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Ancient Wisdom warmly greets you all Today we will discuss a topic that causes great fear among many modern people Even questioning whether their own mind might be troubled But in reality this is a blessing bestowed by heaven a unique fate that has opened a special path just for you The theme is loneliness Today's society exhibits a very strange phenomenon even one that could be described as pathological It seems everyone is afraid of being alone By the weekend if the phone doesn't ring and no friends invite me out to eat If I don't sing a few mixed songs I just can't settle down When I get home at night I have to turn the TV up loud so that if no one comes to visit I won’t feel abandoned by the world I won’t feel like a failure I'm lonely and nobody needs me Many people I see look deeply worried They say I'm too introverted not sociable—am I sick Should you go see a psychologist learn communication skills or learn how to fit in I'm telling you absolutely not It's completely utterly wrong In the eyes of the ancient wisdom of the I Ching such is the type of person who must always cling to the crowd You have to plunge into the chaos being unable to reconsider even for a moment is truly a sign of illness That is known as the divine elusive retreat the outward emission of yang energy a false reflection of inward radiance Conversely those who can quietly remain alone Not only does it not feel boring but it feels rich and profound—this is the inner quietude the latent true yang People like that don't need to consult a fortune—just by feeling my pulse I can tell it's deep calm and strong like still water in a deep pond That is the kind of person who can accomplish great things one who can live long and leave a lasting legacy Today I will employ the orthodox reasoning of Dongmi Combined with the wisdom of the I Ching I will unravel the two characters for solitary isolation I will tell you about it It's never simple why people who dislike excitement often are That's why truly powerful individuals ultimately choose solitude If you truly grasp this lesson you'll realize that the loneliness you once feared is actually the most valuable remedy in your life It's even more nourishing than ginseng and deer antler First we must establish a general framework This is not merely a matter of personality but a physiological necessity for survival The Huangdi Neijing's sixteen characters can be said to represent the highest essence of health-preserving wisdom Especially the four characters of inner spirit mean your body must be like a loyal guard dog always staying within the body Within the five viscera and six bowels calm and still But when you plunge into the bustle when you raise your cup at the noisy conut table Saying things that go against your heart when you scream in the karaoke room to release your emotions where is your body Your body has flown out Worrying about others' expressions fearing they might be unhappy worrying about their words fearing they might speak ill preoccupied with the illusion of面子 afraid of losing face The physician referred to it as a harmonious disturbance of the mind The imperial ruler instead of attending to state affairs in the palace ran out into the streets to argue and bicker The palace lay empty and thieves of qi and illness swiftly seized the opportunity to invade The more someone enjoys excitement and bustle the weaker their physical health tends to be their resistance diminished and their fortune impaired Their energy constantly leaks out like a deflated balloon no matter how hard you try to fill it What is true solitude Loneliness is not solitude Solitude is active while loneliness is passive arising from feeling empty because no one notices you That's the attitude of a beggar Solitude is a choice closing the door one's own pulling in the reins the posture of a sovereign Loneliness is concentrated energy like clenching your fist tightly to unleash greater force like drawing a bowstring back to send the arrow farther A person who enjoys solitude is like a high-performance battery always charging one who can't live without excitement is like a dead battery Forever incomplete ultimately destined to be discarded Now let's examine the five major advantages solitude brings See how these five herbs treat poverty and mental illness The first advantage and also the most fundamental is It is solitude that enables people to see their true nature and rediscover their authentic self In traditional Chinese medicine this is known as the "spirit of introspection " In the heart of it all it's called a counter-epoch Modern life is overly artificial and exhausting At work you're the subordinate You have to wear a smiling mask even if inside you're torn apart a thousand times At home it's your parents Must appear strong even when内心 has collapsed On social media you're a dazzling success smiling through it all even though in real life you're just barely hanging on The actor played so many roles that he forgot his own true self It's like an actor becoming so immersed in a character that he forgets his real name Ultimately chaotic personality disorder Traditional Chinese medicine refers to it as emotional fixation leading to gender identity disturbance which is the root cause of the illness When you're constantly caught up in the crowd Your five senses are dragged by external circumstances like a puppet Eyes must watch others' expressions ears must listen to others' words You end up saying only what others want to hear Over