What is 'prestige porn'?

Tonight on the Nightcap. Are you watching that sketchy back alley adult film? How about something with prestige? Like ten thousand feet of it. None of that homemade junk. Something with prestige. Some sparkle sparkle. Tied up with duct tape? Nope, prestige. Some fifty shades of it. Get those Flintstone toys out of here. And give her something with prestige. with settings designed from a morse code operator give up that regular drive-through pawn with some prestige porn let's get into it All right, let's talk about this prestige porn, shall we? And I've got some ladies on the couch. Very first time we've got behavioral scientist Dr. J in the building. Welcome to the nightcap. Hello, hello. I know, we hit you with a, hey, do you want to come on and talk about prestige porn? You're like, what? I was like, yes. And then I Googled, I'm like, what did I sign up for? I love that. Next to you, we've got a girlfriend that's been with us for forever. She is our sex and relationship expert, Dr. Viviana Cole. Yes, girl. And next to you, we've got a woman with the gift of gab, one of our favorite girlfriends on the couch, Stacey B. I mean, I got to give you that kiss. Yes. All right, when you hear prestige porn, what do you think of, ladies? I know some. Okay, before you Googled it and looked it up, I was thinking of, like, premier. Porn right like the best quality video best porn quality 10k like digital yeah the best of the best that you could find yeah yeah and I'm like that has to be some very good porn some out of this world porn the camera work it was made on the moon porn it made that's what I was thinking porn Dr. Viviana? Okay, so I have heard about this. I hadn't followed it, but it's a media term. So for a lot of people who are wondering, Prestige Porn is all about using high-quality production, high-quality actors, people that you wouldn't expect, you know, Oscar winners, in soft-core porn that you can see on your movie screen. And that is not... Very popular, because back in the day, you were even showing, you know, anything, full frontal at all, anything. It was like, oh, yeah, and no way you'll ever get an Oscar. And so people would stay away from it, but that's changing with prestige. And it's usually 40 and up representatives. I mean, the world went crazy when Pretty Woman came out, so I mean, that's about right. All right. But I had to ask my ChatGPT, you know, Mimi, I'm like, Mimi, what is this? And because I thought it was like some bougie dolphin dildos. You know how our conversations go here on the nightcap. So I was like, okay, so prestige porn, you're in, we're on the set, you're swinging. We're on the moon with Dr. Jay. You're wearing your bougie little outfits and maybe you're making porn with you and your partner in a little fancy area like boudoir. No, no. I mean, it is what Dr. V said. So essentially, like, luxury lingerie, erotic audio books read by actors that you're familiar with, or, you know, Oscar winners doing movies that, you know, have women centered and women over 40 centered as the one who's receiving the pleasure, who's receiving the desire and seeing the lens of her desire as well. So it's about, you know, just elevating. Porn, or the sexual experience of the woman. The thing about Idris reading me a book is making my poodle cat jump right now. I'm not. Can you have it with a British accent, too? Probably, I'm sure. I mean, ladies, do you turn to any of these things to feel a little bit sexier? Do you get some high-end lingerie? Do you turn on erotica or an erotic audio book? Do you watch, you know, movies like Baby Girl or what is it? Wicker. Wicker. Yeah. That's out right now. I think sometimes it's about setting the mood, even if it's for yourself. It's like you're setting your own environment. Even in your bedroom, like nobody's coming over, or they may be coming over, but it's like just a feeling of, okay, I feel beautiful, or I feel sexy, so I'm going to put on something. I'm going to put on perfume, even makeup, do my hair, have my little drink, and all the things. So sometimes as far as how I feel. Before I want someone else like to tell me that I look good. Like you want to feel good in your own skin. She's courting herself. Yeah. Love it. I'm a huge fan of having all of the couples that I work with at Houston Relationship Therapy. I will recommend 20 minutes of shared or even just. Maybe one person is listening to or talking, maybe reading erotic literature, erotic audiobooks. I love all of that because it engages the largest sex organ, the brain. The brain. We talked about that here a lot. And so many of us need that help to just switch from work mode to sexy mode or mom mode to wifey mode. But even just solo pleasuring or solo dating, we want that help and fortunately, prestige Porn. Now, more visual than what I've been recommending in the past. But, yeah, get your brain involved. Oh, what I was thinking was, so when I researched it, I was like, oh, this is like a 40, a lot of women, 40 and up. And I think that's like when we hit, like, our feeling of prime. I think I deserve to be cared for. And now, you know, I might have been shy and I might have been, you know, mothering. Wifing, but now I care about me being pleasured. It's like older women who never have an orgasm until they're like 55. You know what I mean? I think I like that this is coming into play. And I like that it's being popularized. I love the representation. Okay, so, um, Now, of course, there's a downside, which is that it can create some pressure. There might be women out there who