Are Chinese People Selfish?

is having a scarcity mindset versus an abundance mindset the reason why a lot of Chinese communities globally have The Stereotype of Being Greedy or selfish is this even true not true where does it come from and what can be done about it let me just run real quick the clip from Chinese Australian YouTuber KES it's likely you saw videos such as these circulating online a while ago nor is Costco going to run out of stock so why do they seem so desperate to grab everything they can despite the fact that there's plenty for everyone to share well this is because there's a culture of scarcity within China boom listen I'm telling you this is a Chinese Australian kid he's covering fake food in China the brain damage from video games in East Asia the Mental Health crisis the Chinese in student international student influx and the Chinese love of gambling but for this video he was talking about how the scarcity mindset caused by a lot of poverty famine the cultural revolution uh cause this selfish greed greedy stereotype that you see um you know I wouldn't say that all Chinese people have this but certainly a certain subset of Chinese do and that certain subset go viral for their behavior at various Costco openings or perhaps even Costco in America so anyway guys we are going to get into it make sure you like subscribe turn your notifications we've definitely talked about this topic before um it's specifically like a Chinese American topic but you know CH being Chinese is so complicated you could be from Mainland you could be from Hong Kong you could be from Taiwan you could be from Singapore you could be from Malaysia you could be from Thailand even and be ethnically Chinese but I believe this is uh you know referring to people with lineages or family backgrounds and and having gone through the history of mainland China so anyway guys real quick I want to Define greed greed in this case is talked about interpersonal micro behaviors because there was a lot of people saying yeah if you think China is greedy think about the American Western Green trying to take over the world and carve it up cause a military CP displace the world you know everybody have to speak English so yeah that is actually a valid point but it's not necessarily valid to these inpersonal like more human behaviors at the supermarket or Costco and I guess that you can look at things within a total uh you know geopolitical Spectrum but sometimes you got to just keep the micro fish bowls the micro fish bowls so anyway guys let's just you know like I said I'm going to go through Point by point of his video I'm going to leave a link below but basically this was the main comments it says the main reaction to his 20-minute video which was very well researched even though I don't fully necessarily agree with the tone or all of his explanations is mainland Chinese people are just disappointing people it's China what do you expect but then a Chinese person said yeah they will CH through the generations perhaps you could do another episode on us later on us Chinese again I think this behavior is worth studying so what beh Behavior are we referring to let's go to his video it opens with clips from a opening of a Costco I don't know if this is a first tier City second tier City third tier city in China Costco chickens let's run the clip boom of course there was a viral clip of bwan making fun of this on JK let's run that clip too for a little bit Chinese people ruin they ruin it you know dude everything you hate about Chinese people imagine time 10 in a supermarket so like imagine like you look at it yeah I'll be Chinese look at it you know what I don't like about Chinese people oh excuse me or something's on sale they're box it out yeah it's like and then there also like Haw and lugies at you and no one can drive the parking lot's a mess bro the aisles like the shopping think about Chinese people on plane aisles second that [ __ ] lands you know Chinese people with crab legs at the buffet like that free samples want to try this new hot dog no everyone's like oh this is pretty good yeah hey every everybody come here long story short man this is a global sterp so clearly there's evidence of it being true enough do I think this is true for all Chinese people 100 out of 100 absolutely not but obviously it's true enough and then he talks about this uh anecdote whereas grandparents in China walk two hours just to save $10 USD I think $10 USD I I I don't think I think it's $10 R and be but who knows um he talks about the secondhand embarrassment I think that this is the more Point that's more Salient or more relevant to ABCs or whether you say ABCs is Australian BCS or cbc's or ABC you know American or Canadian it's like if you're watching this video your family probably isn't directly like this or maybe even if they are a little bit like this you're not like this but maybe you have an auntie or uncle or a grandparent that may somebody at your church somebody within your community somebody that's Loosely related to you that more exhibits these behaviors at a higher extremity level but it May trickle down even to your own self-image and potentially so that's what you see in the mirror but even how people treat you once they hear they're Chinese you're Chinese because they're like oh you're from that group that does those even though you guys are powerful you guys are super cheap and uncool so that may change your interpersonal pings with even other Asians I I don't even think non-asians really make the distinction as much unless they're Asian files but it's more like within Asians anyway he talks about how this mindset of scarcity which is like just never feeling like there's