This Is Why Your Outfits Still Feel Immature.

You didn't build your wardrobe, you collected it. The real reason why your closet or your wardrobe or your outfits feel immature or they still feel like a college girl even though you graduated years ago is because you've been adding clothes to your closet on autopilot. Something was on sale, you bought it. A trend was everywhere, you got it. A shirt that you bought five years ago still technically fits your body, so it's still there. And yet you never stop to ask yourself, does this actually belong here? And if you've never approached your wardrobe that way and honestly, most people haven't, that is why when you walk into your closet, things just feel off. That's the whole problem and I'm gonna break it down for you today. In today's video, I'm going to give you five specific reasons why your wardrobe or your outfits might still feel a little bit immature, why they might still read as college girl instead of classy, cultured, and considered. I guarantee you there's at least two or three things on this list that are currently sitting in your closet right now. The first reason is probably the most common and it's also something that I never see anyone talk about. You are still wearing things just because they still fit, not because they belong, but because they just still fit. There is a gigantic difference between the two. Fit is physical, something physically fits your body. Belonging is intentional, it's a mindset. I want you to think about what's in your closet right now and I want you to think about all the pieces that are in there because getting rid of it would just feel wasteful. Those jeans that you got your sophomore year of college that still technically fit. That hoodie that you got in high school and it's perfectly comfortable, so it's still there. The dress you wore to like one house party but you wore it once and it fits so it's still sitting there in your closet. You do not love these pieces. You don't reach for them on purpose. You don't wear them because you're excited about them. You wear them because they're there. So if half of your closet is stuff you are tolerating, it makes sense why you would go in there and feel like nothing works because nothing in there was chosen. Your 23-year-old self bought this clothing for your 23-year-old life. You are not 23 anymore. You have changed. Your life looks a little bit different and yet your closet hasn't been updated to reflect that. And the good thing is that the fix is not complicated. All you have to do is go into your closet, pick up an item and ask yourself one question. Does this still belong? Don't ask yourself, does it fit my body? Ask yourself, does it fit who I am right now? And if the answer isn't a yes, you know what to do girls. I also wanna make a quick note that getting rid of something sounds so aggressive and so negative, but it doesn't need to be a negative thing. It doesn't need to feel like something that is a wasteful experience or a wasteful action. Sometimes getting rid of something in your possession just means giving it to your mom or giving it to a friend or another family member. Sometimes it means donating it to someone who could use it more and appreciate it more than you do. Don't see the item as trash to be someone else's treasure. You know what I'm saying? See it as an item that you think would go to someone who would admire it or have better use for it or something like that. You know what I mean? The second reason why your wardrobe feels immature is because you have never experimented with different silhouettes. You probably have one default outfit or one default silhouette and you've been wearing it on repeat for years and you just never thought to try anything different. If you are a younger millennial like I am, it is probably a crop top and jeans, perhaps a bodycon dress on those days where it feels a little exciting. Probably some combination of tight on top and tight on bottom, but none of those things are bad. It's not a bad thing to wear a crop top and skinny jeans. It's not a bad thing to wear a bodycon dress. The problem is when that is the only shape that you've ever worn in your adult life. I have said this on my channel time and time again, but silhouette is one of the most powerful tools in dressing and in personal style. And it's also one thing that most women have never explored. What usually happens is that you find an outfit formula that you liked when you were 20 years old or that was popular or trendy when you were 20 years old and you just wrote it all throughout your 20s or throughout your adulthood until now. The women whose style you admire, you're probably thinking like, wow, she has it all figured out. And nine times out of 10, I promise you, it's not because they have constructed the perfect outfit ever. It's simply because those women know how they want to occupy space. They know which silhouettes they like. They know which silhouettes they don't feel comfortable in. They know which ones they do feel comfortable in. And that knowledge only comes from trying a bunch of different things. When I was in my early, mid, honestly, even my late 20s, they're all throughout my 20s. I would have never worn like a top like this, but in my 30s, I experimented with silhouettes more. This top has a really unique shape. It creates a really unique silhouette. And I found out that I really liked tops like this. And I would have never figured that out if I didn't try it on. Allow yourself to be curious. Allow yourself to try different things and allow yourself to experiment. By the way, this top is from Banana Republic. I will link it in the description box down below if you are interested. And I want to clarify that the fix here does not require an entire new wardrobe. It simply means exploration, experimentation. The next time you go shopping, try a few things that you would have never tried before. Sometimes you're gonna try it on and you're gonna hate it, but sometimes you're gonna try it on and you're gonna absolutely love it. And sometimes you're gonna try it and you're like, hmm, this is interesting. Maybe it needs a shorter sleeve or maybe it needs a longer cut on me or something like that. Regardless, all of that information is still useful even if it doesn't work for you. You know, that's just information to keep in the back of your mind. Either way, you're gonna learn something about yourself and that is how you actually start building personal style as opposed to just wearing clothes. This next one is subtle, but it is very real. Cheap fabrics read to the eye and to the mind as immature. And I don't mean cheap as in inexpensive, I mean cheap as low quality. And those are not necessarily the same thing. There are reasonably priced pieces that are made from fabrics that hold their shape, drape well, and look like