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Ancient Wisdom greets you all Today we must secure all doors and windows tightly Even the curtains had to be drawn shut Why you ask Because today's topic is too harsh too truthful and perhaps even slightly contrary to common sense The mainstream media out there those so-called psychological experts are always shouting at people to communicate more every single day Making more friends seemingly treating the fear of loneliness as a kind of psychological illness Let me tell you those words may sound reasonable but don't believe a single one of them If you truly believe and entrust your entire life to such senseless chaos you're playing with your own existence Engaging in a chronic self-destruction Today I speak no illusions We will address a significant issue directly affecting the quality of your life determining whether you can depart in peace or not Whether one can retain blessings in old age remains uncertain This theme of life reduces to just two words loneliness But when I speak of loneliness I'm not referring to the kind where no one notices you the desperate pitiful emptiness that most people usually imagine but a state of existence of extraordinary value exceedingly rare almost akin to a divine rank Today's topic is: Those who dare to be alone have the most valuable destinies In today's society just go to the park and take a look go to the market and take a look especially among older people—what do they fear the most It's just the fear of loneliness Even the slightest silence at home sends shivers through me Just the thought of my child not coming home for a weekend makes me feel abandoned Even a single day without exchanging a few words with the neighbors feeling detached from society People commonly believe that being alone is pitiful lacking in blessings It was a sign of utter desolation But let me tell you this notion is completely wrong—so profoundly mistaken that it has become a universal taboo If you wish for a healthy body free from illness and pain even hoping to live a long life and when the crucial moment of birth and death arrives you can depart peacefully and calmly First and foremost you must learn a lesson: knowing how to enjoy solitude From the lofty perspective of the I Ching and traditional Chinese medicine One who can remain calm in solitude possesses the fullest vitality and the most steadfast spirit First let's separate the two characters that make up "solitude" and examine what they truly mean in traditional Chinese medicine Modern people often confuse loneliness with solitude But from the physiological perspective in Traditional Chinese Medicine these two states are as different as heaven and earth—one is paradise the other hell What is loneliness Loneliness is when your heart is broken when your spirit has fled You sit there restless and unsettled As if their behinds were full of thorns Their hands must absolutely be scrolling through their phone back and forth Their eyes must be glued to the TV screen You absolutely must find someone to talk to Why Because your mind cannot settle within your own body It was like a stubborn child disobedient and running out into the open In our minds we spoke of heart courage and spirit When your inner spirit can no longer hold on you'll endlessly reach outward to grasp at things trying to fill the emptiness within That is loneliness When you're in a state of loneliness what's really going on inside your mind Let me tell you it's absolutely terrifying Your inner fire is always burning because you're drawn to pull things from outside in and your desires are stirring As soon as the heart fire stirs it will burn downward consuming your body fluids In the human body there is only so much of this vital fluid That is the innate foundation bestowed upon you by heaven the very thing that keeps you alive You will always be lonely always anxious always longing for companionship so this flame will always burn until your fresh blood is completely burned away When the water recedes the plants can no longer grow without water the fire rises and as the fire burns the tendons are damaged Deficient vital energy when prolonged ultimately leads to depletion of both yin and yang causing complete disorder throughout the five zang and six fu organs Thus loneliness is a chronic poison a slow self-abrasion What then is solitude The solitude I speak of is when your heart is full and your body has returned to its rightful place It means sitting in stillness alone there No need for company no need for a phone no need for TV not even need to read books yet deep down one feels profoundly fulfilled content and joyful Being with oneself is like conversing with a remarkable companion An old friend long unmet In Traditional Chinese Medicine this state is known as internalized spirit illness arises from within When you're in a state of solitude with such high quality your spirit will be restored like a great general returning to his camp Your vital energy is no longer scattered outward but instead returns to nourish your internal organs This is known as gathering energy So pay close attention: loneliness means you're probing for electricity while solitude means you're charging up It is the most advanced method of health cultivation For many years I have conducted clinical observations and encountered countless cancer patients as well as stroke patients I’ve noticed a very common phenomenon but very few doctors are willing to tell you about it Those severely ill especially the previously robust suddenly collapse as do elderly individuals who have only recently retired They developed cancer It's rarely that bodily functions fail first but rather the heart empties first I'll share a real-life example with you Not long ago there was a businessman over sixty years old He handed over the business to his son Back then he was so busy it felt like life or death his phone never stopping always feeling indispensable The first week after retiring he came to see me saying his whole body felt uncomfortable and he couldn't sleep Heart racing