I Wasted 10 Years Of My Life

[Music] brought to you by the every dooll app start budgeting for free today so I'm kind of in of a little Dilemma to where I feel like I've wasted 10 years of my life and how so long story short um uh coming out of high school I didn't know exactly what I wanted to do in my life and um you know I scrambled I went from nursing land care uh being an entrepreneur I did a whole bunch of things and uh found myself in trucking now I've been in trucking for about four years and throughout me trying to figure myself out and going back and forth through college online courses and things of that nature I've I've tackled on a little bit of debt which is minuscule compared to others but I also um got into a couple of vices uh drinking smoking and uh I guess the biggest one would be gambling um I have two sons and a daughter um and I recently popped the question so now I'm on my last year in my 20s I turned 30 in November and now just kind of reminiscing of what went wrong in how many years and days months and seconds have I really wasted of just not figuring out life I don't have a savings um I don't have if it wasn't for my current employer I wouldn't even have health insurance um no 41k no big plans uh most of my life has been basically paycheck to paycheck just surviving um I'm not you're a great place yeah I would say so my dad told me growing up 90% of solving a problem is realizing there is one right and I just and and I realized that and I've listened to you listened to you guys for a while now I just never really had the courage to really call but speaking to my fiance you know she she said it would be a good idea don't be scared you know and from what I've heard um from what what I'm hear what I've heard from you guys in the past especially giving other people advice you guys are very blunt and I I feel like that's needed um so I'm just kind of just wondering where should I start okay so I heard I heard four things that you described as problems smoking drinking gambling and not sticking with a career track did I hear that right right okay if those are the four problems what is causing that get down under what's the cause of those thing and I bet it's the same thing that's causing all three of them um it could be simple immaturity uh it could be you know you got demons from your childhood chasing you or something I don't know not literal demons but possibly um but the uh but but I mean okay so so cuz I mean the obvious answer is um it's almost like a joke you know Bob newart just passed away but he had a famous uh routine that he did as a psychiatrist he wasn't a psychiatrist he played one on TV but he he would you know people would come in and tell him their problems and he would just yell stop it mm you know just stop it yeah and that and then that'll be $5 you know stop it that'll be $5 and so that it's kind of it's kind of like where you are right I mean it's like okay the gambling the drinking are are have you stopped it I have I I can I'll be honest i' I'm doub that was a no yeah I'm no I haven't I haven't I have stopped I forcibly stopped myself from gambling I I self- exempt myself baned myself uh within Virginia state so um for about five years of that five years it's been I want to say close to three I haven't smoked in about a good uh almost nearly a year and my last drink was probably last weekend okay and so then I guess the other thing you think about is who are you running around with MH that was CAU that that was thinking that this is a good idea and you're not running around with him anymore because you know you become who you hang around with that's right that's true raan raan I'm gonna be real blunt with you because you opened up the door and usually Dave does all the blunt but I'm going to tell you something you who have been trying to escape a life that you don't enjoy and you need to start building today a life that you don't need to escape from gambling is a rush it is trying to discover what it feels like to Beed to win that's right and I think it's building a life and I I know I'm the work guy at Ramsay but the the research backs me up this is not my opinion when when a when a human being does something in their day that is meaning then they don't need to escape from Life the the reward is knowing that you are doing something that matters to you because it matters to someone else so from a work standpoint we're going to give you some tools by the way because there's a lot to cover here U but I want to give you the get clear assessment in the book find the work you're wired to do because it's going to really help you and then we could also set up a call for you to come on my show we can go a little bit deeper here but my friend what is ailing you is that there Dave's right there's something in your soul that is longing for meaning and purpose or there's this Vision you had of your life that maybe you don't think is possible and a lot of fear and doubt along this way these 10 years in your 20s you've gotten to a point where you didn't think it was possible and so to medicate you medicated through alcohol and you medicated through nicotine and you've medicated through gambling and I think Dave's right stop it is is you don't need to be sad you need to be mad and I think a good healthy sense of self anger to say as Dave you said it on the stage I'll hand it to you it's the most powerful thing I've ever heard you say and I've seen you say it I feel like I've seen you say it a thousand times but it it's where you get to a point where you're sick and tired of being sick and tired and and he's at a great place yeah you got to say I've had it I've had it I'm not living like this anymore and it's with and so and the good news is is that you're doing some real manly masculine things absolutely you're taking ownership of this stuff you're engaged you're going to be a dad uh you're actually going to show up and be a dad not just father children there's a difference right you know you're entering into all of these things and so what would you do you know what's the course on how to do life right that you'd sign up for well I'd get plugged in with some men that are who I want to be when I grow up oh that's true and I would you know get a group of guys that I hang out with all the time because you do become who you hang around with so true and as a matter of fact folks the research says that your income over a 10-year period of time will be within 15% of the average of your 10 closest friends income that's right and some of you are going I need some new friends well you might okay it's okay so um that's you know and so in my case what happened with me ran was uh I I got plugged into a good church because I met God and I met other men that were trying to be men be good Dads good husbands and I started learning from them and I so I was hanging out with people had the same aspirational goals that I had from a spiritual emotional relational Financial everything and and instead of just hanging out my drinking buddies it's a different group of people I can tell you that and so that that's how I did it and that's what we'll we'll plug you into a bunch of Ken's materials though hold on Christian will pick up we'll get you some of his stuff they get wired they get clear assessment with the uh find the work you're wired to do book and the whole thing will help you with all of it you're a good man you got a good heart create your free every dooll budget today the simplest way to budget for your life