Is It Your Asian DUTY To Have Children?

as everyone is having less and less children asian-americans are asking themselves is it my Asian duty to have kids yeah you know for yourself you have to get straight A and then go to a good college get a great career and then pop out like four grandchildren that's your duty yeah that does sound like a lot of pressure but anyways guys we're going to talk about this because there was this viral post on Reddit in the Asian-American Forum that was asking hey anyone planning to have kids or not to have have kids and there was this whole comment section of people weighing in and being like hey I grew up Asian I'm a second generation I did well for myself or I didn't do well for myself and I'm having kids or I'm not having kids yeah and plus there's actually some uh Tik Tok memes that went viral about them as well so let's play those right now we are Asians in our 40s and unmarried our parents want us to marry a doctor now they'd be happy if we married anyone we're Asians in our 40s unmarried our parents call us fat and Feed Us has more food we're Asians in our 40s and I'm married and we started the yellow fever Trend we're Korean we're 40s what we're Asians we're Asians in our 40s I'm married I still get shocked watching kissing scene Korean drama we're Asians in our 40s and i'mm married we've never shaved our legs Asians in our 40s and I'm married and a stick of deodorant lasts us one whole year I'm an Asian in my 40s a man dating an Asian in her 40s unmarried and say it more enthusiastically not like you're a captain captain Oh my God I'm a man dating an Asian in her 40s help me boom yo it's an interesting thought because think about it if you're a girl and you're Gen X and you're 40 plus it's probably unlikely you probably have a lower than what 5% probability that you're GNA have kids if you're a woman and you're older than 40 and you don't already have kids so these memes are becoming more and more common and a lot of people are saying they relate to them yeah and I think David why do people relate to them is it like cuz people a lot of Asians who worked hard in their life or went to college they got their corporate job or they got this and this job maybe they became a doctor or whatever they're weighing the options of like should I even have kids do I want kids or is it my duty as an Asian to keep the bloodline going like does it matter well Asian grandparents and parents they typically care a lot and they feel comfortable expressing it to you very blatantly anyway guys we're going to break it down make sure you like subscribe and turning your notifications but you know what is going to be a great substitute if you're not able to give your parents grandchildren give them small us sauce but it's sold out right now sorry you guys were too late but please check back in because it will be restocked in a little while I just think that man it just varies so much family to family and uh I noticed that the more like grad school you focus on it's sort of like that movie Idiocracy it's almost like when the both the parents went to grad school and they're hyper educated and they got their career tree and their career Arc in their specific industry that they're dedicated to it's almost like unlikely they're going to have more than one or maybe two kids but a lot of them trend-wise are opting Andrew to have zero yeah people are going for the dink the Dual income no kids they want to travel around the world have nice things yeah I guess I I don't blame people you know especially if you come from a childhood where you were pressured a lot and you felt like you had to take care of your parents and then you took care of your parents and then you just want to take care of yourself that I understand I actually think that when you come from such a high press environment and not all Asian families are like this but if your Asian family did put you under a lot of pressure that finally you're just like I don't want more more pressure to have kids what now I got to pop out grandchildren for you I got to raise grandchildren not only that those kids Andrew that you feel pressure to have you got to pressure those kids so the coal can turn into diamonds yeah but I I will say this and this is in general and you're going to go look at your own life you know whether you're 18 years old right now or you're 45 years old watching this uh but you're probably going to have to look at your life but I guess my question is like I just think if you feel like you've handled this world World correctly and you're educated and you're capable and you're well off enough then you should have kids I think you should have at least one kid and continue the generation now whether they're full Asian part Asian it doesn't matter I don't even care if they're mixed it doesn't matter just have a kid because there does need to be a next Generation that comes from like good families and I'm not saying like every other who are you to tell me what I should do well let me ask you this I'm not telling you what to do your choice your body but uh I said what else are you going to do for the world what' you make all that money for what' you get educated for you you're not going to pass it down to somebody just they can give it to the resorts in all the other countries have all this money and you're going to pour it into tipping waiters you're going to buy it put it into products material things iPhones MacBooks right the nicest you you up the M1 MacBook come out the M2 MacBook Instagram photos on vacation Bali Bali Bali Cancun South Africa Peru boom boom Thailand China Soul you going do get all the surgeries that's fine whatever listen that's up to you but I'm just saying you're probably already living life like you're going to have something to pass down because if you are for sure not having kids then don't save any money go into debt and die with debt because then that debt will not have anywhere to go that's a so if you're already taking care of your finances and you're already smart and educated then just have a kid you're already setting yourself up for it okay op you you believe in having the kids I think it really just comes down to the family you're born into like I noticed um a lot of my salty Asian friends Andrew they're already two three four we know somebody with five kids right now but then I noticed uh you know other people I know they're like they're married in their 40s and they don't have kids dude I have a friend who's Filipino and his wife of Vietnamese so not surprising they have four kids that's my roommate from college you got four kids holy crap um I also think it depends on your opportunities what is your village looking like are your brothers and sisters having kids are your cousins having kids are you guys all living in the same city or one city over for each other so you guys can like coales and share resources right because uh it also depends on your outlook on the future Andrew there was an article that said today's teenagers anxious about their Futures and disillusion by politicians people are concerned about species Extinction widespread disease unlivable heat ecosystem collapse cities menaced by Rising seas and Rising housing costs I