with dread could there be something wrong with his heart I noticed his pulse was rising extremely erratic But when I calmed down and took a closer look it turned out there wasn't really anything serious I told him this isn't an illness but he had lost his sense of balance He was used to being surrounded by people used to being needed by others Now suddenly quiet again he cannot face the empty authentic self within himself If you don't overcome this trial of solitude your immune system will soon collapse For the foundation of your life Built entirely on external foundations once the buzz and external attention fade away Inside he collapsed completely Conversely those who truly live long and possess great wisdom— If you observe their countenance you'll sense an aura of refined nobility truly admirable They speak little but their eyes were very steady They rarely joined the commotion yet they had their own arrangements Their energy is drawn inward abundant and rich Thus they can withstand the fog room for five months It can help maintain the vital energy of life Next I will analyze it from a more intricate physiological mechanism to help you understand That's why a person who is alone and self-reliant has the most valuable life This point is extremely important Please raise your hands and listen attentively The human body possesses three treasures: essence energy and spirit These three are the very fuel that sustains your existence in life Each morning when you wake up and just open your eyes the god has already started running out You glance at your phone and the god instantly darts inside When you hear gossip the demon immediately slips into someone else's mouth When you worry about your children the demon follows right behind them For an entire day like this your spirit wanders outside and your energy is constantly drained It's like an oil lamp your spirit is the wick and your breath is the oil You keep turning the wick higher to expose it to more air At first glance the light appears brighter but in reality it's accelerating the rate of oil consumption Eventually the oil runs out and the light goes off Today's society is overflowing with temptations The Buddhist tradition speaks of the six thieves That is the eyes ears nose tongue body and mind They are always like thieves It drains your essence your energy and your body Look at people today even many middle-aged individuals on the subway At the dinner table he idly scrolled through his phone endlessly watching short videos One moment it makes you cry the next it makes you laugh sometimes it stirs you up other times it infuriates you Your emotions rise and fall in sync with someone else's rhythm like riding a rollercoaster You need to understand that Jesting carelessly hurts the heart anger harms the liver worry damages the lungs and excessive thinking harms the spleen Fear damaging your kidneys Just scrolling through videos for an hour is enough to thoroughly ravage your internal organs Your body follows the video and your energy disperses with it By bedtime you try to pull your spirit back in but it won't return having stayed out too long indulging elsewhere As a result you lie awake unable to sleep Many dreams waking up feeling more tired than before sleeping Over time your internal organs never truly rest Like a car that's never been turned off idling forever will eventually wear it out Moreover this depletion occurs silently without a sound by the time you become aware of it illness strikes like a collapsing mountain Being alone is essentially giving your body a chance to shut down pull over and undergo deep maintenance When you cut off external support the door shuts tight keeping the phone far away even dimming the lights down Sitting alone in silence your spirit has nowhere left to go It can only return home back to your body Return to your dantian It's like picking up each bill scattered outside gathering them and putting them into your pocket At this moment Your body will activate an incredibly powerful self-recovery mechanism You'll find your breath naturally becoming deeper and longer No longer shallow shallow breaths in the chest but deep abdominal breathing flowing directly down to the lower丹田 Your heartbeat becomes slow and steady no longer frantic and erratic Your feet gradually warm up—that's a sign of returning qi and blood circulation Your kidney essence begins to slowly flourish o repair the losses incurred during the day This state ancient people referred to as "sitting in oblivion" or "mind fasting " It is the golden time for physical and mental recovery This is why I often advise patients especially those with serious illnesses It's best not to visit others when they're ill nor should you go to see someone who is sick Many people don't understand this thinking that when family or friends are unwell They all went to the hospital together bringing flowers and fruit surrounding the sickbed chatting and laughing asking after everything You think that's concern Honestly it's hastening death The patient was already weakened by depleted qi and blood They poured all their strength into fighting the illness You've all come in such great numbers They had to divide their attention just to welcome you Hearing you talk I forced a smile in reply and their energy instantly drained away It's like a garrison desperately defending the city walls Suddenly you open the gates wide for a mob claiming to be reinforcements but chaos and disorder surged in In the instant upheaval supplies were scattered command structures were shattered Can it still be preserved The best remedy isn't ginseng or deer antler but solitude Leave the patient alone o keep them in a state of near seclusion They redirected their usual energy reserves normally used for external defense entirely toward restoring their body For healthy individuals we're no different each day you need only set aside half an hour to practice being alone to simply sit and be still Not reading books not thinking just sitting there In the next half hour you are practicing fasting mentally This is more effective