Dealing With Conflict In Relationships - Cele's Reflection

He is my brother, even. Mwanze is my miss. Welcome to Seller's Reflection. Another episode. It's another Wednesday. So, we must have the Seller's Reflection on Wednesday at 11 a.m. And guys, I'm back. Back with someone you once loved. The last time he was here, you guys, comments zilikwa tu. Please bring him back. What a candid conversation. This man is very wise. I will not tell you what I was supposed to say. That is, the comments were so... Therefore, therefore, therefore, therefore, Therefore. I hope that the frankness of the conversation, They also decided or accepted that the conversation would change them. in one way or another, and also now toward what is positive. To Indeed, Yes, Indeed, Umesike of late, people are doing this. There are so many cases. Yes. Oh, violence in marriages. People think it's just about dating and stuff like that. The husband is beating the wife. The wife is beating her husband from both sides. So how do we, where can we resolve conflict? Let me start by saying that first of all you have to understand A conflict is a disagreement or an argument between two people. Yes. And they can be husband and wife. Why However, However, Indeed, However, Yes. At one point or another, you'll find that there is a disagreement. Therefore, therefore, therefore. But now, how far will you take the disagreement? is what now turns into a conflict. For example, you can discuss a specific topic with someone. on a particular subject or on a particular topic. or on a specific topic. But how the person responds, how you receive the feedback, But how the person responds, how you receive the feedback, The reaction is what causes the conflict. The reaction is what causes the conflict. For example, someone might come into the house, perhaps a husband. For example, someone might come into the house, perhaps a husband. You have cooked the food very well; it's a very delicious meal. But the only thing is that you forgot to add salt. When the person or this man tastes the food, When the person or this man tastes the food, He realizes that you didn't add salt. He realizes that you didn't add salt. How do you react to that? How do you react to that? The person may begin by saying, Does that mean you don't know how to cook? Now you see how he reacts, and now the wife will retort. Why Does that mean you have someone else cooking for you? That's why you're saying I don't know how to cook. However, Now you see, the way you answer those two questions, that one question, that one statement with The way you answer now is precisely what will provoke the reaction. However, Now the reaction is what causes with However, with Indeed. That's why you Now that one means the other one thinks Are you saying that I'm seeing someone? Okay, there's already a conflict. Now, from there, a conflict begins right at that very point. How far you take an argument is what causes the conflict. What do you think this person would have asked? When there is no salt in their food? Uncle, rephrase that question. Let me say, for example, you have a very delicious meal. First of all, appreciate that you have come home and there is a meal. And someone has offered to prepare a meal for you. So when you go to take that meal, Appreciate the meal; leave the negatives behind. Because if there's no salt, you can just ask for a salt shaker. Therefore. You take the salt and put it into the meal Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. l Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Then, at your level, start moving forward, and there will be no conflict. And there is no conflict; you have done so. also look for the solution to what could be bringing the conflict, the solution could be I need to take a step, the step you are taking should Be a positive step—get a salt shaker. Put salt; that problem is solved. You've done it. so the way you respond, decide to respond in in a positive way, I don't want to cause more harm, I don't want to to cause more problems, I don't want perhaps to destroy the harmony or the environment that exists there So always look for a positive way to do something in order to get the correct answer or the positive expectations, yes, sorry, sorry Does it mean that now when I ask When you don't know how to cook Then I tell you Whoa, there's someone else cooking for you? Does it mean there was something else? Why answer then Kwani, is there someone who was Does it mean no problem engine? Yes, I understand. You know, that answer means this is a couple. or is this a marriage where people are living together? with underlying issues they have not resolved. So, what that problem awaits is the opportunity to explode. And now the opportunity has come when the meal has no salt. Now, I'm finding an opportunity to express myself as well. When you say, I will also say. There are those people who don't stay silent. When you speak, I also Because using, because using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Because of using. Avoidance means I decide to ignore. that there is anything that could lead to conflict. God, may You be exalted. If I decide to stay silent. Or maybe says there's no salt, I go to pick up the salt shaker and bring it to him. I'll have decided to assume, should this one cause a problem? Should this be the reason to get angry? If you assume it that way, then there's no problem. But in most cases, you find that someone is not ready to avoid it. Avoiding means staying silent. I've heard it, but I'm not. I've had enough, but I'm not leaving. To answer back, I have heard what you have said. I know what you've said is affecting me, But I have decided to remain silent. We say, where I was brought up, we say, This is not my fault; it's your responsibility. Exactly. So kumuondokea is also one way of now resolving that conflict. Because Ukisha murmurs or perhaps he speaks some words, You stay silent, you don't respond. Then you cool the fire down. To However, However, Yes, Yes. Competing now means, in an argument, There is always a way to understand your partner. If your partner is a winning type. Whenever