"I Don't Fit In America...What Should I Do?"

should I move back to Asia because I'm not fitting in here in America that was just posted on Reddit there's a whole discussion let's talk about what this person could or could not do you know this is a good question because Asia is always getting better but America is still a better environment for getting cheddar uh we got to talk about it this Reddit girl um she's 17 years old she was born in America raised in local school in China came back for high school her parents moved back to China just left her in America and Massachusetts and she's like dude I'm in high school right now I do not have a single friend I don't fit in here what is going on ready I need some advice so make sure you like subscribe turn on your notifications but you know one thing Andrew that has peppers from China but came over to America it's smile ey you can get it at Smiley sauce.com from San to Sicily it's currently sold out but check back in she's in a tough situation Andrew her parents are not here she was raised in local school in China not international school that is going to make it difficult and she said she has a introverted personality and she's very tall now how tall is she is she Tong to you from Shan Dong the 75 basketball player that's about to be on the national team I don't know but I mean she's in a tough situation that's why she's going to the internet for help yeah so she goes to an international high school right now is what she says so I don't know if that's a private high school I'm not I'm I'm assuming it's not a public high school but I guess for me first off if the op is watching this video you have to consider that if you even have the option of moving back to Asia for a possibly good life you are in a good situation this is not even the worst situation you could possibly be in because a lot of people have no option to move outside of their home you're saying she possesses something that's very uh rare which is optionality yeah I'm not saying her family situation is easy because she's apart from her parents and they dropped her off in America but clearly there's some means money in that family a little bit to have her going to school in America now my initial thought was this I think a lot of this is a identity issue and a social issue and a personality issue this is not quite a financial issue I think she's going to have great opportunities in America if she gets educated here goes to a college out here she did state that she's not a full or die she's not super rich she's not super rich I'm not saying she's super rich but she's not poor obviously you know what I mean uh or else her parents wouldn't drop her off in America if she was poor is that what poor Chinese people do I don't think it's just not a poor situation to be it's not a super poor situation to be in yeah maybe she's not balling out of control but I'm saying it's not a terrible situation because she even has options that means clearly if she's even thinking about moving back that means she has some opportunities out there maybe by way of her parents or some connections I think the easy answer is you're in high school stay in America go to college get at least 3 to five years of working experience try hard in college try to get a good job that's going to give you maximum optionality at another Plateau point where you could go back as an expat to China right if you feel more socially comfortable within that environment here's uh so long short answer is stay in America figure it out make some friends be more extroverted or whatever but the complex answer is how old are you what's actually making you uncomfortable is it how like everybody's super extroverted in America and you want to be more introverted it doesn't necessarily moving back to China you're suddenly going to become extroverted it just may mean a they're more okay with introverted people because the culture altogether is more introverted right so that's more like normalized right what are your connections what are your opportunities Skillets what is your mindset you know if you like to stay at home and play video games you might as well just yeah you could just do it back there if you do it around your parents or here I guess it doesn't really matter because you're just going to stay at home but I guess if you are in the two 20% of people I think 80% of people Andrew their personality is going to maintain whether they're in America or whether they're back east however I believe there is 20% of people where they are dormant when they're in an uncomfortable environment and they need to be in the proper environment to be Unleashed and become activated there there is a portion of people that fit that description and if you do then by all means go to whatever environment unleashes you right yeah again I mean again the fact that she even has this option is not a terrible situation I understand that you feel out of place you probably haven't met the right friend group so you're going to have to seek out different friends and you probably want to pick a college that has a significant Asian population if you're in Massachusetts right now you can go to any school in Boston New York I mean a lot of colleges have a good amount of Asians West Coast too that's closer to Asia right right right I guess Seattle SF Houston La would be your options uh yeah I would say that those would pretty much be it um I will say this man uh yeah like I said some people they turn from slacker to go-getter it's rare though most people are going to be Slackers Slackers here if they're go-getters here they'll probably be go-getters anywhere I'll say this though I am glad that I didn't grow up with social media I think when you're a kid nowadays you see other kids that are thriving and uh flourishing to a 12 out of 10 level and whatever environment they're in it starts to make you question your own situation if you're not thriving David are you trying to pose the theory that social media has something to do with depression I'm shocked this is a brand new Theory and definitely true and I think that uh Reddit is a is a good place to get some conversations in but at the end of the day it's better to get around people who attack a lot of things in real life cuz I think a lot of people on redit to be honest are more computer-based people are more dormant listen Pleasant salad 705 op if you're watching this video I hope hopefully you feel like that we're talking to you because literally we are talking to you this is like our comment section this is like the comment I would leave sort of um there was a lot of comments saying you're just in