time you no longer know what you truly think want or like Only when you silence all external noise do you have the chance to hear your inner voice And that is the first step toward self-rescue Eyes must constantly read others' expressions draining one's vital essence and blood Tai must endure slander which drains the kidneys and nerves The mouth must utter crude and frivolous words That harms your vital energy Your five zang and six fu organs are all serving others all being drained They're all working overtime without receiving extra pay Only when you're alone when you close the door when you turn off that damn phone In that instant Your spirit has just begun returning from afar like a wayward child finally coming home Suddenly you'll hear my heartbeat hearing my own breath You begin asking yourself why you're going through all this What do I truly want Who am I really To help you understand better I’ll share a story from my own medical journey This story is very typical much like a hermit in an old tale who becomes lost amid the life of a humble farmer Yet in modern society He's a major boss He's well- known in the electronics industry His business is huge and he 's always busy with affairs Today drinking wine with clients tomorrow eating meals with officials the day after that flying abroad for study When they came to see me their faces were flushed red Chatting away cheerfully Looks very spirited just like an enthusiastic rooster But when I took his pulse The surface appears firm yet is hollow inside externally strong but internally empty This is a typical case of yin deficiency with yang excess It's a sign of dwindling oil and extinguished lights I told you don't delude yourself into thinking you're strong just because you look fine on the outside You won't be far from collapse His body was nearly gone His body was nothing but an empty shell He couldn't believe it Laughing loudly he said Don't scare me like that Sleeping only three hours a day still allows him to play golf Within less than half a year he suddenly collapsed at the dinner table suffering a stroke Saved his life but half his body was paralyzed and his mouth was twisted Those who once surrounded him called him director boss or just "man " Every friend from your past has vanished The house is empty silent—only your wife remains long neglected by him o care for bathe and feed him meals In that moment he was forced to be alone The heavens have hit pause on him In the quiet hospital room gazing at the leaves falling outside the window he began to cry He wondered how he had risked everything for half his life How much wine you drink how many senseless words you speak in the end what do you really gain Just half a person utterly unaware Turn your back on them instead What I truly want isn 't just a healthy body but the companionship of family isn't it After recovering from his illness though still not fully regained and walking with a limp he had completely changed He severed all ineffective social connections and handed over the company to professional managers to run Every day He spends half his time alone drinking tea reading books contemplating nature or simply basking in the sun in the garden He told me that thanks to that illness it forced him into solitude and it was precisely that solitude that helped him find himself Though his career was no longer as prominent as it once was he felt he had finally come to live as his true self and at last knew who he truly was Don't wait until a stroke bankruptcy or a broken family forces you to live alone— the cost is far too high You must actively embrace solitude Solitude is like a sonar device for the soul When you awaken greed fear of loss vanity and deep-seated envy will become as clearly visible as stones on an ultrasound screen No place to hide Only when you see clearly can you heal only then can you cleanse the clutter from your mind If you're always surrounded by noise the chaos will mask your underlying illness You'll think everyone's like that So am I It's completely normal Everyone desires so do I Everyone pushes in Until one day illness strikes with terrifying force even a fairy cannot save you Therefore set aside one hour each day for yourself alone Not to stare blankly not to sleep but to turn inward Observe the rise and fall of thoughts without resistance without fear Gradually you will discover your true self your soul's essence slowly emerging That crossroads is calm and joyful needing no external conditions to feel complete Next we discuss the second advantage Loneliness can accumulate energy This is the knowledge related to the divine In the I Ching the first hexagram is Qian The first sign is a hidden dragon artifact Many people think a hidden dragon lacks strength is easily pushed around and is unlucky But it's wrong The hidden dragon is gathering strength for its moment honing its inner cultivation beneath the water amassing power for a single decisive move One must understand that Diplomacy is a display of prestige while solitary study is the accumulation of character And remember a fundamental law of physics: energy is conserved Your vitality 即 spiritual energy is limited You have only one tank of gas each day and once it's used up it's gone Out there you laugh loudly rage scheme and flatter others—everything is just a fire to burn yourself out The bigger the fire the more it consumes The more quickly the gas runs out the more rapidly one's vitality depletes Traditional Chinese Medicine states that excessive talking injures Qi a sallow