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In the past few days, we've said that there are a lot of small issues with the age of birth. If you don't pay attention in time, it will have a big impact in the future. We've talked about what to pay attention to at the age of three or four months. So what are the other things that we usually ignore, ma'am? We know that a four-month-old baby is ready to sit. Then you can put a pillow or a backrest to help the baby sit well. Then put a mirror, because the baby is starting to enjoy looking at the movement of the person in the mirror. Just within a month, a short time like that, the baby's ears will start to move. Actually, this movement is very meaningful. It shows that the baby is starting to be able to hold the spoon. You see, when we hold the spoon, is this the movement? When you want to put food in your mouth, but your hand can't get in, you can't hold it. That's right. But we usually ignore such important movements. I don't know if the audience in front of us is paying attention to this movement of the baby. Ms. Tran, I feel like most parents don't know. If you don't say anything, we all think that the baby will grow up naturally. No adult knows this movement until the baby is sick. That's right. But what's the problem here? If the development of the body and the development of the mind, inner and outer, can harmonize very well, then the baby will be very happy and bright. You will find that when this baby grows up, when interviewed, there will be situations like this. Especially Chinese people, when they come to Western society, they usually suffer a great loss. That's the baby that makes people feel like, I don't know what I want to do. You're right about that. But I don't understand why this movement is so important. In this phenomenon, only those who have been to Western society to study or live, including adults like us, feel the same way. People who live in Western society, especially Americans, they have a very clear goal. They know what they like, what they want to do, what their purpose is. But if you ask Chinese people, even our generation, many of us are still looking for what we like. At this age, you're still looking. Do you think this is a common feature of Chinese people? This is a very common feature. And where does this feature show up? When our body develops, our psychology develops accordingly. But we often neglect this phase of psychological development. Many parents spend money on buying medicine, supplementary food for the baby. What for? To help the baby's body develop. It seems that when the baby was small, parents often pay attention to the development of the body and accumulate a lot of knowledge for the baby. That's right. They can only see the surface as the development of the body, but they don't see the psychological development inside. A large network like this is often neglected. Western society pays great attention to this. When the child grows up, about ten years old, when he is interviewed at the university, experienced teachers can tell if the psychological development of this child is very stable, step by step or not. Or does the group only have two answers? The first is not knowing. The second is to answer according to a prepared answer. Experienced judges can tell just by looking at it. Ms. Chen, I know you have a lot of experience. So during the interview with Chinese students, how do you feel? Can you give an example? I have a very deep feeling. One day, a student was brought by his parents. Looking at the outside, this student looks very mature. That is, this child is only 16-17 years old, but on the outside he looks like 20 years old. I feel like ... Very good development. Very good. It's like I've had a little experience. Acquired. That's right. Acquired. I feel very mature. He himself is very proud because he has a very good height. After he sat down, I asked, in the subjects at school, which subject do you like best? He pointed out a little bit. He did not expect to be asked this question. Usually people often ask, what is your educational achievement? Not asking what subjects you like to study. In Chinese families, there is a common phenomenon that subjects such as physics, chemistry, mathematics, scientific subjects usually have good achievements. Usually the teacher will look at those subjects first, but I feel that you have lived here anyway. You must have the idea of ​​the ancestor here. Human dignity is very important. Your sense of happiness in life, your sense of mission, your sincerity all come from your own people. So I asked, which subject do you like to study? He looked at me a little, looked around a little. What are you looking at? See if your parents are next to you. No. Then he said, maybe history. A young Chinese immigrant to the US, just two years old, he may like history. This is very unique. I said, it sounds very good. I asked back, what's so good about history to study? It's not just about what happened in your life, it's all about what happened. You're trying to test this kid. That's right. Do you know what he did? He left the table and said, that's it. He said, that's right. These are all things of the dead. These are all things that have passed. So what's good to learn? You see, the guy behind him said, it's not the same as the guy before. What is this? His first sentence was asked to say that, because a lot of Chinese parents now know that, things like the ancient history of Chinese history, began to be respected in mainstream universities in the US. So what will they benefit from? You are the heir to this traditional culture. That's right. You should know this culture. That's right. Even if you don't know the culture of your own people, what kind of people are you? That's right. So children are also educated from an early age, in such an environment. So the boy will learn a little bit about history, learn a little bit about the ancient history. But he