Balancing Drinking & Working On Fitness Goals

Next question is from cam the lamb. How do I balance drinking and going out with working on my fitness goals? I really want to get back in shape and go hard, but I also love drinking and watching sports with my friends So it's hard mentally any tips. Yeah, I can't wait to hear what you guys gonna say right now. It sounds fun Well, this has to be one of the most common super common things that you hear from clients super car Yeah, and I think I over years mind my conversation has changed I want to hear what you guys have to say like how you would present. Oh, yeah No, the way I used to present so if you're serious, you're not gonna drink and you're gonna do it Cut it out Here's the bottom line. Okay, you can't have everything. Okay. So now this isn't a negative message This is a positive one. You enjoy hanging out with your friends. There's value in that nothing wrong with that You also like fitness. That's phenomenal. Are you gonna get the most fit buffed best performance? If you drink occasionally eat the occasional slice of pizza with your friends No, who cares who cares because you also like to hang out with your friends So unless you're training for a high level competition in which case I tell people like, okay Well, you want to perform the absolute best on this particular day make sure for the next two months or whatever But look, this is life life is like this so you enjoy things. That's fine. It's balanced So you're gonna give up a little bit for the other one. Is it all worth it to you? That's up to you There's no secret answer. I'm not gonna tell yes z-biotics. For example, we'll help you with the alcohol. Is it perfect? No, it's not perfect Alcohol still has calories then doesn't eliminate that doesn't eliminate the the fact that you might get drunk and make other, you know Choices around that just it's just accepted It's not a big deal as long as nothing's too extreme and not hurting yourself with the exercise or the or the the drinking It's it's not a big deal. Yeah, I mean we have we have short-term goals sometimes and I think there's nothing wrong with Intensifying Your disciplines for periods and it's I get it like I get sometimes you do want to present your your body or you have the thing specific things where you know, like if I'm I feel more confident because I have to take my shirt off and I got a kind of You know make sure that I feel good in that opportunity And so I would tighten it up a bit then like that's just one of those things you got it You got to sacrifice your fun a bit, right? And so it's just like this is life is where you do you want to do a sprint right now and really focus on that? Or you playing the long game? Is this something that is just like a lifestyle thing that you just want to keep in shape? But also have fun on top of that you could totally do that and be flexible with it You just have to know that it is pulling back You know your results a bit but it you could totally like weave that in as long as you maintain your your normal healthy Fitness goals and practices and other disciplines throughout the week. Well that You like drinking and watching sports with your friends Are we watching basketball because that's on three nights a week Are we watching football which is on every Sunday and you're doing that? so first of all, I'd ask how often is this because And you you have to be very realistic with what your goals are because they're conflicting type of goals One of them is you know, you're pursuing, you know, the social aspect of health And drinking and enjoying yourself, which like Sal said I think there's tremendous value in that and I think there's nothing wrong with that, too But you also have to be very realistic with what you're asking yourself to do on the physical side, too if you are looking at your favorite Instagram person who's got You know six-pack abs and looks amazing and you aspire to look like that And at the same time to you want to drink with your friends every basketball game or every football game on Sundays Yeah, it's just it's unrealistic to do that and I think that I think why we see this is because we had there's a lot of that Promoted on like social media you'll see somebody who's got this great physique and then they're only posting these videos of them Celebrating and going out and having fun and doing this like well, look at see look it that's after they got to that Yeah, and you and you don't know how neurotic they are about their fitness outside of that So all you what you don't see is that guy or girl spitting it out, right? or you don't see them getting up every weekend and cooking for the whole week and weighing and measuring and tracking their calories and then getting on and doing that Cardio early in the morning and doing all these other things so they can do that and still maintain this physique and you just got To ask yourself if that's what you want it. There is a there is a balance here I mean, I absolutely enjoy a drink with my friends and watch a game But I also don't need to do that every single time we sit down and watch a game It's like so you you learn to have a little bit of that balance of like, okay Well, I do love to do that and there's gonna be times where you know what? I do want to do that my buddies and I we haven't been together and you know over a month It's a big game, you know, our two teams that are playing against each other and we don't have anything to do the next day It's like hey, let's let loose and have a good time like 100% I'm gonna do that But if I'm seeing my friends every single weekend