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Stand in front of the conflict between your mother-in-law and your wife, how do men need to behave so that the conflict does not get any worse? Hello everyone! We meet again at Vien Dung Park and my name is Nguyet Anh. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, in a society that is developing like today, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very hot topic. It is often mentioned in our family, and this is a very difficult conflict to solve. It seems that there is no direct relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but men or husbands, sons, and daughters-in-law have a very big conflict and feel extremely uncomfortable with this conflict, right? So, stand in front of the conflict between your mother-in-law and your wife, how do men need to behave so that the conflict does not get any worse? And today we share with each other a topic, what should men do when facing a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? Yes, we have to confirm one thing with each other that, for men, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very sensitive and difficult conflict. In order to solve this conflict smoothly, men have to be very delicate, very skillful, and truly brilliant. Because just one sentence, like, the most important, the most critical, can make the conflict even more complicated. So what do men need to do? We would like to mention some steps as follows. Step 1, when a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law arises, then men will not participate in this conflict, and will not show any kindness or any thought in their mind that who is right and who is wrong. That is, in this situation, in this context, men have to remain calm, calm, and truly calm. I take an example like this. That day, only the father, mother-in-law, and daughter-in-law had a meal together. The husband went to work from home. The father-in-law picked up a piece of vegetables and found that there was a very long strand of hair in the vegetables. The daughter-in-law immediately said, Oh, this long hair is mine. Short hair is definitely not. The mother-in-law heard that and thought, I don't know what to do. Eating makes me lose my face. And it's the right day to boil vegetables. She said that, it's not right to tell me what it is. I'm so angry, I don't know. On the surface, it was the fault of the mother-in-law. And the mother-in-law was silent, didn't say anything. But in her heart, she was very warm and let go of this. Then gradually in life, small conflicts also arise. It keeps accumulating, accumulating. And one day, that accumulation also erupted. One day, the daughter-in-law left her clothes all over the house, not putting them in the right place. The mother-in-law saw that this was the opportunity to get rid of all the grudges that she had been enduring for a long time. She immediately said, Oh, oh, too busy, too messy. I'm a mother-in-law, but I still have to take off my clothes like that. She said with a very angry voice. The daughter-in-law immediately replied with a very harsh voice. Just leave it for me. I don't have to care about such small things. Just leave me alone. I'll clean it up later. The mother-in-law immediately said, Yeah, just leave it. Then she went to her mother-in-law. There's nothing in this house that doesn't go to her mother-in-law. If I don't clean it up, who will? The tension was rising one by one, and no one was willing to give in to anyone. At this time, the man had witnessed the collision between his mother-in-law and his wife. What should I say? What point should I follow? Who is right, who is wrong? It's extremely difficult, isn't it? And as the conflict became more and more tense, the two of them tended to find an ally for themselves. And at this time, the man is the focus for them to aim at, and they find a way to pull. Everyone wants the man to speak politely to them. Yes, if we are men now, what do we need to do? We need to clean up and make it clear that this is a conflict between our mother-in-law and our wife. We have no connection, no relationship in there. On the basis of such a clear definition, we do nothing. We only have one mission, which is to observe and respect so that things do not go too far. At this time, we will not say a word and give no opinion. Why, while the conflict is happening, we will not say a word? Because when two people are in the middle of a conflict, they are completely out of their minds, not calm. And at this time, they only focus on their thoughts. They blindly believe that they are right. And at this time, the words of others have no effect at all. It even has the opposite effect, making things worse. In addition, we have to be very calm, calm and quiet. If we are confused about it, we are also involved in that conflict, then we also generate negative emotions. And at this time, all our words and actions accidentally pour more oil into the fire. Because we know that all words and actions originate from negative emotions, it is never wise and right. My father-in-law taught that all anger is wise and right. The second step, when the conflict has stopped, when the wife is starting to get angry, the husband needs to talk and communicate his thoughts with his wife. According to us, if we want to solve the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, the solution must first originate from the daughter-in-law. Because we see that in any relationship, we all have to respect the elders. We often hear the saying, old man, old woman, old man to age, right? In any circumstance, the elderly must always be respected. If we do not follow that tradition, then the whole order of society will be disordered. All principles in personal behavior will be distorted, and all conflicts in the family and in society will not be resolved