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Guys, it's David here again, and this video is about why you still feel bad, even though you're doing all this inner work.
So a common complaint is that even after you do all your meditation, you do journaling, you know, you can even be other things.
It can be like, you know, you take care of yourself, you're actively trying to improve the way you feel.
Just insight, you're trying to get rid of the negativity, you're trying to get rid of the negative emotions.
You're trying to improve how you feel, which is a good thing to do.
People still complain that it's not working.
Okay, I still feel like ---- sometimes.
Okay, and this can be really, really disheartening.
This can really sort of make you want to just pack it in and give up and just revert back to whatever you were doing beforehand.
But there is a sort of a secret about this.
There's a secret about this, and really it is.
I can see why it's a secret, because it's a tough, it's a hard pill to swallow.
And the truth of it is that it's still a subtle attempt to get rid of or control feelings that you have.
Okay, so all the work we do is an attempt to manipulate how we feel.
Okay, now I'm not putting anyone down for doing inner work or self-development work or psychotherapy or psychology or whatever it is you want to call it.
Whatever it is you do to improve your state of mind or how you feel.
Okay, that's a good thing.
But underneath it sometimes there can be this assumption or this attempt to make the bad feelings go away and to feel good.
Okay, so you can see there it's a subtle thing, right?
It's a subtle thing where we say negative feelings, you're not welcome here anymore.
And the issue with that is really what you're saying to that voice inside that feels hurt.
You're saying, shut up, go somewhere else, right?
We don't want to hear it here.
It's kind of like if you think of the inner child, right?
Maybe the inner child feels like it was spoken to like that maybe years ago.
That's just an example.
But it's how you talk to your feelings.
Do you welcome them?
And this is not easy because obviously we're all hardwired to want to feel good and we deserve to feel good and we should feel good, right?
But most of us, right?
Most of us have, because it's a crazy world we live in.
It's a crazy place.
It's a tough place to live.
We all have a certain level of healing that needs to take place.
And in order to do that, you can get to that place of feeling good and feeling like yourself, feeling at ease in yourself and feeling natural in yourself.
But in order to do that, you have to go through a period of healing or of letting go.
And of course, first, there's the process of just getting in touch with those feelings.
Okay, confronting them and not running away from them.
But that's the thing.
You have to allow them to be what they are.
And it requires infinite patience to do that.
Be hugely patient with yourself.
The text, the book A Course in Miracles says to have immediate results requires infinite patience.
Only infinite patience brings immediate results.
So as soon as you say to yourself, when you have these negative feelings, you're welcome here.
And I don't care how long this takes, but I'm going to feel this and I'm going to be with this.
And I'm going to make it a priority in my life to listen to this, to what my feelings are saying to me right now.
When you make that a priority and you say, I'm going to sit with this as long as it takes, almost instantaneously, you start to feel better.
Okay, it's a funny thing.
It requires infinite patience to just allow the feeling to be what it is.
Somebody else that I admire a lot, Anthony DeMello, he said that, you know, he's a very spiritual person.
He was.
And he went through a kind of a spiritual awakening, I suppose you could say.
And he said, maybe it wasn't him that said this, but this was definitely something I heard him say.
Maybe it was a quote.
But he said, before I was awake, I was depressed.
And after I was awake, I was depressed.
So this thing about getting in touch with yourself doesn't really, if you feel bad, it doesn't mean that you've done something wrong.
Sort of waking up to yourself means experiencing the feelings you have.
Your genuine feelings.
And that's what it is.
Just experiencing them as they are.
And that could be depression.
That could be anxiety.
That could be really strong anxiety.
That could be a sense of hopelessness.
That could be all these things we don't want to feel.
But you're awake the minute you start to welcome them all.
That's what I guess awakening is.
Just accepting your feelings as they sit with you.
So bear that in mind.
Don't take this as some sort of a method, I suppose.
Just bear it in mind and maybe hold it as an intention for yourself to feel whatever you want to feel.
And there's no obligation on you to feel anyway.
Whatever way you feel is the way you feel.
And welcome them and be with them.
It's the being with them that is the practice and that is the discipline that will help you get back in touch with who you are.
So guys, it's just a couple of quick thoughts there.
I hope you enjoyed it.
I hope it helped.
And I will talk to you soon.
Take care.