enough and it's a very fixed pie so instead of growing the pie which is an abundance mindset you have a fixed pie so you got to eat the biggest slice of the pie which causes this like self self whether it's the outcome is essentially selfish or greedy whether or not it's like actually was the initial intention so he talks about how it could be a real mindset or perceived mindset and I think the biggest thing is like sometimes when Chinese go overseas and it varies family to family by the way I've seen it both ways it's like some people are not adapting to their new Fishbowl if their new Fishbowl like America it does better when you have an abundance mindset but if you come in with the scarcity mindset it could actually like be the wrong schematic it's almost like in Europe feba basketball pass pass pass pass is better but in the NBA the way they've structured it you know a shot going up in seven seconds is a better scheme even though technically playing real basketball is a better scheme it has to do with like the how the scheme fits the context of whatever you're trying to operate into so sometimes when you go in with a scarcity mindset that's driven from real trauma or real situations you went through in China and you take it to an abundance culture mindset you may have behaviors that seem really unappealing or just simply really uncool right anyway moving on his video he talks about tangible resource scarcity versus intangible resource scarcity there's so many ways to do it and the framing of tangible resource scarcity and the schematics and the mindsets that emerge from it can vary so much because I would say the Jewish and Japanese people are very frugal value-minded they get their money's worth they make sure the juice is worth the squeeze they get good Roi they're not wasteful they take a conservative approach to value proposition they would negotiate at a car dealership pretty hard too Japanese and Jewish people specifically but the thing is why do Chinese and Indian people get put in the like you guys are like too cheap category right and what's the truth in it what's the not truth in it because there's a lot of super rich Chinese and Indians too right these are just gigantic swads of people that just have embody every stereotype at some sort of large volume to be honest when you look at the scalability of the sample size anyway um he talk about intangible resource scary scarcity which is time and energy using your time and energy wisely so it's like uh you know that's a whole another thing too cuz sometimes when you have two scarcity of a mindset it's like your mom's like maybe if she's like thinking about saving money she's driving to three different supermarkets to get the best price on oranges but if you look at opportunity cost you would have just been better getting the more expensive oranges Saving Time banking the time at something more profitable um it's about like um you know cost of opportunities and things like that anyway um he talks about insufficient financial literacy I do think that a lot of Village Chinese specifically that's the ones he's referring to second tier cities are the ones that are in these Costco videos I'm I'm just keeping it real save save save is a better technical Baseline than spend spend spend when you don't come from a high Capital High cash flow um High you know um asset value background however it is a little bit too basic because sometimes you do need to invest sometimes you need to keep the flow up in The Vibes up and the Ambiance and the environment and the environment like the the US economy runs on a certain flow where people make a lot but they spend a lot and obviously he basically was referring to like China right now is like even saving so much money it might be killing the economy because there's like 1.6 to 2.6 trillion dollars in China that are chilling in bank accounts or like non-moving non-circulating assets and that can like kind of constrict a provide a choke point for economic flow and um domestic consumption at least and then uh yeah he basically talks about how being overly scarce in your mindset it leads you to being cheap jumpy anxious not confident and I would say to be honest this he didn't talk about this not cool but um I've seen people that did get stuck between the you know the fight to survive and not feeling like they had enough it's not a good mental space to be in but he also talks about how that's driven from possibly the cultural revolution and poverty and famine and who know who caused it was it the Japanese and blah blah blah blah blah to be honest it doesn't really matter because we are where we are now he also talks about it's a combination of financial illiteracy poor money management bad bad financial choices and no saving techniques I would say this man like a lot of poor Chinese is like you have to understand different environments cause for you to hold the dove differently sometimes like with money you can't be too loose all the money goes away right you go too tight you suffocate the Dove and the push and pull of what type of Dove that is and how tight to hold it it just varies per situation but a lot of people they can't even make a read on every situation that they're in so they just like stick with one plan and that plan is just suboptimal ultimately um moving on he talks about how many people in China feel like they're living a hyper overwork life in exchange for very little Leisure or dopamine I would agree with that too honestly some Chinese Americans they end up replicating it and the reason they replicated because that's the programming the iOS programming the Android programming whatever you want to call it the architecture that they got from