complexion harms the body and overexertion damages the bones In social interactions all three of these demands are constantly present: you must keep talking read others' expressions and keep standing to serve without pause You think you're building relationships but in reality you're draining your energy siphoning off your life force exchanging genuine relationships for virtual ones especially ineffective social interactions with a group of people who are otherwise unengaged unless they've been drinking If not drunk those words would never be spoken in a lifetime They harm and deceive each other exhausting their vital energy In Traditional Chinese Medicine this is called depletion of true yang To read is to extinguish the flame to seal the womb All animals in winter sleep through the cold Why do animals hibernate Since winter is the season of storage the body must gather and conserve energy internally protect the internal organs and prepare for the springtime of growth and renewal If winter still dances outdoors spring will die People are the same If they are constantly generating and socializing throughout the four seasons with no time for storing or introspection no time to be alone en the holy water will block Nao is the sea of marrow when the marrow dries the nao becomes empty That's why you'll see people constantly submerged in drunken revelry Middle age often brings diminished mental sharpness slowed reactions and declining memory so words often slip from one's mind as they're about to be spoken even developing severe cognitive decline at an early age Because the battery had been completely drained by them it could no longer be recharged Look at the people who are truly Throughout history there have been great cultivators yet how they were tempered remains a profound humiliation as exemplified by Sima Xian and Zhao Gongxing The man had usually collapsed —suicidal or psychologically twisted in resentment But not him He was imprisoned in jail It was absolute solitude total isolation No one paid attention everyone looked down on her It was precisely in this extreme loneliness tha The energy had nowhere to dissipate so it all turned inward He poured his entire spirit and vitality into the brush writing the chronicle Modern people work during the day exhausted and then spend their evenings scrolling through their phones watching short videos and playing games Scrolling through phones in reality It's also a form of virtual social interaction seeking connection through extroversion Eyes locked onto the screen unable to look away The spirit was swept away by chaotic streams of information sucked into the digital glow It was a silent depletion It's even more harmful than social drinking because you act unconsciously Therefore I teach you a simple method to close the gate Each evening when coming home or during weekends try putting your phone away in another room turning off the TV and temporarily disconnecting from the internet Even just sitting still reading a few pages of ancient books seemingly dry and dull practicing calligraphy or tidying up the house At first you'll feel restless like a addict your mind cluttered your hands itching to grab your phone you'll just have to忍 It's a restless fire within a relentless craving Just try for ten minutes When you can sit still for an hour without a phone without speaking and without inner turmoil congratulations —your kidney essence is strong It started to take hold easily energy began to flow back The next morning waking up you'd feel better than after ten straight hours of sleep Sharp eyes clear mind That is the nourishment found in solitude We've discussed the first two benefits of solitude First it helps you see clearly who you truly are Second it helps you replenish what you've lost But that is merely the foundation of self- preservation the first step on a long journey The benefits of solitude go far beyond that It also helps you cultivate inner strength A diamond-like indestructible heart steadfast determination and the awakening of heavenly and earthly wisdom namely wisdom Why is it said that innate existence is destroyed Why is it said that awakened existence is vid Great entrepreneurs prominent political figures before making decisions A great undertaking they shut themselves away in seclusion even retreating into mountains and forests for several days They are not traveling for leisure but seeking to draw upon the power of nature connecting to higher wisdom First let's discuss the third advantage solitude cultivates steadfastness What is steadfastness The physician says the kidney governs the will will means direction of mind and willpower is steadfastness When kidney energy is abundant the mind's direction is firm and the will is as solid as a rock No matter the storms outside no matter what others say once the path is chosen even demons will walk it to the end Conversely the cautious are easily caught Crazy about holding onto air crazy about self-disorder Today hearing the wind I think it'll rain tomorrow seeing others invest and make money I feel jealous A pair in difficulty yet still wants to quit and change direction They're like the first blade of grass swaying at the slightest breeze A lifetime of digging wells without ever finding water because giving up halfway out of discouragement led to changing spots First and foremost one must understand that Loneliness is my fire warmth is my skin Today's society is full of hollow illusions As soon as you open your phone you're bombarded with content about beautiful women