How To Change Your Life By Christmas (Do These 3 Things)

I tricked myself into achieving two goals that I set at the beginning of this year that I didn't think were actually possible. I remember actually writing them down and thinking like, there's no way this is going to happen. This will be fun to shoot for. But I set up some simple rules, followed a very simple system. And now I'm on track that by the end of this year, I will actually hit those goals. And before I tell you what these goals are, the only reason I was actually able to hit those is not because I set yearlong goals, but because I broke them down into 90 day, into weekly, into daily tasks that made it almost impossible for me not to hit them. And so I just finished up setting up my last set of 90 day goals. And if you want to completely change your life in the next 90 days, this is exactly how to do it. To start off with, I wanted to double my income and also pay off my house while I'm still 30, which I have like 75 days left. Now, at the time I set both of those goals, they actually seemed completely impossible in my entire life and kind of myself needed to change rather drastically in order to hit them. And I do think that is one of the most important things when you are setting a goal is making sure that it aligns with the type of person you want to be, because the type of person I needed to become in order to achieve those goals was different than the one I was last year. And so the first thing I always focus on when I'm setting a goal is choosing what I'm going to cut out. We'll break down like what went into this, but in order to have more time to maybe get in shape, build a business, whatever, you pretty much need to have time. And in order to have time, you generally have to cut things out of your life. Like most of us have a couple of bad habits that are holding us back from success. Like maybe you want to get in shape, but you eat out lunch every single day. You always have Pringles that you can pull out of the cabinet at 10 o'clock at night. You're generally going to have one or two things that if you literally just cut those out, your life will change. And for me, I was always distracted on my phone too much, watching too many TV shows, playing too many games, just building new businesses for no reason whatsoever besides boredom. And just always having my focus spread on a billion things was really holding me back. So I started off before I even set my goals. I was just picking a couple of things that I know I should cut out. And if I did cut them out, I would be more proud of myself every day. I knew I would have more time. And so for me, that was mostly, honestly, just my phone and short form content. But if you want to really change your life, you can't just cut a few things out. You need to have step two. Next up, you got to think about the chapter of your book. This is a test that has completely changed my life. I like to think of my life as a book. At some point, I hope to write a book, not because I'm anybody special, but just to show that somebody who is not very special can achieve special things by simply following the system. Like I'm literally breaking down in this video. But the whole reason why I chose to try to pay off my house at the age of 30 was because I was like, that would be a really cool chapter of a book. That would be exciting. That would be cool. That would be like a story. That would be almost impossible. Let's try it. And I realized that when I set realistic, kind of ordinary, achievable goals, I don't care. If you really want to have abs, but you set a goal to lose five pounds, you don't really care that much. You might hit it. You'll probably bounce back. You're not going to completely change your whole identity in order to do that. But if you have a strong enough why, you have this really deep desire, you think it's exciting, you jump up out of bed because you're excited about it. It'll change your kids' lives. OK, yeah. Yeah, I'll change some things about myself in order to make that happen. Right. And so for me, I go back to this chapter test. If you look at your life as a book or a movie or whatever, the most boring part that would totally get cut that would not ever happen is me sitting there for like two hours a day. Just, yeah. Dude, this is a great movie. The guy just scrolls on his phone the whole time. It's an amazing movie. You have to watch it. That whole book just tells you what his Instagram feed is. It's amazing. That is not exciting. So when you kind of filter back and you think of yourself as a character, as a friend, as a dog, even you can kind of disassociate yourself and ask what would that person need to do in order to hit that goal? If your dog was overweight, you'd be like, OK, in order for me to help my dog, I'm going to eat less and exercise for my dog. And yet we don't do the exact same thing for ourselves. A lot of times it's just taking the advice that we would tell our friends to do and actually doing it ourselves and caring for ourselves. So for me, this one, I knew that like if I didn't have a mortgage payment, first of all, I wouldn't be losing $2,000 a month in interest for this mortgage, which is disgusting. Second of all, I knew that if my living expenses are really low, I could just retire. If I ever feel like retiring, I could just like totally retire. Am I never going to have to worry about, you know, my kids losing their house? Never going to have to