their parents so even if there a slight evolution of a flawed architecture sometimes it doesn't mitigate all the downside effects it's not like they're a completely different architecture right um he talks about it also leads to feeling undeserving a successor abundance man to be honest I'll say this in the most extreme cases of what he's referring to some Chinese immigrants or even people in China they feel the opposite of what I think Mexicans or Latinos feel cuz often times I'm not saying all but like when I grew up around a lot of Latinos they always operated from an abundance growth I mean not growth but like just grateful mindset whereas like Chinese sometimes even the ones that are have money are still not even grateful for the money that they have because it a lot of life is dependent on how you perceive certain stimuluses and when you your perception releases certain androgens and chemicals in your body you can actually control your serotonin endorphin dopamine and cortisol like depression chemical release to some extent by through your perception right because there's a gap in happiness between uh reality and expectation and etc etc you set some of those you know you you set some of these markers that create disparities or you know uh the other way too would create uh surpassing your expectations now you're elated right anyway Point number four part number four your video he talks about behavior and programming being passed down basically he asked has some questions that you should ask yourself uh is what you're feeling actually valid you need exposure therapy being grateful for what you have here's the thing a lot of Chinese people even if you tell them this if they're from like a certain old way of living or they're from the village or some sort of like almost dogmatic they think they're being pragmatic but they're not being pragmatic and not adjusting to the new Fishbowl that they've entered it's like it's it's really difficult I'm not saying it's impossible but it's really really difficult for them to really get it into their brain from what I've seen um just over rap after r after rep anyway here's my quick thoughts before we get into the comment section um I do think that there's a lack of a self-correcting or like shame based system in China because uh it's different tribal Dynamics than Japanese and Koreans for sure they tend to more like really um how do you say it like self-correct within themselves Chinese is such a big group we speak different languages we eat different food we're mixed with different tribes of people even in an ancient sense we're less ethnically homogenous so I just think that it's like weird I'm not saying it's impossible and that's why you need to sign up for Tiger Club in the comment section below but it's almost like it's it's crazy and it's funny because there's like those like white guys who run channels just pointing out bad Chinese Behavior or like flawed Chinese thinking but it's like they do it from like a place of superiority superiority or NE not necessarily with the most Compassion or the most like I don't know you know what I mean like but and what they say is not fully wrong either there's some truthfulness to it even though it may be exaggerated anyway moving on my thought number two um I think that people really need to live in abundance before they can feel abundant and when you feel abundant that's when you break out of the scarcity mindset so how do people feel abundant they may need to shift their mindset they may may need to get around new people they need to get in a situation where they're not always like dude you can meet even if your family has $20 million USD net worth it's it's enough to live I don't care even if you're talking about London really expensive places to live that's enough for generational wealth and then you look and then you all of a sudden you're feeling bad because you meet somebody who has $200 million family net worth it's ridiculous but literally that goes back to what I'm saying you control your own Androgen release chemically within your own body based off expectation uh so Point number three I think a lot of things are like a muscle in life and the reason why culture is so hard to break is because you have to atrophy the prior muscle then double down on creating a new muscle to replace it and perhaps it's a little bit more like bone calcium because I think maybe when I use the muscle analogy people are just oh yeah all muscle good muscle it's like yeah I mean I'm trying to think of like it's like a I don't know if it's a toxic muscle but it's just like you just need to reshape you know what I mean like yeah maybe it's uh the muscle thing is a little confusing for people but you need to let certain muscles atrophy before you can build up new thinking muscles that's how shifting your culture works it's a a just like oh I'm from yeah I'm from here and then I go to like abundant country and then all a sudden boom you just switch it's just not like that and then point number four man I'm a big fan of uh to be honest you know religion spirituality some something more ethereal I do think that that helps a lot and uh I'm not going to get into that too much but uh you know I was raised uh in a church and it did help me to to be honest to be free from some of this stuff obviously you see it some replicate itself too but it's like it's all about relatability too you need somebody relatability with with relatability to you to to provide you um opposite coaching because often times uh in America it's not that non scarcity mindset coaches is not available it is Tony Robbins or like um Damon John or whatever but it doesn't mean necessarily you're going to relate to it