supercars instant wealth and all sorts of sensationalized clickbait Every day you immerse yourself in that stream of information your mind becomes consumed by it—like a fire smoldering beneath the surface constantly burning with inner heat You'll worry feel anxious believe you're not good enough want more and fear that taking a single step too slowly means losing out It is the burning of life itself The mind is scorched to the point of restlessness Loneliness is like a cold pond When you sever external connections facing the wall alone the flame of illusion lingers yet no new fuel is added Chaotic information keeps flowing in Gradually the fire weakens and cool vapor begins to rise This is known as the fire's essence Have you ever seen blacksmithing Red-hot iron must be plunged into cold water to become hard and sharp Only steel tempered in fire becomes good steel Only those who undergo solitude and emerge transformed are true masters Look at one of those people With great mental fortitude in history Wang Yangming was sent to Longchang in Guizhou Back then Guizhou was a harsh and desolate place If there was no shelter they built makeshift huts if there was no food they cleared land and started farming and still face venomous snakes fierce beasts and illness In such extreme and solitary circumstances what did he do He practiced the deepest cultivation even placing a stone coffin inside to contemplate the mysteries of life and death Day and night he remained fully aware and alert Silent conversing with the heavens and the earth The ordinary man would have gone mad but he did not In the deepest solitude He cultivated his mind into an unbreakable diamond One night he suddenly attained profound enlightenment exclaiming "The sage knows the Way—my nature is self-sufficient " No external seeking is necessary That is a great revelation Can such determination be cultivated over a wine table raising and exchanging cups without pause Can I scream in the karaoke room if I can Can I blend in with fake social rituals and still succeed Absolutely not Only in absolute solitude when calling to heaven goes unanswered and pleading to earth brings no response does the desperate desire to live transform into a fierce longing for the Dao A new spiritual energy has been forcibly unleashed Inner strength is the most essential protective charm modern people need Why are so many people today suffering from depression And anxiety Because the mind has no place to rest The heart like an orphaned child wandering aimlessly today clings to this person tomorrow to something else Once that person leaves The moment the foundation crumbles the heart shatters—you collapse You must pass through the dantian to return the mind to its place within the body the dantian The Great Learning says: "The mind once settled naturally finds its proper direction " When you can sit alone doing nothing yet remain calm and at ease calmness itself brings peace No need for companionship or comfort Congratulations you have perfected the golden core transformation the supreme attainment Outside wind and rain lash the world yet no matter how fierce they cannot dampen your heart What others say how they look at you—none of it matters anymore because you know who you are and where you're going Next is the fourth stage: solitude elevates wisdom Note that intelligence is not knowledge nor is it cunning Knowledge comes from outside a dead thing you can look up online Wisdom is internal a living thing that grows from the depth of life Tendon marrow generates bone marrow and its disorder harms the marrow Where does wisdom come from From the marrow generated by the kidney essence You'll find that excitement makes people foolish Even the most intelligent people can act foolishly in groups When among crowds intelligence tends to decline a phenomenon known as collective stupidity erd effect You say what others say you laugh when they laugh even if you don’t know why Blindly following in a state of confusion Tong Mi refers to it as the blind heart orifice a blocked energy obstructing the heart orifice The essence of the process is unblocking the channels When you regain consciousness expel external stagnation to allow the kidney energy to fully generate marrow Yet as it rises in clamor the great uproar becomes clear and agile The ancients said "Calmness reveals one's true spirit " You suddenly see through the true nature of many things Observe the quantities clearly Before leaving the mountain he lived in Long Cương Alley Nam Dương What is he doing Not drinking and boasting but plowing fields reading books observing the world and contemplating strategies for governing the state Studying military strategy Because removed from the crowd one sees the bigger picture clearly If one were to constantly struggle within the political arena of Jingzhou the mind would already be overwhelmed with petty intrigues How does one write about loyal devotion to a cause Liu Bei visited the thatched cottage three times—this was no ordinary farmer Yet he was a wise one who had perfected his cultivation in solitude Those years were the immense treasury of wisdom he had accumulated for himself Many people think reading history is a waste of time just sitting around daydreaming —what good is that Wrong Tràng Tử spoke of the futility of procrastination The large tree unsuitable for timber was left uncut thus living long to provide shade those seemingly useless periods in fact were its greatest strength The new is the deepest part of you the place where wisdom quietly grows