Khủng Hoảng Tuổi Lên 2 Và 6 Cách Giúp Trẻ Giảm Tránh _Ăn Vạ___ My Thuan Family

crying and begging for her mom to stop. Then she cried uncontrollably because she was playing and in a hurry. Then she was forced to go to the bathroom to eat. After that, there's a fight. She slumped on the floor and cried. Hello everyone. Welcome back to my channel. If this is the first time you're watching this video, my name is Thuan. Now I'm the mom of two babies. The sister, Venus, is 4 years old. And the brother, Henry, is just 19 months old. I started making videos about my trip as a mother since she was 6 months old. Therefore, on my channel, you will find a lot of content about taking care of babies, about diet, activities that help the baby grow, as well as about giving birth to the second child, taking care of Henry, and the daily life of my mother and son. From this video, there will be more content about raising children, accompanying them to grow up, from information, documents that I have learned, as well as from parenting programs that I am studying, as well as from my own experience. You can see me as a friend accompanying you on your journey to be a mother. And if you haven't subscribed to the channel yet, please click the subscribe button and the bell next to it to receive notifications when I have a new video every Thursday. Back to the main content of today's video, I will share with you about the topic of the second childhood crisis. Compared to before, I see that the word crisis of the second childhood has become more familiar to everyone. Or at least, mothers with children from 1 to 2 years old have heard of the word crisis of the second childhood, right? This word refers to the period from 18 months. Babies often have expressions such as crying, moaning, screaming, rolling on the floor, which we usually call eating, and the baby often bites, etc. When there are unexpected events that happen many times. At this stage, we need to understand that the front part of the baby's brain is still not developed enough for the baby to control and manage his emotions. The baby is also not capable of speaking to be able to express all his desires. The baby himself is also feeling very confused and feeling difficult in his development phase. I often receive quite a lot of messages from mothers sharing that they feel very stressed when the baby is constantly eating, moaning, screaming, crying, biting, etc. So I'm going to talk a little bit about the parents' psychology during this period. For more than a year, I was just a little baby. The basic needs of a baby such as eating, sleeping, playing, and communication with us by crying. The mother is very easy to recognize the baby's cries. Like the mother knows when the baby cries because of hunger, when the baby cries because of sleepiness, or when the baby cries because of fatigue. And the mother is often in the position to actively meet the needs of the baby in her own way. But when it comes to the crisis of the second childhood, now I'm a little bit older, I've realized a little bit more, I have more feelings, I'm starting to be more independent, I want to be more independent, and I'm starting to have antithesis behaviors to challenge the limits of my parents. The excessive changes in my behavior and feelings during this period easily make my mother feel calm, independent, and unconsciously, my mother can shout or threaten. The purpose is to suppress the baby to make the baby afraid and listen to me. For the crisis of the second childhood, if we don't understand, don't prepare ourselves, don't want to change our direction, take the initiative to decide everything, be patient and calm, observe and listen to the baby, we will easily fall into the crisis with the baby. So how do you understand the psychology of a two-year-old? Now I'm a little girl who has her own hobbies and personality. I really want to show my independence, to show my ego. And I'm also learning how to express my desire. And I gradually realize that maybe my desire will be different from my parents' desire. I remember at this stage, because I really like to choose my own clothes, and choose my own shoes. If my mother doesn't like my clothes, I will cry, and I will not wear it. This is also the stage when the baby has just learned the power of the word NO. As the baby grows up, the older I get, the more I respond to the baby, so I have to say more to see what I will do next. For example, I take a shower, but I don't take a shower, I don't brush my teeth, I don't wear clothes, I don't change my clothes, I don't put on makeup, I don't eat, I don't go to bed, In general, nothing. This is the period when I really like to explore everything around me. I really like to play, I'm very excited to play, to discover new ways to play. That's why I started to be lazy to eat. After eating a few spoons, I got up and left the chair to play. And I didn't like to sleep much. Because of that, I was still in a state of being tired, and maybe I was hungry, I was sleepy. But I couldn't express all my needs to my mom. Then, I suddenly started to cry and shout. I didn't like sudden changes. For example, when I was playing, I was very happy. Suddenly, my mom forced me to stop to take a shower. She told me to stop to eat. At that time, I was crying so hard because I was playing, I was busy playing, I was happy. Suddenly, she forced me to take a shower and eat. Then, there was a fight. I was lying on the floor, shouting, crying and shouting. As if something terrible had just happened. I know how to observe more. I felt very envious of what adults do. And I wanted to do the same. However, I kept doing it, but I couldn't do it. I was also stopped by my mom, she didn't allow me to do this, she didn't allow me to do that. It led to me feeling very uncomfortable and frustrated. So I