because you need somebody who's come from where you come from and got out of it versus somebody who never was there to begin with right that's the whole point of the messenger matters and tone and relatability of story and blah blah blah blah blah anyway and point number five the Chinese mindset of uh the Chinese version of a scarcity mindset and the American version of a scarcity mindset are often times quite different because I noticed that people in um poverty in America they tend to spend more and people in poverty in in China they may spend so little that they're even hurting their ability to earn more cash flow by investing in themselves or something like that so it's just uh it's almost like back to my analogy of like often times bad Asian drivers are too defensive and cautious and being wimpy it's messing up the Flow versus I think other groups sometimes they they may get drunk and be so reckless in the traffic they're being too aggressive both are messing up the flow of the schools of fish that need to go through the in the in the general Vibe but in different ways one is being hyper defensive one is being hyper offensive anyway let's get into the comments section guys like I said this is a crazy video but hey man I'm just letting these go off the top of my head the scarcity mindset this is this is the first section of comments the scarcity mindset caused a lot of trauma in my life with various stories I can't even read these stories there's more on Reddit that are five pages long basically it's people saying that you know it did like you know mess with them and somebody said you know the scarcity mindset makes people make uh my parents are mad at my wife cuz she's overweight but scarcity mindset also made her overweight yes and no I don't want to overly blame it that could be just nutrition education too but yes I don't want to say that that's not correlated at all I don't want to take that away from anybody because they would know better than me I don't know anybody about anybody's life on the internet and what causes them to tick right I just know about my own life and what I've seen and even when people around me that I've seen and I can make a guess but I don't really know sometimes you don't even know for yourself uh Point number two the second one someone said it's embarrassing infuriating what I have to watch my people do this is back to the ABC CBC when whether ABC refers to American Born Chinese or Australian Born Chinese CBC was that BBC even British Born Chinese I know that's crazy because BBC BBC BBC anyway um but I'm saying it's like yeah man to me I'm like I'm over it I'm just like I don't even like I know we come from a big culture where the richest people in the world some of the richest people in America are Chinese some of the poorest people in America are Chinese and in New York City it's like Chinese own a lot of the billion um hundred million dollar apartments on like a Park Avenue and they're also Chinese persons picking up cans on the street to recycle for a nickel each you know what I mean and and and even ripping open bags of trash to get that nickel too so it's like to me I think a lot of people they might not be raising is in a situation to um to understand that like the do the the the the Spectrum range that I've seen so to the point now I'm almost like just jaded this person said I live in Vancouver I think it's a white guy I live in Vancouver and I was uh surrounded by older Chinese ladies I stand back so I won't get trampled but then um I also don't want to fight with a person over a 10-cent deposit because they're always asking me if I'm done with my drink but then more often than not young Asians will offer me the seat I am a older I believe this is an older white person he says age matters age matters immigration wave matters socioeconomic status matters Province even that you come from potentially matters level of Shame matters buying in or not buying into some larger societal like eyeball of like Behavior normative Behavior matters so yeah but yeah of course there's patterns that you see so it's like that's my whole thing is like my only thing about this is like a lot of people they just blanket all try you can't blanket 1.4 billion people but I understand why they do too because maybe you're just not seeing enough or you're just only seeing the internet things but it is what it is I can't you know I could just tell CH these people or like ABCs how to deal with it we can't change how people process things that they see on the internet or like viral videos or blah blah blah anyway Point number three someone said it just beets more and more like a Snowball Effect it's called The Tragedy of the commons this is actually uh I just pop this up right here it has to do with like overfishing air pollution climate change how everybody acts out of self-interest somebody said in Hong Kong that's why they called mainlanders locusts um man it's like I said yes there is tensions between overseas diaspora communities for sure some TI Chinese don't like the new Mainland Chinese com in but some do business with them and make a lot of money with them they're so like man it's so complicated to be Chinese because there's so much Chinese blood in Southeast Asia and it's been here for hundreds of years and then it's all in these different countries uh you know what I mean Taiwan and Hong Kong and Singapore and like parts of Malaysia Pang is like almost completely chines and it's like you know what I mean it's like dude get so complicated but yes of course like the more well behaved people are going to judge the people who are less well behaved on a probability basis that's just a fact I agree with that somebody said please