GET ENERGIZED: The Real Reasons You're Always Tired & Lazy! | Mind Pump 2420

hey get energized look if you're tired you're feeling lazy watch this episode today we're going to talk about the reasons why you feel so unproductive lazy and tired let's get into it take our energy you vampires yeah is that your example of like high energy right there something something like thought maybe wake him up a little bit get him in here how many reasons we got we got eight reasons eight of eight common reasons there's a lot of reasons why you could feel this way but I got eight of the most I like these yeah you know first I think we should kind of decipher uh the difference between lack of motivation and low actual physical energy because there is a difference although they could both feel the same um motivation is is a feeling that we all love it's great when we have it but you're not always going to have it even if you're if you're healthy even if you have lots of you know physical energy otherwise it's going to go away and so it is important to not just rely on that wonderful feeling of motivation because if you do then your life is going to look like a lot of uh start stop right because you get motivated and you you you got that driving Factor behind you and then when it goes away you're just not because you fall so love with that feeling you don't do anything uh I think what we're talking about today and we will get to motivation as well um but mostly what we're talking about is just that lack of just overall energy where you feel sluggish tired um you just feel like something's off like what's what's going on here I don't feel like getting up and doing certain things even things that I enjoy necessarily like what's going on and and there are some very common culprits for this and often time most most of the time it's one of the ones we're going to talk about uh today it's great we're doing this I just was sharing uh a clip our friend Jordan scatt had did uh I thought it was interesting I don't think i' had seen anybody on Instagram do it I'm sure it's a trend or going to be a trend but did you see it Justin it was like the he he was riding his bike like an assault bike and it was like some days he's motivated here's when I'm motivated in the gym uh to be here then is like here's when I'm not motivated in the gym to be here it the same thing yeah it was like all day long like it was a video of him drinking his water it was a video of him you know eating fruit it was him like all the things he does in the day and the top screen was uh days that I'm motivated the bottom screen was days that I I'm not motivated it was all the same [ __ ] it was just like it's such an important thing though because uh I remember when clients would rely on motivation to to do things and it was like man if you do that you will fail eventually because I don't care how awesome you are and how great life is currently for you there'll come a time when uh reality hits and uh you will lack motivation because it'll be a bad day and you won't feel like it and things aren't going your way and at that point you can't lean on the motivation anymore to get the things you need to get done at that point you need to hopefully lean on the disciplines that you've created around exercise and nutrition to keep you going for that during that period of time so that when motivation hits again you've got just even more momentum just becomes a thing you do right no 100% I've never had to convince a motivated client to work out or to eat right or to do certain things when you're in that state of mind everything you you want to do all those things when you when you're not in that state of mind you have to still be able to find a way to do all those things now lack of physical energy uh I mean that's a physiological thing that's something is going on so we're not talking about necessarily lack of motivation although uh this can definitely play a role it's really just that overall feeling that you're just you can't function like you normally would and so like what is going on and the first culprit or the first reason why you may be feeling uh tired and lazy and it's going to sound obvious but it's it's it's not as obvious to people when they're experiencing this and that's poor sleep they just have poor sleep the number one factor hands down by far it's so crazy to me when I started to put this together as a trainer years into my career because early years uh the first five years I paid no attention to my client's sleep this wasn't even a factor at all if they got results didn't get results uh felt tired whatever I never even thought about this unless they came and complained to me about getting poor sleep and my advice I had very limit mited advice this wasn't something that I considered until later and and this is because I realized and I had some really good mentors um when I was a trainer I realized through watching some of these other trainers that um a lot of people just have suboptimal sleep now we know when your sleep is terrible but what if it's just suboptimal like what happens um well it's it's obvious when you get optimal sleep what it what suboptimal feel sleep feels like like when I would have clients that would come in and we would work on their sleep hygiene we'd work on a sleep routine at night we would I'd have them go to bed and wake up at the same time I'd have them stop eating a few hours before bed I'd have them be off Electronics um I'd have them up you know make sure the room was blacked out and all that stuff they'd come to me and they'd say oh my God I didn't realize just how much my sleep was affecting me and now I feel so different I feel so much happier so much