here are six tips that are going to help to change the feeling of your date from platonic to romantic. Where did you last go travelling? Oh what did you like about there? Where are you working? How long have you worked there for? Before you know it the whole date can start to feel like a bit of an interview and because she's not that attracted to you yet, she can start to give you slightly narrow and guarded answers. Instead I want the conversation on your dates to feel more balanced between asking questions of her and also sharing information about yourself. For example, instead of simply saying how was your day, say I don't know about you but I've spent my day like battling the heat wave with an army of fans and water bottles. Immediately the conversation will start to feel more candid and warmer. If all your questions get stuck at the where did you go on your last holiday level, then the conversation feels factual but not emotionally connected. Asking questions like so what motivated you to go there or what's a topic you could talk about for hours or I dare you to tell me something that even your close friends don't know about you. Immediately the questions do a way better job of expressing curiosity in who she is as a person rather than just collecting facts about her life. If you would love a structured start point to become way better at communicating with women, you will love my seed coaching program. It's totally free to my newsletter subscribers, you just need to click the link below this video. As well as asking her better quality questions, I also want you to share better quality information about yourself. Instead of just saying I run my own business, highlight your values. You know what, I love being entrepreneurial, I really enjoy building something from scratch. Or if you're an engineer, I really like problem solving. I've kind of got a math brain, I like working on solutions. Women will be way more interested in who you are rather than just what you do. This is simple but probably the easiest thing that you can do which shifts the conversation from platonic to romantic. Say something like I think it's really cute how you smile every time you talk about your dog or you know I'm actually surprised by how much I've enjoyed talking to you tonight. I know it's a little scary but don't try to hide your intent and interest in her in your gestures. You have to go out there and say it. This is what creates the moment and helps her to feel the date as a date rather than like just two people chatting. It's also really attractive when you say something to her that shows that you're also evaluating her and how the date is going. For example, I get the feeling there's another side to you that I haven't quite seen yet. My first impression of you is that you seem a little bit shy but I sense there's a more mischievous side to you underneath. Hearing statements like this helps her to feel like you're genuinely invested in the process of getting to know her rather than just attempting to win her over. It takes courage after a good date to say something like I've had a great time and I already know I'd like to see you again. I know saying this face to face with her in the moment feels like ---- but also this is how you create tension, this is how it begins to feel romantic for her too. So take the risk, say what you'd like to have happen next with her face to face. After coaching thousands of men, I can tell you that shifting that feeling on the date often comes down to surprisingly small differences in the amount of risk you take and exactly how you express what you want to say to her. If you would like to really get started on improving this area of your life and become an amazing communicator with women, I would highly encourage you to join my SEED coaching program. It's foundational and totally free to my newsletter subscribers. All you need to do is click the link beneath this video.