Anne Hathaway on International Women's Day

Anne Hathaway
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President of the General Assembly, United Nations, UN Deputy Secretary General, Executive Director, UN Women,
Distinguished Ladies and Gentlemen,
When I was a very young person, I began my career as an actress.
Whenever my mother wasn't free to drive me into Manhattan for auditions,
I would take the train from suburban New Jersey and meet my father,
who would have left his desk at the law office where he worked,
and we would meet under the upper platform arrival and departure sign in Penn Station.
We would then get on the subway together,
and when we surfaced, he would ask me,
Which way is north?
I wasn't very good at finding north in the beginning,
but I auditioned a fair amount, and so my dad kept asking me,
Which way is north?
Over time, I got better at finding it.
I was struck by that memory yesterday while boarding the plane to come here.
Not just by how far my life has come since then,
but by how meaningful that seemingly small lesson has been.
When I was still a child, my father developed my sense of direction,
and now, as an adult, I trust my ability to navigate space.
My father helped give me the confidence to guide myself through the world.
In late March last year, 2016, I became a parent for the first time.
I remember the indescribable and, as I understand it, pretty universal experience
of holding my weak old son and feeling my priorities change on a cellular level.
I remember I experienced a shift in consciousness
that gave me the ability to maintain my love of career
and also cherish something else, someone else, so much, much more.
Like so many parents, I wondered how I was going to balance my work
with my new role as a parent, and in that moment,
I remember that the statistic for the U.S.'s policy on maternity leave
flashed in my mind.
American women are currently entitled to 12 weeks unpaid leave.
American men are entitled to nothing.
That information landed differently for me
when one week after my son's birth, I could barely walk.
That information landed differently when I was getting to know a human
who was completely dependent on my husband and I for everything,
when I was dependent on my husband for most things,
and when we were relearning everything we thought we knew
about our family and our relationship.
It landed differently.
Somehow, we, and every American parent,
were expected to be back to normal in under three months without income?
I remember thinking to myself,
if the practical reality of pregnancy is another mouth to feed in your home,
and America is a country where most people are living paycheck to paycheck,
how does 12 weeks unpaid leave economically work?
The truth is, for too many people, it doesn't.
One in four American women go back to work two weeks after giving birth
because they can't afford to take off any more time than that.
That's 25% of American women.
Equally disturbing, women who can afford to take a full 12 weeks often don't,
because it will mean incurring a motherhood penalty,
meaning they will be perceived as less dedicated to their job
and will be passed over for promotions and other career advancement.
In my own household, my mother had to choose between a career
and raising three children,
a choice that left her unpaid and underappreciated as a homemaker,
because there just wasn't support for both paths.
The memory of being in the city with my dad is a particularly meaningful one,
since he was the sole breadwinner in our house,
and my brothers and my time with him was always limited by how much he had to work.
And we were an incredibly privileged family.
Our hardships were the stuff of other families' dreams.
The deeper into the issue of paid parental leave I go,
the clearer I see the connection between persisting barriers
to women's full equality and empowerment
and the need to redefine and in some cases destigmatize men's roles as caregivers.
In other words, in order to liberate women, we need to liberate men.
The assumption and common practice that women and girls
look after the home and the family is a stubborn and very real stereotype
that not only discriminates against women,
but limits men's participation and connection within the family and society.
These limitations have broad-ranging and significant effects
for them and for the children.
We know this.
So why do we continue to undervalue fathers and overburden mothers?
Paid parental leave is not about taking days off work.
It's about creating the freedom to define roles,
to choose how to invest time and to establish new positive cycles of behavior.
Companies that have offered paid parental leave for employees
have reported improved employee retention,
reduced absenteeism and training costs,
and boosted productivity and morale.
Far from not being able to afford to have paid parental leave,
it seems we can't afford not to.
In fact, a study in Sweden showed that for every month fathers took paternity leave,
the mother's income increased by 6.7%.
That's 6.7% more economic freedom for the whole family.
