your 3am pinterest life rebrand ⭐ how to love your life again when you're in a slump

You need a little pep talk. You need a little pep in your step. You know, we all, this is the episode that is the equivalent of like the 3 a.m. Pinterest rebrand that you're giving yourself in your bedroom when you're up late at night and you're replanning and redesigning your entire life. This is kind of like the podcast episode of that. Hi, house guests. Just a nice little friendly reminder slash nudge that if you guys haven't subscribed to this channel yet, please do. It is the easiest, simplest, and also free way to support the show. It helps us produce the show better. It helps us get better guests. And it also helps to remind you guys when we post new episodes. So if you guys haven't already subscribed, be sure to do that. It's just the red subscribe button down below. But let's get back into the show. Hi, house guests. Welcome back to my living room. Welcome to the show. Today you are here stuck with me for another solo. I've seen the request. I actually am always shocked that you guys want solos versus like guest episodes, but I guess I get that too. Cause when I'm listening to podcasts, like my favorite podcast of all time, world's first podcast, I'm like, but again, they have, they're like a duo. So that's why I feel like it's different. I'm like enough with the guests out with them. I don't need them, you know? So anyway, here we are for yet another solo. Okay. And I wanted to just Let's just get ahead of the winter blues. Now, personally, I can't relate. I had the summertime sadness and I feel amazing in the winter, fall and winter. Not to brag, but you guys already had your time, okay? I, but in all seriousness, like I feel really good. during the fall and winter because I don't live in a place where it's like absolutely miserable and awful during those times but like I do live in Texas and summer is really hard so summer for me is actually like the opposite of that but anyway all that to say I wanted to do a podcast episode on like how to like your life again and maybe get out of a slump or to learn how to spend time alone to develop like some sort of like independence just things that I do Um, that I have found like really work or a lot of, it's not all about like my advice and all of these things. I, with the podcast, I'm really lucky that I'm able to interview people who know way more than me. And I'm, I just give advice that they have given us, you know? So anyway, if you guys are in a slump or you just really want to like romanticize your life and like your day-to-day a little bit more and just maybe like stopping a little bit miserable, like, you know, when you're just like, I'm just like a little Ms. lately. Like I just, I gotta, I gotta push through. Um, this is the episode for you, so. Sometimes you're just in a slump. Okay. But we have to remind ourselves that you design your life and you have the power to design your life. And it doesn't need to be always in these like a very extravagant ways. I think that we, what do they say? You overestimate what you can do in a year and you underestimate, or you overestimate what you can do in a day and you underestimate what you can do in a year. Or maybe it's opposite. Basically the point being Being that like, I think. I saw another quote too. Here I am butchering my quotes. It's just like part of the show at this point, but it was basically like, we need to like dream really big on the big picture and what we can do in a year or five years or whatever and think really small on the daily progress, right? And your life really is made up of like seconds that are made up of minutes that are made up of hours that are made up of days that are made up of weeks. So if you're not like intentional about how you're spending your time day to day, it's really easy to just become I'm miserable, like, to live on autopilot and to just not feel like you have control of your life. Like, it's really easy, I think, especially with all of us being absolutely addicted to our phones. Like, maybe you need to get a brick. Maybe, I feel like for so long, I actually needed a brick. And then I was like, this thing just makes me so miserable that, like, naturally I wanted to get off of it. But for the most part, I feel like that's just kind of, like, where I'm at now. And also, I'm really a big fan of like crowding things out of your life versus like trying to quit them cold turkey or to stop doing them. So. So instead of. for example like trying to be on your phone less if you're just like okay I'm doing my phone less and then you like put it down on your brick or whatever you go to the other room and you're just sitting there thinking about how you're not on your phone it's a lot easier if you find something that you like to do and you crowd it out over time like for me obviously mine's needlepoint so it's like I would rather be needlepointing because I'm insane and obsessed with it I would rather be needlepointing than like scrolling on my phone for the most part and that's like I still scroll and doomscroll and do all those things of course but I think it's just easier because now it's not so focused on like not doing something and it's more focused on like oh I want to do something else instead. Does that make any sense? That's just something I found for myself that's worked because for so long like I would try to not be on my phone in the morning and I still check my phone when I wake up every morning but I don't sit there and scroll because that's like my one hour every morning that I have to needlepoint so now I found something after years of trying so hard not to do something I found something that I was able to like crowd it out out with. I just have found that like that at least works better for me. So. Anyway, I have written some things down to share with you guys, and this is just kind of a culmination of like everything that I always talk about. But sometimes you just need you need a little pep talk. You need a little pep in your step. You know, we all this is the this is the episode that is the equivalent of like the 3 a.m. Pinterest rebrand that you're giving yourself, you know, in your bedroom when you're up late at night and you're replanning and redesigning your entire life. Like this is kind of like the podcast episode of that. Okay. But we're going to go into like day-to-day stuff. Okay. I think here's where we're going to start. When you're sitting here and you're like, okay, I feel like I don't have control of my life. I don't have control of my days. I don't have control of how I'm spending my time. I don't have, you know, I don't like this and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Um, I do want to start off by saying the number one thing I see, which I get, like, if you were like a nurse and you're working in healthcare, your job is like really demanding and all these things. Like I'm someone who I am my own boss. I do work a lot. Like I, I do like I'm building a company. I do work a lot. I'm not I'm not going to act like I don't, like I, oh, okay. Guys, there's a package coming for me. Oh, I think it's actually samples. Speaking of Anyway, obviously, a friend of mine is, thank God, is doing so well this year. And so I am spending a lot of time, like, working, period. Anyway, moving on. But I'm not, like, solving cancer. I'm not, you know what I mean? Like, I understand that there are more demanding jobs, period. I mean, there could always be, like, a more demanding job. I