That very useless thing scorned by the worldly was left uncut by anyone in the end it grew into a mighty tree sheltering countless people from rain and sun That's the real purpose When you're alone and lost in thought seemingly doing nothing your mind is actually carrying out important processes Reorganize the fragmented pieces of information deep within the layer The subconscious is operating and connecting at high speed Many great inventions countless brilliant business ideas arise during daydreaming walking or bathing meaning in a state of solitude Newton was alone when the apple fell on his head Einstein was alone when he conceived relativity The Buddha attained enlightenment beneath the bodhi tree Loneliness is the most fertile ground for the mind to grow Ultimately we speak of the fifth advantage It is the most advanced Solitude can achieve a profound state of mind What is this state of mind It is your inner capacity The depth of one's inner strength lies in how much it can hold and endure The Book of Changes says "The earth's power is boundless " A noble person cultivates virtue to nurture all things Why can the earth support all living beings Because the earth is steady and heavy silent and without words If you're constantly fidgeting like a monkey your restlessness makes anything you carry on your back fall right off Meditation helps you detach from the cluttered chaos of everyday life It's like sitting in an airplane When you rise ten thousand meters into the sky The skyscrapers beneath the ground now seem like tiny Lego blocks Worldly worries and disputes shrink to insignificant specks of dust That's called shifting perspective—among the crowd you only see trivial squabbles over nothing In solitude you face the vast expanse of heaven and earth where the profound mystery of life and death the ever-changing transformations of past and present completely alter the celestial configuration Look at Zhang Liang of the Han dynasty When Liu Bang unified the realm he rewarded his loyal ministers Han Xin was executed Peng Yue was put to death Many of the founding loyal ministers met unfortunate ends Zhang Liang was unharmed and safe even granted the title of Marquis of Liu known as Shan Zhong Why Because he understood the Dao of advancement and retreat There was a grand transformation When fame and reputation were established he chose to shut himself away for spiritual cultivation dedicating himself to solitary practice He vowed to远离 worldly affairs Adoption through private agreement Others think he's foolish In truth he is the wisest In solitude he sees through the law of birds' departure When the roof collapses the rabbit dies when the dog is cooked it's already too late You know that if you don 't retreat in time you'll be crushed That far-reaching boundless gaze can only be forged through such trials In the profound and silent stillness of solitude The farmer had never left his village his entire life Day after day he chatted with neighbors about every little thing His world was limited to just three acres of farmland Here are the oxen The stork flies across the vast sea Its manner is to soar nine ten thousand miles upward Loneliness is the ladder elps you climb out of the well It shows you that life is not just about earning money having children getting by day after day but also carries far-reaching and profound significance With that broad perspective you'll handle life's challenges with ease cutting through them as effortlessly as slicing an ox with a sharp knife You're more than capable of managing it You become compassionate and grounded looking down from such a height as if at children playing a game No longer holding on Here we conclude What does solitude offer you It helps you see your true nature and rediscover your authentic self It helps you accumulate energy and nourish your spirit It helps you cultivate unwavering determination as steadfast as a mountain It enhances wisdom and fills the marrow of your brain with vitality Ultimately it achieves a grand vision teaching you to think at a higher level These five principles are priceless treasures of life But someone is bound to ask I understand the principle I believe it yet whenever I'm alone I panic When still the mind races with random thoughts—what should I do Is there a specific method to learn how to enjoy solitude Isn't it better than just enduring loneliness A very good question Reading history isn't about locking yourself in a dark room That's not cultivation But it is punishment Reading history must be enjoyment a living art requiring practice step by step Today I am speaking to you e three-step method for reading history high-quality historical reading The three steps are like three rungs on a ladder advancing gradually step by step The first step in reading history It's not about cultivating the mind right away but rather cultivating the body first Many people even when alone begin to lose their mental clarity and feel anxious Due to blocked meridians and stagnant qi and blood the body feels uncomfortable making it impossible for the mind to settle Tong Mei said "When the body is at peace the Dao naturally manifests " If the body is restless the great Dao will be hard to attain The first principle is called From today onward dedicate at least 30 minutes each day solely for yourself—whether in the early morning or before bed Find a firm chair or sit cross-legged on the mat First pay attention to your posture Sit only one-third of the way forward on the chair Thus the natural angle of the thigh bends