will eat and try again. I remember there were very small things at that time. For example, I ate a whole bag of seaweeds. Then, I saw that bag of seaweeds was empty. Now, I took the cake and put it in. Then I put the cake in the bag, but I couldn't put it in. Then, I cried and shouted. There was no logic at all. I just cried. And one day, she came out to eat and cried in public. I usually see it in supermarkets. I don't know if you've ever seen it, but I've seen it many times. It's like a little girl, about 2 years old, screaming to buy toys. She cried and shouted all over the supermarket. And everyone looked at her and her mom. At that time, she suddenly realized that she did that, so her parents took care of her. Her parents bought that food for her. Her parents agreed to do what she wanted. Oh, so she learned a trick. It turns out that if you do that, adults will do what you want. So next time, I will continue to do that with a higher intensity to achieve what I want. Those are some basic characteristics of the psychology of a 2-year-old girl. So what should we do to overcome the 2-year-old crisis together? First, it's a psychological preparation. I think this is a period that changes a lot for children. That's why mom and dad need to sit together and share information with each other. For example, if mom knows about your 2-year-old crisis at this stage, she will sit down and share it with dad so that dad can understand your psychology at this stage. From there, mom and dad will agree on how to deal with it when you go out to eat, as well as agree on some rules at home. I think that understanding how to raise children is the first basis for the next steps. For example, at home, there is a rule before the main meal, that is, before the main meal for an hour, the children will not be fed because it will affect their main meal. I also need to tell your dad. Dad won't let you eat cake at this time. It can't happen that mom doesn't feed you, but dad naturally agrees to feed you. Then it will be very easy for the children to eat and be fed. Second, you need to live according to a scientific and objective process. After all, you are only a 2-year-old child, and you still need to eat and drink enough, rest and sleep enough. From there, your mental and physical condition will be good. You are still very young and you can't have enough ability to speak or have enough expression to tell us that you are hungry, sleepy or tired. When you are hungry or sleepy, you will be very stressed and you will lose control of your behavior. Therefore, we must always ensure that you eat well and sleep well, then your spirit will be good. From there, you will cooperate with us better. I see that building a daily routine for children helps you cooperate better and reduces your eating habits a lot. My way is to write down the activities that Binet will do in the morning, then go to school or in the evening. For example, in the morning, when Binet wakes up, he will brush his teeth, wash his face, change clothes and go to school. Or in the afternoon, Binet will play, take a shower, eat dinner and play. Or in the evening, he will read, drink milk, brush his teeth, change clothes, go to bed, etc. I printed out that plan and pasted it on Binet's desk so that Binet can look at it and know what to do next. Binet is very interested in this plan and every day, Binet will look at it and know what to do. At first, when Binet was 2 years old, he was very resistant to taking a shower. Every time I told him to take a shower, he would cry a lot. So when I made a daily routine, I would remind Binet what to do in the morning. I asked him, he would look at the pictures and answer, oh, now I do this and that. In the evening, I need to do this and that. I know what I need to do, so naturally, I will cooperate a lot more. Third, that is to tell me in advance what is going to happen so that I have time to prepare. Even though I already know what I'm going to do, but when I'm playing and getting ready to take a shower, I will tell Binet, Binet, you have 5 more minutes to take a shower. I will tell you in advance. When you are mentally prepared in advance, you will move from one activity to another to cooperate more. Or you can also say, Binet, do you want to play for 5 more minutes or 10 more minutes before you take a shower? He will answer, let me play for 10 more minutes. Okay, I'll play for 10 minutes. At this time, I will set the phone, and I usually call Siri on the phone. I set the phone for 10 minutes, I said Binet, now I set the phone for 10 more minutes. 10 minutes later, Siri will call, then I will take a shower. If you have a separate phone, you will know that it's time to take a shower. I also often apply the app to set the phone time for my child. Then the child will know that it's time for me to move to another activity. From there, the child will cooperate more and eat less. Of course, at first, when the child is not used to it, the child will cry a lot and eat a lot. But I just wait for the child to finish crying, I will explain to the child about the principle. Ah, the premise of today is that I finished playing, it's time for me to take a shower. Just now, the mother gave the child 10 minutes, then Siri said it was 10 minutes, so now I'm going to take a shower, then I'll have lunch. Then every day we are consistent like that, the child will gradually get used to our way, and the child will cooperate more. Fourth, that is, if the child usually says no, then we will need to limit the question that the answer is yes or no. For example, we will not say, do you want to take a shower? But I will say, Penis, I'll play for another 5 minutes, then I'll take a shower. Or during this period, Penis doesn't like to take a shower, I will say, Penis, which friend do you want to take a shower with? Duck friend