don't even know how I've gotten off of this tangent now that I'm thinking about my samples. Anyway. Anyway, um... I'm not that is different but I think that for the most part when people are commenting like god I wish I had time for this I wish I had time for this and then like you look at their screen time and it's six hours a day it's like okay you actually like probably do have time you're just spending it talking about how you don't have time you know what I mean like for the most part I there's obviously exceptions and those people there's also different seasons of your life like if you have a newborn or if you're raising toddlers like obviously you have less time to do things for yourself And like later on, you will have more time and you'll get that back. Like we are all at different seasons of our lives. So we can just try to the best of our ability and just make things happen. But that's kind of what I was trying to say. It's like I am like very lucky because I am my own boss and I also don't have children right now. So like that, I am aware that I'm very privileged and like very, I feel very lucky about that. Anyway, here's where we're gonna start. Okay. You are going to make a T chart of what gives you energy versus what takes energy. This is very, very vital. This is something that TK, TK is juicy pulls. Um, back in the day, this would have been like probably 2017 that we did this and we were living in downtown Los Angeles. We were our passion planner girls. We would get together for like business brainstorm meetings. Like guys, I've always been like this. Okay. Um, and this was like 10 years ago. So we would get get together and do these like morning things together. And she, one week, I don't even think she remembers this, but she, one week, had us make a T chart of things that refueled us versus things that were taking our, our energy, like how you felt leaving, hanging out with this person, getting coffee with this person doing the, you know, this workout. Um, and I don't mean that like, it's like, okay, I'm drained and I hate working out. Like, obviously you need to do things that you don't like doing that are good for you, but you can find a workout that you enjoy more than the other, you know what I mean? Um, And it was just like small things and there were things that I would have never even noticed because I wasn't like taking stock and inventory of my life that seriously until I did this. And now I notice it with everything. Like it's one of the most lasting things that's like ever happened to me in my life. There was also this like sermon I listened to like years ago, but I'll just give this to you as like a lesson that really changed the way I viewed everything because I felt like I was constantly burnt out. And I think I was just like lost and young and didn't know what I was doing and I was on my own and I felt really lonely and I was isolated and all these things and I kept like burning out and I didn't understand why. because I would give myself days like if I was burning out like okay I'm gonna you know raw on the couch all day Sunday so then I'll have energy and I'll feel good and when I did the t-chart I realized like oh well if I raw and watch Netflix which I don't really feel this way now things change throughout the years but at that time if I was doing that that was something that left me drained like that didn't like refuel me and give me energy so rest is something that refuels you and gives you energy and like inspires you like for example like something like honestly cooking dinner to me a lot of the time is rest because I feel better after I do it and I feel like I've gained energy whereas um rotting and like watching Netflix It doesn't always do that for me. Like it depends now that I needlepoint I'm kind of like, okay, I'm obsessed Like this is working for me, but that's because I'm like sitting there watching like needlepointing, but that's different Like maybe rotting and watching Netflix all day is something that refuels you. Like there's people who are bigger TV lovers than I am. You know what I mean? And that's something that like is inspiring to them or they love and like that does refuel you But taking inventory of that throughout just a week really helped me understand like, oh, that actually doesn't help me, but that's just something that I thought I needed to do. I thought, like, Resting was being lazy and that's they're they're two different things like I thought I had to have a lazy rot day in order to rest and for me like doing things that refuel me like a hobby or a home project or like they these are things that could be deemed as like productive but they're not to me it's just things that I like love to do so it Like is refueling to me. You know what I mean? Does that make any sense? So rest recharges you and laziness just makes you more tired and makes you kind of miserable Kind of miss, you know, theme of this episode So let's take a step back again, 3 a.m. Pinterest board. Okay. Let's take a step back and focus on like what you want your life to be And it's not an achievements, not like the end point necessarily It's more of a day-to-day moments because the day-to-day moments end you, lead you to the end. Not to be depressing, but. Like to the goal or to the whatever. Like, I think that even if you're in the middle of building this company that you want to sell one day or you have a goal of having, you know, this family or whatever, it's like, you still are like living your life. Like your day-to-day matters, like how you're spending your time. And it doesn't need to be things that are always getting you, quote, getting you to that goal or quote. You know what I mean? It's like, no, there is something, you know what? I read this Instagram post this morning and I wonder if I'm gonna be able to find it. All right, I found it. It's from Dr. Caroline Leaf. and it says wasting time might be one of the it's quote wasting time might be one of the strangest accusations we've ever invented apparently you can waste 2 p.m. by sitting under a tree doing nothing the afternoon was going to pass either way the earth was going to rotate either way but because you didn't convert those hours into money errands or improvement we decided that the time itself was wasted and if by simply by being alive isn't enough to justify an afternoon um but basically i think that we're just kind of living in the the effects of like, you know, hustle culture, which. I am someone who, there are elements of it that I do love. I love entrepreneurship. I love business. I love building a brand. I love building a community. There's things about that that I really love, but I don't ever want to not like my life. You know what I mean? And there's things that maybe are not quantifiable in a paycheck or in numbers for growth or whatever, but it is kind of because it makes me happy and it makes me... And it leads me to like a better place than I'm able to like do those jobs better. You know what I mean? But even if not, like it isn't like you should be able to just like do things because you want to do them. Okay. Um, so most of this really is just about like taking that extra step and it's really about like romanticizing your life. God forbid trigger warning. Okay. Number one, I'm just kind of giving you guys like a little bit, we're just going to kind of go through like a guideline of things. And I do have like some recommendations for you guys, but, um, I did just want to go through a couple of things. These are things