don't 100% generalize even though there's some truth to this stereotype so of course people are arguing back and forth arguing back and forth and um like I said to me what I've come to the conclusion of is like if whether you own that Mainland Chinese Identity or not I'm half you know whatever I could own it or not own it or I don't care do I care do I just identify somebody from Seattle New York or LA or whatever it is or whatever cultures I affluency been but it's like I would say this it's really more about how you deal with it because you can actually not tell anybody else to like you're not getting the stats right out of a 100 it's only 60 out of 100 it's not 80 or 90 out of 100 you're just like cannot it just doesn't work you can understand the way people's minds work but you cannot actually go into their machinery and like Tinker with it and go yeah give us more Nuance because you like us more because people have vested interest in not liking you so they're going to give you less Nuance so even if only 45 out of 100 Chinese people which is already still a sizable pie chart if you look at pie charts the way they're split amongst different different Graphics but they even if they assess it at 90 and they give it a 2X because they want to have a negative connotation what can you do right anyway moving on somebody said it's like getting bullied in developing High aggression forever um it's like being a bullied victim becoming a state of hyper sensitivity and high aggression and Never Letting Go of that rage and somebody said no it's just bad habits it's not even bullied I mean dude it's all like I said like everything is caused by something whether or not people want to look into the reasons of something there's always reasons and layers and layers of a onion but like you know what I mean it just you people only tend to peel back the hyper layers of a onion and try to understand somebody who did something bad when they like or agree with them like Luigi mangion everybody's trying to everybody empathizes with him you me or like a lot of people on the internet do and you know was the right and the wrong and that of what obviously what he did anyway moving on somebody said my Australian Chinese parents there are fobs from China obviously are mad that I didn't grow up to make 400k a year in NYC like my family friend even though I got a PhD and work a government job in Australia she flies first class and I never do and my parents can't believe that I don't even consider uh compare myself to her for a moment yeah like I said some stereotypes of people are more true than others like um but it's like it's not true for everybody but everybody knows somebody that it's true for so how do you assess quantitatively how true a stereotype is I would say that thing of comparison like my parents would Pro my dad would value the fact that he has a PHD but I could see you know some people at my church that were very business-minded and not as academic minded value in the 400k in the first class more so so I see it both ways cuz I see enough reps um somebody said but but but to be fair that anecdote that she just said is like maybe more standout like that's more like a like a of course everybody every Community is gonna have a variance of opinion but maybe the more standout one would be the more money Centric one maybe but I don't know it really depends if you come from scholar class too in in a dynastic Imperial uh Redux anyway uh there's nothing we can do to change them fundamentally but just change ourselves this is a comment from a genz Chinese person who was just like yeah whether my uncles or aunties is like that we can just learn it and change ourselves yeah honestly I just operate within it at this point like I I'm lucky enough that I feel like not everybody in my family is really like I'm not saying at a zero out of 10 but like whatever the scarcity mindset is probably nobody in my family and I'm trying to think of the most is most like this I probably have some family members extended if we extended out to the second ring that is like a five out of 10 you know what I mean but uh obviously at my church I saw people who were eight nine 10 out of 10 but I also saw people that were so sufficiently westernized through uh Hong Kong or something like that that was like a two out of 10 maybe even a one out of usually it's above a zero but though let's keep it real anyway still Chinese in a way Hey listen guys don't take that the moment anyway um why are other even poor countries not like this and then this sort of spiral in the Chinese are evil etc etc some form of like Chinese are just inherently evil or greedy that's always been that way throughout history I mean I just think that they're the most like traditional like a lot of traditional Asiatic like Oriental Concepts or just culture came from China to be honest and I'm not even saying that's like good or bad it just is right and I just think that sometimes when you created something you like just mix it with the modern and it just doesn't like it's harder to let go of it than other groups where smaller groups like their surviv is more dependent on adaptation but when you're a big group there's like a less ability to adapt or the adaptation takes a like maybe a one generation more a whole rotation Generations like 20 years and I think that that's just something like I said it has to be like all these comments you know from wherever they are from East Asia southeast Asia dipor Chinese saying it about Mainland Chinese or even Mainland Chinese who left saying it about whatever whatever from Western people like I said man it's like it's just something that is going to be that way for the rest of my life so