than any supplement you could take This is a free elixir a healing method bestowed by Heaven upon every individual Next We will examine this issue through the trigrams of the I Ching In the I Ching there is a trigram known as the Gen trigram Mount Cấn is a mountain its meaning symbolizes cessation In this age of upheaval the wisdom of the Qian trigram is the saving remedy Mountains stand solitary No need for other mountains to loom large around it—there it stands alone towering and unyielding Day or night through wind and rain it remains It remains still Because it does not move plants and trees can grow upon it and animals can thrive within it Rain and clouds as well as humanity arise through it It is silent yet brimming with endless vitality It is solitary yet becomes the center upon which all things depend People are the same If you're like the wind drifting across the world connecting with everyone appearing so lively at first glance but in reality you don't have a solid foundation—your energy is scattered and you can't bear the weight of blessings Those who are like mountains on the other hand Contentment with solitude inner strength means their energy is inward -focused Because they hold on their foundation of wealth is preserved Their health is preserved and so is the fortune of their descendants Their lives carry weight and depth like mountains unshaken by wind and rain Steadfast as a mountain Many people enjoy reading fortunes and studying birth charts Let me share a secret with you on how to read physiognomy If you see someone whose gaze is intensely focused sitting there steady as a clock even silent for half a day but you don't feel them dull at all—on the contrary they exude dignity command presence and inspire respect making others hesitate to look down on them This person is undoubtedly fortunate by destiny Even if they don't have money now they will surely achieve great success in the future or enjoy great blessings in old age because their body is a汇聚 of good fortune Their breath was heavy On the other hand if you notice someone with unfocused eyes fidgeting constantly shifting restlessly in their seat and never stopping their mouth Afraid of the cold atmosphere he recklessly searched for a topic to talk about even though this person despite having money now would only have it temporarily because their breath is fleeting they cannot hold on to it That is the principle: deep water flows quietly shallow water makes a loud noise the deeper the water the quieter it runs Next We will conduct a thorough analysis of what is referred to as social communication Generation after generation were taught to get along to make friends to smooth things over As we grow older these ideas are drilled into us even more deeply must gather together to nurture deceit But today I want to pour a bucket of cold water on this illusion Take a look at social gatherings today— nine out of ten are pointless even harmful A group of elderly people gather to drink tea and eat rice what do they talk about Nothing but three topics First boasting Whose son earned how much money What school did your friend's child get admitted to Does hearing that make you feel comfortable If not you'll start comparing yourself feeling jealous and thinking you're worse off than others This emotion immediately disrupts your vital energy causing your qi to become stagnant The liver governs the free flow of qi When qi stagnates all manner of illnesses will arise The second is complaining Children don 't understand The government provides too little pension support The body aches in one place and then another This negative energy spreads like a virus You were feeling fine but after listening to a whole meal of complaints Coming home you feel the whole world has turned gray This is known as emotional resonance Traditional Chinese medicine holds that negative emotions themselves are a form of stagnant energy that can lead to illness Third gossiping Whoever plants infidelity in their home whoever causes bankruptcy whoever constantly spreads rumors—such a person is by nature a purveyor of gossip Just sitting there listening to gossip is itself creating negative karma and depleting your own merit In terms of energy focusing on others' gossip and misfortunes is like attracting low-energy vibrations and chaos drawing close to you Most terrifying of all this kind of communication will create a kind of energy black hole You 'll soon realize that Within that circle you dare not be yourself You put on trendy masks forced to please others Forced to smile Clearly didn't want to drink but out of pride had to clearly didn't want to hear bragging Still had to nod in agreement though it burned That’s what they call drinking oneself to perfection Tong Mei said the younger one’s suffering is harming the liver Out of a desire to fit in out of fear of loneliness you forced yourself to live a life that wasn't truly yours Uterine fibroids breast cancer—everything stems from holding it all in Your emotions have nowhere to go It will find a way out within the body eventually growing into a tumor This is no mere warning but it is a clinical fact undeniable therefore I advise you Especially those over the age of 50 to 55 should start doing subtraction Clean up your contacts remove from your life those who only drain you It only amplifies your emotional distress making you anxious—this isn't accidental but a conscious responsibility toward your own life Your time your energy your vital essence—these are your most precious assets in old age not to be squandered on the wrong people and all the unworthy things Don't fear offending others You're at this stage of life already if you still have to live by reading others' expressions Isn't that just wasting an entire lifetime You should live with the dignity and freedom of your true self True friends are the kind who show up when you need them They'd answer a phone call and come running immediately If there was nothing urgent three years could pass without contact yet still they'd remain in each other's hearts That is truly the gentleman's