that like really helped me. And I do feel like. Um, they're also, I didn't want it to be so like me focused, but I do find that a lot of you guys, like I relate to so many of you guys when you're messaging me about like maybe an issue that you're having or something or whatever. Like, I feel like you and I are pretty similar. And also these are just like things that everyone does, but, um, these are also things that like I have experienced in so I can speak to them. Number one, create the environment that you want to be in. This includes people, place and vibe. It also includes your, like what you're consuming online, honestly. And there are things that you can do. That like don't necessarily like cost a ton of money. Like I love my house. I'm very grateful that I've been able to like, and I know that I'm in a different position and I'm very grateful for that. These are things that you can do that I've done like my whole life, regardless of like what my actual home looks like. I've always played music. Like I always have playlists going. You guys know I love a Nancy Meyers playlist. Sometimes I'll do like a Nora Ephron fall. That's good for right now. Frank Sinatra. I think this comes from my mom because I grew up. In a house that played Frank Sinatra like 24-7. So I think that that's helpful. I love John Mayer in the fall. There's certain like. playlist that I will like just always have on in the background because it's like it feels good. It makes the energy of the room feel better. I love candles. I need a candle lit at all times. There's a candle in the corner of this room. I got this one from the Walmart Better Homes and Gardens collaboration. I don't know the scent. I can get the actual scent for you guys. They always have the best collaborations, but they have this like pumpkin spice one that is probably my favorite pumpkin candle of all time. It's burning in my I'm in my room currently and you can like smell it. Like on the back house of the house or the back half of the house. And it smells so amazing. And it's an inexpensive candle too. So, and it's really cute. It's like a, uh, like velvety pumpkin. It's a really cute candle. So that's good flowers. Um, so this can add up. I don't really do fresh flowers at all, unless it's coming from my cut garden in my backyard, but I have on the set currently a bunch of fake flowers, like everywhere around my house. And I like having those cause it just feels, even though like these are, you know, dead Kind of repeats the purpose of saying it feels like it gives life to my space, but you can always do like Trader Joe's too. Like those are way, those are my, the best flowers, my favorite flowers and the like least expensive flowers. But as I just felt like I was spending so much money on flowers that like I couldn't be. So I got these and they're just here all the time, 24 seven and I love them. So those are good as well. Also just like cleaning your house. Giving yourself a night shift so you don't wake up to dishes in the morning so that your counter is clean. Guys, oh my god, speaking of counter and clean products, this is not a clean product in the way of it being like non-toxic. I just mean like cleaning products. Mrs. Meyers just came out with like, I don't know if they just came out with it, but I just got it. The tomato like heirloom scent or whatever Smells amazing. Oh my God. I'm sure it's like a Flamingo Estate dupe or whatever, but I learned from Flamingo Estate, which is one of my favorite brands ever. It's a little bit more of an investment than like Mrs. Meyers. That is my favorite brand for candles, for scents really kind of period. They have this like a jalapeno one that it's really good too. For soaps, for all of that stuff. Like they have the... Best stuff ever. And Mrs. Myers just came out with one too. And it smells amazing. But I learned that I love tomato scents through Flamingo Estate. Like why I brought them up. And you know they did something with Martha Stewart. So that was fabulous. Anyway absolutely loved that stuff. I'm just getting off the topic. But I think giving yourself a night shift. And this sounds like so stupid. But also if you're down like it's really easy. Like you can tell that I'm like not doing well. If my house is like not clean and like not organized. I'm like that is like the first thing that goes. Actually, it's kind of the last thing that goes, but once I get to that point, it's like, damn, what's going on at home? You know what I mean? But just taking like 15 minutes at night to put all of your dishes away, to clean off the counters, to make your space clean so that when you come into it, it feels amazing. Like I think we need to treat ourselves like we do our friends and the people that we love because we should be our best friend and we should love ourselves. So if you would like clean up your house to spend time with a friend you need to clean up your house to spend time with yourself you know what I mean like that I think also like builds confidence and builds self-esteem because you're like subliminally telling yourself that you're worth it and you matter because I've given this example a ton, but think about it this way. If you book an early morning workout class at 6am, you are a lot more likely to go if you booked it with your friend. You're at least a lot less likely to cancel if you have booked it with your friend versus if it's just you going and you're like, oh, whatever. And you keep canceling it. But what that does over time, and it kind of like really is that deep is like you're telling yourself that you're not worth it because like when you show up for your friend, it's like, oh, they're worth it. I need to do that. I respect them. I respect their time. I like to spend time with them. But when you When you consistently cancel on yourself or you don't like take that extra step. to spend time with yourself, you're kind of telling yourself like that you're not worth it. And I think that this is one of those really underrated ways of like building confidence, if that makes any sense. You know me and my also like serial hobbyist ways though. Like I really think that all of confidence, what it is, it's, Ed Mylett quote, confidence is built by making promises to yourself and keeping them. And you're able to do that through a lot of hobbies. You're able to do that through routines. You're able to just do that by spending time, making small commitments to yourself and keeping them. Anyway, that's my tangent that we always get on. Hi, house guests. I have many jobs here and I am not just the host of this podcast. I'm also the founder of Friend of Mine, which is a home and hobbyist brand. 