The Truth about Consistency Nobody Talks about

Hey, it's David and in this video on helping you with procrastination. I want to talk this about this idea of consistency because when people struggle with procrastination They don't mean that From time to time I struggle to do certain things Really what they mean really what they're describing is a chronic form of procrastination where it's an inability to do Usually a quite a specific thing or a small group of things Consistently, right? That's really what it is It's the inability to kind of show up regularly when the person Needs to maybe in the service of some big goal they have or something that's important to them in life But this thing is consistency and this is what we're told right? You just have to stay consistent in it. Just be consistent Now the thing I want to say in today's video is that is a lot easier said than done No, and in realizing that that's Easier said than done. That's The main way you become consistent We need to understand what consistency is and we need to understand that consistency is not just a simple thing That you put the switch and then there you go. You're now consistent, right? It's certainly Not something that you acquire through force Just trying harder you see that thing is it assumes that it's just this pretty straightforward thing It's not even I'm saying that it's hard To be consistent in anything whether that's working on your studies, whether it's starting your own business any project you have Regular exercise doesn't matter what it is to be consistent in anything is not straightforward. It's complicated It sounds like I'm bringing you bad news here, this is good news if you can accept this Because if you think it's simple and it just requires force all you're gonna do is force yourself try more try harder The thing what is it then that actually creates consistency? Well, you see consistency. It's not easy. It's not this straightforward thing It's it's highly complicated Deeply personal thing that requires a whole ton of little adjustments around your very unique situation Your life situation your personality type all these different things requires Attunement it requires paying attention. It requires The ability to adjust to things the ability to look at what's working What isn't in my situation forget what some guy says on YouTube or? Some book that you read about how easy it is and just do this and just do that in your situation What's required to create consistency So the main point of today's video is that okay, we want to be consistent, right? That's the problem we have We can't stay consistent in the tank. Okay, how do we get consistent? You can't force it You can't here's a better word. You can't demand it of yourself. You can't flick a switch what it requires is engaging maybe Sometimes showing up for the things maybe not but then looking for what is the feedback? I'm getting from that experience of not having engaged with it. What is it trying to tell me? Okay, I said I'd do that thing today in this effort to be consistent. I didn't do it in that not doing of it There's information That information is teaching me how to be consistent No, no, I just need to be just do it. Just do it And then you stop to look at well, actually, why did I not show up there and you overlook that little piece of information that data That's trying to give you that's trying to teach you consistency So this is why I keep mentioning when we're working with procrastination. It's all about reflective periods We go into reflection. Reflection, trying to get that information about well, what was that resistance tried to tell me there? That's so important and if we're not doing that By default what is really going on is a guilt narrative has actually taken over. I just need to do it I just need to do it. Okay, I didn't do it. Well, I just need to do it Later or tomorrow or whatever it is Because the reason I didn't do it. We assume we already know and what is that? That's the good narrative There's a good narrative in there, which is the explanation for why I didn't do it. It's obvious. I'm lazy. I'm not organized enough I'm not a serious person. I'm irresponsible. Those are the default Explanations that we carry when we have this chronic procrastination problem. So the reflective periods I'm talking about are like Deep breath. Okay, didn't show up there on that occasion My default might be to have a guilt narrative about that. But hang on a second. What really contributed to that? What was that resistance about? Maybe it was a practical issue. Maybe I didn't set firm enough boundaries with other commitments Maybe I found it hard to say no to people. You see it's complicated, right? But we need to pause without going into the guilt and shame spiral and say what's the data there? What actually happened? Okay. Now if I can not have guilt and shame take a deep breath Look at it and take the valuable piece of information out of it That's one piece of information that I'm going to put into my insight file That's going to shape all future Attempts I have to engage with that task. The more you can mine that and take these really valuable pieces of data You're going to get this really sophisticated understanding of how you work How you are in relation to this goal you're doing and that is how you develop consistency Consistency is not forced. Consistency is learned You learn how to be consistent in things. It's not about being Superman It's not about being incredibly hard-working and pushing That's short-lived and even if it did work, which it doesn't, even if it did, would you really want it to? I mean, I think that's no way to live your life Right. So we need, but we do need that insight, that understanding And so you learn how to be consistent when you're engaging with it And you're taking that feedback without the guilt and shame stuff, right? So in a sense, there's nothing here, there's no way you can fail in this If you're showing up to do the work, okay, it's great I made progress in that thing. If I didn't, no need to go into shame and guilt spirals. That's just data Now, but I must show up and actually engage with okay, and honestly look at what happened there Now I'm developing this real Really impressive understanding of myself and what is going to facilitate My consistency moving forward It's another reason why there's no real one strategy that works for everybody, right? Do this is the perfect day routine or whatever, right? The morning routine or whatever it is You might take a few little gems out of it, a few ideas But the idea that somebody that you see online is going to give you this plan for how to live your life When they have no idea who you are, how old you are, do you have family? What are your exercise goals? Where you live? What's your health life? What's your personality type? You must discover that yourself. This is why I kind of help people write your own book, and I'm a bit facetious on that, but I mean Okay, take pieces of information from people, strategies from people, but ultimately When it comes down to looking at well how you personally became consistent It's going to be very nuanced and that's going to be true the process of you going into reflection Realizing it's completely counterproductive for me to go into labeling myself and calling myself lazy and Disorganized and irresponsible and not a serious person Which is what we do Right, but it's in realizing not doing that and then you'll get that information and your solution will look very unique It'll look very unique. It might look it might be other parts that reflect what other things have said You've taken pieces from other people But yours will be unique and it will also be Changing you'll be able to tweak it depending on changing life circumstances. So Today's video is basically the bottom line. The one thing I'm saying here today is stop Telling yourself that well just be consistent Just force it more. It doesn't work. It never works consistent except that consistency Consistency Is a very deeply personal very nuanced thing that develops When you set up the environment for it to develop which is reflection developing insights without judgment That's what breeds consistency that what that's what tweaks your strategy and you will find that Sure enough your issues with chronic chronic procrastination Funnily enough once you create the environment for insights Consistency starts showing up not true force but true insight and reflection Hope that's useful. Um If you want to reach me you can do so below i'm available for one-to-one work I work with a lot of people on this issue kind of self-sabotage and the ability to show up for things So reach out if you're stuck with this if you need help and for anyone watching, please like this video Please subscribe to the channel. It helps me reach people And um, thanks so much for being with me. Have a great day. I'll see you soon. Bye. Bye