more energized so much more sharp this is really obvious to people who discover later in life that they have sleep apnea this is a big one I have a family member recently recently she told me about this because she didn't know that she had sleep apnea um it wasn't until she moved in with her boyfriend that he's like hey and you know she's a normalized girl young or whatever so she had no reason to think she did and he's like man you I think you need to get checked out she did a sleep study and they're like yeah you got sleepy apnea we think you would benefit from using um a cpat machine and she used it and she's like I had no idea how that I had suboptimal sleep it made such an impact like I wake up the next day feeling so different a lot of people are are cruising at 70% when it comes to sleep and you get them up to 90 to 100% And it's life changing when it comes to this I actually would make the case that this is a majority of people I think most like there's definitely a percentage of people listening right now and they're like yes I know you know they they've heard us talk about it they've been working on it they're the ones that ask all the questions about supplementation and how to optimize it and they're very aware of it but I would say a large percentage of my clients were just unaware yep they just assume that oh you know I think I get a they weren't even calculating how much time they were sleeping the they weren't paying attention to Quality they never really paid attention to like how inconsistent the time they go to bed they were they did the the uh how many times they woke up the middle of night how many times you get up in the middle of night they weren't taking account for what they were doing themselves every weekend where you know oh during the week they have this real cons and then on Friday nights and Saturday nights they stay out till 2 in the morning and then try and restart all over again on Monday and like I think a lot of people fall in that category of oh my sleep is fine I'm guilty of this I think that um for most of my young adulthood and training career I just said oh I I'm fine I think I'm okay I'm sure I'm a little sleepy and tired when I first wake up but by the time I shower and get my day going I'm fine I think a lot of people fall in that category that don't realize how much opportunity there is is for them to improve their performance in their gym their results how they feel by actually just optimizing the vast majority of people would benefit from Simply putting some effort and focus on on getting better sleep seriously like even if it's just a little just a little like there's definitely people with real sleep challenges and that have tried working on this and can't figure out what the problem is but most people don't really put a lot of time and effort into this at all they just I go to bed at this time I wake up at that time what does your sleep routine look like I don't know I go to bed you know I turn off the TV and and and close my eyes if you just put a little bit of effort into trying to get better sleep you typically will get a nice big return and there's nothing that will give you better energy than getting good restful sleep to give you an example right we all know 7 to8 hours of sleep is what we want that doesn't mean 7 to8 hours in bed that means 7 to8 hours of sleep so if you go to bed and you go let's say you go right to bed that'll give you s hours for when you wake up you're not getting seven hours of sleep takes you some time to fall asleep it might take you 30 minutes 20 minutes to fall asleep if you're lucky maybe longer so really you're getting 6 hours and 40 minutes 6 hours and 30 minutes and then that that becomes cumulative so if you want eight hours of sleep you probably should go to bed 30 minutes uh before that eight hours uh counts for example just a silly example and this what I mean by you put a little bit of effort um you tend to see uh big big payback from this next is uh in regards to exercise exercise has a profound impact on sleep both Sleep Quality um and quantity and your ability to fall asleep the stages of sleep throughout sleep um if you are totally inactive if you if you don't move if if your exercise or activity consists of walking to the car um you know walking to your office and that's pretty much it then uh you are going to get less quality s than you could from Simply adding some activity on the flip side too much exercise overtraining also causes major sleep disturbances the point with this is the right amount of activity that's appropriate for you in your body will give you really good effects uh when it comes to sleep hey sorry to interrupt we have a free guide titled understanding your mood stress and sleep it tackles all of those things from a Health and Longevity perspective it's a totally totally free guide so just click on the link at the top of the description below all right here comes the show a major factor when when you're not moving a lot like your body tends to try to adapt to whatever you're continually introducing to it and uh if I'm sedentary and I'm sitting in my chair a lot for work and in my car and commuting and then I'm at home I'm watching TV I'm kind of laying down I'm just continually telling myself that I'm in this seated position this laying down position like I don't need to expend that much energy so it's really hard hard uh to to summon energy when I actually need it uh if if I'm continually kind of presenting that sort of environment for my body so to introduce exercise and activity uh to to break it up and to make sure that uh that's a priority that I now I'm not trying to prune that out uh in terms of something throughout