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And I'm like with my loved ones, creating memories. It's so much more than just about what we're cooking or baking, even though those things are also incredible. I got the KitchenAid Artisan Plus Stand Mixer. And let me just tell you, that is the best thing I have in my kitchen. If you are currently working on any sort of registry of anything, period, in general, whatever it might be, put it on your registry. If you are thinking, what should I get someone for a housewarming gift? To, like, buy them something nice that they're going to keep forever. Get them the KitchenAid stand mixer. And right now, the KitchenAid Artisan Plus stand mixer in sun-dried tomato. It's all the rage. It's a really beautiful, beautiful color. And there's two things to it that I think make it even better than, like, what I have currently. They have an integrated bowl light. So, the Artisan Plus stand mixer is the first KitchenAid model with an integrated bowl light. Designed to brighten your recipe and illuminate your ingredients. Which is so nice. Especially because I'm a lot of the time, like, I'm baking at night, you know? And then they also have a precision speed control so you can choose from 11 preset speeds for quick reliable adjustments or twist this sleek control knob to activate precision speed control. This feature lets you glide smoothly between settings which is just so nice. So you guys can shop KitchenAid stand mixers at KitchenAid.com. I think it makes for the best holiday gift if you are thinking of something to add to your registry, if you're thinking of something to ask for Christmas, or you're thinking about like what should I get this person, like I'm telling you If you don't have the KitchenAid Artisan Plus Stand Mixer, specifically in sundried tomato, that is the gift of the season. Next we're moving on to mindset. Half of everything is what you consume. I just did a whole podcast episode like two weeks ago on like how you don't have to be a hater. Like how like we don't need to be haters. We don't need to be losers. Like we can be nice to people. Like we don't have to have this like really like negative worldview, but it can feel that way when we get on the internet and like we're seeing the, you know, 1% of the most toxic meanest takes online. Like once we're seeing that constantly, it can feel like. That that's just how the world is, even though we're only seeing the most divisive takes and you slowly, like I'll find myself feeling more negative. I find myself being more critical. I find myself like in those areas and I don't want to be that way. So, um, I think like half of everything really is what you consume. We're like so miserable on TikTok when we have the power to consume or even just follow content creators that we love, that consume shows that that we love, movies that we love, happier podcasts, whatever it might be. I wrote down books of things. I think that like reading a book too is like the best thing ever because it's just like calming your nervous system. One time, guys, I got a brain scan and they told me that like wherever, you know, they look at that brain, they're like, oh, wow, that was something. And they like come to me as if like I'm going to be like, oh, my God, I can't believe it. And look, mental health runs rampant in my family. I was not expecting this brain scan to like come out looking good. Like I knew I was going to like, you know, fail. Like I knew it was going to be like bad, but. I was like, we're good, we're still kicking. Like, I knew it would be good. So they come out and they're like, wow, you know. They're basically trying to tell me that like things are bad up there, you know, and I'm, I'm prepared. I know this, I don't, I don't take any offense. And they're talking to me about this and they're like, the weird thing though, and this was a couple of years ago, this is what I was reading, like a hundred books a year. They were like, the weirdest thing though, is that you're, are you, do you meditate? Because the part of your brain that would show like the meditation is great. And I was like, no, I don't meditate. I've tried so many times and it's just not It's not something I've ever been able. I probably also, I've tried, but I haven't. I haven't given enough of a try, but I was saying to them like, no, but I read a lot. So maybe like, is that something? And they were saying to me, they're like, yes, like reading can do very similar things to your brain as meditating. And that's when I was like, who needs meditation? Which I don't think is like what their point was and giving that to me. But I think that reading is like one of the best things ever, especially for mindset, because it. lets you travel to places that like you've never seen in bodies that like in minds that you've never seen in experiences like I have said this so many times but I really do think I learn more from fiction books than I even do from non-fiction because I'm reading and of course like you know Now, thank you for asking, do you read historical fiction? So of course I do feel like I'm learning so much and not, but I just feel like we have access to so many different parts of the world and different types of people and people with different like life experiences that even if it isn't true, I think that reading can like really open your eyes and expand your mind. I know that it can and help you with greater empathy, which I think is like one of the most important things in life. So anyway, I did write down some books, but I actually have. I'll have it in the description two book lists like one is like 100 book recs to like get you out of a slump and then 20 is like my top 20 of like five star reads and I always need to be updating though so I do need to do probably an updated I can do an updated one I the top 21 is a pretty updated one but like the Calamity Club isn't on there yet because I've read that since so that's another one that would be added to my top five star reads that I just like keep talking What are you talking about? Um, but you guys can download those and then they'll just like send it to your email for all that in case you guys need to get out of a little book slump. Oh, okay. Something for shows that I feel like for me really helps me if I'm going through like a, we are doing a 3am Pinterest rebrand masterclass guys. This is not sponsored. I wish, I don't even know if I've ever worked with them. I mean, I'm sure they've been a podcast sponsor. Maybe at some point I really know they have, I think. Or am I thinking Skillshare? I'm not really sure. I mean, Skillshare definitely has. Anyway, you guys don't care. All that to say, I love MasterClass. I pay for it myself. And there are two MasterClasses that I think you need to watch. The first one is Martha Stewart's. Shocker, okay? And that one, actually, this is the one that I think that you should watch. And then you can do the other ones based on your interest. But the way that they film MasterClass, it doesn't even matter what they are talking about. It's the way that those are shot. edited the music, everything to them. It's so calming. And I think Martha Stewart specifically, I always say when I watched Martha Stewart's masterclass, I got the same feeling as I did growing up in Texas at like an evangelical church, like church camp when it's cry night. Like that is how I felt watching the Martha Stewart masterclass. It was an out of body experience. It may be the closest I think I've ever felt to God. I felt like God was like, you're, you can, you can do this. You know, like there was something about it that was just So, uh, perfect and everything and amazing. But I think that those are amazing because there are obviously people who are experts in their fields that are able to teach you something or give you maybe a little bit more context or a little bit more background or just like behind the scenes of what they're doing. And it was so cool. She even has like an org chart in hers. She goes through a lot of it is her business. A lot of it is her house, how they're running it. It was just so amazing and obviously like Martha Stewart is my idol so like that for me was something that was great but I really loved hers and I just think that like most people who listen to this would love that. I would love an Ina Garten masterclass. We actually need