are... fully into menopause and they're trying to get their partners away from them because they're trying to figure things out on their own and they may not want the pressure of being told hey you're in your sexual prime they might be telling their partner the opposite. Oh no we're gonna have to dive into that what not a negative side all right you stay right there. Oh the pressure and the drama around prestige porn in your relationships stay right there we'll be right back. How about that? Welcome back to the Nightcap, we're discussing prestige porn, which is basically geared toward women and their desires and their sexual experience, and primarily women over 40. We've got Dr. J, behavioral sex, behavioral scientist, I was going to say behavioral sex therapist, I'm combining both of y'all, Dr. J, behavioral scientist, our relationship and sex expert, Dr. Viviana, and our favorite girlfriend, Stacey B. During the break, you brought up that this It could be negative because it might create some sort of pressure in relationships. What do you mean? So what... It's been kind of what I've been saying in my office is that there are so many people who are anti-porn because of the unrealistic pressures that it can put onto relationships and onto women especially, and even, of course, men, all of the body owners. And so to have this representation of women 40 plus who are taking charge and taking the lead, well, there are a lot of us going, woohoo! There are probably a few of us out there who are like, really? Really? We're going to be expected to be performing at that level? Like Nicole Kidman, Olivia Colman. I mean, really? That's what now my partner is going to expect from me? So, unfortunately, there's the good with the bad. And I think... If we can look at it as empowering or as maybe inspirational to a degree, just to get, again, get those ideas flowing, or even conversations, because I love when these movies will bring up conversations about what you like, what you don't like, your desires, your preferences. But it can always turn into, see, why can't you be like that? Why aren't you tackling me? Why aren't you this, this, this, and that? And that can be a problem. I'm going to just go to yoga and find out how to do a split on that thing. I just like it. I feel like that's another pressure because, like, one of the things was, like, more luxury, like, additions in the bedroom. So, I mean, if you got a broke dude, he won't be able to buy you some of the things that you're used to sleeping in. Right, the silk and the satin and the lace and the velvet. Like, I love what Dr. J was saying. You prime yourself, whether it's for your own self-pleasure or, you know, you have a potential partner coming over, whatever it be, like it's. You're listening to the audio book for you, you're watching the movie, reading the books for you, dressing up, getting dolled up for you, right? Yeah, but it also makes me think about, like, some of us women that are 40 plus, we may be in our prime, but some men that are older than us, sometimes they're experiencing certain things that cause them not to be able to. So it's like in those situations, like I'm sitting here looking cute, looking pretty, I'm ready to go, but then my mate isn't, so yeah, like you got to jump start that thing. I mean, you can't. Sit on it like you can't sit on it. You're having to jump on it. Well, you're talking about like, first you were like, it's a pressure for women, but yeah, it can be a pressure. And responsibilities and obligations. That was all my thoughts were. That was a pressure for the man to also add to our expectations. Yeah. Like, when you brought up the point about like the partner having pressure. Yeah. So how do you address this pressure? Because now we're aroused, right? How do we... How do we communicate? How do we achieve it without like, come on, babe, you can do it. And don't you see him doing it? Don't you see her doing it? Like, I think it turns into curiosity, asking your partner, like, hey, what did you find sexiest about that? What do you think if you were in her and you were in her shoes or out of her shoes, which is fine, make it. If you were in her body, what do you think your top three descriptions of how you were feeling would be? Don't turn it into, when can we make that happen? Because just like with all pornography, it's usually very unrealistic, very produced, lots of medicines involved. Just don't go there. But you can take some inspiration about, like, hey, I really love the way that that... That position seemed to feel, or I've always been curious about this, and I think the inspiration piece can be really good, but be curious with your partner. Now, I'm not saying do a play-by-play pause every five seconds and think about that. It's like, okay, maybe enjoy it, and then the next day talk about it on a date night. So it sounds like it also takes a lot of kind of vulnerability, like opening up, like, hey, this is what I like, this is what I don't like, can we do that, or can we try some of that, sometimes, it doesn't have to be tonight, but like one day, can we, whatever your comfortability is, but kind of expressing, because a lot of times, as we've gotten older, even as women, Some things we don't like, but we never said it. And then some things that we may want, but we may never say that either. So it sounds like the whole communication piece is kind of like what we're getting into, especially with being women over 40. It's like, hey, this is what I want. No, I don't like that. Don't do that. Like, don't put that there and all the