my day um this is going to help to spike that up and bring that energy back I mean you guys have heard me talk about this on the podcast one of the things as I've gotten older the one of the motivations to train at all even if it is to just go do one exercise is I know a significant difference in how helpful I am as a husband back at the house if there's a day especially the what we do here where we I sit in a car I drive here we sit in a chair we podcast with in this in this cave with these lights on us and artificial lights on us and then could go home then if I were to sit at home and watch TV or something like that boy it is it's very hard for me to then motivate myself to get up and do yard work or help around the house or cook or do dishes or anything like that yet simply making sure that I create some sort of activity uh lifting wise whether it be just five sets of squats or doing a a movement Turkish get up like what an impact that makes on my energy and motivation through everything else and the flip is also true because I went through this phase of my life of like crushing the gym yeah where I'm train training so hard that then I'm so exhausted this was also so this was actually my phase of when I started doing like CrossFit type workouts where I realized like this is not for me because I realized I was so spent I was so unproductive at work and everything other other part of my life because of how much I was spending well and and that's the thing it's like you get all motivated to take it all on at once when um we actually appli the protocol like our Maps 15 where it's like we got one to two exercises that you know I'm just going to introduce the the lowest amount of uh exercise possible ially and then this is like that momentum Builder that uh if I can frequently do that I can build upon that uh you you definitely feel the difference with energy as you as you take that approach versus like taking it all on and hammering yourself and then oh my God now I'm in a different situation yeah I mean I was I was speaking uh in terms of exercise too little or too much in regards to sleep and its effect on sleep I mean you guys are making uh the other great points which is just general um energy production your body adapts to exercise because exercise is a stress and so we we're familiar with the other with the more common adaptations building muscle burning body fat right improving um you know endurance and stamina and stuff like that and strength right but one of the other adaptations is energy production if your body your body will only ever produce as much energy as it thinks it needs why would it produce more than that right that would be a wasteful inefficient machine um so if you start to put more demands on your body this is the uh the amazing physics of uh energy expenditure um up to a certain point of course because you can overdo it but up to a certain point the more energy you expend the more energy your body creates this is what how workouts energize your body so so there's a couple reasons for this one is your body learns to produce more energy because it thinks you need more energy because of what you're doing and two when you're sitting all day long and you're not moving all day long you are sending an outside in signal that tells your body well we're not doing much we might need we might be sick we might be depressed we might be whatever and your body starts to ramp things down as a result activity is one of the best ways to produce more energy by the way if you're listening to this right now and you're feeling kind of lethargic and out of it test this out pause what I'm saying right now yeah just do literally 5 minutes of some kind of activity air you know body weight squats push-ups don't go crazy go for a little walk come back turn on the podcast again and how do you feel do you feel more tired no you probably feel more energized of course on the flip side you can overwhelm your body's ability to adapt with too much stress in which case then you're going to feel completely crushed and fatigued this one I think is more obvious for a lot of people you know what it feels like when you just beat yourself up you just you're you're fried you're totally fried but not enough exercise is interesting it's like the more you don't move move the more your body adapts to get you to not move forms into that it starts to form into this low energy kind of producing machine this is why uh one of the best ways you know I during the pandemic I I advise this a lot to people people were locked up at home and didn't know what to do and I told them to break up their day uh with little mini workouts do a 10-minute workout three times a day and what that did is it it energized them and produced these kind of Good Feelings uh throughout the day it produces activity produces catacol amines epinephrine norepinephrine adrenaline you get some dopamine that comes out especially if there's some challenge right you get that nice dopamine release which makes you want to do more um you get endorphin release uh especially if the workouts a little harder all those are feel-good kind of motivating uh type chemicals and they come from activity not from inactivity now on the flip side if you're just doing a lot you're working out like crazy or you just you're in a sport and they're training like crazy you're in the in season then uh rest is probably going to give you more energy doing more isn't going to energize you anymore may take away from uh you know your energy stores so the so in essence the right amount of activity will give you more energy and if you're sedentary moving for sure will make you feel more energized next up is not enough sunlight