that like stat. I'm sure I'm sure they pitched it to her and honestly I could see her just like not being interested but I need that desperately. I watched one too on Like farm to table cooking. And there was one specifically that I watched, like one episode there that was how to shop at a farmer's market. And I actually use that all the time. There was one too on urban gardening. And I thought that was really cool. And the man who hosted it, I forget his name. I watched this a couple of years ago, so hopefully it's still available. But the man who hosted it, it was really cool and inspiring, like what he was doing, because he was trying to like bring this and make it more accessible to other people, which I thought was amazing. Those are really, really good. I honestly just think any single masterclass, like I know the subscription is a little bit more expensive. It's like 20 bucks a month, but like so is Netflix at this point. But Masterclass, guys, they're just like spiritual experiences. I love them. And I honestly like, I need to listen to more. I was also, I watched like James Patterson's at one point, I think. Unless I'm making that up and he didn't do a masterclass, I must have watched his video somewhere else, but I do think he did a masterclass and it's really good. I know like Kris Jenner has a masterclass. I just love masterclass. Like I really, really, really love them. I also think I saw this somewhere and I don't know if it's true and I don't know who said it and I'm butchering the quote. What's new? But it was something along the lines of like learning is the antithesis. All of a sudden I can't speak. Learning is the antithesis of depression. And I think maybe that's not like fully true, but I do think I find that I'm a happier person when I'm either learning or a new skill or a new thing in life, or I'm getting better at something. Like there's something about the progress, even with workouts. Like I love strength training so much like weightlifting because I'm able to see myself get better. It almost feels like I'm playing a sport. Whereas like with Pilates, I love Pilates. Don't get me wrong. But there's something that like scratches an itch in my brain when it's something that feels like, like I can see tangibly that I've gotten better. Like I can see that since I started 400 plus classes ago, I'm lifting probably like five times when I was at the beginning. You know what I mean? Maybe not five times at that point, but like I'm lifting a lot more than I was at the beginning. And there's something about that, that. One builds confidence, but two, just like makes you feel so good. I also think that that is why like hobbies are amazing. I mean, I literally, I am, as always, you guys know, I am dead on my back drag Greek wedding with the Windex spraying that on everything because he says that Windex cures all. That is me with hobbies, but I really, really, really do believe that like. having something where you're getting better, it is scientifically good for you. It is good for your confidence. It is good for your like happiness levels. It's good for your mental health. It's good for like everything. It's great for aging, like everything about it. Okay. So here's a homework, learn something new or improve a skill that you already have. Like, for example, I was thinking the other day, I'm like, I have been doing a lot more like within needlepoint. I definitely have seen myself. I've gotten so much better since I started what years ago, six, five, six years ago How long ago was it? I don't know, years ago, I've gotten so much better and I'm doing a lot of like decorative stitching and like I get through things quicker. And I was thinking the other day, I'm like, you know, I should actually take classes like I should go in. I learned in a class, but I'm like, I would love to take a beading class. I would love to just go in. I loved taking class. I loved taking cooking class like a Sur La Table. They've got so many cooking classes. I love doing all that stuff. So I was thinking, I'm like, I need to be doing that. And like. getting better at my skill. This is something that I really love in life. Like, yes, I own a needlepoint brand, but the way that I stitch and like my level of stuff that I'm like, oh, I need to be the best in the world. It's just that me, my point is that like me learning all these different things has nothing to do with like owning a needlepoint brand, because that's something that's like for my personal use, if that makes any sense. Anyway, I do just love it. Like it's the best thing ever. And I was like, I should be, you know, honing in on my craft more. And that's just something, I think it's fun to get better. Or even like you can do that with styling, like with clothing. Like I made the beginning of this year a vision board for, and I want to say, you know, it's been hot and it's been summer. So hot and summer in Texas doesn't count for like what I'm wearing because I'm just trying to survive. But like fall and winter, you guys best believe, like just wait till you see what I have on my sleeve. Okay. But I made a vision board or a mood board for my wardrobe. And I've like honed in on like my style and what I really like and like even doing like that is just fun. Like there's something about like these creative and like styling is a skill, obviously. There's something about these creative things that just make you better and a happier person. Okay. On the topic of mindset and consumption, I feel like I've referenced this podcast episode in so many episodes, but Oprah Winfrey on Kiki Palmer, period, done. Don't even need to elaborate. Go listen to that podcast episode. It's the greatest episode of all time. I think God himself, I think Jesus Christ himself was there and they should have done an altar call. That's how I feel about that episode, okay? Number two, Ina Garten, Amy Poehler. That episode was unbelievable. When she brings the chicken in, like it was, it's just so good. and wholesome and if you need to remind yourself that there's just good things in this world watch that podcast episode um and then I think obviously house guests duh hello this is the one for you okay also on the topic of like negative self-talk because we always we all deal with that obviously like you're always going to find what you're looking for okay so if you are looking for the negative you will always find the negative even if it doesn't exist you will create it your Your mind is a very powerful thing. You know, when you're talking to someone. about something like a problem that they're in and then you realize that they're the problem you know when you're like oh and they tell you a story and it's so clear that they're in the wrong but instead you're like oh like you can't really say that because like you're not close enough with them and you don't have like that relational equity so you're just kind of like trying to get out of the conversation but typically that's like they're saying this stuff because they're finding what they're looking for does that make sense or like if you were On the road and you just discover this new car and suddenly you see it everywhere. It's because like you're subconsciously looking for it because it just like was activated in your brain. So when you are around like with yourself, you are finding what you're looking for. So you need to try to like rewire yourself to find the good versus the negative. You can use that to your benefit. Just don't look for the negative. Easier said than done, I