"Get Out Of There Now! Do You Hear Me?"

[Music] brought to you by Xander Insurance Identity Theft Protection isn't a luxury in today's world it's a necessity get yours at zander.com I've been with my boyfriend of four I've been with a man for four years now he's 17 years older than I am and it's been quite emotionally abusive and I'm trying to leave but I have $23,000 in debt I only really count $6,000 of that because 17 of it is car which I'm I feel like yall are going to tell me to get rid of it but I don't want to um I'm just trying to figure out how to navigate like paying off this $6,000 because it's affecting me of getting it's affecting me from getting a place of my own right now and I have a bonus from work coming up and I'm just like I don't know how to navigate how old are you I'm 27 and how much money do you make honey I make 2400 a month doing what I um I work for a very very large health insurance company as a customer Advocate and so you work 40 hours yes do you have any kind of education or training uh no okay well one of you're a high school graduate yes no college no okay all right I'm GNA jump in quick because there's some money stuff that Dave's going to get to but I want to tell you one of the strategies here you've got to be thinking about quickly is raising your income yeah how do you take the skill set that you have you're at a BigTime healthc care company so you're in the building how can you move up within the building what skill sets can you add without going to college uh what other types of work can you do do where we can get that income up by a minimum of I want to say 25 to to 50% is is your goal you need more income you just don't have much to work with you're making $15 an hour it's not good and you know the going rate's 20 at Target well I um technically make like 1975 before four taxes okay so 2400 take okay yeah yeah I live like two hours from Dallas so it's like pretty good for here okay where's your family huh these days it's not if your identity gets stolen it's when so you need ID theft protection from Xander they monitor your personal info proactively and alert you of any suspicious activity including home title fraud then Xander takes care of everything including up to $2 million of stolen funds protection and white glove service to help you get your life back plus kids are covered for free on their family plan call 800 356 4282 or go to zander.com where's your family hun um my dad lives in a motel about an hour away and my mom lives in Missouri and she lives off the government so she's not very MH okay are you plugged into a church there in your community yes okay all right um I want you to go sit down with a pastor in the next three days and ask them for some help to get you out of there okay and that's not to pay off your debt I think we need to do two things we need to you may need to move to a more Metro area where you can get a better job um and but but you can't stay there you can't stay there another another two weeks I want you out of that house okay okay um did no you stop whoa whoa whoa you you didn't hear me you did you just you just drove right past that and I saw you I saw your brake lights as you went around the corner yeah okay I'm telling you you've been putting this off and you know the situation that you're in is evil and wrong and you need to leave do you hear me daughter yes get out of there now and don't talk to me about I'm going to trade my safety and my mental health for a freaking car get in the car and drive to Dallas and get a job get in the car and talk to your pastor this week and get some help to get out of this situation because he has stolen your confidence yeah yeah you're right almost like I've done this before haven't I yeah okay your dad's in a hotel your mom's on government so you got nobody in your corner that's telling you you're a champion and I'm telling you you're a champion and you deserve better than you're getting okay okay you've never seen anybody in your family win and you're going to be the first one that goes and wins you're going to go do something okay I want to hear I want to hear a hero story about you from you six months from today that you're making $25 $30 an hour you're standing alone with your shoulders square and your chest stuck out with pride and the debt is gone and you're getting control of your life okay okay you can't sit in this cess pool anymore you're sitting in sewage do you smell it yeah I smell it from over here yeah you don't need this guy to win you don't need him and he's become this weird support system for you that he's abused and manipulated so you got to make a clean break I'm with Dave clean break yeah go go see a pastor in the neighborhood right now and a loving pastor at a good church church and your neighborhood will take care of you honey and they'll get you set up and get you put get you out of there and then help you get the next steps into a better position making more money work I want you working more than 40 hours and I want you making $25 $30 an hour and you can clean up this mess and you can create a sustainable life stand alone on your own you are a warrior princess and it's time you act like it it's time you go be the champion God designed you to be right now and uh this has got to change kid and it's not going to change until you change it and it's not going to change until you believe what I'm telling you is to be true that you are worth being treated well you're worth it and so you need to go get yourself in a position where everyone that looks at you says this woman demands that I treat her well she's a warrior princess and she won't tolerate anything else and that's who you're becoming as I speak right now that's who you're becoming and you've got to go do that and you got to go do it now you hang on Christian will pick up and we'll find out the little town that you're in and see if we've got some connections there with some local pastors and we'll help you get uh connected with one of them and get some people in your corner that that aren't um the kind that you have currently have in your corner you need a different you need a different crew kiddo wow what a mess open phones here atle 8825 5225 Ken um it is hokey as it can be but this idea of what you believe matters more than than the actual reality yeah because you end up creating your reality is what you believe yeah and and uh if you believe that you're not worthy then all of a sudden you're not worthy yeah when you start to believe you're worthy then you become worthy yeah you know thoughts are very powerful and our brain goes and finds evidence to toh give truth to these thoughts so changing your mind is a huge part of change in your life you hate to see this out of Destruction her parents and that poor girl you just got to believe that she's worth it yeah amen the best ID Theft Protection is from Xander they not only monitor they help you get your life back go to zander.com to learn more