friendship as pure as water As for relationships that require you to dine together every single day They are all fleeting alliances based on mutual benefit mere bubbles burst at the slightest touch unable to withstand any challenge When you cut away those ineffective relationships you'll suddenly find yourself with a lot of free time Right now you might feel panicked empty inside but that very moment is precisely the turning point of your life You must use this time to build a connection with your own soul Throughout your life you may have lived for your parents for your partner for your children or been busily occupied for half your life Now is the time to turn back take a close look at yourself and be more present with yourself How do you connect It's very simple Previously you lived like a machine driven by work family and your children Now at last you You might even return to being human You could pick up old hobbies you set aside in your youth due to being too busy Perhaps calligraphy It could be painting it could be gardening it could be studying traditional Chinese medicine or divination Even without needing Any special skills Just simply head to Ngũ Hành Sơn take a quiet stroll for a while then go to the Han River bank to watch the sunset or standing on my balcony watching a large tree grow day by day What matters most is that throughout this process You are completely at one with yourself When you immerse yourself in these things you enter a state of mental flow Lost in the passage of time I forgot even the deepest pains in my body In this state the brain releases large amounts of endorphins and dopamine This is the most effective anti-aging technique known to humans far surpassing the effects of injecting any filler substance by an infinite degree It is a nourishing hydrating and joyful renewal from within Spreading outward Furthermore this joy is inherently uplifting independent of anyone else You don't need others to like it You don't need others' praise Joy naturally fills your heart This is precisely what ancient people referred to as serene contentment When you reach this state you will be entirely free from the fear of loneliness You truly become the master of your own life No matter how the winds and rains rage outside they can no longer so easily shake you Inner peace within you as well At this point I feel compelled to share with you a deeply painful truth Our people especially parents Lived their entire life for their children As they grow old what they fear most is being neglected by their children So many elderly people gradually become emotionally demanding She calls her children every day wondering why they haven't come home asking if they' ve forgotten their mother saying she's not well and wondering why they won't come visit In truth you're seeking attention craving recognition and longing for love from your children In this state you are already expending enormous energy dragging yourself into a low and deprived condition From the perspective of energy medicine this is an extremely weak state and one that severely depletes vital energy You turn yourself into a clinging vine The vine tightly wrapped around the tree suffocating it to the point where it couldn't breathe couldn't even move But you if you leave that tree will collapse to the ground and be unable to survive This isn't love but a suffocating symbiosis that harms both parties In life I've met so many elderly women like this—faces marked by sorrow expressions heavy with melancholy plagued by endless illness The only reason is that children don't understand or care about the family I tell them it's not that children lack understanding Yet it was they themselves who made their children afraid to reach out Their love was too heavy too suffocating like water that's too abundant making one want to run away Children also have their own families careers and personal pressures The constant emotional demands you make It will become an unbearable burden in our lives only a parent willing to stand alone truly receives the greatest blessing of one's children Because you are independent you are happy and you take excellent care of yourself When the children are out having fun think of their parents at home happily practicing calligraphy traveling Drinking tea brings inner calm with no worries lingering behind The more they'll want to return because coming back is about relaxing sharing joy not carrying burdens You live in a way that earns your children's admiration and peace of mind—now that's the best example to set You need to become a certain kind of parent Like a lighthouse shining and warming on its own guiding their children back home—not like parents who merely wait Like a black hole draining your energy Your light and warmth come from an abundant source within yourself ot from depleting one's children Therefore always remember this saying Descendants have their own blessings Don't work yourself to the bone for your grandchildren In old age shift your focus back to yourself This is not selfishness but great compassion Only when you live a long life rich free and healthy The children truly feel at ease free from suffocating overprotection or pressure truly able to forge their own path in life You're doing just fine They're finally stable We've discussed the physiology of loneliness the reality of social interaction and the energetic constraints that bind us parent-child relationships But I know deep down many of you still feel uncertain still think that while I understand the principles perfectly I just can't put them into practice The moment I'm alone I get scared—just being at home at night terrifies me What should I do Don't worry—this is exactly what I want to teach you today Knowing something but being unable to act on it is no different than not knowing at all We must not only understand the principle but also master the method In the second half of this video I'll give you the essential content so we can dive into Transform the solitary transformation Turn what once terrified you like a demon into your healer extending your