know. But okay. Be careful spending time around people who are very small minded. As you guys know, there are big thinkers and there's small thinkers in the world. This is my soapbox that I'll never get off of. Big thinkers leave your world feeling a lot bigger. They're connecting you. They're applauding you. They're celebrating you. They are trying to help. They are, they think that success is for everyone and there's room for everyone. Small thinker makes your world smaller. They hate everyone. They're the losers that we were talking about a couple of weeks ago. And everyone, like to be clear, like no one is 100% either one. So like we have all, I have times where I'm a small thinker. I have times where I'm a big thinker and we probably all do. Small thinkers make your world smaller, okay? So just be careful with who you're spending your time with. I also think that like writing thank you notes, that's something that I really need to like get you guys. Like I need, I need us all to be writing thank you cards. I started doing this like religiously through this past summer because I just found that we had so many girls who were helping us with the Stitch Tour at all the different like LNSs. And I wanted to like say thank you to each one of them personally. So I got really into thank you cards. And then it's kind of like everywhere. Like I have a note on my phone now where And this is, I'm not saying that I'm like so great for doing this, by the way, this is like a new thing that I've started to do, but I just like really, really love it. Cause it also makes me sit down and think about like what I'm grateful for and like give people their flowers for doing, like going out of their way or just doing something that was like nice for me or our team or whoever it is. And I just think that the thank you cards are a really great way of like practicing gratitude, but bringing other people into it. And then also volunteering. We, I feel like the past couple of months, guys, actually, I need to tell you guys what the craziest thing to happen. Um, A couple months ago, while we were on the Stitch Tour, I just kept thinking, like, I really want to get involved with some sort of, like, organization. I've always wanted to start some sort of foundation for my brother, but I'm not there yet. And, like, my family needs to be involved. And, like, I'm, like, I'm not ready to do that. But there's a lot of things that, like, I want to use my platform for or the success of a friend of mine and that platform or whatever it is or the show. Look, there's a lot of things that I want to. like champion more in the like volunteer space or like things that are just like a lot more important. Like those are the things that matter more in life. So I literally prayed because I was like, I don't know what it is. And like, I know that I'm not ready for stuff with like that happens with my brother. So like, I don't know what this is exactly, but I feel like I was like, felt like there was something that I needed to do. Okay. Tell me why. Literally prayed that that morning. I was like, okay, if there's something that I need to be helping, let me know. Like, please just tell me what it is. And like how much I'll be involved, I don't know. Like if I really don't know because I haven't even had the meeting about this yet. But I get an email. Four hours later, from Healing Hens of Texas, a Dallas-based foundation that helps seniors with healing, like, hen therapy. They bring chickens to old people to help them. Like, that literally could not be more of, like, what I would want to be involved in. Like, that, especially for a friend of mine, because I was looking for, like, an organization specifically for a friend of mine. Like, we donate, like, we donate 10% of our proceeds from, like, Mahjong Maths to go back. Like, we donate and do those things. But how... crazy is that that I prayed four hours later get an email Charlie gets an email and sends it to me from this organization like just wanting us to give something for an event they were doing and I was like okay I would like to do way more than that like how crazy healing hands insane so anyways check them out guys um but I think that like again the world of the generous gets bigger it just makes and selfishly guys it always makes you feel better if that's what you need to get I don't care like honestly when people are like oh they only did this because whatever it's still It's still helping people. I don't care. It doesn't matter. Okay. Sometimes the best holiday finds are not the ones that you like set out to find. I loved gift giving. My love language is gift giving. I think about it all the time. I have a running note in my phone year round with all of my like loved ones in it. And I keep notes of like random things that they said that they wanted or things that I saw and thought of them. So I can always be ready for a holiday gift, for a birthday gift, whatever it might be. And even with that, I have really learned that a lot of the time, the unexpected pieces that just catch my eye and feel just right when I'm out are somehow the best gifts that everyone remembers. I think that Ross is such a good place for this stuff. OK, when you go to Ross and you're shopping around, it feels like they literally have everything, guys, especially for the holidays. And it's really, really amazing because they have. So many brands and just things that you would love with 20 to 60% off other retailer prices on the same brands that you love. So you just get such great deals there. They also just have such good finds. It's such a good place to go for gifts because one, again, you can get great deals on stuff, but two, they just have a really good assortment of stuff. Whether you are looking for clothing or you're looking for some home items or maybe some more decor, like honestly, or even beauty finds and just cozy layers, it's really such a great place to shop. So whether you are finding the perfect gift weeks ahead or you're stumbling upon just the right thing at the last minute, Ross makes holiday discovery feel effortless with great finds and incredible values. It's also great because you can do so much shopping for so many different people all at Ross, like all in one place. Ross makes the holidays accessible to all with up to 20 to 60% off other retailers prices on the brands that you love. Find your nearest Ross at rossstores.com. As much as I absolutely love and adore the holidays, they can be very, very difficult. 