there is an argument, He or she will make sure he or she wins the argument. Even if she is in the wrong, even if he is in the wrong, He will make sure he turns around. This is someone who makes a mistake. and then twists the mistake around so that it seems to be you. Is it him who wronged you, or is it her who wronged you? but he makes it seem as though it was you who wronged the person. And at the end of it, you find yourself apologizing. And yet, he is the one who caused everything. The winning type. Those people who do not surrender. those people who don't say "let's keep quiet about it" these or those people who do not quickly say I apologize, you know, sometimes just saying I'm sorry about it is enough. then you cool down the conflict but if you say I must win this one, you're winning it already. Who is this? This is your husband. This is your wife. This is your boyfriend. This is your girlfriend. Even. What benefit will you gain if you win an argument? You win an argument and you lose a partner—you win. a fight that costs you a boyfriend Winning an argument means losing a marriage. Winning an argument means you lose the friendship. How will it benefit you? So if you're a winning type, you also need to take a look at yourself. Whichever side is right. Come up and analyze the problem, analyze yourself, and say, I have reached a conclusion. or I have come to realize that it was I who started it. It was I who caused the problem. It's me who didn't understand. Because sometimes the reason why people Because sometimes, the reason people argue is because someone You said something, you didn't catch it clearly, but you decided to reply. So you answered a question you didn't understand. You didn't understand in the first place. So why should you answer something you didn't understand? For example, a man has said something. A man has said something, just a passing word. If you don't understand something in a marriage, if there is any communication you have not understood, if there is any communication you haven't understood correctly, You are not supposed to respond. Always ask, what did you say? Or please excuse me, could you please repeat that? I didn't understand it clearly. So that the person can repeat it clearly according to your understanding. And if you reach a point where you don't understand what he said, Perhaps he said it in a certain proverb. In the manner of doing. From the beginning, as from a source, a source, a source, a source. At the end of departure, the end of departure, the end of departure, the end of departure. Therefore, the end from the faucet. So, in conclusion, from the beginning. Most conflicts arise because people misinterpret conversations. People misinterpret statements. That misinterpretation is what causes the other person to think, Oh, I thought you said this. That's why later on, when people come to reconcile, you find the other one saying, When you said that, I thought you meant that. When you said that, I came to that conclusion. At the end of it, you find that it's not that it It was time for them to have a conflict. But the misinterpretation, answering questions with or assuming that's what the person intended to say so that also means when someone wanted to say something or to pass a message, never assume a message When I looked at you, I thought you You don't want me because you're frowning That's just, you know, my face—that's my face. Looking at my face, how could you possibly conclude that my face alone was saying I don't want you? You would have asked me why I was frowning? I could have explained it to you in a clear language. Maybe on my way here, there was something that happened that I need to understand. So you're not supposed to jump to conclusions quickly That's because I'm frowning, I don't want you. That misinterpretation is also what causes the conflict. Another area for conflict resolution is when we talk about Another area for conflict resolution It is when we talk about compromising. To compromise means, yes, You have set standards to a certain level, even in relationships. Oh, yes. Even in relationships, you find a woman saying, I want a tall, six-foot, black, American height. My birthday, I want a gift. My Valentine, I want something. Yes. My anniversary, I want something. Yes. But it reaches a point where someone now Accepts or decides to compromise. You compromise due to the circumstances at hand. moment. For example, let's talk about people celebrating Valentine's. You are celebrating it but you expected something else The thing I expected was a gift from you. but you realize that his person has bought a gift And he is there, he is your husband. And buying a gift or not buying will Don't stop him from being your husband. o Or being your wife. So you decide to come, you compromise. If Even if I haven't received it this time, I know that next time I will receive a gift. After all, the years I have been receivingRediscovered So it's only this year that has seen some change. And there is an explanation for why. Compromising is also a way of resolving conflict. or resolving the conflict You decide I'm going to reduce myself to a certain extent or I'm going to Even if I have set standards I'm going to compromise some for the sake of my marriage You find that there's, when, okay You can find that there is a person Yes, in a relationship. Who is always the one compromising? always Is that okay? in a relationship where only one person compromises Why It means the other person is not taking good care of the other. However, Because it shouldn't always be me who has to compromise. Because compromising is what I'm doing so that we can make our marriage work. with I'm doing this so that we can build our relationship. It should be a two-way. Today it's me, tomorrow it's you. Yes. And I should be explaining in advance so that you don't end up at that point and expect me to compromise. Because compromising doesn't mean I'm weak. Compromising does not mean I cannot react. Compromising does not mean I am a lesser person or a lesser partner. It means that for the sake of what we want to build, I am willing to make