Are Asian Men The Least Desirable Group?

Hey, what's up? Everybody's Mike. It's Dan. It's Mia So, uh, we heard some crazy news crazy back for us. I guess for you. It's good news. I don't know, dude Let's see. Well according to the survey that's done. I think last year 2014 Or 2013 actually the BuzzFeed video came out 2014, right? Basically, there's an app Are you interested right and there's they this app survey 2.4 million heterosexual people or exchanges? Yeah, and they found they found some data, right? and basically BuzzFeed made of a video about this and also other websites have reported on the findings and people have commented and people have thrown in other findings, but the gist is Congratulations, Mia Asian women are the most sought-after group of people right as in they got the most response replies right across all the ethnicity Fortunately for me and Dan right Asian men in general are on the bottom, right? So Asian men including South Asian and East Asian East Asian meaning Korean Japanese And we'll just try the Southeast Asian, too. I don't know. Yeah, let's say let's say that's all grouped together Yeah, and then South Asian like Indian. Yeah Pakistani Okay, so, you know, we're on the bottom of the no one no one replies back to us in terms of the men And also and then for women black women were said to have the lowest response rates right well In the most response rate for guys white guys white guys, right? Yeah. Okay So there's been a lot of people commenting why they think why they think that is or what? I just want to say one thing. I think the study is very misleading. Really? Okay. Okay, because if you look at Asian countries with the most population in the world Oh China and India Well, most of them are not on this app and they prefer Asian men Okay, like so basically wait, this is a Facebook app. Yeah So basically like you got to look at who's taking the survey, right? You're looking at people who are young who probably are live in urban cities Okay, or they're out in this dating scene a lot so they're young to urban Let's call them yuppies young urban professionals or hipsters or whatever you want to call them, right? They have a lot of disposable income they go out to you know To drink to eat to brunch to party and they date they use dating apps like okcupid tinder So yeah, okay among among the people that live in these big cities. All right, let's say San Francisco LA Chicago, New York That's what they found and to me that's actually it's very very not indicative of the overall population the stigma is East Asian men are not as desirable as nerds. Yes as white men that there's a stigma out there. Do you agree? Well Depends on which group of people you're asking. I think if you're asking Asian girls I think most Asian girls are okay with that Asian guys. That's what I'm saying That's what I'm saying But this but survey is is putting things out there and then people are taking those Facts from the survey and and and you know, it's trying to say stuff, right? Well, one of the stuff I think I think this survey does reflects a certain amount of truth, right? Just based on my perception, right? This is not scientific because obviously this is just based on my perception prove it I think I think a lot of people would agree with right the things I've seen because I live like lived in the Midwest And that's a little a lot less, you know Diverse right then here and you will not see as many, you know Interracial couples in the grass days. You wouldn't be expect cities. So the perception is all right Asian women They will date a lot of guys who are not Asian, right? The other perception is Asian guys Really you won't find a lot of Asian guys with women of other races, that's right, especially white women, right? Because white women there's there's this there's this thought that white women don't really like Asian guys, right? Okay, let's say in the u.s There is a stigma about Asians not being the romantic Attractive. Yeah, the leading male type right the leading man. Look at look at look at Hollywood Have you ever seen a romantic comedy featuring in Asian? No, no, you know right like can you imagine hitch right play by me? You know like Asian guy Wait, like if Eva Mendez finally get together with an Asian guy. Yeah hitch. Let's say short Asian guy And it's like you're okay. No, that would never happen That's a side note. That's why I like Hawaii five-o a lot because you do see, you know prominent Asian men like Daniel Dae Kim But no, come on, that's he's still not as prominent as say McGarrett's true. I know wait There's still a second level to those who would have you're absolutely right You're absolutely right because Asian males are in Hollywood, which let's be serious here It's Hollywood is like what most people see as like, you know, the the romanticism of life or whatever Yeah, you don't see Asian leading men, you know So therefore people do have a stigma like if you're Asian men, you like video games. You're nerdy. You're awkward this and that Yeah, it's out there. You know what I say to that Fine, it's not a big deal to me. Like honestly, does it bother you? It doesn't bother me. You know why because That's not who I am. It bothered me when I lived in the Midwest true that that was affecting me a lot But let me ask you a question though, right you being yourself when you were in the Midwest, I'm pretty sure that you were still like Outgoing and you still were you didn't let that become an issue for you, right? But also I I left the Midwest right when I was in my early 20s So I didn't become my own man until like, you know, maybe later in life, right? So now I'm more comfortable now. I don't care right but like that thing you're still affected by that You were affected because because yeah, because there's no support group for you out there. You know, there's no friends The other Asian friends that kind of your friends are not Asian, right? Yeah, I mean you kind of grew up in that environment, but you grew up in Boston. That's still different than I was different Yeah, I mean so like out there you're still under the you know, you feel that every time you like a girl Who's not Asian? Okay, most the time they're not right. Sorry, you don't have so what goes through your mind when you were first thing? It's like well these will this girl dating you thought that of course did it affect your self-confidence? What was your what? Because you have to adapt one hurdle you have to get over first. So I'm interested to find out if Other Asian men think that because I I think they do Yeah, I think they would I think they would if they grew up, you know Concern right because I've been in situations where they you know, some people tell me they're like, oh, yeah that person You know, they think you should only date, you know your own race I don't have a problem with the stigma out there because I don't have a problem I think it's not that good but I don't have a problem with it personally and if if people feel like it's hurting their chances of Finding someone that they like then I would say for them like we talked about this all the time Like there's ways that there's things that you can do to increase your confidence and change sort of your outlook on life and I think that could help you like don't let that be a reason why you don't go after someone you like because if You do and they don't like you because you're Asian. Well, then you shouldn't date that person Just move on so it's but on the flip side I do have a problem though with one thing which is what I have seen in in the u.s Is and this goes to the stigma of Asian men. I've seen on purpose Asian women namely like a East Asian women Chinese girls Korean girls or Chinese girls I could only say for my own ethnicity. They they've said this stuff to me. They go. Oh, I don't date Asian guys period they don't they don't guys period and To me that is a problem because they in their mind They think that Asian men are less manly or class lower class less manly aren't as desirable So somewhere along the lines that thought Because what I don't know because of Hollywood because of I'm not saying blame Hollywood because of the people around them because you know They haven't met a lot of Asian guys that are That are kind of like, you know, like more outgoing male time Yeah, and then they they are they think that they're just like I'm not gonna date Asian guys I know a lot of girls I've seen I've met a lot of girls like that to me That's a problem because you're letting that stereotype influence you some people show similar traits That's fine and stereotypes are fine. I'm not against stereotypes are there for a reason? Yeah, they're true to X to an extent right? It's generalization So there's always this individual traits that make you different from other people generalizations based on a lot of truths So to me like just be aware of them and like know that you're you're you're in individual Like you don't yes, just because there is a stereotype. You don't have to fit into it and Hopefully you don't use stereotypes on other people. That's all I can say, right? I can't I can't speak for other people, right? So, you know, regardless of what the study says, right? No Asian guys keep your heads up. Yeah, we're awesome Alright guys, let us know your thoughts about this topic Thank you so much for watching Later