lifespan and could even become your guardian deity transforming your life within the next twenty years We will discuss the three most crucial practical aspects First is how to transcend the gate of life and death at the age of 55 Second is the secret about the hidden loneliness embedded in bedroom feng shui The third principle is the rule of survival within the movement of the death and fire star These three aspects Closely interconnected none can be missing please all sit稳 and let us begin The truly essential things First of all let's talk about the ten most dangerous years of a person's life That is the stage from 55 to 65 years old These ten years mark a major turning point in life a crucial period for the transformation of both body and destiny I've examined thousands of fate charts and discovered a pattern explaining why people use others—many individuals by nature strong and robust Once past the age of fifty-five it's as if that seemingly sturdy bridge suddenly collapses or a major illness is detected or a family tragedy occurs or a person's personality completely changes becoming gloomy and withdrawn Overripe This is absolutely no coincidence because these ten years mark the transitional season of the human body shifting from the growth of summer to the gathering harvest of autumn and prepare for the long winter ahead According to the Book of Changes before the age of 55 you walk the path of responsibility constantly striving for self-reliance and perseverance risking everything to release energy outward like the blazing scorching heat of summer but around the age of fifty-five the natural order shifted You must prepare for autumn even brace for winter Your body's functions especially kidney qi meaning the battery capacity of your innate foundation It began to decline noticeably Like a car that's driven hundreds of thousands of kilometers the engine had reached its time It needs major repairs and maintenance so you can no longer treat it like a brand-new vehicle and ride it hard At this stage What is the most frightening thing Most frightening of all it's you still forcing yourself to carry on still searching outside for answers refusing to acknowledge the signals your body is sending you refusing to confront the natural cycle of life Many older adults especially those who have just retired There's a vast emptiness within To prove they're still young not yet old and still valuable they boldly join every kind of gathering Traveling dancing and social drinking—these are what they believe living authentically means a vibrant old age I'm telling everyone this is called reflective aura This is known as life force depletion You're hiding the energy portion must nurture its roots yet forced to divert energy to its branches to produce one final burst of blossoms As a result the foundation becomes unstable and when winter arrives the entire tree may freeze to death In Traditional Chinese Medicine after the age of 55 The most important thing we need to do is just one word: hide Look at the bear —during winter it hibernates You look at the tree in winter leaves must retreat completely gathering all their nutrients back to the roots If a tree recklessly sprouts leaves and blooms in winter it will surely wither and die next year This is the natural law of heaven How could humans be an exception Solitude is humanity's hibernation When you stand before this 55-year threshold daring to cut down on communication daring to decline meaningless parties daring to quietly stay home alone You are diligently refining the hidden character Gather all scattered vital energy and blood flowing outward drawing it back in storing it in the kidneys storing it in the bone marrow Only like this can your body successfully transition steadily from middle age to old age allowing it to accumulate sufficient capital for the next 20 years even up to 30 years ahead I know a man who is a big boss That year at 58 he handed over the business to his son But he couldn't stay still gathering for meals and drinks every day—drinking with one group today and another tomorrow Even without drinking alcohol he still engages in daily grandiose and impassioned discourse his emotions easily stirred He felt he was living a very glamorous life with friends everywhere What about the outcome Just two months after turning 60 he suffered a stroke He collapsed and can now only sit in a wheelchair his speech is no longer clear Those once lively friends gradually stopped coming as well He had poured out every bit of his energy yet managed to retain none of it The future in old age is truly something to worry about Then there's another acquaintance a retired schoolteacher ordinary in every way What did he do after retiring He locked himself in his study 整理ing through old notes and writing his memoirs Sometimes I go to the quiet park to exercise Old friends invited him for a drink and to sing but he declined each time saying he was preparing his lesson in reality he wasn’t preparing anything at all He's just enjoying being alone Even when the children want to come home on weekends he sometimes says "Go ahead and focus on your own things—don't feel you have to come back every week " He needs peace and quiet Look at this old man—does he have a fan Everyone says he's lonely but now he's 85 years old With sharp hearing and keen eyesight moving nimbly he outshines nearly everyone in his senior class always cheerful every single day Smiling endlessly All the grandchildren especially love visiting him because that big boss when he needed to hide the most would instead choose to run As a result the air disperses and the person weakens When a teacher returns to natural principles 顺应 the season of autumn energy gathers and the spirit becomes stable A person is burning through accumulated losses Someone is currently accumulating great losses Ten twenty years pass by and fate naturally becomes entirely different So if you're over fifty-five listen to this advice: trim down your contacts list Make your own schedule Don' t fear others saying you're isolated don't fear them saying you're