inward The spine will naturally straighten to maintain balance If you lie flat on a soft sofa That is dispersing qi the act of scattering and grinding But when you stand upright that is gathering qi stabilizing and invigorating yang energy Dou Mei said The back spine is where the Du Meridian passes through the sea of yang energies When you stand upright yang energy ascends along the Du Meridian The natural spirit is revitalized The second point is to relax your shoulders let them drop don 't tense up or hunch them tightly Shoulders loose and relaxed Then the fresh air naturally sinks and spreads out The third point is visual fixation: gently close your eyes or slightly lower your eyelids and softly gaze downward toward the tip of your nose called licking water This method produces inward reflective effectiveness The eyes are the light of the torch when they do not gaze outward the spiritual light naturally licks inward No more wandering thoughts When you hold that posture still you may initially feel tired in some areas numb in others Itched intensely making it very hard to stay still You must endure it This is long-standing stagnation of qi and blood now surging into the site of the illness It is the body's self-regulating and self-healing nature This is the first level of the Inner Path using the body's mirror-like quality to contain the flow of energy Just sit still for 15 minutes completely motionless and your vital energy will begin to consolidate The initial step in solitary cultivation is self-cultivation using the golden rooster sitting meditation to stabilize the body and seal the kidney energy But sitting still with the body Just at the very first step of a long journey Many people will soon face a major challenge ahead—panic Mind stays still but thoughts in head dart about like eels in hot oil leaping uncontrollably One moment worrying about tomorrow's rent wondering whether the other person had glanced at them wondering whether they were dissatisfied with them In Traditional Chinese Medicine the heart houses the spirit the lungs house the soul The liver stores spirit the spleen stores thought Mental agitation arises from disordered qi when qi is chaotic the spirit disperses Therefore the second step of internal alchemy is to use breath to regulate the body's vital energy and gather scattered spirit This practice is known as "breath meditation " also a form of deep meditative breathing in Daoism Based on the posture of sitting upright Shift your attention from the chaotic mind down to the lower abdomen the exact location of the dantian three inches below the navel The first step is to inhale deeply through the nose not through the mouth The mouth is for eating while the nose is connected to the lungs and organs Imagine the belly as an old tank expanding with each breath The key point is that the belly expands not the chest Many people breathe shallowly into their chests—that's anxious breathing We need deep long slow and even breathing The concept of drawing the breath deep down as far as the soles of the feet Zhuangzi said "The true person's breath reaches the heels " Ordinary people breathe only up to the throat and no further The enlightened person breathes deeply all the way down to the soles of the feet establishing a solid foundation The second step is to exhale slowly through the nose imagining the abdomen sinking inward like a pool shrinking down or a deflating balloon Push out all the trapped air resentment anxiety and emotional clutter Exhale with that long breath Step three is counting the breaths to prevent the mind from wandering too far Inhale silently counting one exhale counting two count up to ten and then start over If you accidentally count wrong or lose focus Just recognize and begin again without blame This step is extremely important—it's physical-level mind-body therapy Lung governs the dispersion of qi which belongs to metal Kidneys govern the reception of qi which belongs to water Deep prolonged breathing promotes the mutual generation of metal and water The lungs draw pure air down from the heavens nourishing the kidneys below Inhale and draw energy to the dantian This activates the nervous system the sympathetic nervous system and shifts you from a state of fight It fled into a state of relaxation and recovery Your palms will grow warm your soles will gradually heat up and even the Mingmen area at the back of your lower spine will feel warm This is yang energy The spark of life ignites dispelling cold and dampness At this moment the poison no longer brings loneliness but instead become immersed in a profound spiritual experience You feel an unprecedented sense of clarity as if your entire being opens up breathing in the energy of heaven and earth When the body is at ease breathing is smooth and the final step is cultivating the mind This is the essence of solitary practice seeing clearly one's true nature and enhance intelligence At this moment the mind is alert and calm like a mirror freshly wiped clean free from dust Seize this precious moment to deeply reflect within yourself This practice is known as "tam vấn tu tâm " Once breathing had stabilized he seriously asked himself three questions The first one: Who am I really Strip away social status and titles You are no longer a manager or director Shed your family identity you are no longer a father or mother Let go of others' judgments You are no longer the good person or the villain they claim you are So who is the life breathing and feeling right now You will come to see yourself