worry about most of the bad stuff that could affect my family. Could ever make me have to like go to a job somewhere? All of that stuff, like those deep fears that I have of not having money, of having to get a natural job is like my biggest fear in the world, like getting a nine to five, regardless. That is drastically less likely to happen if I achieve this one goal. And the only way to achieve that one goal, paying off the house, was to pretty much double my income. I don't know if you've tried doubling your income for extremely hard, but over the past six or so years, my income has doubled every year and I thought it would probably slow down. And it would have if I didn't make some pretty drastic changes at the beginning of this year and then enact them throughout the entire time. So that is finding that goal. What is the one thing that if you achieve this one thing, maybe it's building a revenue stream, maybe it's losing a hundred pounds, like what is that one thing that if you achieve this, your whole life would look different? Your family's lives would look different. What is that thing that is that reason to get out of bed? And sometimes that takes a while to find out. This was kind of something that I talked about for a while. I was like, no, it's not really realistic. I shouldn't even really try for that. How about we pick something more attainable? But instead, I really just committed at the beginning of this year to give it a shot. And that's the I feel like another kind of sub point of this is like once you pick that thing, that's like exciting, whatever that is, that will actually make a difference. You have to commit to it like 100 percent. Like worst comes to worst, I'll have grinded for this entire year and I'll have worked a little extra this year of my life. I'll have had to change structures or whatever. But my life's completely different. If you try to start a business, you try for an entire year to start a YouTube channel. Maybe worse comes to worse. You tried something. You gave it your best for an entire year. Best comes to best. Your entire life changes in your family's lives, changes and you get to do what you love and travel the world. Like the risk reward is not even comparable when it was like, OK, I cut out Netflix in order to work on this. For me, I've realized that I'm way more likely to achieve my goals if I write them down on paper. I don't know what this is about it, but like over the last two years, I've written down like three goals on paper that were like my big goals and I've achieved every single one of them. And most of them were kind of this borderline like, yeah, that can't happen. But let me write it down and I'll try for it. I don't know how it happens. It's really weird. There's like studies about this scientifically that smart people understand. But regardless, I use a very simple system. It's from the book The 12 Week Year. It's kind of like it's also some atomic habit and stuff like this. But pretty much this journal uses exactly what I would like to do. It's a finisher's journal. I do have like a discount code if you want to check them out. I think I have like 10 of them over there on my stand. I've been using this for four years now, something like that. But pretty much I'm going to write down one goal. What is that simple one goal? And then we have to measure inputs and outputs along the way. We have to break it down into smaller steps. And so real quick, this is exactly how I do this. For instance, I had that gold paint off the house and then I figured out how much I needed every single month in order to hit that. And then I broke that down into the first 90 days of hitting those goals. And then I looked at my life and I said, OK, based on my current actions, literally impossible. So I need to reinvent myself as a person. I need to change my habits in order to make that happen. And this is why I love big goals. If you get a goal to raise your income by 10 percent, you might do certain things. If you have a goal to double it, you literally can't do what you're doing. You have to be different. If you have a goal of losing five pounds versus competing in a bodybuilding show, two incredibly different things, totally different inputs that you're going to put in. Right. So depending on what your goal is going to depend on how much your life actually changes. That's why we need huge goals. So one of the things I needed to do was to film three videos per week on average, roughly double my output, because if I want to double my income, I have to double the thing that makes me money. And so doubling that. And so that was 39 videos created and a minimum of 26 videos posted per quarter throughout the entire year. That includes both of my channels. And again, everybody's inputs are going to be different. But you need to find out what is the exact step by step that if you follow this daily plan, weekly plan, monthly plan will get you to land at the goal or at least give you the best mathematical chance of doing it. Next up is consistency. If you're not measuring your progress and kind of reevaluating every week to every month, you're pretty much not going to hit your goals. And this is why I hate year long goals. And I like breaking them down because one of my goals was to hit 190 pounds. And I was even trying to hit 185 by Christmas. And I'm trying to do that without really putting on fat. So I'm bulking. I'm tracking every single calorie over the past