unfriendly At this age Solitude is your greatest elixir prosperity your most refined art of living Others' opinions cannot be carried into the grave But your health and well-being will accompany you throughout the final journey Whatever burdens you carry you must clearly discern their weight Next I'd like to address a topic that's even more sensitive yet absolutely life-saving: bedroom feng shui and sleeping separately I know that expressing this viewpoint might draw harsh criticism from many people who will say I'm undermining family harmony But today the door is closed I'm telling you the truth I'm not afraid of getting scolded If you want to grow old with a healthy body and if you want your life partner to live a long life too then after the age of 60 The best couples should sleep in separate rooms or on separate beds Hearing this may sound unfeeling but the underlying energy principles are profoundly deep This has nothing to do with positive or negative emotions but rather with energy fields Each of us has a protective energy field—known in Traditional Chinese Medicine as wei qi When you're active during the day this protective energy resides on the surface of the body Used to prevent external invasion At night when sleeping the defensive energy must retreat inward to nourish the internal organs This is when the body's defenses are at their weakest and precisely when it needs the purest and quietest environment possible If you are young with abundant vital energy it's like two powerful flames resting side by side—this is the harmonious union of yin and yang They can supplement and harmonize with each other But in old age everyone's vital energy and blood deteriorate and their body's energy fields become chaotic Even more so each person carries different kinds of energy-related ailments One area aches another becomes blocked Try to imagine two old radios Poor contact when placed together causes a slight frequency shift producing a hissing noise Two people sleeping together Especially the elderly with weak vital energy their life force and energy fields will become increasingly entangled and disturbed The one beside you waits for you your god startles once you yawn your breath catches for a beat In the middle of the night going to the bathroom and opening and closing the door causes a slight release of your yang energy Throughout the night Your spirit has been disturbed dozens of times Completely unable to settle unable to enter deep restful sleep Over time the sleep quality of both deteriorated they both got insufficient rest liver fire became excessive and their temperaments grew worse The body likewise weakens accordingly Moreover the deeper principle is that sleep in solitude is pure yang cultivation When you sleep alone in a relatively enclosed and quiet room your energy field will gradually expand enveloping the entire room forming a stable energy barrier uniquely yours Within this barrier only your own frequency exists No interference The body enters a state of deep rest with extremely slow breathing and a stable heartbeat Physical exhaustion reaches its lowest level recovery effectiveness reaches its peak The quality of this sleep is exceptionally high Sleeping for three hours is equivalent to five or six hours of undisturbed sleep I 've met many elderly couples Because these so-called old married couple insisted on keeping each other company they stubbornly sat together on a bed and as a result the man's coughing woke his wife up and stirred awake as the provincial official Every morning they both had dark circles under their eyes blaming each other their health steadily declining The quality of vital energy continues to deteriorate Not only has emotional connection failed to improve but due to chronic sleep deprivation and growing resentment tensions have escalated On the other hand elderly couples who have retired choose to sleep in separate rooms spending their days eating meals together chatting and watching TV Even holding hands while strolling through the park their affection was truly strong—there was never an end to what they could talk about But at night we wish each other a good sleep then each returns to their own room to rest The next morning we meet again feeling refreshed and alert Smiling brightly you find the other person equally pleasing to the eye That is true companionship That is genuine lifelong friendship Giving each other space is what allows you to be together more harmoniously and only by ensuring both of you get sufficient rest can you truly share a meaningful journey So don't assume that sleeping in separate rooms means a lack of affection You just don't understand physiology or feng shui Still don't understand energy Leave those lonely nights to yourself It's not indifference but the best way to recharge For both of them The deepest relationships are precisely like that True wisdom and courage are what modern elderly couples should truly possess After discussing rest and sleep we'll focus on the specific method for summoning the spirit This is the crucial step to turn theory into practice Many people have told me they too want to embrace solitude to find peace and quiet again but couldn't manage it As soon as they sat down their thoughts raced like a string of lanterns now dwelling on their child's achievements Sometimes he thought about tomorrow's delivery price other times he recalled events from twenty years ago and who still owed him money The more he thought the more unsettled he became What should I do It's because your spirit has grown accustomed to flying freely has become wild and can no longer be brought back You'll need to apply a little effort to bring it back which means practicing —just like exercising Your mind also needs to be trained I teach people a movement that's incredibly simple yet remarkably powerful This exercise requires no lotus position no chanting not even closing your eyes—perfectly suited for the average person We practice constantly wherever we are This method is called listening to the breath of the skin Alright now everyone try this right