and we're watching football and we're having beer every single time Is it really that special? Is it really that big of a deal if I sacrifice two or three of those times? Like is it really at that point? You can't have fun with your friends without including alcohol I think you should really ask every time right like every time that's that's a question you to ask yourself Why yeah, and again, it's all look it's all about but it's so funny, too I was thinking right now like we Adam and I went to that event in Arizona and We it was like nine o'clock at night and we're both look at each other like this We should probably not just go to bed and it's funny because People might be like, oh, they're so disciplined. They didn't go out and drink with people. See I wasn't there and it's like no It's because we have kids and we're tired. I want to go to bed But you know, the truth is, you know, like like as a fitness podcast, we had a weed sponsor at one point Okay, we had a cannabis sponsor that a delivery company We will hang out and we'll drink and enjoy ourselves sometimes and and I was so neurotic when I was younger That I kind of learned this the hard way like I learned like wait a minute. That's not really Enjoying life. What was that study? I think came out of Stanford that showed that like bad Relationships was bad for your health is like smoking 10 packs is you know, 10 cigarettes a day or something like that Yeah, so it's all health But here's the here's the challenge the challenge isn't necessarily that the challenge is the I want my cake and I want to eat it Too well, you can't do it all. Okay, you're not gonna be 4% body fat, you know Instagram ready, but also on the weekends you hang out with your friends and your drink It's not gonna happen, but that's okay You know, that's okay that you got to be able to to look at the whole thing from a balanced perspective now if you want To do that then it's gonna mean that you're gonna have to cut out a lot of other things that you enjoy in order to look a Particular way, which I would argue is a miserable existence. I'm gonna be honest with you. It's not a very fun I'm the most neurotic out of all of us here in the studio But I also don't go that extreme because it sucks It sucks to be that extreme all the time You got to find that value for yourself and find that balance and there's Justin was kind of alluding this there's nothing wrong with you Saying you know what the next 8 to 12 weeks. I'm gonna I am gonna be neurotic I am gonna like I'm gonna skip all drinking a cage social events. I'm gonna train hard I'm gonna weigh a measure and I actually think there's tremendous value in doing that and also asking yourself like this isn't me saying for The rest of my life. I remember I was a guy who drew a piece of this for three years Yeah, and during that time I carried my Tupperware and missed out on all these you know drinking occasions And I don't feel like I really missed out that much and if you did it forever, right? If I did it forever and that was my life I would feel that way but I did it for a period of my time because I had a goal that I cared about more and I knew all there'll be plenty of times in the Future for me to drink and I had plenty of times of drinking before that so I think there's nothing wrong and I think there's lots of value in you making that sacrifice to get to that point because Once you get to that like that what you were seeking as far as your your your your aesthetics or whatever We're chasing right now once you get there and and you find you know what it takes discipline wise sacrifice Consistency wise to get to that place You then can start to do things like adding the drinking in here and there and you can see how much it affects it and you Can go see what's worth it, right and then exactly and then you have a night and that's exactly is it worth it I'll to ask you Adam you've done this before is it worth it to walk around just for life just for your life Is it worth it to walk around 5% body fat all the time? No No, no for the the few as cool as it is Oh, yeah No And I've shared on the show before one of the most epic moments ever was the the weekend in Vegas when I went pro it It's burned in my brain. It felt amazing to be on top of the world that moment and to feel that crazy in shape Even knowing that I still would not I wouldn't want that all the time because those are those are tiny little sliver Moments that you have the rest of time don't gives a ----. You're walking around 5% underneath your clothes No one cares. I'm saying it so I'm so glad I'm so glad you said that cuz I think we have this mental image of what you know Looks like to or what it's like to look fit and healthy. You know what the reality is if you're generally healthy You're gonna look good. Yeah, you're not gonna be super shredded, but super shredded. Nobody really cares For the most part anyway, except for other fitness fanatics I'll be honest if I get super shredded, you know People who notice other like fitness maniacs other people are kind of like he's a little too lean I've actually had people tell me that oh if you gain a little bit of body fat, you'd look better You know type of deal when I've gotten that lean so nobody really cares It's not that big of a deal. You can't have it all but so what I think balance is the key This is a lifelong pursuit and this this, you know, this dichotomy that we create with ourselves is like I think it's totally silly sometimes Hey, if you enjoyed that clip, you can find the full episode here or you can find other clips over here and be sure to subscribe