why do men cheat

Why do men cheat? You never really see a masculine man talk about why men cheat. Usually, it tends to be a woman talk about why men cheat. But when I see those videos, usually I'm like, you're not a man, you don't really understand what goes through a masculine man. Or when there is a man that speaks about why men cheat, it tends to be a man that most women are not even attracted to. It tends to be a man that says all men are trash, you go girl. And that's not really practical advice or it doesn't really give you a concise reason as to why men cheat. And that's why in this video, I want to talk about why men cheat from a real masculine perspective. I will give you insider information because I'm a man that completely understands why men cheat. I've been around a lot of men that have cheated in the past, but I've also been around a lot of men that have stayed loyal throughout the course of all of these tests. That's why in this video, I'm going to give you brutally honest reasons as to why men cheat. I'm going to keep it raw. I'm going to keep it honest, even though if you do not like any of the stuff I'm going to say. And I know a lot of you women are like just giving too many personal examples, too many me, me, me examples. But I will give you some very interesting stories which will make sense if I give you the context behind them. Because there's no reason to just talk about the reasons without giving you the full picture, without making you understand the male brain. And with that said, let's go to number one. And the first reason is lack of validation. Most men never receive compliments. And this is also the case when it comes to men in relationships. A lot of men that are in relationships just lack validation, just like women want attention and validation. Men would also love to receive attention and validation. We might not always say this, but it's the truth. A compliment can go really, really far. Most men will, for example, never receive flowers in their entire life. Most men will only receive flowers on their grave. And that's just the reality. Most men feel invisible. Most men do not feel loved. So if there's a woman that gives them a little bit of interest, there's a woman that's slightly interested in them, it's making them feel validated. The probability of them cheating just becomes so much bigger because this woman makes them feel alive. Whilst when it comes to you, you're making him feel unloved. You're not giving him any sort of attention. You're not giving him any sort of validation. So it's quite an obvious choice for some men to think, hey, look, I know it's wrong. I should not do it. But the temptation is too big. I do not feel loved. I do not feel like I am validated in the current situation I am in. This other person, even though it might be more of a short term memory, it might make me feel short term. It might make me feel alive in the short term. It might be worth to risk it for. So it comes down to a risk and reward ratio. Some men are like, okay, cool. In this current situation, I don't really feel loved. So let me risk it and see how this will plan out. Because in general, men are more risk takers than women and therefore they're more likely to take a risk. So simply said, sometimes because of a lack of emotional validation, they might look for it elsewhere. And although it might not be ethical, it does make them feel alive. The second reason is access to attention and options. So when it comes to this point, I'll go a little bit more deeper. I'll give you more context. I'll even give you personal stories and I'll you them all together. So you'll get a full picture when it comes to this. Social media has completely globalized the dating market. Where average men never had a lot of attention or options, nowadays it's a lot more accessible for them to get a lot more attention and options. Because in an ideal, perfect dating world, only the elite men will have a lot of options. Because these men have worked really hard. These men have a lot of resources. These men can do a lot for a woman and therefore a lot of women are after these types of men. But nowadays, because of social media, even weak men have a lot of options. Because think about it. Back in the day, if you wanted a woman, you had to approach her in the street and that takes balls. Whereas nowadays, even a weak man can slide into the DMs of a hundred girls, a thousand girls, can go on dating apps and it's a numbers game. Sooner or later someone will respond. Which has made it a lot easier for average men that do not deserve any of the attention of women to be able to get attention from them. And the reason I'm saying this is because this makes it a lot easier for average men to think that they deserve more. If you as a man only have to message a hundred girls, a thousand girls and you can end up getting girls that are way out of your league, how do you think that will make you feel? You'll probably feel a lot more validated. You'll probably get an ego thinking that you deserve better, that you deserve more. And this only increases the probability of you even considering cheating. Because simply think about it. If a man has to work really hard for something, he will appreciate it a lot more. Because of social media, it's a lot easier to find a very attractive, beautiful woman to give you a chance. And therefore you don't really have to work on yourself. You don't have to become confident. You don't have to improve your social skills. These days, you can use Instagram filters. You can look better. You can portray a fake lifestyle just to get attention from women that are way out of your league. And the best way for me to explain this to you is by using a couple of stories in regards to status and money. And then we'll go back to women. So let me start with status. So I've got this YouTube channel for a couple of years now. And throughout all of my social media platforms, I've got tens of millions of views. And to be quite honest, I've never really cared about fame. I've never really cared that much about attention. But