Why Dating Japanese Women Is So Painfully Difficult

I'm single and I'm sure if you're watching this so are you but today I want to talk about my dating life. Actually, I'm not gonna bore you with that I'm just I'm really just single and lonely and depressed but like dating in Japan is apparently really really Difficult and today I want to find out why it's so difficult not because I'm necessarily Interested in dating a Japanese woman. Okay, and that's not because I hate Japanese women. I want to make that clear It's just I want to find out why it's difficult, right? So today we're gonna watch this video titled why dating in Japan is impossible. Let's figure it out Japanese women are refusing to date Japanese men. And the reason why is that way more insane than you think, okay? This isn't just about attraction. It's a complete shift in how relationships work in Japan. And here's where things get crazy She is absolutely gorgeous my brother in Christ. God. Damn. I would absolutely ------- lick a doorknob for this one brother. I would ******* get on my knees and bark for her You know what? I mean? Like I would straight up become the most down bad human being for whoever the **** this woman is Sorry, I've said boards that you probably did not need to hear me say let's continue watching this video It's not just Japanese men getting rejected. A lot of women don't want to date foreign men either There are massive cultural difference. That makes sense. Never mind. She wants nothing to do with me. I I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. That makes that makes a lot of sense. That makes a lot of sense You know, I see the problem now as to why I'm single the problem is me, right? The problem has always been me and the problem is this problem is you because you're enabling me by watching this video Hey subscribe, this is hidden biases and honestly some brutal truths that most people don't even talk about Yeah, but before we get into that, let's start with something shocking All right, so there's a real phenomenon happening in Japan right now, which you might have seen across YouTube dude Japan is so pretty by the way I want to go back bro Like when I know I went to Japan and I said I don't feel like I ever want to go back But now that I've been away for a couple years now Well, has it been a couple I guess it's technically been a year and yeah, whatever My point is now I want to go back because I'm like, yeah, it's I miss it like low-key like I miss the train The shinkansen is what it's called the bullet train. Yeah, I miss that actually That's probably the only thing I miss about Japan and that is where men are giving up on dating entirely They're called herbivore men guys who have zero interest in pursuing women getting married or even trying to flirt Some of them are too focused on work. Others are just tired of rejection and some they've simply decided it's not worth the effort Yeah, and the result my brother and they're building women like this in Japan, bro How like where do we how are they built like bro hello Y'all just be building women like this out there and you're telling me you don't want to date them Like what are you doing? You see a woman like this and you're like you're not interested like at all you're focused on work When someone like this is in front of you a baddie like this is in front of you You're telling me you're focused on work my brother in Christ. Listen, I I was about to say something completely out of pocket I'm not gonna say it anymore. I Respect women However, all right, and I want you to hear me out when I say this right everybody everybody get closer But get closer for a second. All right, everybody. I want you to get closer. All right now that you're here I just want you to understand that if ever given the chance I Would single-handedly? Solve Japan's crisis. All right, that's all I'm saying We will continue a growing number of Japanese way by making men understand that they need to love themselves and within Loving themselves other people like we'll see that they love themselves and then they might love them, too And then when that happens, all right the the whole fact that men don't want relationships might change and then men and women might actually intertwine and you know, Mingle a little bit more and then you know, Japan's whole crisis will be solved. That's what I'm saying Okay, like that's how I would fix the problem Well, just now that we understand what I meant by that statement We can continue men are frustrated single and looking for alternatives. And yeah, some of them damn. She's so pretty. Oh my god She's beautiful to burn to foreign guys. I'm gonna get myself a cute. Why am I being jump-scared by ******* Connor? Jesus Christ Almighty This is a random ******* video, bro. I paused at a random part I I didn't even know he was in this ******* video. This is not why I even had this video cute I had this video cute because I saw it in my feed one day and I was like, oh This is a very interesting video that I wanted to ******* watch I didn't know Connor was in this ******* video and he's girlfriend and the thing that sucks is most of the time it completely works You know, obviously if you're a foreigner, there's a lot of people who really like foreign people in Japan You can almost have an easier time dating in Japan I know I had an easier time dating here than in London But also that could just be my own experience in order to collective experience of everyone watching this It's alright, but this only applies to a small percentage of women and even then there are some major problems Okay, this sucks, but it's true that a lot of Japanese women think Western men smell bad and no this isn't some weird stereotype It's a real issue And if you think that's bad, it gets much worse in the West beards are a symbol of masculinity in Japan Not so much a lot of women actually prefer clean-shaven men. What's wrong with the beard? Like what's wrong with the what's wrong with