completely. So, on the basis of respecting the elders, when my wife is angry, the husband must talk and explain to his wife on the basis of some principles as follows. First, we must see that even in this conflict, even if the mother is at fault, because we respect the elders, we should sympathize and forgive the mother. Second, the mother was born in England, she was a person who suffered a lot of pain, she took care of him since he was a baby. Without the mother, there is no brother. So we must always remember this deep gratitude of the mother. Next, many mothers-in-law may have the mentality that when the son gets married, they feel that the child they love very much, the child they have loved for so long, no longer belongs to them, and they feel a loss in their hearts. Next, there are many mothers-in-law who support their children in taking care of their grandchildren and taking care of the housework. So, on all those principles, we see that if in this conflict, the cause comes from the mother-in-law, then the daughter-in-law should also understand, so sympathize and forgive the mother-in-law. The third step is to make the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law better, then the husband needs to play the role of connection between the mother and the wife. When the wife has understood all the principles and understood her mistakes, then the husband needs to contact his mother. When the mother and daughter-in-law talk happily with each other, then the husband should be delicate and skillful in mentioning the good points of his wife. After that, listen to the mother-in-law's feelings about her daughter-in-law, see what she still has in her eyes, what is still not satisfied with her daughter-in-law. After understanding the mother-in-law's tears and feelings for her wife, then the husband should share in the most sincere, kindest and most constructive way so that the mother-in-law can understand and sympathize with her wife. From there, the mother-in-law can be a little more gentle. The husband can say, Mom, the day before, after the conflict, we talked to each other. My wife also realized her mistake and my wife felt very guilty to my mother. Mom has worked hard to help us in taking care of the grandchildren. Mom also helped us in cooking and washing the dishes so that we could go to work in peace. My wife said, Mom has worked so hard, but I don't understand my mother. I am really sorry to my mother. Yes, if you can hear such words, then surely every mother will feel satisfied and think that this daughter-in-law also knows how to think before and after, also knows the right and wrong. Well, she knows her mistake, then I forgive her, I don't blame her either. Young children often think and then say, I don't blame you. The fourth step is that every man should think about himself. In the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, although men do not have a direct relationship, but the connection is very big. So it is very important for a man to treat his wife and mother-in-law in a gentle, delicate and respectful way. For example, a newly-married couple who show affection in front of their mother-in-law, or buy gifts for their wife on women's days but do not think about their mother, or do not care about their mother's feelings since they got married, then the husband accidentally made his mother feel like losing her son, and then she will feel uncomfortable, have a bad feeling for the daughter-in-law and think that the daughter-in-law has stolen her son. Or the husband always listens to his mother and thinks that it is filial piety, then returns to impose a rude way on the wife, then the wife will feel that oh, this husband is not objective and she cannot put absolute trust in her husband, and from there she feels lonely in the husband's family. Today, we will talk about how to treat a man when facing a conflict between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law. A man needs to be very bright, very calm, does not participate in this conflict, and also has to do a good job of connecting between the mother and the wife to resolve this conflict. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law on the surface is a conflict between two people, but deep down it has to do with both the parents of the daughter-in-law and the father-in-law. In the family, no one wants to have a conflict, no one wants to have a conflict, then it can lead to irreconcilable consequences. So these people have to do a good job of their role and responsibility. Mothers and fathers who have daughters in the house, when the daughter is still in the family, please teach them a careful way, a careful way about how to act as a daughter-in-law. You have to treat your parents-in-law as your biological parents. You need to respect your elders, enter the family according to the custom, you need to know the customs and traditions in the husband's family, then from there to adapt in a suitable way. As for the father-in-law, when his wife has a conflict with his daughter-in-law, please advise your wife that no matter what, the daughter-in-law must also stay away from her parents-in-law to come to the husband's family. We need to love her as we love our daughter. The child has just come home from the husband's house, there are still a lot of problems, we have to teach her, pamper her like our own child. Yes, today we mentioned the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and this is a common problem in almost all of our families. And we hope that we will always be bright to be able to solve all conflicts and conflicts in the family in a safe way. If you have any specific problems you need to share with us, please contact us via the email address support.vienzungpod.com This is the end of the sharing session. Thank you for watching. Goodbye and see you again in the next videos.