let me give you an example of where I almost faltered in the sense of where attention and status almost got to my head. So last year, I went to Croatia, went outside with my friend. Some guy approached me. He's like, yeah, I've seen you on YouTube. Keep it up. Obviously, I constantly get people that approach me and tell me that they've seen me before. And it's nice to be validated, right? But then fast forward to one week later. After Croatia, I went to Cyprus. But this was not a regular holiday. This was literally the moment when I really started to make ******* money. I really started to level up when it comes to my lifestyle, when it comes to my status. And my mentor, he invited me over to Cyprus. He's a very wealthy individual. We're talking about eight figures plus. He runs a massive DNA company. And he hired a massive villa in Ainapa area where we were just chilling, me and a couple of the other boys. And then his wife came along. First time I've seen his wife. She's a little bit younger than him. He's above 30. She's my age, is a beautiful Moldovan woman. So we ended up going out in Ainapa. And whilst we were walking on the streets, another guy came up to me. He's like, hey, bro, I've seen your hair videos before. Keep it up. I was like, okay, cool. Interesting. Another guy. And then usually the guys that I assume would watch my videos are from the UK, right? I was like, where are you from? He's like, no, I'm from Cyprus. So I was like, interesting. He ended up taking a picture with me. My mentor's wife looked at me quite intrigued. And that was it, right? But half an hour later, she's like, why did that guy want to take a picture with you? And I can't lie. In the moment, it did kind of get to me. I felt like the man, because obviously I'm here with my mentor. He's living a baller lifestyle. I am leveling up to that level. I'm doing really well. So I'm proud of me. And even though I already knew that I don't really care about fame, I'm used to getting attention. In that moment, it did get to me in the sense of I, in an arrogant way, told her, yeah, it's because I'm famous. And the reason I said that is because I felt validated. I felt like the man. And sometimes the same applies to men that have never had attention from women before. Because whilst I'm already used to attention, I'm already used to status. This felt like a next level of attention that I wasn't used to. And that kind of got to me. And the same goes with a couple of my business partners. When we're speaking about money, say, for example, the first time you make a thousand dollars in a day, you feel on top of the world, especially if you are broke, you come from nothing. You do not know how to handle this type of money. But if you make a thousand dollars every single day, what do you think will happen? You'll just get used to it. It'll just become a part of your life. And a good example of this is a few of my business partners, a couple of them made multi millions, but they could not handle the money where I had a strong foundation where I've been focused on the long term. These people did not know what to do with any of the money. They ended up going to hookers. They ended up gambling it using cocaine or any other substance and ended up losing it all because they simply were not ready for it. And the reason I'm saying all of this is because I was not ready to receive a little bit extra attention, a little bit extra status in that moment when I was in Ayia Napa. And the same goes with a couple of my old business partners. They were not ready to make a lot of money because they simply could not handle it. And the same goes with ordinary weak men. If an ordinary weak man suddenly gets a lot of attention or even has the opportunity for a lot of attention, what will happen is that they're simply not ready when it comes to the attention. They can't handle that type of attention. Whereas when it comes to a lot of women, a lot of women get attention and validation just for existing. The average man is completely invisible. He does not get any sort of attention. So the moment he gets a little bit of attention, a lot of times they simply do not know how to handle it. And that's why a good foundation is so important. Say for example, today I would suddenly end up having millions of subscribers. I'll be able to deal with it a lot better than a year ago because I've built a solid foundation. Say for example, I'll end up making even more money. I'll deal with it a lot better because I have a strong foundation. Say for example, right now I get a lot more attention from women after the wizard list video that I made a couple of days ago. I'm getting dozens of replies, DMs from women thinking that I am some sort of perfect guy, but I'm clearly not. I am not perfect. Don't put me on a pedestal because a lot of women put wizard list on a pedestal and we clearly saw what happened, right? Everyone's human, but because I have a strong foundation, I can deal with the attention. So that's when it comes to the second reason. Reason number three is men have no internal standards. So most men don't have any standards at all. And the reason for this is because once again, the average man is completely invisible. The average man does not really know what he wants. To have standards, you need to know what you want. And the best way to find out what you want is to know what you do not want. To be able to find out that what you do not want takes time. It takes experience. And where most men lack that type of experience, where most men are not emotionally intelligent, where most men do not understand how to speak to a woman, how to understand a woman, it becomes a lot easier for them to cheat. Because just like I previously mentioned a couple of days ago, when I said I've had options to date the prettiest girls in the world, supermodels, and I still refused. Most men never had those options. So even if they get half of those options, they'll want to risk it. They want to experience it. They want to find out how that will feel. Because life is all about experience and memories. So