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I'm in a company that's kind of toxic. Usually, I'm in a company that's a little toxic. Yang mana I have also faced. Rakan-rakan is yelling at me. Perasaan alinasi. I was just saying. Why if you don't trust HR, Is there nothing you can say? Give us a share of our wealth, Work can be a nightmare. I mean, we've all heard horrible stories, right? Bos buruk, what is it? cultural workplace in Tacoma, The drama of the officials, All this stuff Sometimes, even a wrap is a hard love. But what is actually poison And what can we do if we find ourselves in a packaging? We are here today with Raffia, A therapist who has a lot of experience in this area. Raffia, before we start a specific story, We have a few questions for you. What do you think is a toxic workplace? It's a place where he doesn't give his life. Or in another way, You'll say it's a place where life stops. You sometimes in circumstances Manage your system response to threats has been activated. So every time you enter your workplace, You are authorized to prepare. Same thing with the threat. or feeling Like you're going to be bullied. Like you feel like you might have a problem at any time. - I'm not going anywhere. Sometimes, a very toxic work environment It's also used as a hard candy. As the boss said That they're being hard on you because they want you to grow. But how do you draw the line between love and hardship? And the surrounding area? First of all, love is hard to say I've used too much. Someone is lacking. That can be firm And be careful on the same mass. Second, with the toxikiti, There is a negative element. So, if you are sugar But you're not negative, Well, I guess there's a black zone Where you can't be toxic. But if you're hard on negative, There's a hate crime involved, There's a nickname, There is a need to teach more down than in the game. Then you know There's a little toxicity already. You feel too trapped inside That you have abilities to express revenue, you have the ability to communicate And you find yourself hiding. As in the commercials that change, You're not yourself anymore. Are some of the cases you see most often When the client comes to you? If you have a bodyguard, It is clear that your bodyguard has certain rights Ask you to do it within the scope of work. Is that going to cancel the regulation? is letting you do work after office hours. Basically, you're seen as someone who has energy, stamina And this is the right course of study. Then they describe it as a proper journey. I guess, yeah. It's a good idea to pay your rent, isn't it? Like we've heard a lot. Sometimes what has been done to them has been done to others. Since I went through it. Yeah, the kind of toxicity I've been amalgamating. As you know, I learn this way, So it's my turn to remove this to you. One time, I was chatting with some friends And we described one of their workplaces as a toxic boyfriend. There is a lot of pencahayaan gas And then you feel, oh, you can't go Because you know, you just have to wait for the next promotion move. Do you feel that there are actually some differences? As much as you refuse, rejecting, How much you refuse disease in your personal life Actually, it can happen in your professional life. And those who have grown up healthy, They'll know faster. Certain jobs don't work for them. A lot of clients come for counseling, 90% of the time they feel that the problem is them. Like there's something wrong with me, Why I don't fit, Am I not competitive enough? Therefore, many questions and many self-doubt It will start to develop. And that's when I slowly need to tell them It's a two-way street. So, sometimes, yeah, something you put out Yang orang-orang caught, But sometimes it's done to you. Like an outside factor, The environment. Very good to read. Some of your work laws are out there. And places like TAAFEP, Is it a good job or a work exercise? Because you want to go in with your eyes open. You have the right to ask, You also have the right to chat. There is no such thing, I am a new student, I need to do whatever people ask me. No, there is no such thing. Betulkah? What is it? In the... Actually, no, but that's the real question. The question is really is true. I remember on my first day, I was like... I'll do what I can. It's like... You know, because you just don't know. Yes Tuhan, the same. When I started working, I was like... Okay, I will do it. Yeah, like you don't deserve better because you haven't I know, isn't it? Oh, yeah, yeah. Can you say no, right? Actually, one day I gave voice Worrying about something that happens at work And then someone told me, Oh, if you don't understand that And if you talk about him, Then you will show that You're not cooperating. Oh, Tuhan, he said. You just need to sit back and accept what's happening. Yeah, that's how you'll succeed. This is a very concise way, Aggressive and passive for membuli Go to the group work. You're not a band player. I guess like If you work, it's very difficult to Against a lot of people. Especially in the first few years. Maybe if you have more experience, It's easier than that. It's very hard for me to hear you say The first few years. I was like, the first few months? Recently, I was just talking