they were chosen on purpose. And you can find great high quality pieces for more affordable prices in places like secondhand shops and vintage shops. In my opinion, a huge part of what makes an outfit look mature or sophisticated is texture and structure. When you're wearing fabrics that are substantial, like a good linen or cotton, or even a well-made knit, your outfit as a whole looks very considered. It looks very sophisticated. Now, when you are wearing something that feels scratchy and it feels very thin and it feels flat, not even a great silhouette would be able to save that outfit. This does not mean replacing everything that you own with luxury pieces from luxury designer brands. What this means is that as you are building or editing your wardrobe or your personal style, one thing that you definitely should consider is fabric quality. It should definitely be part of what you're evaluating whenever you're editing your wardrobe. So before you buy something, hold it up, see how it feels, bring it up to the light. You know, is it thin? Is it crinkly? You know, how is it gonna feel on your body? How's it going to look on your body? Quality does have like a certain look to it. And once you start noticing it, you'll never stop seeing it. The thing with spotting quality is that it's not necessarily intuitive. It is kind of like a skill that you build up over time. I do have a video that I uploaded a few months ago about how to recognize high quality clothing. And if you're interested in that video, I will leave it right up the key in the card and in the description box down below. Another reason why your outfits might still feel immature is because your body has changed, but your clothes haven't. Your body right now is probably not the same body that bought all of those clothes 10 years ago. And I don't mean that as a criticism. Bodies change, that is just something that they do. And when you are in, you know, especially your twenties, your body changes a lot. Maybe you fill out in a certain area or you lose something in another area. Maybe you have gotten stronger or perhaps you have simply changed your idea of what is comfortable for you at this point in time. You know, when I was in my early twenties, I was like, yeah, let's wear five inch stilettos. And now that's just not happening. Like I am a kitten heel woman. I'm not wearing five inch stilettos at this point in my life. We're not doing that. Or maybe you are. I'm not. All of these changes are completely normal. That is just life. That is part of being a human being. That's what happens when you're living. La vida loca. I didn't need to do that. The problem is that a lot of people do not match their wardrobes to match the body that they are in right now. And a lot of the time that is simply because we just haven't thought about it. Clothes that were purchased for a previous version of your body, sometimes they just don't do what they need to do for the body that you currently have right now. That's not a good thing or a bad thing. That's not positive or negative. Sometimes that is just what happens when you grow up. And again, this does not necessarily mean going through your closet, getting rid of everything and replacing it. That's not what I'm saying here. Sometimes it is as simple as just taking something to a tailor. If your body has changed and something still technically fits you, but it doesn't necessarily serve you, it's not doing what it needs to do in the way that it did for the previous version of your body, there's something to consider there. You know what I'm saying? Now, this last reason is really the one that just ties everything together. You've never actually thought about your wardrobe before. And let me try to explain what I mean by this. I would say that most women have never really sat down and thought about their wardrobe as a whole, as a system even. That's really what a wardrobe is, in my opinion. I know that for me, especially in my early 20s, I used to shop based on vibes. I would leave the house when I was in the mood to shop, not with a plan. I just was in the mood to do some shopping. So I would go shopping. I would look at the mannequins and, you know, some things are trending and I would be like, yes, that is what I need to add to my wardrobe. Never really asked myself if I liked it necessarily or if it would fit my body proportions or if I would feel comfortable in it. I just saw that, you know, this is what's trending. It makes sense that I would buy this. And then I had the audacity to stand in front of an overcrowded closet and say to myself, I have nothing to wear. A wardrobe that is built on impulse is not a wardrobe. It is a pile of individual decisions that have nothing to do with each other. A wardrobe is intentional. It has pieces that work together. It reflects how you live, where you go, what you do, who you are right now. When you open it, there are options. You're not just like digging through a bunch of stuff and just hoping that something comes together. Most wardrobes are not built. They have been accumulated. And you can feel the difference. I have gone through this myself. A closet that has been collected will still feel like chaos, even if it's organized. Whereas an intentional or built wardrobe feels a lot clearer even when it's small. Or even when it's unorganized. I've been traveling a lot for the past two years and I've become very intentional about the travel wardrobe that I bring to every place that I go to. And even when my clothes are hanging around different areas of the hotel room, because I washed it and put it up to dry or whatever, I still have a lot of clarity of what my wardrobe looks like because I was very intentional when I packed it. You can still have that same feeling with your wardrobe at home for your full-size wardrobe. So think about that. So what do you do with all of this information? Where do you start? I would say you start with an audit. Start with a closet audit. You don't necessarily need to do a full closet clean out. You don't need to declutter every single piece that you purchased. You can just do like a little pass through. You know, just like touch each one of your shirts. And you know, if something arises, a feeling arises and you're like, actually, I don't feel like this belongs here, you take it out. What you don't want to do is go through your closet and ask yourself, if I put this on my body, will it fit? What you need to be asking yourself is, does this belong? Does this serve who I am right now? I will be going a little bit deeper into this in the next few videos. So if you're interested, why don't you go ahead and hit that subscribe button if you haven't already. Thank you guys so much for watching this video. Again, subscribe if you haven't already. Give this video a like and I will catch you guys next time. Peace.