if you get the opportunity to experience something greater, to experience something that you thought you would never be able to get because most men have no internal standards, they'll take on that bet. Most men are very superficial. Most men are going to look at a woman based on her looks. Because most men do not have options. Most men don't have the option of a pretty woman. And therefore, when a pretty woman does enter their life, they rather entertain her because they do not know what they want. But a real man does know what he wants. A real man has probably had dozens of options, but he doesn't really care. He understands that okay, although I might find looks important, there's other things that I will find a lot more important. I want depth. I want longevity. I want to build something meaningful, something long term. And that's why men that do not have internal standards in terms of women are more likely to cheat. And the fourth reason is overcorrection from past rejection. So a lot of men are invisible. And once they get a little bit of attention, they want overcorrection from past rejection. They want revenge. They want revenge at the woman that once rejected them. And the reason I know this is because I've been victim of this myself. I've even seen traits of this in me. Because where I was once invisible, I was once seen as an ugly gaming nerd when I was younger. And then I turned into a YouTuber. I've done male model campaigns. I travel around the world. I make my own money. I run businesses. I run empires. I live a life that I could only have dreamt about. When you suddenly go from nothing to something, if you have not healed, if you have past trauma, what will end up happening is that you want revenge. In your mind, you're like, these women never accepted me when I was broke. These women never accepted me when I was ugly. These women never wanted me when I had zero status. But now suddenly because I'm rich, because I'm famous, because I'm better looking, now suddenly I'm getting attention. Fuck them. That's literally the mindset. Excuse my language, but that's literally the mindset of a lot of these men that seek revenge. In their mind, they're like, I got hurt in the past. I got rejected. I still have all of this pain and sorrow. So even though I'm in a relationship, even though I'm with a woman, let me hurt her back. Let me get back. Let me take one for the boys. And these types of men are very dangerous. These types of men can completely ruin your life. They won't only ruin your life, but they'll also end up ruining their own life whilst doing this. Because what they're seeking is empty vanity. They're seeking a higher body count. They're trying to get as many women as they can, thinking that that will fill their void. But the truth is, nothing will fill their void. To be able to feel fulfilled, to be able to build something meaningful, to be able to become a good actual partner, you need to heal yourself from these traumas. You need to understand that the past is the past. Women have standards and you have standards as well. You cannot let your past dictate you. And therefore, men that are overcorrecting from past rejections are also more likely to cheat. And the fifth reason is because they do not see you as a long-term partner. You see this all of the time, where people jump into relationships, not because they truly want to build something, but simply out of convenience. Simply because they're lonely. Simply because they want to feel some peace. They want to feel validated. They want to feel loved. And there's too many people these days that jump into relationships for these reasons, and these are not particularly the best reasons to build something meaningful. Someone that jumps into a relationship with these thoughts is simply more likely to cheat, because he never really chose you. He simply chose the convenience, the validation, not wanting to feel lonely. And a lot of times men can very quickly tell whether they see longevity with a woman, or if they just want to keep her around because she's a good vibe to keep around, because she makes him feel good, because she gives him enough attention, or any other reason. And therefore, as a woman, you need to quickly find out what is his reason for being with you. A lot of times women think, oh yeah, he's chill, so we'll see where it goes. We need to take it slow. And I'm all about taking time, building something slow with strong structural foundation. But at the same time, you also need to find out whether he's wasting your time, or if he's trying to build something long-term. Does he even see you as a long-term partner? Do you even have the traits of a long-term partner? Does he even know what he wants in a long-term partner? You have to find out all of these things, because if you do not find out about whether this person wants you as a long-term partner or not, he is more likely to cheat. The sixth reason is male friends and male validation. We as men really care about our friend group. Brotherhood is very important to us, especially masculine men. Because we understand that this world is not fair. We understand that as a man, there's always danger. And therefore, you need to have your brothers around. You need to have your friends around. Where a woman is convenient, a woman helps you to build, helps you to heal, and you can really build something meaningful with a woman, you want to have your brothers around when there's war. And therefore, we really care about the opinion of our brothers. If we're not respected by our brothers, we're really risking not being part of something greater, having a strong male social circle as protection. And therefore, that's why we really care about the opinion of our brothers and our friends. And the DOA say, the five people that you hang out with have a huge impact when it comes to your mindset, when it comes to your social life, when it comes to your lifestyle. And if the five people, if your social circle, if your brothers, if your friends, are cheaters, if they are okay with a man cheating, he'll also be more