didn't like it. When he got the real question, the answer was like that. I said, history is all things that have passed. So what's good to learn? He said, you are right. He really didn't like history. He answered a standard answer that his parents prepared, or the teacher prepared. You have to say this. That's right, because this is your heritage. But for a judge with a rich experience like you, a question has revealed the truth. That's right. So he couldn't get into the school he wanted. Because all of our staff have to think that in these four years of studying, how much money and manpower do we need to train this boy to become a truly contributing person to society And your inner mind must be truly sincere, right in front of every wave. No matter who bullies or threatens you, you still can't give up your ideal. So from your inner mind, you really want to contribute by doing specific things. This is our unchanging goal. We can observe this phenomenon. But what does this have to do with a four-month-old boy with hand movements like this? It's closely related. Because the interviewee has experience. Just by looking at it, you can see that you have this, or since you were little. Your life, step by step, has accumulated intelligence like this. Where does this intelligence come from? It comes from what you've heard since you were little. If at the age of four, a child can develop such important movements, that is a sign that this child can help himself compared to the rest of his life. At the age of four, he has the ability to hold a spoon and put food in his mouth. This is a completely different story. It's so important that you don't help your child understand. You don't let your child feel that you're really good. At that time, you've got this movement. If the child hasn't heard about this intelligence, we realize that later, we will also easily give up the important abilities in the development process of your child. So as an expert, you will encourage that when your child achieves a major development, an important sign of development, how do you encourage your child? First, you have to say clearly what that child's movement is called. Ah, now I know how to twist my wrist. The second step is that the father has to do this movement for the child to see. So that the child can understand that this is a wrist twist. That's right. Right in front of the child, you let the language speak for you. Attach to that movement in a secret way. That way, the child will understand. So why do some children develop language very quickly? In the relationship between people, that child is particularly agile. In the conflict between people, that child can avoid unnecessary conflicts. Why is that? Because the child can speak very accurately. Very good expressive ability. Very good. So people often like to talk, like to work with people like that. Talking to this person does not conflict. People understand each other very well. And time is money. Until this child grows up, he has to use the resources of the whole society or distribute the resources. If you are a friend, you will find people like that to cooperate. Or a person who does not speak clearly. Even talking is not clear until this person works on technology, and that technology is an invention. Use your product to speak for yourself. But a lot of good products can't sell because you can't speak clearly. How do you apply it in this market? That's right. You just said, a student came to interview has shown what parents have interacted with children since childhood. In the last two episodes, you said that parents must respond to their children. No matter what the child is doing and how busy you are, you have to respond to the child. But we really don't notice this. Do you know? Children from birth to 1 to 2 years old, adults often say that every day the child has a big change. So such big changes, we as parents also feel normal. I really don't think any parents tell their children, Oh, I know how to twist my wrist. Such a small move must also be told to the child. All must be told to the child, including when the child knows how to use the tongue. You know that a lot of sounds need to use the tongue to get the correct pronunciation. In some cases, when children start to go to school at the age of 1 or 2, or when the child is a little older, until elementary school, when the problem of learning appears and comes to us to check, then we find out where the problem is. That is, you can't use your tongue. Children can't use their tongues. There are two reasons. One is that the tongue is too short. It's short. Yes. The other is that no one encourages children to do this move, or move in the normal development process. It leads to poor communication, learning, communication. So don't underestimate the small moves, but they are very important. So when a three or four-month-old child can only move his arms like that, the parents not only have to say it, but also have to show joy. Parents observe your child very carefully, then you can also feel that you have such a big change. Yes, the child will be very happy. The child will think, I can do it. Children often have such characteristics. When you do something, you often show that you can do it. We have to affirm the success of the child. Then you have to repeat that move, not just repeat it once. It is when your child has that ability, then you have to continue to praise, continue to say that. So are there any parents who encourage their children since they were so small? Because this has a long-term impact until your child grows up. From zero to more than ten years old, how many details are there? If we don't create interaction relationships with our children, or guidance on the psychological side, how can you judge your child and compare your child with children of Western society? About this aspect, we often feel, why can't our child speak? Why? Because we didn't know how to do it when we were young.