stripped bare That kind of person doesn't need much material wealth or vanity to prove anything Such a person is inherently complete and fully fulfilled You inherently possess infinite value needing to please no one You are incredibly precious in and of yourself Question two is deep within your heart what do you truly desire Not what society advertises You're told you must buy a house and a car Not because your parents expect you to achieve fame and fortune Not because you see others having something Then you too desire that thing And what is the most fundamental and instinctive longing from the very core of your soul It might just be a healthy body It might just be a little time—freedom for the soul It might simply be peace and quiet sitting down to a warm meal with family just like the director who was suddenly possessed as we mentioned above After a great ordeal in the solitude she suddenly awakened to realize that what she had recklessly pursued was never truly what her heart desired Question three is: How should I live the rest of my life If life is finite if impermanence can come at any moment If in the end I must still leave this world alone how should I live in the days ahead so as not to waste them I continue to go with the flow through days and months or mustering the courage to do truly meaningful things for myself and for others These fundamental questions could never arise amid the clatter of glasses at a lively gathering or the buzz of a festive dinner Only in a moment of stillness of profound introspection the answer belongs solely to you naturally arises from the depths of your heart That is your destiny When you find your destiny You will have unwavering determination No matter how chaotic the outside world becomes no matter what others say you will always know where you are headed And what to do This is the principle of gentle persistence which leads to calmness and calmness leads to peace By cultivating energy one attains energy by attaining energy one gains power After these three steps of practice we elevate our level of awareness to the next stage What is the highest level of solitude It is a phrase from the I Ching Many people hearing the term "quần long vô thủ" immediately assume it means chaos leaderless like scattered sand—completely wrong To those who understand the principles of destiny and fate this is great fortune and supreme blessing—the highest境界 of life The meaning of this statement is that each drago Each individual through ceaseless cultivation achieves perfect self- sufficiency everyone can stand on their own with a heart that is fully complete and self-govern with utmost discipline When each person becomes a dragon awakening to their true nature they govern themselves well and operate in harmony with the natural order Do we still need an external leader to issue commands and direct operations No we don't Each person fulfilling their duties well and coordinating harmoniously naturally forms a unified whole That is the most perfect state of harmony When you transcend the ordinary through relentless cultivation transforming from within outward into a true dragon You no longer depend on others' recognition or praise to prove your worth You no longer need to seek validation from outside sources You don't need喧嚣 to fill the emptiness for your inner self is already a boundless spring You are the king of yourself the high priest of your own life When such a person gathers they become a warm flame illuminating others When scattered they become solitary stars twinkling in the sky Among the crowd they could blend into the mundane glow Lived harmoniously without ostentation— that is the hidden wisdom of Yüan Alone they can stand at the peak of heaven and earth drawing nourishment from solitude Creating miracles of life—this is the transcendent demeanor of a dragon soaring in the heavens the dragon's virtue bending and flexing with the times embodying a perfectly fulfilled existence If you're feeling lonely sincerely congratulate yourself for you're going through the most important and valuable transformation of your life You've transformed from a mere sheep that only knew to follow the dragon's path into a dragon capable of roaming the heavens alone Chaos is the opiate for Fan Fu solitude is the forge for Saint Xian exhaustion is the fate of the ordinary Accumulation is the capital of those who see far ahead solitude is the finest private school the heavens have arranged for you It shuts the outer door of desire yet opens the inner door of awakening it gives you the chance to pause to mend a body worn thin from overuse Purify your soul heavy with earthly dust from today onward cherish your moments of solitude when you can simply sit in stillness alone Doing nothing yet the heart remains full as if warm light radiates from within means you have already won—you have reclaimed control over your life regain mastery over your mind reclaim the fundamental foundation to secure your own destiny in this complex world I hope each person becomes A person of uncommon stature dares to embrace solitude knows how to relish it and skillfully harnesses it during those quiet reflective moments Tu Cheng Jin Dan the radiant founder forged an upright spirit may all of you cultivate inner tranquility a keen and subtle mind and enjoy peace prosperity and good fortune Live a carefree life with self-reliance if you haven't subscribed to the channel yet please click the subscribe button on the right to connect with us more 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