The Truth About Saving Yourself For Marriage | Our Experience

Stop don't touch me there. This is my no-no square Okay, so today. We are talking about the truth about saving yourself for marriage because me and my wife here That's what we did. We saved ourselves for marriage. We were virgins on our honeymoon night and Gosh, it was it was such a disaster. I mean You you had no idea what you were doing Well you got made fun of all in high school And I just wish you would have been like everybody else like I wanted to marry someone. That's like everybody else I know I I actually stood out for my friends, and I was like unique, and it was just so lame But I mean really it came down to you you just Yeah, I just wish you had more experience like I wish you had been with like a million other guys All right, just kidding guys obviously we are just joking Saving ourselves for marriage is one of the best decisions. I think that we ever made right and in this video we're gonna talk about why we decided to save ourselves for marriage and Maybe some things that you could consider if you're thinking about saving yourself for marriage So the number one reason that we wanted to save ourselves for marriage was to obey God Because you know we really How because how do you expect to be blessed in that area of your life if you aren't obeying God? And you're not living that area like he expects us to so that was really the number one reason for both of us, right? I mean that was my reason My number one. I have a lot of reasons, but that was the first one. I'd say yeah, so that was number one second reason we decided to save ourselves for marriage was to guard our hearts because I feel like if you are dating someone and you do decide to have sex with them It's like tying you to that person in a way that you can never get back You know you can never take it back, and I just like when you break up which happens a lot at a young age You know breaking up getting new boyfriends new girlfriends You feel so devastated like I just remember my friends in school being so upset about Breakups and whenever I went through a breakup it was like yeah I was a little upsetting, but I just knew that God had someone better out there for me And I don't know I guess I think it's because I didn't have that Bond with who I was with yeah, there's there's really something about You know the words to become one flesh. It's like really true There's something about being intimate with someone in that way that you really become like tied to that person spiritually And it seems like you're one and one way or the other and when you guys break up Especially it seems to be this way for girls that they're just so much more attached and such a harder heartbreak It's more than a physical connection. I think for girls. It's like very emotional So number three our number third reason that we did this was The number three reason that we did this was because we really wanted to become the person that we are looking for Was looking for you know so it was a big desire in my heart for my wife to be a virgin I didn't want her to have been with anyone else I was just how I felt and my desires So I was like if I want that if I want to attract that into my life Then I should become that so that was a big motivator for me is because I figured you know if she was Saving herself, then she probably wanted me to do the same thing The fourth reason that we did this is because it's just really special to save yourself and to know that you know you're only sharing this moment with one other person and It's also I for my experience In college and in high school Everyone all my friends were like if they ever asked me about that and I told them that I was a virgin It was always like oh my gosh. That's so cool. It was never like what like that's so dumb I don't think anyone ever made me feel Bad about it. It was always like it was a cool thing like made me stand out from everyone else And I don't know nobody ever gave me like any negative feelings towards it Yeah, so if you and that's just so big if you're hanging around friends who? Make you feel lame or not cool for saving yourself for marriage Then you need some new friends You really need to be surrounding yourself with people who think that's awesome and who think that's so cool And that kind of brings us to our next point is that you really need to Own your virginity you know I see so many of the times there was an episode of The Bachelor Yes, he watches it. Yeah, so there was an episode of The Bachelor this past year where one of the guys was like He was so ashamed to admit that he had never slept with another girl before and the girl was acting like it was Like it could have been a deal-breaker You know cut that I mean anyone if you're if you're around anyone who thinks it's lame You need some you need to just cut them out of your life because that it's one of the coolest thing it's so special and you definitely will not be able to Continue to save yourself if you're around people who are not supporting that or it'll make it a lot more difficult another reason it's special is because By not by saving yourself for one person you literally have nothing else to compare them to like you're not gonna have to Do that in your head? Yeah, it's just like when When the time comes when you are married one day, and you have and you can share that with that special someone You're not gonna have thoughts in your mind of past experiences and thinking like oh well She did this or he did this and now this person doesn't do this or vice versa It's just it really keeps your mind clean and pure Another reason to save yourself for marriage is because you won't regret it I don't think I've ever met anyone who did save themselves who ever said like oh that was so bad Like I wish I would have just had all this experience and gone into this knowing what I was doing It's like you get to learn together and experience it together So we understand that a lot of you watching this you may not be a virgin and we're not saying that we're any better Because we saved ourselves for marriage and you didn't But what we will say is that it's never too late to recommit yourself to saving yourself for marriage if you're not married yet to revirginize yourself Yeah, it's a really just make renew that commitment and say you know what I may have done this in the past But I believe this is what God wants for my life And I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna make a commitment to do this until I get married So we're gonna give you a few practical ways to not give in to temptation Yes We call them guardrails or we actually heard this terminology from Andy Stanley and one of the pastors that we listened to online Guardrails which are you set up certain guardrails in your life to protect you from Not going into area danger zones zones that you do not want to be in. So what are some What some guardrails that we set up for ourselves and failed? like one of them one guardrail that we thought I think is a good idea is to Not sleep in the same bed together. Yeah. Yeah, that's a big one even beyond that, you know Guardrails are set up to prevent you from even coming close to doing what you're not supposed to be doing So even you have to find whatever that is for you it that might mean not being alone together Because as soon as you get alone together you it leads to one thing to the next and also you're doing things that you don't want to be doing but another guardrail is to make sure that you and your Partner have this talk before it ever even comes To be a consideration like I feel like if you talk about it before you get in a situation that it's already kind of a Known fact it's established like we're not gonna go there because we For us we both knew you know that we were saving ourselves and it really never even that was like our first conversation Yeah, that came up on our first conversation But after that, I mean like it wasn't it just like it wasn't an option and never We never even like got close or anything yeah, yeah, and if you find yourself where you're scared of bringing this up to whoever you're with that might be a sign that You're you're not with the right person because you've got to understand that the person that you're with Has to be on the same page as you right? I mean you have to be on the same page as each other or else you don't stand a chance If one of you guys are like really wanting to have sex before marriage and the other one the other ones not You will typically end up doing it because it's just easier to go that route. So this is a very Difficult path. It's not easy at all. Very very challenging for sure but it's very rewarding and So so the guardrails that really helps prevent people from having sex before marriage is it's it sounds extreme But you got to do extreme things to achieve extreme goals Not being alone together Not sleeping in the same bed and obviously things like not touching, you know Not not being sexual in other ways because obviously You know being doing all that stuff is gonna get you where you don't want to be Only thing you'll miss out on by not saving yourself for marriage is potential regret. Just imagine yourself Getting married one day. Just imagine having that talk with them and being able to tell them like I waited for you And I saved myself for you It just feels so good to be able to say that and to know that that's true And then I know that you have high hopes that they did the same thing Yeah, yeah, and just it'll be so worth it I'm just here to encourage you that it'll be tough in the moment But when that day comes when that day comes you will be so happy so worth it and well like I said earlier if you are with someone who is not on the same page as that or You are surrounding yourself with people who are not supporting that goal in that dream of yours You need to change the people you're with because the best kind of people and the way that I did it in the way that Sutton Did it was being around people who thought that was cool? You know, you should that are gonna build you up and encourage you not bring you down with them. Yeah. Yeah, so That's the truth about saving yourself for marriage. We are so Happy that we did it, right? We can't encourage all of you enough to save yourself for marriage if you have already given your virginity away to Recommit yourself start today start today Yeah, and if you like these kind of videos Please subscribe to our channel below hit that little bell button So you'll be notified every time that we put out a new video and if you like these kind of videos Comment below with what you think about this topic and share your thoughts with us and we will see you soon