7 Signs You're More Attractive Than You Think

First up on the list, you are in a position of authority. Now, an extreme example of this is JFK, 35th President. That guy had no problem with the ladies in Marilyn Monroe in the White House. Yeah, the stories, they're probably real. But, let's face it, most of us aren't Presidents or CEOs and to use that power to get some, yeah, that could be unethical. It was Henry Kissinger that said, power is the ultimate aphrodisiac. Now, what's interesting as you study this more is it's not just women that are attracted to men in positions of authority. This just happens to be the majority of the scenarios. No. Men are also more attracted to and will follow other men who are in these positions of authority. When I say authority, it doesn't have to be straight up line, you know, in the same company. This guy could work for another company. It could be that you actually are in a volunteer position, but you have high visibility. An example of this from my past, so I was an altar boy. Obviously, if you're familiar with the Catholic Church, you know that's not a position of authority, but it is high visibility. And, yeah, I'm 16 years old up there, I'm having 18-year-old women approach me and interested in finding out who I am. Why? Because I've got this position or I'm right next to the authority and I had high visibility. So, where in your life are you in authority? Where do you have high visibility? Do this and all of a sudden, yeah, you could be a lot more attractive. The next time you're more attractive than you think, people value your opinion. So, how does this work? Well, simply put, people value the opinions of those that they find more attractive. In the book, Beauty Pace, economist Daniel Hamermesh talked about how in the workplace oftentimes we defer to the opinion of the person that we find to be attractive. Attractive people are perceived to be more beautiful. Beautiful people are assumed to be successful. Successful people are assumed to have strong solid opinions. Now, what's interesting about this for guys, again, it's not so much about the physical attractiveness, but also your position, the way that you dress, the way that you behave. And on top of all that, if you're a subject matter expertise, you could also be perceived by many people as attractive because you're an authority in that field. Now, this obviously has limits. Being an expert in magic the gathering is only going to do so much for you. Next up, let's talk about affiliation. So, any affiliation is better than no affiliation. Basically, being a lone wolf walking into a bar by yourself, guess what? You are perceived as an unknown. No, there isn't anyone around you that is saying, this guy is good to go. You walk in with a group of three people, a group of five people, all of a sudden your attraction level shoots up. You walk in maybe with your sister, nobody knows it's your sister, they just see that, hey, you're with this attractive woman. Guess what? Your status has shot up because you're with a woman and other women see this and they say, hey, that guy has been approved by women and they're more interested. You see how this works? Basically, your association the people you're around can affect your attractiveness levels a lot. The next sign you're more attractive than you think, people want to get up close. They want to invade your personal space. Now, here's what's going on. People when they're around attractive people, people that they like, they want to get closer, they want to touch you, they want to – they want to show that, hey, we have a relationship, I actually feel comfortable around you. Now, the reality is a lot of guys are oblivious to this especially when they're doing it to women. Women, on the other hand, they're much more attuned to what's going on and they use this as an indicator that, hey, I like you, I feel comfortable. And they go in and they touch your elbow, touch your shoulder. This right here breaking that touch barrier, very important. The next sign you're more attractive than you think, you're locking eyes with a lot of people. This one may sound obvious, but it's not obvious if you have low confidence and if you're not looking at people in the eye because guess what? There's tons of women out there that have tried to look you in the eye, but you're looking down. You are afraid to make eye contact. My recommendation to you is simply say hello to people. Make eye contact and focus in on just being friendly. Greeting more people. And what you're going to find is because you're greeting more people, you're looking more people into the eye, and all of a sudden you're realizing, wow, she was actually keeping my eye contact, she gave me a smile. Maybe I should actually talk to her. So many guys probably could be, you know, they're having people wanting to make eye contact with them, but they don't have the courage to look them in the eyes. So, practice just greeting people and being friendlier. The next sign you're more attractive than you think, when you give a compliment, people really appreciate it. They're like, wow, that means a lot coming from you. And listen for it. People say this a lot, but some people just say it to be nice. A lot of people say it though and they mean it. Because, hey, if you really know your stuff and you're giving them a compliment on their presentation and this is what you do for a living, they're like, wow, that felt really good coming from you. Or if you know plumbing, you're a master, you know, plumber and you've your own business. And you give a guy you look at his work and you give him a compliment. It's like, wow. Like all of a sudden, your status, your level is up there. And that is something to listen for. When people are telling you this, hey, that meant a lot coming from you, you are viewed as attractive. Now, guys, really quick. A lot of guys make a mistake. They think that just watching a video like this on YouTube is somehow going to make them an expert. Straight up, gents, you have to take this information and put it into action. And one of the best ways to motivate yourself to take action is to put yourself in a group of like-minded warriors taking steps to improve their image, their presence, their presentation. And you can find all of that over at OurCommunityAtSchool.com. Over in our school community, we've got detailed classes, we host challenges, and you can meet and engage with like-minded men taking steps on a daily basis to become their best self. So, gents, instead of saying someday, how about you say day one and join OurCommunity. I'm putting the link down in the description, in the comments, or you can just go directly to school.com slash RMRS. Now, this indicator that you're more attractive than you think isn't always a sure guide, but it can be. And that is people are asking you questions. So, how is this an indicator that you're more attractive? Because when people want somebody to like them, they ask them questions. And a lot of times they ask them easy questions, questions that they feel this person should know, this person is an expert with, this person they value your opinion, they want to talk with you. And one of the easiest ways to start the conversation is just to be asking questions. So, you're speaking with that, you know, beautiful woman and she keeps asking you questions, that is a great sign that she obviously wants things, you know, keep talking here. So, answer the questions and it's like it's a match. Go ahead and throw it back, ask some questions of her. Now, this next sign you're more attractive than you think, this one in particular I found incredibly interesting and that is when you reveal an insecurity, people are shocked. Why? Because when we see attractive people, we think people are at a higher level than us. We are always surprised that this person is human. Yes, I mean it's pretty obvious, but we didn't think that they were dealing with this complex with this issue. And when you reveal this maybe on Facebook, you put it out there to a small group maybe to a larger group, you're giving a presentation and you reveal something. And afterwards, people come up and tell you, you know what? In your Zoom presentation today, you talked about a problem that you were dealing with and I'm dealing with that problem. I never would have imagined that you, the guy that's been running this thing, deal with that same difficulty. The reveal that you are human which you are and nothing wrong with this. I think it's important to actually be open with people, but that right there can be a clear indicator that you're more attractive than you think. That being said, if you need more, guys, of course, I've got you covered with another video here at Real Men Real Style. Yeah, you want to learn how to transform your look, improve your image, boom, right here. Oh, yeah. Did you hear me burp? Sorry about that. It's been a long day.