I don't really even like like think about it in the way that somebody who hasn't thought a lot about it would think about it I'm just like past my arc of thinking about it to be honest and it's just like um this next one says uh you know it there must be more to it yeah Etc all right so this is one this is a good comment somebody said in just my observation in the Philippines the people develop the opposite of the scarcity mindset which is the peda mindset which is just because they have enough to survive they don't do things to improve their lives long term they stay lazy stagnant and uneducated they always promote it in the churches that be contented on what you have and people takeing it as an excuse to be lazy so I guess like that's the reverse of it like I guess like like we said it's almost like um somebody who's so defensive in basketball other people shooting the ball in like 3 seconds with like 21 seconds left on the shot clock there's pros and cons to every mindset right everybody wants to be like the Boston Celtics where it's such a balanced attack they could go fast they could go slow they could go half court they could go out lit but it's like not everybody has the Personnel or the coaching or the franchise or the players or the like everything is like everything Everything is Everything related so yeah like we said there's always pros and cons to everything like this person from the Philippines is basically like saying well but at least the Chinese they try to make their life better but yes they're probably a little bit greedy and maybe a little bit selfish and at least in our terms so it's just like pros and cons man life life is like that man it's like there's a lot more gray area than people have somebody say this mentality is even worse I hate that if I can't have it you can't have mentality and then someone posted this Kevin changen it's not enough that I should succeed others should fail and then someone said yo man it takes an elite mindset to wake up and immediately start hating that's hilarious by the way that quote was actually originally attributed to genas Khan I do not think genas Khan actually said that it just like fits with how history played out or as Nar you know like The Narrative of history but like I don't think genas KH was much of a philosopher I think you know he had tangry and he played to pre to the sky and he just felt something um somebody said I don't enjoy spending time around people who are so scarcity minded about everything so I don't like hanging out sometimes with my Chinese family or my Chinese friends I heard this a lot and um like I said bro everybody comes from a different type of Chinese family even that is Chinese like I said on a scale of 0 to 10 you're probably at least a one on the scarcity mindset because it is such a cultural thing right and it bleeds over even into diaspora communities or overseas Chinese City countries or whatever and it's like um uh I I feel bad for the people who got it at a six and up I think at a five and below you know it just like depends on how far you give how strong your jet boosters are away from the tractor beam but if you're at a 6 seven eight or nine and um you you you probably at least got half so like if your mom was a nine you probably at least going to be a 4.5 at the at the very base minimum because of that uh analogy the doesn't roll too far from the tree it is what it is man I seen it in the Chinese I operated in the Chinese Community a lot obviously I did a lot of Western brand deals with just you know white people marketing middleman agencies too though but anyway moving on uh somebody said uh what about the Chinese who spend obscenely just like Middle Eastern people that what about that group that is hyper flashy that doesn't care about money at all obviously that is probably referring to the Remy Z or the Chinese Rich international student stere type that you see Bobby suputra doing that playing off that crazy Rich Asians archetype like you know almost like billionaire flashy wasteful billionaire mentality yeah I mean that's just not what this video is talking about but absolutely that archetype exists too but it's like you would have to say people people pay attention to that tribe a lot but that tribe doesn't make up more than 1% right but it's just 1% of a very large population just seems like a lot too when you have 1.4 billion people 1% almost makes International School Kids feel like almost their own City or something like that like I said has to do with like uh economies of scale anyway um somebody said it's the very whack behaviors that are KES is referring to get passed down due to philiopiety because philal piety makes you feel like you need to pass on what your parents taught you so yeah this guy went into a whole uh dissertation about it um yeah yeah fop piy I would say that the biggest issue that I see with some asian-americans and like I said some people are able to do it some people need to take I don't even know you know what I mean they need to completely rewire their brain but other people it's just like a gradual process to break down the old muscles and build up new muscles but it it depends it's a consistent everyday thing and it also really depends on how much you think it impacts your life and um what image you want to put forth and how you see yourself what you look at in the mirror what you see as your aspirational identity moving forward right some people they don't they don't feel like some people inherited a scarcity mindset from their parents and they don't even feel like it's an issue right but then you could say that's not cool but it really just depends on like how cool do you want to be who do you want to Define