this is a modern Problem by the way uh by the way this is well documented if you look at things like depression um you can actually correlate it to how much Sunshine a particular place gets uh they'll show this in the US for example states with less Sunshine tend to suffer from more depression than states with more Sunshine the sun uh it feels good on our bodies it there's uh there are effects on the brain our cells respond to it our cells respond to it uh if you work in an office and you're indoors all day long you are going to have worse energy you're going to have less energy you are going to feel more lethargic than had you not had you gotten sunlight it's also directly connected to the very first one yes like huge difference on the quality and how easily I can fall asleep when I get sunlight early on and but great example is too anyone who has kids has has seen this happen before if I it's a night and day difference when Max has been cooped up in a house or we didn't get that early sunlight and get him outside and play in the Sun for even just a short period of time but getting him out there early to play in the Sun his ability to go down for a nap or go down for bed now is it's night and day difference versus being cooped up all day I'm I'm no different I can tell when I've had a day where i'm in front of a computer screen or in a cave all day long and then I try and go to bed that night my body is is all off and so not only does it impact your your energy level directly from the Sun and that and that current day but then it also sets you up for probably poor sleep too if you don't get that so they're both very connected yes compounding effects uh next up is hydration and electrolyte imbalance this one this is one again that I figured out later on as a trainer um again I had great uh trainers that I worked with and I remember hearing this young lady talk a lot about hydration with her clients and she would have them track and then she'd say okay I want you to you know double the amount of water that you take in and then the clients would come in and then I'd hear them say they'd all say the same thing oh my God I have way more energy yeah because they're drinking more water most people um don't drink the optimal amount of water now they're not dehydrated in the sense that they're drinking too little water to where their body's not functioning well and it can cause illness but there is so there's a minimum and there's also an optimal and the optimal amount is more than the minimum and most people drink somewhere around the minimum they drink just when they're thirsty and that thirst signal kind of comes on a little late and then they drink just enough and then they're done and then they get busy and they don't think about it um drinking a good amount of water and also making sure that you have enough electrolytes especially if you look if you're a DI if you eat a diet that is uh very low in processed foods is is mainly whole natural foods and you work out or you eat a very low carbohydrate diet you probably need to add electrolytes to your water um and you'll know this because you'll add them and then you'll feel way better within 15 to 20 minutes so hydration electrolytes it's big one this is actually one of the earliest memories I have of Justin so early on in my training career I actually did not realize how connected this was to clients's energy levels I instantly went to calories carbohydrates sleep kind of the boxes that were already checking and I think I overheard Justin talking to his client and I remember asking him about it back then and just he's like oh yeah you wouldn't you'd be surprised how many people just don't drink enough water and simply getting them hydrated like they instantly noticed a energy surge and I was like really and then I remember after that like advising and I realize how many clients were like oh my God that's all I needed was it a little bit of hydration it's like wow you're right so many people can and I don't know if that's because uh of the the era of energy drinks and other types of fluids that people drink or they just get so busy I'm not I don't I'm not sure what the connection of why that's so common with clients that's why I was unaware of it but it became like a go-to like make sure we cross check that box is like are you and that's also what started me having clients actually carry the gallons around because that way we were measuring because most people that weren't tracking were grossly underc consuming I think yeah we just somewhere along the lines just weren't intentional with it anymore uh and if you're not intentional with it you're not planning your day out by having that accessible uh we could just easily get into our work and we can get into our routine without you know properly hydrating and then you have brain fog you got the fatigue you're lethargic like that just stuff that all just happens you know as a result of that so uh you know having that intention going into your day and then and setting yourself up for that makes a big difference have you guys ever so I I also have remember of done this done this in a period of time where and I'm actually not great at this I still it's reminding this conversation reminding me uh of like first thing when you wake up like just like pounding like a whole glass of water like I like when you do that I can feel a I can feel feel a difference the salt like he's talking about too like you I didn't even consider that a factor until uh realizing I am eating Whole Foods I am eating a lot of just meat and you know vegetables and um to not even you you add the salt and and you think it's a lot because it's salty and it's like but it's not