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I love American Girl. I just know so many of you guys did. The pipeline from American Girl kid to like needlepoint house guest lover, Mahjong adult is very, very strong. This is the book for us. I'm in the middle of it. I'm loving it so far. It's so interesting, especially like going back into the American Girl world as an adult. I have just... absolutely loved this and I think you guys are really going to like the book. So I will have it linked below where you guys can pick it up. You guys can obviously read it on Kindle or pick up the book. I'm loving it and I think you guys will really like it. So stay tuned for the episode where I recap it with the author on November 12th. I am so excited. Okay. Be decisive. I think the biggest thing holding us back is not making decisions. Like the amount of times, that is one thing I will say about myself is I'm very decisive. I'm like, we're doing this, done, moving, moving on. I am way better, like done is better than perfect. I just want to keep going and like make moves. And I think at the end of the day, like even we are so focused on like making the wrong decision because we really just see ourselves as the God of our life and like whatever, regardless of whatever you believe, if it's like God or the universe or like nothing at all, I just don't think that, we as humans are powerful enough to like really ruin our life especially just like based off of like one small decision like i'm not talking about a decision like a bad one where you're like you know committing a crime i just mean like making a decision and going i think that making movement is better than no movement at all and even if you make the wrong decision which i really don't even think exists you're still making movement that you're going to learn from and you can You can always recalibrate. Like, I just think that. Being decisive and working on being decisive is one of the greatest things ever. And I think that my decisiveness kind of comes out of like. I don't know if it's anxiety because I'm like, we just got to keep moving and make the decision and go on. I, again, bringing it back to TK, I didn't even realize that I was decisive until like a couple of years ago. She's like, that is your greatest strength. You were the most decisive person I've ever met. And I was like, wait, really? Like, I wouldn't really think that about myself. And then I started to think about it and I was like, wait, I am decisive. And that is like a great treat. And I think it probably comes from either my anxiety or not being a perfectionist or Or, like... laziness because I'm like all right well good is better than nothing you know what I mean like I'm like we just got to keep going like I want excellence as far as like the the stuff but like in the small things I'm like we are better off doing something learning from it getting better you know what I mean and I think that being decisive is the best thing ever. And there's no wrong move. Like you will always lead back to where you are obviously outside of committing crimes, but you guys are not committing crimes. You guys are house guests. I wouldn't expect you guys to be like committing homicide. You know what I mean? Come on. All right. Anyway. Um, I think working on being decisive though, that's something that like is huge. And I see it a lot with friends. Like I love. I think if I wasn't doing this, I would like be working on the other side of it or I would be eventually like going to some type of consulting. I love I'm an Enneagram. Wait, I'm an Enneagram three wing two. So I'm the overachiever, the achiever wing supporter. So like I want to overachieve and then I want to help all my friends around me overachieve. So I have a lot of them if they have like maybe more like unique careers or they're just like off doing something like I love I love to sit down and like brainstorm with someone. And, um, like if I can help in any way, which is normally just like helping brainstorm or whatever. I just like love that stuff. Like that makes it come alive. And the amount of people that I do it for, like the ones who are decisive are always way more successful than the ones who are not. Cause then it'll be like a year later and I meet with that same person and they're in the same space because they haven't made a decision. You know what I mean? So just make a decision. And even if it's not one that you wish you would have made, it doesn't matter. You're still making progress and we can readjust. OK, I also get. A lot of questions about like advice on leaving your hometown and I think if you are able to move away from your hometown for like one year even it's one of the greatest things that you can do because it like expands your worldview and I Dallas isn't like technically my hometown I'm from the suburbs 45 minutes away I'm from like my home to me it's like hometown but you know people will get like really specific and crazy and whatever but I moved away for five years from 17 to 22 and then I also like split time between here and Nashville last year and I travel a lot but I will say that I think that moving away as someone who loves Dallas I never want to leave like I love living in Texas and I like just traveling and spending time elsewhere I think that moving was one of the greatest things ever because I learned so much about myself so I think if you were able to move like that's great but there I also want to say like what's a quote like wherever you are there you are wherever you go there you are something like that like if you're moving because you're just like not wanting to deal with things like that isn't moving isn't going to be a solve if that makes any sense but if you're like oh I think I should do it and I think I like Presley when my friend Presley came on the show and she did a great episode to listen to after this one actually um and she did this like gap summer at 28 and is completely changing her her career path and doing all this stuff. Um, and she's wanting to move to New York. I'm like, that's great. Like, that is something that like we should be doing. Like, let's move in that direction. Um, but yeah, I think that like, if you are someone who's like, again, like if you're not being decisive, it's like, I don't know, should I like, there's no better time than now get going, you know, make the decision and stick to it. Also, your life is made up of seconds. It's made up of minutes. It's made up of days, weeks, years. You guys get it, decades. And really that's made up of routines. So even something as small as like changing up your routine, implementing something new for 20 minutes a day, maybe it's meditation, maybe it's reading, maybe it's a 20 minute walk. Maybe you want to watch Ina Garten in the kitchen as you cook and that's like romanticizing your life. Maybe it's just like a nice moment in the bathtub, a face mask, like wearing a matching pajama set, going just that like extra step. Do the extra stuff that makes your life feel better. So cooking a new meal at home, lighting a candle, cleaning your room, putting cooking shows on in the background, watching like Martha on Furbo or on Netflix, doing your hair for me. That's a huge one. Like I know it's so stupid, but like I will just like not do it for weeks and I feel so much better whenever I do my hair. And I know that's like a really dumb vain one, but like it's true. It makes me feel better and I feel like I just feel better. So I should do it. Like going the extra step in life. Just making sure my house is clean before I go. Those are really small things that become the big things because that ends up being how you live your life. You know what I mean? Dating. Okay, so this is something too that I get questions about all the time or that comes up naturally because I was such a hater and I was such a dating hater and I didn't want to do that. And then I met my fiance doing a dating challenge where I was going on 10 dates in 30 days. If you guys are a Houseguest listener, I'm sure you guys have heard this story a thousand times. Like I always say, confidence is built by making promises to yourself and keeping them. And these small things make you feel good. So when dating, if you want to meet someone, you've got to go on a date. Like, I know that sucks. And it's like, damn, I hate that they were right. And everyone would say that to me. And I would be like, no, I think you guys are idiots. Like losers. I'll figure something else out. And then I went on dates and then I met my