high school you don't know it's a big world out there you're going to find your tribe but it is difficult it is difficult when you're in high school and you're not finding your tribe and other people around you Andrew are seemingly finding their already found their tribe I I'll tell you this at my actual high school I had a very very small tribe at other high schools I had even more friends so I will say at my particular High School growing up my tribe was not even that big and was a very active social guy and I was actually fairly popular in a way but not feeling like I had a tribe there so what I want to say is that a lot of people are feeling this what she's feeling is not new literally it is that teenage angst she's going through it she's you know feels however she does about it social media is contributing to it she she does look at her family maybe she's looking at pictures of her mom and dad in China living a great life and she's like that doesn't look too too bad it all depends on what you want to do yeah if you want to go do something super free and like you know unconventional America's a great place for that obviously if you could pick up your parents business or whatever go back to China yeah I mean it depends because if you go back and you want to work like a local person that's probably not going to be as good as working on American salary and getting an American job over here um somebody said please try to find some entertaining TV media or like internet role models that might H inspire you to become a more even proactive and engaging person this is huge you got to find the role models somehow whether I don't care whether you find it through Tik Tok or you find it through movies or whatever I mean you know there's like a billion options nowadays um somebody said you know I'm always happier when I'm in Asia in terms of socialization food and entertainment and activities but at the end of the day I'm not skilled enough to get one of those extra high- paid expat jobs because it is true if you don't want to teach English over sees Andrew you got to become like a at least like a upper middle tier in a company to get the xat uh package I got a middle solution for this lady or I don't know if it's a lady or a guy but whoever feels more happier or in an Asian environment but can't work there then move to just an Asian Suburban America yeah or work at an Asian company there's more and more Asian companies that are opening up either their main headquarters in America or a satellite oper if you like being in as but you can't get that super high level high paid xat job in Asia then just move to the second best thing which is an Asian ass suburb in America s griel Valley parts of Queens yada yada Y and guess what Andrew America's becoming more Asian statistically year and year out y y um somebody said I'm thinking about retiring at least 50% of the time in Southeast Asia soon listen guys Asia got a lot better especially southeast Asia everybody was talking about age statistics Andrew southeast Asia is super were coming up right now a ton of Youth and the economy's booming uh the wars you know the ex colonies have stabilized there was internal Wars there was a lot of difficulty separating itself from the colonial Powers but it looks like it's all happening now for the most part man it's looking fun yeah it looks F dude it looks appealing I'll tell you this my friends that are in Vietnam and in Bangkok right now or just anywhere in Thailand Bali India they having more fun than me it looks lit um this guy said I hope to make the US better for people like you it is difficult though depending on the state I always tell people this man and I always stress this in all videos Andrew America is very Fishbowl dependent what Fishbowl do you live in like you know people are like oh America's this way that way I'm like two fishbowls like if you're just two fishbowls away from somebody else you could be living in a completely different reality in 2024 right right right um ultimately my recommendations are this is a tall girl I say stick it out M just stick it out man but you just got to analyze things mathematically like you said the hormones the emotions whatever things are surging you know what I'd ask her this and this is a challenge to the op Pleasant salad did you give America a good shot yet this is a great land it's a great s despite all the struggles I know I get it yeah in certain situations you can be targeted and blah blah blah of course there's downside to every country America's a cool country have you given America a shot yet you're still really young and I think that's what the general Narrative of the comments is not everybody gets a ticket to America you're in America you do have a ticket way back home if you want to but try America first right now now maybe your personality or your identity you just can't take it that's understandable that's going to happen but you got the option so use your options explore your options trial and error it run your options out play your Pathways out because like you said not everybody gets blessed with Pathways in life and don't just base your entire life course on your experience in high school high school is yet but only four years of your life four years of your life and it is a very emotional four years of your life right and it is like especially like well I think for boys and girls but maybe girls even more it can be very emotional so just remember that American High School that everybody's going through it but don't just base your entire life just based off three years of high school and be like well I didn't make a lot of friends in high school a lot of people don't have friends in high school go to College if you can't make friends in college then there's an issue join a gamer Club get out there put yourself in uncomfortable situations but obviously you know don't you know you put yourself in too uncomfortable a situation the probability of success in that rep is not going to be High I mean you want to balance it out think about things like math just mathematically play it out guys ma uh so if you guys thought our recommendations were sensible at all if you have any comments or any thoughts for this op Pleasant salad somebody who's in this identity pickle in this social pickle if you will uh let us know what you think down below you know hopefully they watch this video and feel like you know we're just talking to them straight up because that's how I feel I was that was my advice anyways let us know in the comments down below hit that like button and check out other episodes of the hop hop boys till next time we out peace