even close to the uh prepackage especially if you work out especially if you work out you need more of it I I mean I remember I'd get clients that I would train and I would see them at like noon right and they'd walk in and I'd ask them how much water have you had today and they'd go oh I haven't had any yet noon right they went to work and everything they at work at 9:00 a.m. they woke up early they had no water all day long and that was common so then I would tell them okay when you wake up make sure you have a full glass of water and then a couple hours later have a full glass of water most people would do well with about a half a gallon to a gallon of water a day um and that sounds like a lot for a lot of people um but it's a nice range half a gallon to a gallon most people find themselves feeling great uh drinking about that much and then again don't forget uh the electrolytes next up this one is this one is somewhat common but if you fix this one is a life Cher and that's a nutrient deficiency if you have a nutrient deficiency like you're you're not getting enough of some of the B vitamins like V vitamin B12 for example or d uh or magnesium or your iron levels are low um the kind of fatigue that you would feel is typically crushing you would almost be like okay what is wrong with me I don't understand why I feel so lethargic and out of it and tired and then you can go get tested go get tested see if you have a nutrient deficiency and then if you do and you fix this game absolute Game Changer I remember when this happened uh to my wife I remember her B vitamins were low we didn't know this and she was just having this tremendous fatigue couldn't figure it out and when we figured out that it was B vitamin deficiency a good B vitamin supplement uh I remember her feeling hyper she you felt hyper a couple hours after taking a B vitamin now if you don't have a b deficiency you'll notice nothing you'll take your B vitamin you feel nothing for her she was like oh my God I feel weird I feel hyper I'm like uhoh you definitely had a deficiency so this one you can get tested and you can see iron deficiencies uh obviously far more common in women than in men men typically don't have an issue with this um or if you're vegan this could be an issue B vitamin deficiencies also tend to be more common to women and also uh more common um in vegans and the same thing with D vitamin D deficiencies by the way vitamin D deficiency can cause things like anxiety and depression and pain and and vitamin D deficiencies are pretty common in both men and in women well would you say the big four uh vitamin D Vitamin B iron and magnesium those would be the big four I'd say those are the four most common yes uh you know um nutrients that when I'm having a client are assessing their their diet what's going on with them that they those by the way what this feels like is crushing fatigue then you go to bed and you have crappy sleep and you can't figure out why I'm not sleeping well so frustrating and yet I'm so tired or just like low low level of lazy not feeling good like not enough to where it's you're so deficient that like you're seeing major signs but I can't tell you how many times one of these four if not or multiple were not off and simply just sub this is also why you've heard us on the show before always recommend this first before all the performance supplements that everybody wants to talk about there's always the latest greatest fat burner the latest greatest muscle builder like you know people always gravitate to the newest science that's out and get so excited about it meanwhile haven't tested to see if they have any sort of deficiency in these big four that we're talking about and I tell you right now fixing one of those big four makes such a significant difference in their overall energy levels throughout the day and sleep that it will absolutely result in more muscle and M more fat burning than the best fat Bur burner the best muscle builder that are out there so these are essential nutrients that's why you have to focus you have to invest in finding out that first before wasting your money on one of these performance supplements that are being marketed to you all time yes these are essential nutrients meaning if they if you're deficient enough in one of these nutrients you won't Thrive you will fail to thrive and you could cause and create some serious issues I had another client who had all these neurological uh issues there was numbness and tingling couldn't figure out what was going on she was freaking out and she came back and it was a B vitamin deficiency as well salved solved by supplementing with B vitamins all right next up is too much caffeine so I want to say this this is I want I want to be clear here nobody is ever too tired or too lazy because they are lacking caffeine okay that's not why you're tired or lazy caffeine is not an essential nutrient so uh so I want to say that first blasphemy number two too much caffeine can actually cause the opposite when you have too much caffeine you can have uh you you start getting these energy crashes and you affect your sleep negatively this how I came up with my number this is how I know the number I know the number of milligrams that I have to start going the other direction because literally anything beyond that number now results in me being fatigued from it like if I start pushing Beyond spiral after three three like caffeine drinks or cups of coffee or whatever in a day that fourth fifth whatever doesn't matter how many those now have a reverse effect it's wild how it happens and so I know as I start to creep up getting close to that number it's time for me to start weaning off and go the