the beard, bro? If you're walking into Japan thinking you're rugged Chris Hemsworth beard is gonna make you stand out You might be in for a shock when it actually turns women away You don't need to be short as a necker or Dwayne Johnson in Japan to be attractive as a guy Actually, it can be even negative sometimes and that's no surprise because if you compare to Western women Japanese women are generally smaller and shorter and chances are that she's gonna feel kind of overwhelmed or even scared We're meeting a guy like this So she wants twinks. ****. We're cooked. We're cooked See, this is why twink death is a problem We need more twinks in the world, but y'all think that you need to look like this ************ All right, is that yeah, we need more twinks bring them back So rather than having a big muscular body These are more important usually and that's why they might look too feminine to wear. I'll never be him, bro I'll ******* never be him But let's say you pass the hygiene and facial hair test. There's still one massive cock block standing in your way Language, this is the killer. It's by far the biggest reason why foreign men struggle to date in Japan most Japanese women don't speak English fluently and If you don't speak Japanese No Congratulations, your dating pool just shrank to almost nothing There are plenty of stories of Western guys who thought they had a great connection with a Japanese woman only to realize they were Stuck in a cycle of awkward Google Translate conversations It's fun at first but the novelty wears off fast when you can't have a real conversation So what happens that I make sense in my experience foreigners turn to dating apps is like the first thing they do And this is where things get really weird because tinder in Japan It's a completely different beast. If you're a Western guy, you might expect it to work the same way It does back home. Oh, it's why it's not chat meet up. No, no, no, not even close That's not good luck finding a real name. Most Japanese women use fake initials Words yeah, even emojis instead of that is true Profile pictures. Yeah, no of them are either anime characters. Yeah, it faces or just y'all food Seriously, some people literally put sushi a profile pic I know this I got a match with a girl when I was in Japan and like first of all, very impressive I know listen, I'm him but secondly Yeah I know her profile picture was pretty similar to the girl like in the freaking like Center here where it was just her boobs Right, and I was just like, oh they look really nice. Um, not the point but like yeah, like it was just like, you know, I Mean I was what else are you supposed to say? Right, but it was just like yeah That's all the indication that you get they don't post pictures of their faces or their real names Like they said in the video and so it was just like alright Well, this is the only thing I get to see about you I have to make a judgment based on that but even after the match The other big issue was I couldn't communicate with her because then I needed a Japanese phone number Because I don't know that's just how tinder Japan worked when I was there and I was like what the **** is the point? And that's not even the weirdest part a huge number of Japanese women on tinder aren't even looking for a boyfriend Some just want to practice their English. Others are just curious about talking to foreigners But have zero intention of meeting up and then you've got the worst case scenario Women who are straight-up afraid of being seen dating a foreigner Japan is still a country where standing out too much is looked down upon and for some women Dating a foreigner is seen as too different or even embarrassing Youtubers won't tell you this but it's true for many people but let's say you do find a match you start talking Things are going great. You're about to meet up and then you hear this phrase. I've always wanted to date a foreigner Congratulations, you've just met a gaijin hunter gaijin hunter is a term for Japanese women that exclusively date foreigners Sounds good, right? Yeah, like who wouldn't want to be the type of guy they're looking for Well, here's where it gets a little messy. A lot of gaijin hunters don't actually care about you. They care that you're foreign Yeah, no, that's like something that's like a low-key creepy though, right? Like whenever I see people like that It's like bro, like you only want to be with this person because they're like foreign or like Asian and stuff like that It's like that's low-key. That's weird Right a low-key. Let's be real, right? It's almost like the guys that only want to date white women who are like five foot two, you know I mean, that's like so crazy. Some of them are just obsessed with Western culture Yeah, some have a checklist of nationalities. They want to date. Yeah, this has actually happened from time to time There are stories of guys who thought they found the perfect girlfriend only to find out she literally had a list of countries She wanted to try and it's not just about Western men Whoa She was just like hey, I just want to know what it's like sleeping with a black guy All right, and if you do want to know that I mean my DMS are in fact currently open So you're in front of me, but like I mean, yeah, there are people like that and to be fair I was one of those people too, right? I had a period in time where I Would honestly just sleep with people because I wanted to know what it was like sleeping with people from different races This sounds terrible, but it is true. I hate to admit it And it is a ******* thing that some people do, you know I mean Japanese women actually prefer Latino men Middle Eastern men or even South Asian men because they find their features more the world exotic. Yeah masculine You never cheat, right? No, of course So you never hang out with other girls, right No, never So you never go to like, you know, those places like brothels, right? It not there. I don't know. Come on. I'll