or pig friend? Bring more toys to the shower. Or instead, we can also give the child choices to choose from. For example, Penis, do you want to drink milk first or read a book first? Penis, do you want to wear a pink shirt or a red shirt? We will give the child 2 choices, but 2 simple choices, so that the child can choose. Penis, do you want to play for another 3 minutes or 5 minutes, then I'll take a shower. Penis, do you want to wear a jacket first or shoes first? Questions like that. And I will also limit saying no to the child. I will not say, don't shout too loud to let me sleep. I will say, Penis, speak softly, speak softly like a mother. Try to tell me. There. I will not say, Penis, you can't jump on the chair. Penis, sit on the chair gently. We will replace the words with words, guide the child how to do it, then the child will cooperate much more. Fifth, give the child the opportunity to do everything by himself. Of course, within the allowed limit. The 2-year-old children really like to see the adults do it, and want to catch up to do it. They really want to participate in the daily work with their mother. The little things that are enough for them, we can also let them do it, so that the child can get used to it, the child can feel happy, and the child can learn many more things. For example, Penis and Henry, after changing clothes, I will let the child take the dirty clothes, put it in my dirty closet. And the child really likes to do this. Henry has been able to do this since he was 16-17 months old. Penis really liked it when he saw his father making coffee, or when he saw his mother grinding milk. I also really like it, picking up yogurt, picking up fruits, or holding fruits to put in the grinder. I bought two of them a chair to stand on. This is Penis's chair when he was little, and now Henry often stands on that chair to cook with his mother. I will give you such little things, that you will feel very happy. When you can do it, we will praise you. Of course, you are still small, so you are very clumsy. Sometimes when you make coffee in the market, you will make a mess around. But I think these are just small things, and we can clean up. Or when you want to play in the water, I will give Penis and Henry a bucket of water. You two sit and play comfortably. After that, go take a shower, change clothes, and then your mother will clean the house. Such little things, but let me be free, play in the water, let me play other games, let me play the games I like. If you want to play the games that you want to play, you want to explore the activities that are within your ability, I feel that it is not dangerous, and I can clean up, then I let you play comfortably. And I see that Penis will learn through experience, learn through play. So let's make it comfortable for children to play, play a lot. It will also help you feel happier, and from there, it will be easier for you to cooperate and connect with us. Sixth, it is always soft and gentle, but at the same time, it is also decisive and unbiased with children. That is, we will combine Nhu and Cuong with children. Instead of scolding and scolding children when they go out to eat, when they cry and ask for something that we don't give, we will be gentle, recognize the feelings that children are experiencing, and tell children how they are experiencing feelings, help children call those feelings. For example, Penis asked for cake before eating, but my rule is not to eat cake before eating. Penis cries and asks for cake. I will wait for Penis to cry for a while, then I will say, are you uncomfortable? Are you angry? Are you angry because you were not allowed to eat cake before eating? When you start to sympathize and lower your voice like that, you will naturally start to lower your voice gradually, and you feel that you are empathized. Then we will continue to direct you to what we want. I will explain how to handle friendship in a later video. Or in this case, when you scream, for example, screaming in public, we will put you in a quiet corner, wait for you to calm down, wait for you to finish crying, then we will continue the next step. Here, I want to emphasize that we should not create a precondition for your bad behavior. That is, we will not buy that toy for you because you eat cake, or not because you eat cake, but we spoil you, then we will continue to follow the eating habits to get higher and higher. Specifically, how to deal with eating habits, how to deal with eating habits, I will show you in a later video, I will talk in more detail. The video is quite long, and I hope this video has provided more information for parents about the second childhood crisis, as well as how to overcome the second childhood crisis with their children. The second childhood crisis is actually a surprise on the emotional side that the child himself cannot understand. Therefore, the child will often use body language to expose when there is a high emotional explosion. The child may feel afraid, feel abandoned, feel annoyed, angry, feel that they are not noticed, that they are not important to the adult. Therefore, if the adult does not help you to resolve, does not help you to adjust your behavior, adjust your emotions, then you will explode as hard as you feel most comfortable. So instead of shouting, scolding, and pretending to be a spoiled baby, usually a mother who eats cake, we should understand the child, accompany the child, recognize the emotions that the child is experiencing, and help the child to adjust the right behavior. So that later when you re-examine those problems, you will have a way to adjust your behavior, and gradually you will be able to adjust your behavior and emotions to grow up. Thank you everyone for spending time watching my video. 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