things. Well, yeah, and especially that over 40 piece. I mean, traditionally, I mean, traditional porn, they're always super young, straight out of college. And then you've got, you know, in the movies, like the... The sex symbol in the movies in their early 20s. And now, I mean, yeah, Olivia Colman's like, how old is Olivia Colman? And she's the sex star in the Wicker movie. Nicole Kidman, I mean, obviously, Nicole Kidman's just, she's otherworldly. She's got a lot of money. She's ageless, but, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It feels nice, you know, to see that older women, you know. You know, women of a certain, women who are not in their 20s. Who are not in their 20s, thank you. I like it. I like the whole, like, liberated feeling of it. Yeah. I think the representation is always good, right? Because then you do have some women who, I don't know about y'all's girlfriends, but you go out and you talk about how they're like, oh my gosh, I'm able to experience pleasure so much better now. I've been able to shut down the noise because now I'm not worrying about diapers or getting up so early with feedings. And they kind of move out into this other time. Now, of course, there are a lot of people who just fill it with something else. You know, Not what I would want them to fill it with, but they are starting to say, you know what, now I have some blank space that I can fill with, like, desire and curiosity, and if they do want kind of help with navigating those conversations, of course, you know, I have an app, Vivid Relationships, and there's lots of little things in there that you can ask. And that'll help guide those conversations. But asking any pro, especially in Houston, we have so many behavioral experts, marriage experts, ask someone because you don't need to suffer in silence and you don't need to go the next 10 years, 20 years, not having pleasure. with sex, yeah. Thank you. I love how she's so very smart. Pleasure. Pleasure. All right. We're going to play a little game night. So you stay right there. I'll be right back. Welcome back to the Nightcap. We've been having some fun talking about prestige porn. But ladies, it's time to have a little bit more fun, and it's time for... Game Night! Okay, we're gonna play Prestige or Just Porn, okay? Okay. Alright, a best-selling author writes an extremely graphic sex scene, but the book is sold as literary fiction. Prestige or Just Porn? Just Porn. A streaming drama has explicit sex scenes in nearly every episode but calls itself a workplace drama. Prestige or just porn? Workplace kids 40 plus. I'm gonna go with prestige. Okay. That sounds like that sort of sex life. Ah, except that wouldn't work. I would have said prestige. I'm gonna go with prestige because it sounds provocative. Yeah. Get some people going. Yeah, get some people going! Yeah, I wanna roll with it as I A 60-year-old woman becomes a sexual lead in a steamy romance film. Prestige or just porn? I mean, prestige, right? By definition. Yeah. I think it's prestige, although I wish there were just more 60-year-old women in porn. Yeah. A celebrity wellness brand sells $100 Intimate Oil in a department store. Prestige or just porn? Just porn. A movie has beautiful costumes, an award-winning director, and a completely unnecessary sex scene. That's probably prestige, honey. Oh, so you would like it. You would like to the beautifully shot And then it said unnecessary, so that means they were going in. It's going in. I don't know, the gratuitous stuff like that. Just porn. A woman listens to erotic audio books while driving, but refuses to call them porn. Prestige or just porn? Every woman I know. Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha. It's prestige to me because it's a mabado. Especially if she puts a little C vibrator on while in the car. Oh my God. What are you talking about? That's prestige. That's prestige. That's prestige AF. I love it. A sex toy is designed to look like a piece of modern art and cost $500. Prestige is just... I feel like that's a prestige item. It's a prestige item. You could just have it right here and nobody would know. Prestige. But what if it was like a volcano and it's like erupted and stuff? Actually, no, when you say it like that. Like, let's say this is my husband and I, you know, this was a modern art piece. Yes. No one touches it because it looks real fancy as $500, but like, you know, I walked, I walked past it. I'm like, I know what me and you did. You know, like, I know that I'm lucky. I stepped that up your butt. Yeah. That's prestige. Oh no. That's interesting. That's interesting. I would feel, I don't know. Okay. Last one. Okay. Okay. The same explicit scene is considered art when it stars Nicole Kidman, Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. but porn when it stars an unknown actress. Okay. Prestige is just porn. Prestige. Same scene. Yeah, I think the media says prestige. I'm gonna say just porn, baby. We're all the same. I don't care who you are. You're doing the same thing I'm doing. The paycheck. The paycheck is different. She gets a prestigious paycheck. The paycheck might inspire her to do a little extra pump or something. To heighten the level of prestige. If you want to hear everything the lady said about prestige porn, scan that QR code, baby, because that's how you get to our YouTube page and all of our unedited content. And plus, as I keep saying, producer Ana will kill you if you don't. You might as well keep your life. We'll be right back. Welcome back to the Nightcap. 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