couple of weeks been rather in depth. But I realized that I wasn't hitting my calories. I wasn't getting enough of them in throughout the week. And then a lot of my eyeballing was kind of off. So I started to like weigh in everything. And now over the past week, I've realized that I need to add like one to 200 calories to my daily intake in order to help me hit my goal. But the problem is, if you don't know why you're not getting closer to your goal, it's because you're not like micromanaging the inputs that you're putting in. I'm just not giving my body apparently, even though I thought I was making progress, but I wasn't giving my body what it needed in order to grow and hit my targets. Same thing if you're trying to lose weight. If you're not measuring down to like using a scale and you don't know why you're not losing weight, it's probably because too many calories going in. It's like just basic math. Same thing was true with almost every goal that you set. You have to manage the little things. You have to actually track how much you're putting in, measure, reevaluate and adjust as you go. And so you continue to make progress. Otherwise, you put in a ton of effort and you just don't even go anywhere. It's like super annoying. So that's why every week I have like a primary task, secondary and main. Usually I just have one to two things per day that I know if I hit those, get me closer to the goal. And then at the end of every week, I have a what worked, what didn't work, what will I improve? And this is just going in like, OK, my goal to gain weight wasn't working because I wasn't tracking my calories. So I didn't know like how close I was exactly. I was estimating it. Therefore, I wasn't making progress. And so I need to improve. And so I need to track and then I need to gain. And then there's also like a weekly plan. So like week seven, based on my entire thing, I'm going to go back, readjust, see what I need to change and make a new plan for the next week. This is something I really like about this journal. It's just kind of the system of constantly checking myself, constantly improving and tweaking, because if you just keep getting one percent better every single week, things really change. Again, if you do want to check one of these out, there's a link down in the description. It's the exact system that I've used. It really changed my life, actually. The next thing is some type of stakes or accountability. Real quick from the future, talking about accountability. I owe you guys $1,000 for this week. I put up $10,000 that if I didn't achieve some goals about 90 days ago, then I would give away $10,000. So we're on week two so far, doing $1,000 a week for pretty much the rest of the year here. But looking back, I realized that these goals were not attached to my huge big goal. And having multiple goals at the same time can be somewhat hard. So one of the goals was reading an hour a day, which I think is really important. But also I just like totally failed it because I realized it was not sustainable. And I got like 15 hours behind and it was a whole thing regardless. So this week, I'm about to talk about the 1% Club. It's this community that I made to help hold each other accountable. We do weekly goals together. And so instead of one person getting money for the next 37 people who join, it's going to be completely free. So I'll just refund you your money. That'll be $1,000. I'll keep track of it on the homepage thing. So you'll be able to see if you're going to be eligible for it, whatever. And then let me know what I should do next week, because I don't really know what I'm doing here, to be honest with you. So we'll go back into the video. But that's pretty much what happened. I hit my big goals, but the little goals I just don't care about as much, apparently. During this last goal setting session that I had about two months ago now, I created a group for myself. I cut out all social media. I had tons of extra time. And I kind of created a little community just for kind of like public accountability. And we've actually had like over 300 something people join. We just do like weekly challenges together to just keep getting better. But for me, having that public setting of like, hey, guys, this is what I'm trying to work on. Let's all do it together. Let's hold each other accountable. That helps me achieve my goals a lot better. Physically checking on them constantly, again, helps me do it. If you just have some nebulous plan of I want to gain weight, how do you know if you hit it? Do you have this nebulous plan of I want to make more money? How do you know if you hit it? How do you know what steps to take? How do you know how much you need to change? Like if my goal when I was cleaning office buildings was to make six figures, it doesn't matter what I did cleaning office buildings, I could never make six figures. All right, so I need a new job. All right, that changes what I'm going to do on the day to day because my current actions were it was impossible for me to like really get freedom or do anything that I wanted to do based on my current situation because it just wasn't. And so when you set bigger goals, you're like forced to reevaluate your whole life. And regardless, that's what I got for this video. If you're trying to change your life, drop a like, feel free to subscribe. And if you want to be brainwashed for wealth, check out this video right here. Transcribed by https://otter.ai