okay with cheating. Because all of his friends are cheating, his brothers are cheating, and they're talking about it. It might be a subject in the friend group, they might even find it fun, they might even turn it into a game, and then they're more likely to cheat. And the same goes the other way. Look at his friends. Does he have friends that are loyal? Does he have friends that have good characters, good morals? Do they come from good backgrounds? Do they come from good families? Because this is a huge indication as to what kind of man you're dealing with. If it's a man that comes from a good family, he's simply less likely to cheat because there's family pressure. If he has a friend group that is against cheating, he's less likely to cheat because there's a friend group pressure. And therefore, his environment also has a huge impact whether he will cheat. And I'm not saying this in the sense of, yeah, if all of his friends are cheating, he will cheat as well. Or if all of his friends are loyal, he will also be loyal. There's always exceptions to the rule. And once again, this comes back to having a strong character. If a man has a really strong character, and he really stands on his morals, he really stands on his integrity, even if all of his friends are cheating, he will not cheat because he knows that that's against his morals, that's against his integrity. And the same goes the other way around as well. If the whole friend group is perfect, if he comes from a good background, good integrity, good values, but then he as a man is a weak man, he's still able to cheat. And that's why it's so important to not only look at the friend group, but also analyze what kind of men you're dealing with. Is this a strong man with a strong character? Does he find it hard to say no? Is it easy for him to say no? Ask all of these questions, observe your man, because this will help you to understand whether he will cheat. And the final reason is the seventh reason, and that's because they can't communicate. A lot of men these days lack communication skills. I've already made a couple of videos talking about this, where a lot of people these days online are telling men, yeah, you need to look smack, you need to look your best, you need to hit the gym, but muscles are not going to improve your social skills. A lot of men lack emotional intelligence, a lot of men lack communication skills, and therefore sometimes men are in situations where they feel emasculated, they are disappointed, they don't even want to be in the relationship, but they just simply do not know how to leave. So they'll rather cheat than them having to man up and saying, hey look, I don't think this is working out, we should break up. Because in that aspect, in their mind, they're too afraid to reject their own woman, they're too afraid to make her feel hurt, and therefore they'll just live like they're single and end up cheating. And once the woman finds out, in their mind they're like, yes, finally, she found out, now she's gonna break up with me. Now I do not have to deal with the burden of her asking, why am I not good enough, what went wrong, what could I have done better. Because sometimes nothing could have been done from your part, sometimes it did not feel right for him, sometimes the energy wasn't there, the vibe wasn't there, but men lack social skills, men lack communication skills, men lack emotional intelligence, and therefore they simply do not know how to tell you no, they simply do not know how to end the relationship, break up, and instead of them breaking up the relationship, you part in your ways, they'll rather make you break up with him. And one way of making sure you break up with him, is by cheating. So now I've explained to you why men cheat from a real male masculine perspective. This is insider information, nobody really explained this online, because the truth is, most men lack emotional intelligence, most men are not able to accept and even understand their own emotions. And when it comes to women, a lot of women do not understand how most men think. And the men online that do give advice, a lot of times are not men that women look up to, are not masculine men that women want to be around. There's not a lot of highly successful elite men that are giving women advice on how to get a very successful elite man. And I'm not talking about looks, I'm not talking about status, I'm not talking about fame, I'm not talking about money. I am simply talking about emotionally mature men that are building something for the long term. Men that are building a strong foundation not only for themselves, but also for their women and for their future kids. And therefore, if you are looking for a man that has these types of traits, make sure he does not have all of these other red flags. The best way to find out if someone is worth fighting for, or if you should risk it, is by simply finding out what you do not want, is by finding out what can be wrong. And at the end of the day, it really depends on you as a woman, or even as a man if you're watching this video, to better yourself, to critically analyze yourself, take responsibility on you, because you're not special, you're not a princess, we all like to think we're princesses, we all like to think we're special. But the reality is, just because a woman is pretty does not guarantee that she'll find the right man. Just because a woman knows how to understand men does not mean that you will find a man. It's a game of probabilities. And the same goes for a man. Just because you're a rich man does not mean you'll find a good wife. Just because you're a man that does not cheat does not mean that you'll end up finding a good wife. It's on you to become the most capable and strongest version of you as a man. And when it comes to a woman, it's on you to identify what's important in a man, identify on how you can become the best type of woman for this man, and together you can create something big and meaningful. So if you enjoyed this video, please subscribe, follow me on Instagram, and I'll see you on the next one.