that cross reference that group with so anyway um somebody this is the last point and I sort of get into this as about to take away it's like this is why I never reveal I am Chinese because I am ashamed of this identity and you know there's two ways to do it listen guys I saw I dated a girl from chandu who was like this she was from a more upper middle class light Rich family in China went to Art School here in the US was working and she did look I guess look Korean so she was like you know when she went to the Korean restaurant she was always speaking Korean and stuff like that and she was like if they never know that I'm Chinese I'm okay with that and uh I always like felt some slight type of way about it but obviously I understood too which is the what all these negative stereotypes that we've been talking about but I always uh I said I disagree with that but but I've seen it a lot I've seen a lot of especially girls they more want to fit into society what's cool cool was swaggy was not unappealing was not too cheap or not messing up the Flow by being too awkward or cautious or cheap or overly cheap to just constrict just like the flow of everything right um like I said it's it's everybody is sensitive to these downside negative stereotypes of any group at different points right like you see every I don't even want to you know I can't even say but like you see a lot of people right now address the stereotypes of their group and um obviously anybody who's honest has to say that there's some baseline acknowledgement that the stereotypes came from somewhere right I you guys tell me what you think it is saying stereotypes are earned not given you tell me I don't know um but anyway let's just get into my final takeaways I I really thought it was summed up in this comment saying this guy said Chinese people are the worst people I've ever met which I think is actually a really crazy statement but I can see why people would say that because it's like it's the group that you can say that about and get away with it and still like nobody's really like you're not going to lose your job over it and then somebody said uh the best person I met was Chinese the worst person I met was also Chinese the population was so large that there are all kinds of people and I think that that's really the real truth behind it but yeah in terms of the cheap sort of like grabbing the Costco chicken stereotype in China that's real you know what I mean um I do think it was overplayed you know by some of the jokesters and things like that like talking about it but I'm not going to deny that there's not truth to what they said or truthiness is the you know stepen coar way of saying it and that's why it's so important I don't want to plug my thing too hard but it's like you that's why it's so important for the for for Asian males you know you don't have to sign up for my program in the email uh form Google form below but you got to reprogram you got to break down the old atropy muscles if you feel like that's sort of like some programming that was given to you and then you got to build up the new muscles and you got to change it and I think a lot of it is relating to other races like I can relate to other races and I can learn from that but if you have to learn from somebody who looks like you who went through the same things you might not get all the reverse coaching you need to like coach away from like scarcity mindset or even if you go oh I like my scarcity mindset causes me to be frugal yeah well don't lose the frugality or the value Consciousness but don't be so cheap that it's offputting right like there's such like a push and pull and it's very like holding the dove right like you you you let the dove go or you hold it too tight and then the dove dies and you're suffocating it now right it's hard to know where the right push and pull like equilibrium main zone is and um man at the end of the day like I said stereotypes do come from somewhere but all we can do is understand where they come from and that's what KES is I guess helping everybody do we can accept the criticism and a lot of the criticism sometimes it is emotionally tinged and it's not fair or it's like you know they they they they they they they take a foot of CR legit criticism and turn it into a 10 feet of criticism it is what it is like because all I can do is just try to change it and I would never really like deny being Chinese I would more rather like try to make it cooler by putting forth a likable cool image but at the same time I'm not going to be I have some Chinese friends like I said like my ex or like I'm not even going to name him who are high up in the industry that is almost obsessed with trying to go against this like cheap uncool Chinese stereotype um that you know what I mean so I I don't want to make my life obsessed with it either way but uh you you it does take a lot of time to arrive to this point so anyway sign up you know at the Google form below for Tiger Club it's going to be a lot of addressing these topics let me know what you think watch K's video watch all 20 minutes let me know what you think in the comment section below what you think of my comments I think that it's really important what CL I'm not saying I even fully agree with everything he said or how he said it but just I think it's important he's doing what he's doing because I always noticed that Chinese Americans and Anglo countries were always like had the most disarray and just the least United narrative and I guess that's understandable when you look at the history to his to the point of his video let me know what you guys think in the comments section below until next time hop hop boys live from Bok I'm out peace