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Greetings to all of you. Welcome to VienZoomPart. My name is Nguyet Anh. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, in a society as developed as today, to have a peaceful, happy family is not an easy thing, is it? The tension between people is increasing, and it manifests itself in society, in institutions, and most prominently in our family life. So today, we would like to share with you a topic. Why do many couples open their mouths and argue? Yes, not just young couples. Even couples who have been living together for decades, they all have daily conflicts and conflicts. So where is the cause of the conflict between the couple? Let's take an example like this. One day, the husband goes to work and is very tired. He opens the door and sees that the house is full of dust. The rice soup is not cooked yet. The wife is holding her child to sleep on the balcony. The husband feels very angry and yells, What are you sleeping for now? Wake up and cook rice! The wife, after a day of taking care of her six-month-old child, feels very angry when her husband does not sympathize with her. She yells at him, Are you taking care of your child at home? Do you know how hard it is? Today you cook rice! The husband still does not agree. Do you know that I have worked so hard to raise my family like this? Now you keep telling me to cook rice! And then they argue. The child is sleeping and hears a loud noise. He wakes up and cries. At this time, the family heater has become a broken market. Yes, if you look at it, we see that this is an external cause, right? The husband goes to work, the pressure of work is tiring. The wife spends a whole day taking care of her six-month-old child. It's very hard. But that's not the cause of the fault. The cause of this argument. According to us, these two husbands led to the argument because they did not give in to anyone. Everyone is very competitive. I'm right, you're wrong. You can't be as hard as me. I'm the hardest person. Yes. Next we come to another situation. That is, the two husbands have been together for a long time. They have lived together for more than ten years. Previously, when the participation of women in society was still small, women tended to take care of household chores, raise their children. But now, society is developing, and women have to worry a lot about social work. These two husbands are the same. Always, always, wandering outside of society to make money. And their children have been abandoned. No one raises them, no one feeds them, no one takes care of them. Then everything comes. One day, the two husbands were very upset and felt extremely disappointed when they learned that their children had become illiterate, poorly educated, spoiled by bad friends, and even addicted. The husband felt that he had lost this child, the child was no longer under his control, and was very angry with his wife. The wife was really useless. There was only raising children, but she didn't do it. Do you know how hard I worked to earn money to raise this family? The wife was also very sad. Oh! Do you think you're the only one making money to raise the family? Don't you see me going to work every day? Children like this now, I can't take responsibility. And they quarreled again. Conflicts occur from day to day. Everyone wants to fight. Everyone wants to prove that their logic is right. So, through these two examples, we can come to a conclusion that the conflict between husband and wife has a root cause, that is, between husband and wife, they have a fighting personality, a winning personality, a losing personality, very strong. And in this situation, we often meet in life, often hear, often see in life around us, right? So how do you do it? How do you make the two husbands no longer quarrel? How do you make the family become united and happy? So we know the reason. To get rid of the fighting personality, the winning personality, the losing personality, we have to practice a gentle, tolerant personality. Yes, you all know that to form a personality, it can't be one day, one day, two days, right? It is a very long process and we have to practice perseverance. It is a very difficult thing. However, it is difficult, but it is not impossible. Today we want to share with you two steps to be able to practice tolerance, tolerance. Yes, the first step is to find yourself a break. When the conflict between the two husbands arises, or before it is about to arise, let's calm down. Try to find yourself a break to calm down, to soothe your mind. Don't rush forward, don't rush into the fence, because all those things will lead to serious consequences. For example, we go back, there is a 6-month-old baby. When the husband returns home, he sees his wife lying down, holding the baby on the cradle. The house is empty, there is no rice soup. The husband feels very angry, the anger rises. He wants to fight with his wife. So, at that time, when he is preparing to fight with his wife, he should calm down, go into the room, take a break, listen to a piece of music, or drink a cup of cool water. What is that for? That is, we are looking for a break for ourselves, so that all the anger, all the anger, all the fighting, it goes down, and we find our peace of mind. When we calm down, calm down, we will go to the second step, think about other people. If the husband returns home, sees his wife lying on the cradle, the house is empty, the rice soup is not cooked, he may think, why is it so strange? At this time, my wife has had a full bowl of rice soup, why is it like this today? Or is the baby sick today? If the baby is sick, the truth is, my wife is suffering. If the baby is sick, the truth is, my wife is suffering. He also thinks, it's also my wife's fault, all day wandering in the four walls, not being in touch with society, it's really sad. And then, in his heart, a temporary feeling with his wife, he went out of the room, Honey, why are you still sleeping like this? The rice soup is not cooked yet? Are you okay? Are you tired? Or let me cook rice? Hearing such words, surely the wife will be extremely happy, extremely happy. So let's go back to the role of the wife. The wife, after a day of taking care of her child, a 6-month-old child, with so many births, is extremely tired. But when she sees her husband coming home tired, exhausted, she can put herself in her husband's position. Oh, he must be very tired when he comes home from work. Today the weather is so hot, it's not strange if it's not hot. So let's try to tolerate him a little bit. And she gently stood up. Honey, today the weather is so hot, it's not strange if it's not hot. You see, he stands up, he doesn't want to sleep. You've been sleeping for a long time, you haven't had time to prepare rice and water. Now wait for me a little bit, I'll prepare rice and water. And she stood up. The husband is angry, the wife is speechless. The rice is not cooked, there is no life. With such a situation, the husband thinks for the wife, the wife thinks for the husband. Let's think about it. There is no more quarrel, there is no more conflict, right? Those two husbands will always understand each other, be united with each other and live very happily. The same goes for the old couple, both angry and stupid. When we are angry, when we are angry, then every word we say are words that are harsh and hurtful to each other. So we must always practice patience, patience. Yes, today we share with you the topic of why many husbands just open their mouths and argue. We have shared with each other the causes of quarrels, conflicts and conflicts, right? And we also found a way to solve this problem, which is to practice patience, patience. And to achieve that patience, patience, we have two steps, which is to find a balance and think for others. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, our topic today is over. We look forward to receiving your sharing, your comments. If you have anything to share with us, please contact us by email support a.nguyendungphat.com or phone number 0981 027 985 Thank you for watching. I wish you a very peaceful moment. Goodbye and see you again in the next videos.