will say this man these politicians got to be better people these politicians are terrible out here man they're all either pedophiles or corrupt people or rude or they're hanging out at Epstein's Island yeah they're whatever I don't know what these politicians are up to but they got to do a better job man yeah everybody from Mr Trump to all these other people on the other side they got to do a better job um I know this Chinese girl and her mom actually told her because she's getting worried because the girl's 28 now she got worried and was like yeah why don't you just have a baby because even if the guy changes the baby will always stay with you that's hilarious that's that's how pressured she wants to have a grandchild she told the daughter to just have the baby with a random dude well not you know give it a shot but if it doesn't work out she's like the baby will always stay with you right and then and if that family has the means to always help support that baby then the baby will always have uh means to live and and be raised a good baby yeah I mean that's theoretically if you come from a good family that's not the worst thing to do if your family got a little bread yeah if your family got a little money that's not the worst idea um obviously guys they probably got to freeze their sperm after 45 uh there is a biological element Andrew they recommend that women freeze their eggs before 35 so obviously it is different right for men and women uh obviously a woman that made the original Tik Tok meme it's probably like she's never going to have kids right right right right but uh Andrew uh Robert dairo just had a half Chinese baby at 80 oh it's half Chinese yeah shout out to Robert dairo hey I never thought Robert dairo would be holding his daughter and it's just literally looks like a Chinese child nice um anyway let's just get into the comment section somebody said yikes man you can't be in your 40s with a receding hairline you're out of shape that sounds brutal well he's talking about like single life right like how fun is it going to be right right other people said what's it like to watch your parents gradually descend into a state of despair I mean if it varies family to family right some parents are going to feel that despair others are just like they're chilling yeah um somebody said having an upside down pyramid distribution chart across many countries structurally will just be not good right like from a economic standpoint who's going to take a care of the older people is the economy going to be dynamic enough of course A lot of people are worried about that a lot of people are saying anybody in a first world country is essentially slowing down anderw South Korea last year 0.8 replacement rate 2.25 that's that's way off yeah it's rough um other people just talking about how they had to struggle with it the Confucian filial piety to have kids but they finally came to terms with it yeah and and I I think it's not like about like oh feel I'm not telling you to have the obligation to feel like you got to repopulate the Earth like don't have four kids if you don't want four kids I'm just saying even have one one kid you can do you can do it in the city too I know plenty of people raising one kid in the city yeah I think having I heard that like having the second kid makes it three times more complicated yeah I could see that yeah I'm I'm just saying have a kid contribute something um for example I actually have a and we have a cousin who got married to somebody that was 27 when he was 46 right a little older yeah I mean two kids yeah they're two kids worked out healthy um somebody said I have to end my bloodline because I had a traumatic childhood and I do not want to continue any of the trauma listen if you honestly believe that then don't have kids don't have kids somebody said I hate kids personally they're effing annoying that's it yeah I mean you sound like a a bunch of fun you sound like a bunch of fun um somebody said as long ever since my brother had kids nobody asked me about my plans anymore I'm a female and I'm 7 somebody said kids in this economy forget about it um I think a lot of it does come down to like the village around you though if you have the systems if you have the money are you living in the BBS are you in the middle of a career Arc are you like a consultant that's traveling a bunch for work yeah you're probably going to need to take like a more sedentary desk job if you want to have kids because what are you going to do be traveling every week and you got a kid at home it's too crazy yeah I just also think like everybody has a very high standard for how they want to live and I understand that feeling because you know I want to live in a nice place in New York City that's cool but also I think some of our we got spoiled so we spoiled ourselves and now we don't want to take the hit of our lifestyle right you're talking about Millennials Gen X or or even the future in the future gen Z I think ultimately man it just depends on the situation people got to be like you just got to be deliberate about so what are the things no be more specific what are the things you need to the top three things that you want to check off before or you have a kid I think for me I would like to be in a nice suburb that has a lot of other families that I relate to that are in a similar situation with kids around the same age range I think raising kids like on an island sounds really miserable because what you can't share advice you can't share stories who are your kids going to play with let's say you only have one kid and you don't want to have four or five kids yourself that kid's got to be socialized and play with other kids but that's only going to be possible if everybody's like around the same age range at least on a kid level whether the parents are the same age range or not so I think that you know people got to make decisions right if there the reason why I think South Korea has a 0.8 uh lifestyle andw everybody wants to live in Soul but the property is hyp expensive in Soul shangh High Tokyo wherever you want to say it so I'm saying they're they're looking at it like I'm going to just be crunching life like crazy and I'm not even going to be able to afford things I want to send my kid to a competitive preschool get my kid into a competitive Elementary School into thinks quot of well are you scared does that scare you from having kids then don't have kids but if you're not scared and you want to step up to the plate and you want to contribute your Offspring to the world and to the Future cuz you think that there is going to be a future then optimistic well-to-do well-educated parents should have kids yeah so what if if you believe that the human speech is going to go extinct in 300 years should you still have kids no if that's your belief hey guys let us know what you think in the comments section below there's no answer to this like we said you look at a lot of late stage capitalistic environments around the world the birth rate way below replacement let us know what you think about it is it your duty do you care what have you seen in your family let us know in the comments section below until next time we the hop out boys we out peace