other direction because the inevitable is going to happen I'm just going to pile another one on it's only going to make it worse yeah yeah or you'll feel better for 10 minutes and you'll be like right and then and then certainly my sleep is getting disrupted that night yes uh now this this one the reason why this one's so challenging is because caffeine has become such a big part of our culture and it's great when you first use it I mean caffeine is an amazing drug I mean if I invented caffeine right now if nobody knew what caffeine was and I created it right now I would be instantly uh one of the richest men of the world and then I'd probably they probably nobody would have drink yeah but you you want to know what's funny about that and I think you would agree with this that if you found that today it would be illegal illegal 100% what we know the deaths caused by it how we know it affects your central nervous system what we know about caffeine today if that was a found a highly addictive substance we would 100% not make it legal that's CRA that's what I think is crazy is that we that's how much we've normalized it in our culture you know and I'm just as guilty so it's not me pointing the finger but if it was found today we would make it illegal it would so we're not demonizing caffeine uh used appropriately probably has some health benefits um but if you use it chronically you do build up a tolerance very quickly then you become reliant on it and then you need more to produce the same effect and then you hit that breaking point where it affects your sleep and or it causes crashes so when people come to me and they say oh man I'm super lethargic tired and I ask them how's your con caffeine consumption and they tell me it's like uh oh you're taking too much we got to wean you off and then let's work on some other stuff well and also to kind of parallel to what we're talking about with momentum it's like you don't want to you want to be disciplined you don't want to rely on something like like caffeine or or something else that I have to have this in order to now produce this this exercise this movement to to happen as a result it's just something I do so if that's sort of uh impeding upon your ability uh to just go do the work as well you got to assess that totally hey real quick sorry to interrupt 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interesting thing that happens uh to humans where when you have too many things happening all at once you tend to do nothing you freeze you freeze with overwhelm I don't know what to do so I'm doing nothing at all so this is more of a life thing it's like okay look at your life maybe you're super tired and fatigued because you're doing more than you can handle uh by the way don't judge yourself on this because there's definitely people that can do more than you just like there's people that can do less than you but this is where people start to get into a trap where they say well I mean my mom did way more than this or my friend does way more than this why am I so it doesn't matter at the the point is it's more than you can handle so take some stress off uh lighten the love C ask people to help you or reduce your responsibilities um because this right here is a path to some serious uh burnout there's a couple things that come to mind when when we talk about this one is the type A personality that uh believes they thrive in this right like almost addicted to this I'm guilty of this right like I I like so much going on sometimes that it keeps me so busy and I'm always trying to solve a problem and there's a part of me that kind of likes that and is is drawn to that you got to be very careful of that because you being drawn to that can absolutely make an impact on how you're sleeping how your energy levels are up today and then also impacting your results the other one is that we always uh or we don't think about uh exercise and some of these things as like a total amount of stress that my body they're all stresses yes so a lot of times people think that oh my workout isn't that hard it I should be totally fine yeah but you're also going through a divorce you just switch jobs you have a a 2-year-old kid and it's like all of that is all compounding stress and then it then your what you think is a weak workout is too much for you because your stress bucket is overfilling right and or the other way like oh life is so good so then you are loading it up like crazy in the workout you don't realize that you're so it's a total amount of total stress that the body can handle before you over spill in that bucket and so those two things are the things that come to mind when I think about uh overwhelming stress and how that can start to impact it and so you have to really evaluate yourself if you're one of those two types of people are you type of people that are drawn to all that excess stress because you think you operate better in that place or are you choose somebody who is uh doesn't understand how to measure all total stress because it all counts towards us yeah and you know what you want to do is you want to look at your your stressors and activities and responsibilities and you want to prioritize them because you can't do everything okay so manipulate the factors that are more manipulatable right so if you have a a job uh that's demanding and you have young kids well you probably can't quit your job and you definitely probably don't want to not raise your kids so look at all the other stuff that you got going on well I you know I I work out six days a week well that's a factor that you can manipulate maybe I should work out three days a week and and cut that down with's something else well I got