away Shift your full attention from your mind to your skin Choose any spot you like For example the palm of your hand or your cheek Simply remain still and focus on that patch of skin feeling the flow of air touching it bringing a cool sensation feel the very slight friction of the clothing Don't think at all—just feel When you focus your attention on a specific area of skin something magical happens You'll find your habitual mental preoccupations—matters of money stocks children—suddenly come to a halt or fade significantly Why Because the mind cannot do two things at once Your body has been forced by you to be pulled out of the chaotic stream of thought Return to the feeling of your body right here right now It's like grabbing a child who's running around wildly and pulling them back beside you Next gently expand that sensation becoming aware of your entire body's skin Feel yourself sitting on the chair As you make contact with the seat feel the pressure and support Sense your feet resting on the floor grounded and resilient Feels incredibly light underfoot Feel the air gliding softly across the back of your hand as if being gently swept slowly and smoothly Do not judge Feel each part of your body In this process the most important thing is Don't analyze don 't ponder why—just simply feel be a pure experiencer Just keep going for three minutes —only three minutes—and you' ll feel a warm sensation rising up from the soles of your feet or suddenly an abundance of saliva poured into her mouth In her mind this was known as "golden jade nectar " a highly珍贵 saliva It is the result of the convergence of heart and kidney energies the subtle interplay of water and fire Absolutely do not pull it out Divide it into three parts and swallow slowly using your intention to guide it straight to the dantian This is more nourishing than any other supplement When saliva appears it signifies your spirit has returned kidney energy has been activated and yin and yang begin to ignite You have moved from a state of agitation and turmoil into one of nurturing and restoration This is called gathering the spirit This is where the enjoyment of solitude begins No need to practice for long each day Just three minutes upon waking in the morning and three minutes before sleeping at night or whenever you feel frustrated uncomfortable loneliness stop and do the exercise Listen to this skin You'll realize loneliness is no longer a void you flee from but a hot spring brimming with energy a place where you can soak in complete comfort to the point that you don't want to step out You'll start looking forward to this time that's entirely your own Finally and most dramatically the highlight of this lesson let's shift our gaze far ahead toward the year 2044 at is the transformative fire of departure mentioned in the Book of Changes—directly relating to your fortune and health In the next 20 years it will be extremely important Why must I so passionately speak to you about solitude at this very moment Because the cosmic tide has shifted The great energy of heaven and earth has shifted Starting in 2024 we have officially entered the lower epoch of transformation at is the age of chaos will last for twenty years Chaos represents fire wood the heart civilization and electronics At the same time it also represents separation and emptiness Look at the image of the Li trigram: two yang lines above and below with a single yin line in the middle This is known as external dependency also referred to as reliance This hexagram indicates that over the next twenty years the outside world will be incredibly vibrant and dazzling a kaleidoscope of endless colors and possibilities science and technology will reach a level you can hardly imagine Virtual reality artificial intelligence A barrage of auditory visual and electronic stimuli will overwhelm you This fire will burn fiercely intensely intense Explosive information explosive visual stimulation plenty of opportunities to judge by appearance But the core is emptiness is illusion What does that mean It means that beneath the surface of prosperity the human heart will be emptier than ever before Hasty and restless separation ensues People are dazzled and drawn in by external distractions while losing touch with their inner foundation and a sense of fullness You will find depression anxiety and mental instability becoming as common as the flu is today Even many will be unable to endure the scorching heat of this flame overwhelmed by constant information bombardment and competitive pressure His spirit broken his body shattered he even descended into despair That is the bright side of the flower of fate In an era of outward heat and inner emptiness a poisonous flower so openly sincere— who could possibly survive Those who can thrive are not only not scorched by the trials but can even seize this opportunity to make their lives shine even brighter There is only one kind of person: the one who realizes the emptiness at the center One who understands humility also understands solitude and grasps the emptiness within the cup This emptiness is not mere void but a profound presence but it is humility a flexible emptiness 包容 and profound inner stillness Vast beyond measure for only when you embrace solitude can you shut the door against the endless noise of the world Keep within your heart a cool serene space Only then will you not be consumed by the fierce flames of external circumstances On the contrary you can also harness the energy of this fire element to illuminate your own life You transform yourself into a lamp with inherent oil and a stable wick not merely a bundle of dry grass ignited from outside and burning into ashes The Book of Changes states that fire can only burn steadily and emit light when it has something to cling to What is mọc Courage is your foundation your vitality your inner cultivation and inner strength Just as fire burns brighter with a hollow center so too does courage thrive in openness This illusory mind is precisely the hidden yin at the center of the Changing Hexagram representing the quiet