tell you what you don't know Some ladies also want a green card, which I thought strange as I always see Japan is wealthy and amazing But the reality is Japan has a brutal work culture long hours insane expectations and basically no work-life balance Some women want out and dating a foreigner is their escape plan. I'll try to ruin your fun, bro We got passport bros. Now. We got passport sisters, bro. Like they're trying to like, you know work their way over here It's like 90-day fiance, but like the other way I feel like that is that I feel like that's a show already That's probably a show. Have you guys been watching 90-day fiance? By the way, yo this latest season Yeah, there's like a Belizean guy and like low-key He's actually kind of like the best guy on the show Like I was talking so much ---- about the Belizean guy before I started watching the season and I started watching the season like High-key, he's actually like legitimately a chill guy. It's like, you know, look like you should watch it You should watch see over Japanese guy. I don't know why you have fantasy Japanese guys because Japanese guys are horrible in my opinion But These are the reasons why I wouldn't date a Japanese guy if I was a straight woman If I was gay, probably it wouldn't be as bad I don't know what but here's where things get even crazier a lot of Japanese women aren't just rejecting Japanese men They're rejecting dating entirely. Yeah, and this is where the real problem comes in Japan is facing a massive population crisis. The birth rate is collapsing people aren't getting married They aren't even dating There are entire businesses built around renting boyfriends and girlfriends because people are so disconnected from real relationships and for women There's a lot of pressure. The expectation is still there get married have kids be a traditional wife, but modern Japanese women They're not interested. So what does this all mean simple the entire dating scene in Japan is breaking down It's not just about Japanese men failing to attract women. It's not just about foreign men struggling with cultural differences It's all of it a complete societal shift. Yeah, but like what like what are they gonna do about the problem though? Like this doesn't tell like how are they gonna fix the problem? We don't have a solution for the goddamn prophecy again This is where I come in. All right, but tag me in Japan. All right, I'm gonna fix the problem for you Okay, like I will become your minister for dating Okay, I will teach every Japanese man how to rizz up the huzz, you know what I mean like I will show them the strats Okay, like it'll work. Trust me trust me by the like give me ten years and I will have at least a hundred thousand Japanese men Producing babies that sounds so terrible. I'm so sorry. That sounds bad. No, okay. Hear me out all right, like they will be in love and Like with their partners and they will willingly Together produce babies, you know what I mean? Right? It's not gonna be like a forced thing or anything like that, right? So I want to make that clear to people. Okay fewer relationships more isolation. Yeah the idea of romance in Japan It's disappearing and here's the big twist if you're a foreigner thinking Japan is some dating paradise Think again, the truth is it doesn't matter where you're from. What matters is how well you fit into Japan itself And if you don't understand the culture if you don't learn the language if you don't actually connect on a deeper level You're just another foreigner passing through. I don't mean to sound like a dick here I just want you to see the full picture. So the real question isn't just why dating in Japan is nearly impossible The real question is are Japanese women even interested in dating at all anymore I don't need to figure out if this is the person that you want to be in a relationship with within the first few days People always say it's within three days. Don't kiss, you don't hold hands, you don't touch, you don't have sex whatsoever And a lot of time the guy asks the girl if she wants to become her girlfriend As they say this is the concept culture of Japanese dating and if the girl say yes They become a couple officially after three days. As a Japanese person, it's so crazy to me that Wait, what happened to the rest of the video? What happened to the rest of the video? I want to know what happens after three days brother. There was like Laura there that I'm missing I mean regardless of that fact though, right like I feel like I could fix them low-key, right? Send me to Japan bro. Like I'll teach him I'll teach him but like that does that does suck if you if you really think about it If the people in Japan are just not interested in dating anymore That is a huge problem, but that problem is honestly happening more and more everywhere in the world I feel like a lot of people everywhere in the world are more and more no longer interested in dating I think Gen Z is having that issue right now as well Where they're also not no longer having interest in dating at all either. They don't have an interest in sex They don't have an interest in dating And a lot of people more and more just like I just want to be alone I just want to be myself blah blah and it's it's it's a huge societal problem in in general and I Don't like it because I'm a single and not to sound like a pick-me, but I'm honestly one of the good ones Okay, I hate it because other men have ruined it for people like me, but I'm I'm actually one of the ******* good ones You know what ******* sucks actually tick-tock has been feeding me nothing but ******* incel goddamn tick-tocks It's been teaching me how to be a fuckboy again My entire tick-tock feed has been teaching me how to Gaslight and gatekeep women not a joke. It's genuinely teaching me how to disrespect women and ------- you know force them to like me and you know what? The sad part is and I hate I hate to ******* say it I have tried these strategies and they work