Data from the International Men and Gender Equality Survey
shows that most fathers report that they would work less
if it meant that they could spend more time with their children.
And picking up on the thread that the Prime Minister mentioned,
I'd like to ask how many of us here today saw our dads enough growing up?
How many of you dads here see your kids enough now?
We need to help each other if we are going to grow.
Along with UN Women, I am issuing a call to action for countries,
companies and institutions globally to step up
and become champions for paid parental leave.
In 2013, provisions for paid parental leave were in only 66 countries
out of 190 UN member states.
I look forward to beginning with the UN itself,
which has not yet achieved parity,
and whose paid parental leave policies are currently up for review.
Oh, you're going to see a lot of me.
Let us lead by example in creating a world in which women and men
are not economically punished for wanting to be parents.
I don't mean to imply that you need to have children
to care about and benefit from this issue.
Whether or not you have or want kids,
you will benefit by living in a more evolved world
with policies not based on gender.
We all benefit from living in a more compassionate time
where our needs do not make us weak.
They make us fully human.
Maternity leave or any workplace policy based on gender
can, at this moment in history, only ever be a gilded cage.
Though it was created to make life easier for women,
we now know it creates a perception of women
as being inconvenient to the workplace.
We now know it chains men to an emotionally limited path,
and it cannot, by definition, serve the reality of a world
in which there is more than one type of family.
Because in the modern world, some families have two daddies.
How exactly does maternity leave serve them?
Today, on International Women's Day,
I would like to thank all of those who went before
in creating our current policies.
Let us honour them and build upon what they started
by shifting our language and, therefore, our consciousness
away from gender and towards opportunity.
Let us honour our own parents' sacrifice
by creating a path for a more fair, farther-reaching truth
to define all of our lives, especially the lives of our children.
Because paid parental leave does more than give more time
for parents to spend with their kids.
It changes the story of what children observe
and will, from themselves, imagine possible.
I see cause for hope.
In my own country, the United States,
currently the only high-income country in the world
without paid maternity, let alone parental leave,
great work has begun in the states of New York, California,
New Jersey, Rhode Island, and Washington,
which are currently all implementing paid parental leave programs.
First Lady Chirlane McRae and Mayor Bill de Blasio
have granted paid parental leave to over 20,000 government employees
in New York City.
We can do this.
Bringing about change cannot just be the responsibility
of those who need it most.
We must have the support of those in the highest levels of power
if we are ever to achieve parity.
That is why it's such an honour to recognize and congratulate
pioneers of paid parental leave like the global company Danone.
Today, I am proud to announce Danone Global CEO Emmanuel Faber
as our inaugural HeForShe thematic champion for paid parental leave.
As part of this announcement, Danone will implement a global,
18 weeks, gender neutral, paid parental leave policy
for the company's 100,000 employees by the year 2020.
Monsieur Faber, when Ambassador Emma Watson delivered
her now iconic HeForShe speech and stated that if we live in a world
where men occupy a majority of positions of power,
we need men to believe in the necessity of change,
I believe she was speaking about visionaries like you.
Merci.
Imagine what the world could look like one generation from now
if a policy like Danone's becomes the new standard.
If 100,000 people become 100 million, a billion, more.
Every generation must find their north.
When women around the world demanded the right to vote,
we took a fundamental step towards equality.
North.
When same-sex marriage was passed in the US,
we put an end to a discriminatory law.
North.
When millions of men and boys and Prime Ministers
and Deputy Directors of the UN,
sorry, the President of the General Assembly,
that's what happens when I go off script.
When men, like the men in this room and around the world,
the ones we cannot see, the ones who support us
in ways we cannot know but we feel,
when they answered Emma Watson's call to be HeForShe,
the world grew.
North.
We must ask ourselves,
how will we be more tomorrow than we are today?
The whole world grows when people like you and me
take a stand because we know that beyond the idea
of how men and women are different,
there is a deeper truth,
that love is love and parents are parents.
Thank you.
Ms. Anne Hathaway.