stillness within If you rush about aimlessly on the outside you're losing your sense of direction chasing after fleeting distractions getting caught up in every whirlwind of competition and thus turning yourself into Dry wood left to burn completely Loneliness is what brings you back to the state of wood back to the state of the root Nourish the inner water source strengthening your foundational essence so you have sufficient vitality to receive and transform the fiery celestial energy Not only health but wealth and achievements are likewise affected During the recent Earth element era that is 20 years ago You can rely on mass support rely on embracing collective efforts rely on real estate investment to drive growth That is the nature of the land Heavy and dense gathering together But entering the era of fire destiny the logic of wealth has transformed The essence of fire is light beauty and culture Ideas and rapid dissemination The wealth of the future belongs to those with a unique inner spirit original creativity with profound thought not following the crowd capable of independent and creative thinking Fire energy also represents technology the internet and the visual arts Yet those who remain at the pinnacle forever are always the creators with independent spirit and profound thought Look around—great artists truly revered great writers The meticulous artisans the scholars with original insights who among them is not a master who can endure solitude Who among us hasn't through countless solitary nights and days of quiet dedication ultimately created timeless masterpieces and profound ideas for the world Their value in the Fire Era will be amplified to the utmost degree as reputation and dissemination will spread vigorously In the fire of solitary cultivation solitude is your greatest productivity Solitude is your money-printing machine Only in solitude can you think deeply connect with higher wisdom and create true value 独一无二 Solitude forges your irreplaceable character If you're someone who only follows trends ey echo whatever others say can't survive outside the crowd unable to think or act independently —then in the next 20 years You were destined to be the bottom layer the one harvested Because your body is scattered your wisdom blocked You can only rise and fall with the tide never becoming the master of the wave itself Those who dare to be alone In the solitude that awakens the mind thoughts stir deeply and higher intuition is received They see opportunities others don't realizing truths others fail to grasp They don't need to chase money Money will naturally come to them Because wealth in the fire element is drawn to you not pursued the light and energy field you naturally em It will naturally attract resources and channel them accordingly You are like a quiet mountain naturally drawing clouds to gather and forests to flourish around you So you Don't view loneliness as an illness anymore Don't look at others forming groups while you're alone and start pitying yourself You must completely reverse this mistaken belief You must exhale a breath of spirit A spirit that intoxicates everyone I alone remain清醒 A resolve that stands firm unshaken You must tell yourself that I don't fit in because this crane refuses to stand beside the chickens I long to soar in the open sky of my own Tell yourself: I am lonely because Heaven is protecting me shielding me from the murky currents of worldly affairs And the turmoil that pollutes grant me a peaceful sanctuary to cultivate myself and grow You should tell yourself that I enjoy solitude because I am currently building up the strongest energy for my future great phase Sharpening the sharpest blade of all I am cultivating myself not squandering my life Starting tonight try skipping the party—going is fine but not going is fine too Try turning off the TV To enjoy a quiet evening at home Try discussing seriously with your partner about sleeping in separate beds or even separate rooms for one night and see how it goes Experience the high-quality solitude of sleep Try spending a few minutes each day doing nothing at all just listen to the breath of the skin listen to the rhythm of your own heartbeat feel the subtle shifts within the body This process may initially feel unfamiliar and perhaps even empty but please be patient Like pushing open a door that had never been opened in years at first it took some effort but the view beyond the door Absolutely worth every effort you've made When you walk through the dark tunnel of loneliness you will discover at the exit a dazzling starry sky an endless inner treasury a completely new self powerful Without a hundred illnesses there is no wisdom You will realize you no longer fear growing old nor do you fear adversity Because you already have anchor within your heart your life has a solid foundation This is truly the greatest gift life can offer but today I want to share with you It is the noble quality of solitude This precious gift of solitude ot from external circumstances or status but from a deep inner strength and clarity within you It is precisely this that only then can your life truly become stable fulfilling and dignified Today's message f you can catch even just a few words and dare to put them into practice I believe that in twenty years' time as long as you still have a vibrant spirit clear eyes a harmonious family and a contented heart you will look back one day and thank this moment thank the harshness that forced you to close the door and face yourself and with the law of life and death You will thank yourself for making a courageous decision today Well then the celestial secrets cannot be revealed in full The essential principles and methods have already been entrusted to you The rest is for you to realize cultivate and practice on your own Your life is yours Your journey is yours Prosperity is also yours The path lies right beneath your feet Begin by embracing the first precious moment of quiet solitude onight That concludes today's video May everyone be blessed to 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