fiance. And I know that's so annoying to hear because I did get lucky. I met him on like date four. I know that is so annoying. But I also spent years prior being alone and getting to know myself that made that easier, which we're about to get into. But if you want to date, just force yourself to go on dates, go on dates like when I and again. Everything I'm saying, I know it was annoying because it was annoying whenever I was single and I was hearing this stuff all the time, but I went with zero expectation. I did 10 dates in 30 days challenge. I can do a full solo podcast episode on this. And truly like that is what like it changed my life. And it was because I finally started making myself go on dates. You know what I mean? And I came in with zero expectation. I thought I was just doing it as like practice to like get myself back in the swing of dating. And I happened to meet him. Um, but again, I get a lot of questions about that. I'm like, Oh, I want to start dating. I want to do this. I want to do that. And it's like, unfortunately you just have to start. And honestly, like you have to have a good mindset. Like, I'm sorry, you have to listen to the podcast episode I do with my friend, Nora, who's a dating coach and she will help you. Like she really will help you with the mindset because she is a, has been a matchmaker forever. It was a matchmaker for years and is now back into that business. And you can meet people. You can meet You meet people on Hinge. We met on Hinge. So like it can happen. Okay. But going into the opposite of that, learning to love your own company. So I was dating. I always had like someone around for the longest time. And then finally I was like, you know what? I want to just like stop dating. And so I wanted to like learn how to just like love my own company and spend time alone. And I was someone who always needed time alone. Um... But I just wanted, I felt like I was in relationships for so long that I just kind of like lost that. So, um, all of these things that we've been talking about is like really how to learn to love your own company, but you really need to treat spending time with yourself as special as you do for those around you. So like, even if you're at home and you're like, okay, I'm having a night in by myself instead of just like rotting in bed, scrolling your phone, which is like so easy and we all do it. And I still do it to this day. Instead of wasting that evening, make yourself a nice dinner, do the extra steps in your skincare, take a nice bath, wear matching pajamas. Watch an Ina Garten cooking video as you're cooking dinner. I'm just trying to get to the basics of everyday life. Watch a show. Do a place setting for your dinner. Take it to that extra step and learn how to love spending time with yourself because I think that the way I was able to find the absolute love of my life because you're the greatest man that's ever existed was because I was able to find myself and develop myself so much into who I was that I knew exactly what I was looking for and I was the kind of person that he would be looking for. I don't feel like I was that four years prior to that. I don't think that we would have even meshed and I don't think he would have either. Probably he would say the same thing. And it's not that you need to be this perfect person at all Neither one of us is perfect and I don't like that rhetoric either, but you need to be the kind of person that the kind of person you want to be with would want to be with. You know what I mean? You always hear the guys who are like, I want this six foot one, blonde, skinny, perfect girl, whatever. And then he's a guy who has a good beer belly that's in an Indiana in his mom's basement. You know what I mean? And it's like, okay, well, you're not the kind of person that that person would want to be with. Not that it's all about looks, but you guys get what I'm saying. Focus on that, okay? Sorry. But doing all these things is just going to make you like your life again and learn how to love spending time by yourself. Like even the artist way, I love doing the artist way. That is something that I would recommend if you're trying to like find yourself. I think like, yes, it's great for your creativity, but I think more than anything, it's great for finding yourself. Personally, I think that that's, I think it's great for both. But I think that just saying it's something that helps you find creativity, I think it's way more than that. But every week for 12 weeks, she has you every morning, you do your morning pages. So you sit there and you like basically brain dump for three minutes every morning and you will find out things about yourself that you never knew, things that were bothering you, things that were, even if like you'll be writing and there's times where I'm like, I have no idea what I have to say. I have nothing to say. I have nothing to say. And then all of a sudden like something comes up and I'm like, oh my God, that's why that bothered me last week. Like it's such a great practice. And then she has you go on a solo date once a week so you go eat lunch by yourself which is a great exercise you can you can do whatever you want though like I would go to a movie alone I would go to like this I would do something that I've been wanting to do that like intentionally that would be something that I would typically do with someone else like I would try to instead of like waiting for the person to find that person to go do the things that I want to do I started doing them which I think a lot of the time is also how you like meet the right people in your life But I think that those are like really good exercises and there's nothing better than someone who loves spending time alone because you are not going to settle in any area of your life because you like especially like it's easiest to explain this in dating, but you could apply this to anything like I love spending time alone so much that I was not going to settle for anyone like it had to be. someone that was great like amazing in like such a good influence on me and all these things and made my life better because I already liked the life that I was living and I liked spending time alone so I wasn't just trying to like fill something whereas before I feel like in my earlier 20s when I was dating I would put up with a lot more or I would be in relationships that weren't healthy for us where I wasn't a good partner for them or they weren't a good partner for me or whatever it was because I didn't want to be alone and I liked my life. With them better than I liked it alone because I didn't like my life alone. Does that make any sense? So I think that it's just like the secret to happiness in life, honestly, is like learning how to spend time alone and be happy with yourself and to find the things that you actually want to do and to find the right people in your life and to find the right partner in your life. If that's something that you choose to have and to find just everything. Like, I think it's like the secret to quite literally everything. So anyway, I hope you guys enjoyed this episode. I know Every probably 18 months, I do an episode like this, but it's important. It's a great, it's important. And sometimes we just need a little refresh. We need a little 3 a.m. Pinterest board moment. And I hope that this episode was that for you. So I love you guys so much. And I will talk to you guys next Thursday. Thank you all so much for listening. 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