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Sometimes, I receive messages from my mothers You are a terrible mother, because you are hot-tempered and scolding your child The child is only 10 months old, poor thing What do you do when you want your child to disappear or you don't think about it anymore? You are crazy Sister, I have decided to be a single mother Can you show me how to be happier and happier? A few days ago, I often heard many people say that After having a child, life will change completely But it is only when you become a mother of a child that you can see the complete change Being a mother is not only a joy, but also a responsibility You will never be able to go back to the time when you did not have a child But maybe later, you will wish to go back to this moment When you are still a little baby So let's learn how to be a mother together And overcome the invisible pressure To become a happy mother Since I gave birth to Peanut, I gradually got used to waking up early I used to wake up early to drink milk And now I wake up early to have more time Starting a new day at 5.30am When Peanut is not awake, it helps me feel relaxed I realized that going to bed early and waking up early really has the effect of reducing stress You will realize a longer day than you think And control everything more effectively I still have a habit of drinking a glass of water in the early morning for a long time To replenish the body after a long sleep And also help the organs inside the body to function better You should try it Then I will run Since becoming a mother, taking care of the baby I care more about health Because when the mother is sick, it will affect the child a lot Running is a low-cost sport Easy to do, but very beneficial Just 15-20 minutes of running every day Will help the body burn calories Control the weight of the mother after birth Good for heart health Improve lung function Enhance immunity Help the bones to be strong Improve the function of the abdomen Help you sleep deeply and have a good mood To start a new day You will hear the sound of the birds singing The sound of the leaves rustling Slowly breathe in the fresh air of the early morning In addition to running You can choose light yoga exercises at home Or gym exercises Help regain your shape faster Choose a suitable sport Your health will improve significantly Not only physical, but also mental health When I get home I will water the trees My wife used this 3 square square balcony To make a small garden Do you know that growing trees is also a remedy Helps reduce stress and make you feel happier In the small garden, there are all kinds of roses Hackberry, yellow lemon trees Dracula, Jordan pine Hapy, dragon fruit Look at the grapevine plants and masters Look at the one-piece flowers Planting tamarins every day Growing more leaves Makes you feel happier It doesn't matter if you come to work or live Me and peanuts love to watch this place If you don't have time You only have one or two small pots The garden necessarily takes a lot of time 5-10 minutes a day, but it will make you feel more alive. Try it out! After that, I will take a shower. I really like to take a shower in the morning. Taking a shower is also a way to relax and reduce negative emotions. So when I feel down, I usually take a shower. Recently, I am really into the Shiseido Shiba Ki hair care product, which is made in Japan. Since I gave birth to Pinocchio, my hair has fallen a lot, so I am quite careful when choosing hair care products. I feel that Japanese products are quite suitable for Asian women's hair. The scent of tea oil when applying shampoo on hair makes me feel very comfortable, not as strong as other types of shampoo. The ingredients of this shampoo, in addition to Japanese tea oil, also contains tapioca milk and protein from soybeans, which will help nourish shiny and healthy hair. This set is suitable for mothers with dry and rough hair, who lack soft hair, need to be rejuvenated, moisturized, shiny and softer. Every time I wake up, my hair is usually dry and messy. Since I switched to Shiba Ki, this situation has been reduced. After washing and brushing my hair, I use the lemongrass cream, which is similar to the moisturizing cream in the skincare program. You just need to apply it evenly on your hair and then rinse it off immediately. Lemongrass cream helps provide maximum moisture and locks the moisture in the hair, so it will last for a long time. In addition, I also use it in combination with Shiba Ki hair rejuvenation hair oil. If your hair is often oily, caused by work, or dry and messy, you want your hair to be more shiny, you just need to apply a few drops of tea oil on your hands and apply it to your hair after washing. Since using this set, I really like it. No matter how tired and busy you are, don't forget to take care of yourself. Finding your favorite products will make you feel better and feel better taken care of. Currently, there are a lot of books about raising and educating children. You just need to take the time to read a few books every day to gain more knowledge about raising children. It will help mothers be more confident, especially mothers like me. Every day, I usually spend at least 30 minutes reading a book. If I have more time in the day, I will read more. All the experience and knowledge from the famous doctors will help you a lot on your journey to be a mother. If you are a perfectionist, this is the time to reduce that perfection. The pressure you put on yourself will make you more stressed when everything is not as you want. If you feel tired, please share with your parents or ask for help from your grandparents. I will always be ready to share how to take care of my baby. Maybe the difference in the point of view of taking care and raising children is the main cause of conflicts in the family. But I always explain, talk and share with my parents that there are no secret or divine methods in taking care and raising children for all children and mothers. Depending on the family conditions, I cannot compare the weight of a baby who is 1 month old with a baby who is 1 month old. I also cannot compare the amount of milk between a 6 kg baby and a 7 kg baby even though they are the same age. Adults also have light and heavy weight. Comparing children and myself with other mothers will only make me feel a little bigger, a little more knowledgeable and a little more lovable. And the more I understand and have more experience taking care of my baby, the more I have to choose to quit my job. However, for some mothers who have an outgoing personality, like to go out to work and meet many people, staying at home for a long time can be a plan to send the baby to the orphanage when the baby feels tough and can return to work after retirement or can find a job selling online at home to have flexible time to take care of the baby is also a good choice of many mothers. Having more income for the family and being able to talk to everyone will help the mother quickly As long as the mother feels comfortable and satisfied with the situation and the conditions of her family, it's good. There is a passage I read in the book that makes me remember forever. I also think about my loved ones. I ask myself why my loved ones need an old lady, a sick mother, tired, like to solve all problems and often ask questions. No, they need me, that's why I always prioritize myself about my mood and health. I value myself to have enough strength to love to become a beneficial person for those around me. At that time, I didn't have a child, I was just dreaming of becoming a mother. Although the children have not yet appeared, but I love them very much. I thought that I would definitely give the best to my children. But after this conversation, I realized that the best things are not material goods, it is exactly attitude, mood, and empathy. Children do not need a mother to sacrifice, children need a mother to love and be happy. This does not mean that a mother should give up her job or ban herself. Some mothers need to work harder for happiness. The problem is not how many hours we spend a week for work, but motivation. Words like I have worked all my life for you or because of you, I gave up my career. Even worse, I didn't go any further for you. Because of you, I had to live a life without love for my father. I had to endure for you to grow up in a full family. These are injuries that can never be healed in the life of a child, even psychologically when they grow up. In fact, you are just trying to take responsibility for children and you don't know how to live. What will happen if the child thinks it is the cause of her unhappiness? No matter how busy and tired you are, don't forget to take care of yourself, your body and your spirit. If you are tired, you can ask for help. If you are sad, you can allow yourself to cry, protect your feelings a little and then continue the journey of being a mother. Video for all mothers, especially first mothers. Thank you for watching this video.