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Hello everyone. As a father, as a mother, we all hope that our children will listen to us, right? Especially children in the age of 2 and 3. And today we want to share with you a topic. How to make your children listen to their parents? Yes, ladies and gentlemen. We are all like that. Few of us experience this situation. We go to work, extremely tired. Open the door, see the child lying on the sofa, holding the phone, waiting for the phone to ring. The door is dark, shaking. We feel very upset. We tell the child, put the phone down, clean the door for mom to go. It's enough. But the child does not care. It does not care what you are saying. It still continues to play video games. At this time, our anger rises. We feel very angry and we shout, put the phone down, clean the door for mom to go. Yes, when you shout like that, the child will put the phone down. It will do as you request, right? However, you think about it. This situation will always happen in our family. Our children grow up one day. And one day, it will be extremely neglected. It does not care what you say. You have scratched the door, it does not care. It leaves you out here, go into the room, close the door. How do you feel at that time? How do you feel? Feeling extremely angry, extremely angry, feeling very disappointed and helpless. I think everyone can feel this feeling. So how do we do it? This situation happens continuously and often in our family. How do we do it? Why don't our children listen to us? So our answer is children do not listen to their parents. Because their parents raised them in a state of non-sensitivity, in a state of empathy. If we can calm down, be more rational, and educate our children, then I think we can educate them well. When you shout, put the phone down, clean the door for your mother, you are angry. You are feeling sorry. And so, your words are not rational. And children will definitely not listen to you. So what is a rational state? A rational state is a state when we do not let any emotion, hot, angry, sad, disappointed, even excited, excited, control our words and actions. That is a rational state. For example, when you go home, you feel very tired, open the door, the door is shaking, but you can keep calm. Child, my mother is too tired from work, please help me clean the door. Yes, it's good to say that, right? But who can keep calm and say such words in a tired state of a family like that? It's easy to say, but it's hard to do, right? However, the child said, Oh my God, I'm playing this board. Mom, wait for me a little bit. I play this board, then I will clean the door for my mother. However, you know, playing video games can only stop here. After this board, another board, right? And at that time, how do we feel? We feel extremely angry, angry, right? So how do we solve it in such a case? According to us, we don't do anything. We leave it, go out, find a restaurant, sit down to drink a cup of orange juice, watch people passing by, or we go into the bedroom, lie down, turn on a really soft music, we rest, relax, right? What is that action for? The purpose of that action is that we don't continue that conflict anymore. We go to find an empty space for ourselves. And that is a very good way to deal with it. Because we have created an empty space, an empty space for us to calm down. The Buddha said, take a step back, the sea is wide, the sky is high, right? And that's a very good way. Why did I say that? Because when you are angry, all the words you say are irrational, offensive, even hurtful. And it can hurt your child and leave a bad impression in the child's mind. So, when is the best time for us to have a conversation with our child? Yes, the best time for us to have a conversation with our child is when both parents and children are calm, rational, calm, then we can start a conversation with our child. Because when both parents and children are calm like that, then the conversation will be effective. So why not only parents, but also children need to be calm? Because when a child is full of emotions in his heart, when they are angry, angry, afraid, then all those emotions will block all the instructions and words that we want to teach our child not to let the child touch those words. Those feelings will block our instructions to go into the child's mind and the conversation will become useless. For example, one day our child goes to school and brings us a test. But the score is low. We look at the test. Oh, why is it so easy but I can't do it? Why am I so bad? I really spend rice, parents raise children. Oh, everyone, disappointed with your child, right? How will your child react to your disappointment? What will I get from your disappointment? They don't get anything. They only get disappointment, self-pity and feel really bad. But where do we end? We continue to say more. Oh, my child goes to school from one place to another day by day. Why don't you go to class A and B in the neighborhood? You are really useless. The child receives one more bag of emotions. He feels more disappointed, more self-pity and feels worse and worse. In fact, when a child brings home a bad grade test, he is extremely afraid and sad. Now we add our disappointment feelings to the child's head. Then the situation becomes extremely serious. So what should we do then? Let's calm down. A bad grade is a bad grade. Who goes to school but has never had a bad grade? Right? That's normal. You and your child go out together. Go out and look at the street, go to the supermarket, go out to enjoy all the feelings of disappointment, fear, sadness, boredom. When both the mother and the child are calm and happy again, let's start talking about the right words. Very reasonable words. Because they come from rationality, purity, and wisdom. So those words are extremely clear and accurate. 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