to a friend. He's a little new to the company, But what he expects from a mentor not given to him. So, the mentor actually sees me as a match. Then, instead of supporting him, He feels like he's locked out of opportunities. The truth is very sad, But it happens a lot. And I think for someone who's been through that, The first thing to do To know is Who are you? Have a good trip. I say the word with selamat Because I think all the new people working with him Very worried about I was sentenced for being a singer. Or sentenced to be someone That's ruining someone's reputation. So, you want to be careful with who you share with, But don't be careful not to share. This is, once again, the truth of the staff. You're given a job for a specific job. You've been given a job as a dikawal. All this will actually dilate in the process of work. Is the next step to leave? I don't suggest you leave work. Because if it's the job he really wants And he's worked hard to get there, Then I would suggest that he see, perhaps, Tafap And get outside help. To see if he can bring someone To talk to the company To find a way that he can or does In the company, more than a mentor. Then, after doing some trials to solve problems that he didn't solve, At least it gave him plenty of experience How to handle it. So, leave for a good cause. Usually, if you leave, you're not going to be able to get out. Because you can't do anything, So fear will keep you alive. And that's where it's gonna be trauma and PTSD. And he'll follow you to the next job. So, you need a pen. I have a friend who now I'm planning on leaving. But every time he tries to leave, Boss tried to praise him with more benefits and so on. I think he's just too scared to leave. Just because he's used to the company And he doesn't know if he can find another job while he's there. Kawan Tasha needs to think about what she's hargai. If at work, he's not appreciated, So not much money can bring him back. So, he needs to have a deep thought about what his priority in life is at this time Because toxins can change your personality. It takes a lot of work. To bring him back to the situation Where people can be proud of who they are. It just made me realize that this short-term benefit can be compared to the long price you didn't pay. For your mental health. Dan penilaian diri Because he already knows that he did not diuruskan properly But he's got it in the way. Which means it's also part of him. Who also rejects self-assessment And that for me is a bigger problem. I'm having a The more mature friends I'm going to have to go. And it wasn't a very pleasant experience. Yeah, and because of that I'm having an emergency. I don't know who to ask for help. So I took it all myself. Yeah, I just cut my teeth and Yeah, facing the music. I've been in therapy before. I think I'm more willing with tools to handle things better. Are you going to say that people should start therapy If they even experience a little anxiety But it's not that tight? Like when they should start looking for help? So how does Louis explain this situation I have a feeling that he doesn't have much support system And in this situation, if you don't have a good support system Like friends or family who you can talk openly with. Yeah, therapy will be the way to go. And I want to delete some Myths about therapy. Therapy is not a place you go when you only have a problem. Sometimes you go there just to change your mind. So sometimes he can be hanged In the teaching How do you know we're just teaching you through What you want to do with your life. So in Louis's condition, he can come to therapy What he wants to do with his career If this is the place he wants to stay Then he can bring all these problems. So it can be different dimensions. And then in a deeper ranking is to really see yourself. Maybe the problem is toxicity at work. But also to broaden his perspective That there's another thing I'm playing here Which causes him to control too much. Because I got a call at work. That is a clear sign. Too much, yeah, that's the red map. That's the red peta. I'm curious because obviously therapy Not something that everyone has access to. You know, are there some places that Can young people ask for help? In most places, you have Ponytail or ponytail together at work. I've personally trained a few of them. They can work with you. And through your situation. Another way is to contact the family service center. Where they have a subsidy value for services. They basically collect money Based on how much you got. And in some places, you can get pro bono service. The more valuable option is a worker assistance program. Many companies have this program. It's where workers are given a slot to see a therapist. First, it's made in a regular way. Second, you're not required to report Why are you going to see a therapist? You don't have to have a problem seeing a therapist. You only get a slot amount. So, you can use it all year round. And if you need an upgrade, You can contact the Family Services Centre. If the client needs more than what has been communicated, I'll make a backup. And most family service centers are pretty good. They'll just call If it really is a critical case. 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