The Price of Leveling Up: When You Outgrow Your Dating Pool | Dating Advice

There's a price to pay for leveling up, and if you're there, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. You have evolved. You've changed, and therefore, the people who are attracted to you are different, and maybe you are in the space that I call the void. That's where you have left who you were, how you vibed, how you radiated, and the group of people that were your dating pool, And now you're looking. You feel invisible. It's like they don't see you. And now you're berating yourself because you're like, I really worked on myself. I tried hard. I leveled up. I became a better version of myself. I'm more evolved. I'm more aware. I'm more conscious. And I'm more alone. What did I do? You leveled up. This is what I call the void. It's that section in between where you left, but you're not yet where you're going to. And it happens in dating too. And here's the reason. They can't see you because you left their vision. Meaning, their sight is where you were. This is like walking into a museum and looking at paintings going, oh, I don't understand that, my kids could have done that. Yeah, and that's what a lot of people think, until they learn what's behind that, what rules were being broken, what things were being expanded, how these artists, many of them, could do realistic paintings and chose to express something differently. It doesn't mean they have less capability. It means, in a way, they have greater dimensionality. And what happens when you do that in your dating life, because it happened in your real life, you are going to find there are fewer people. There may be no one right now. And in that case, you are going to berate yourself and think you made a mistake. And you did not. You evolved naturally to the only place that you could go, which is where you are today. So I urge you, if you are in consternation about leveling up and you are realizing that you are not attracting the people you were before and that there are fewer and fewer people that not only relate to you, but you relate to them, take heart because the next phase of this opens up. It does. You're just at a plateau. It's the void. And if you want to read more about this, check out Allowing Magnificence. I go into great detail about this. It's on Audible, or you can get the physical copy. But it is true. It is kind of a rite of passage for self-evolution and self-awareness. So the next tier that opens up. As soon as you accept that this is where you are, it readies it a little bit more quickly and opens up the next phase much more readily. So you relax now and you know that the other is coming. And little by little, you find people you couldn't see before. See how it works? You couldn't see them before. And now your vision is slightly shifted. And now you see them as well as they see you. And this is your new level. These are the new people that you'll be playing with. And these are the people with whom you'll be interacting, not only as friends, as colleagues, but also as lovers and relationship material. So take heart if you have leveled up. You have not made a mistake, but your energy is different and it's going in a better place. And honestly. There are no other options. You can't go back. I worked with a lady who said she was desperately trying to go back to sleep because it was easier for her. And when I say back to sleep, she means to go back into unconsciousness because it was so much easier because there were so many other people. And I said, good luck. Why don't you try it? Let's give it a month. Go out with those people. She came back to me. She says, oh, God, Susan, I was bored to death. They were so boring. And I'm like, yeah, you don't speak the same language anymore. They're not where you are. So go to where you are. And just settle. If you need help, chat me up. Susan Winter for susanwinter.net. Consultation. Also, you can hear this streaming on all stations. The Susan Winter Show. Thank you very much. Happy dating and happy evolving. There's no other choice. It's the better and bigger and more expanded version of you.