that one group that I go to or I got that one responsibility I signed up for can I cut those out I think I need to because these other ones are more important so really it's about looking at everything that you're doing weighing things out and I know this is a tough one because we want to be able to do everything we want to be able to you know do all the stuff that we want to do but if it's overwhelming you then you end up doing nothing so pick the ones that are most important take time away from the things that are less important so that you have enough of you to be able to do the things that are most important lastly you you lack purpose this may be why you're tired maybe why you're feeling lazy some of the most driven motivated people I've ever met in my entire life were people that volunteered their time for something that they believed in and I I've seen people like this I've worked with them I've been around with people like this these people you would be you just shocked at how much energy they have to do this work that they're doing but because they have a purpose behind what they're doing because they believe so strongly in the thing that they're doing they find the energy to do so this is where their Joy comes from if your if your job is something you don't believe in you don't have much purpose in your life or you don't feel like you have much purpose there's no challenge lot you know some purpose comes from challenge as well if you're kind of just cruising along well you might just be feeling tired and lazy because you have no purpose find what that is now of course the followup question is how do I find my purpose oh there's a couple places that people typically find them uh one of them is in having a family that's a common one another one is in their job but you better have a job that you really believe in where it's like I would do this even if I if I didn't get paid or I would do this uh for free and another one is a spiritual practice do you have a spiritual practice that gives you a sense of purpose that's larger than yourself those are the three most common ones those aren't all the ways but those are the three more common ones where where people tend to well I think you hit on the head is find something that's challenging I think that that tends to give people people that are searching for it but we know this is such a uh um there's a direct connection here I mean we have examples everybody has probably knows somebody who is retired or empty nesters how often do you see when a married couple of you know say married for 20 years and then their kids are now out of the house and they're like looking at each other like what do we do or they or they realize they don't even like each other anymore because this their whole purpose was around raising these kids not realizing that there was something that they weren't doing for each other and then the same thing goes for the guy who worked his whole life to get to retirement and you know that was his purpose and then he gets there and he retires and then you know he does you know 20 rounds of golf and then after that he's like what the hell do I do I'm so I'm bored I'm tired I'm lazy I I have no purpose and so this is a this is a a big one for sure and one that is probably of all the ones we said that one of the most difficult to probably solve because a lot of people that lack the purpose also lack the the idea around what they should do you know you know an easy easier way to find this is to to try to become a better person and say to yourself all right what would that look like for me to become a better person what are the things I can learn and then seek them out and try to grow with them I think if you're constantly growing in a way that makes you a better person I think you can definitely find um purpose in that so this could be a course a class it could be volunteer work I just talked to a friend of mine about this she's uh in her late 30s doesn't have kids doesn't want to have kids she's you know High position at her company but she's kind of like whatever about it and she's just like you know I just feel like I don't know I just don't feel a sense of purpose and so we started talking and I said well what are things that really get you you know either really fired up or things that get you really motivated we started talking and she decided she's going to donate some of her time uh to helping women in abuse relationships uh because she's she was in one herself when she was younger and she had this look in her eyes and I could tell she's like wow that I think I want to do that I think that feels good gave her a sense of purpose so that's you know find those things you know you know you see this too with a lot of young men where that natural drive to create uh to conquer or to to overcome challenges they are expending it on uh video games for example which tap into that to an Essence but don't really give you what you're supposed to get so rather than rather than going out in the real world in conquering or going out in the real world and in in going in challenges they're just trying to beat level 45 on whatever video game uh that they're doing or or maybe you're you're you have uh you know maybe you have social anxiety and uh you know you're just like you know I don't want to go out and talk well maybe there's some purpose behind that go out and put yourself in a group and meet people and put yourself out there and uh watch how that feels when you can overcome that that big challenge but there's a lot of different ways to find that purpose but if you don't have purpose will be very difficult all right I know you like that episode if you did check this one out [Music]