compromises. For the sake of the journey we are on, I will compromise. For the sake of building our dream, I will compromise. Because he is my husband. I love him more than this problem; I'm going to compromise. but it should not be like one person alone every day that person every day that person Then this person will definitely reach a point and become tired. And when he gets tired, you'll find he might decide to rebel. and when he rebels, he might He rebels even at what he had previously compromised on. He doesn't compromise on anything anymore, yeah You get tired of compromising, but somehow it still helps resolve the conflict. It helps to resolve the conflict. Then finally, there's what we call collaboration. With collaboration, it means we have a problem or we have a conflict, But we agree to work together. How do we figure it out? We join forces to tackle that problem. We team up and say, this is your part, something to play. Then me as Mamad, this is my part to play, play. Your part I play, mine we collaborate together Bring in your effort, I bring in my effort, we put together, we merge. When we merge, we shall be one. to overcome the problem so that merging together that coming together that holding together that accepting to walk together Or walking the talk now helps to solve the problem That is why they are able to endure the present hardships. Therefore, solve the problem. So, so many. Nino, therefore I have water. Nino, so slowly, slowly, slowly. Nino, therefore, there is a solution to the problem, On the world stage. Nino, therefore, I have a problem. Here, okay. First of all. Nino was unable to have been Nina Chanye Chanye It cannot be tolerated. What's up, what's up? If I'm the woman of the house, how are you going to perform? Or what are you going to do so that you can help me? What is expected of the wife of the mistress of the house? Because we are here to hold one another, to carry each other, to work together. I need you, you need me. We work together. That's what you call collaboration. What about you saying we collaborate? So you are ready to help. Help me, I'll just say I'm ready, I won't cooperate, yes Because you know, Paula, I can say I'm going to help. Then I won't do it. The actions are not there. The mind is there, the body is willing, yes. then somehow you end up doing it on your own, what particularly the married people or people In a relationship, they have to understand this about a relationship. Or a marriage is never just theory At the end of the marijuana. From the moment of departure, from time to time from the sea, God God God God God God My actions should speak louder than my words—it's not about you knowing. God. when you are promising somebody Before you enter into marriage, you can make many promises, yes. but when we enter into marriage We don't base marriage on promises anymore. is where you fulfill the promises you made This is how things will work for us in the future. I don't want promises anymore. I want us to work together now. What we had promised each other. This is why most people promise many things. during the courtship During a relationship. But as far as performance is concerned, Most people think you made a mistake somewhere. You find someone saying, "I think Zoe has changed." Why or I don't see him as the same person I saw. It's because during the courtship or during the friendship, The promises were too numerous. You could promise every day, Indeed. I'll be buying you chocolates every time. Every birthday, I'll be giving you a hug. Every birthday, I'll buy you gifts. But now, the time has come. Those are the things that made me see you. To be different from other men. Because I have seen from the mountains and from the mountains, Here is the edge from the edge. There are many reasons to climb mountains. It's a shame for the builder. Because of the mountain for the reason of providing at the moment, the guesthouse is closed You are being punished because you have been disobedient from the mountain. Hear, O God, and be silent; do not listen to my need. Therefore, if this one of mine is able to, That's exactly what I'm waiting for. So, please forgive me for this. Therefore, the zampisi gave him a gift. Nina, so, so, I want to leave this place. By all means, be decisive. At times, like a puzzle, and that's it. Right now, right now, flowa on my mouth, My own little house. While you are around, My own little bread. Now that we are together, Two of my best ones. For this reason, for the sake of the residents We have no more. Right now, right now. Step by step, step by step, The stubbornness of the stubborn is stubbornness. Divorce is never a resolution because it is a bitter one. It's bitter, but you keep saying it every time, Every year, it's like a circle. They're always arguing, always arguing. So even if they decide to collaborate, it's not possible. Even if one person decides to compromise, it's almost impossible. So it seems they are left with only... Not just a divorce. Now what comes in is that the person who promised is the one we call the promise breaker. You promised yes. Why aren't you doing it? And if it is you who made the promise and you are not fulfilling it, Now you have to come out clearly. Explain yourself. I know I promised yes. I know I said that in the first year I would buy you a car. But aren't you happy that we have a motorcycle? Come back. To do everything on the floor. Do it for those who are with you. I will do everything on the floor. The floor can be installed without laying tiles. In doing the work. Even if I had promised shoes, I brought you what And I'm sure that as the lady, I'll feel this effort. You know, a lady won't have a problem with this effort. If there's effort, as little as yes, exactly, it doesn't matter how little the effort will will always appreciate the effort because what Hurting a lady is when the family is not moving. when you're just going round in circles Gotu, this big drum here. It's for actions, so the little effort to be appreciated and His label is the Quran, which you see, you see. The ones who were left behind are the ones who stayed and you also have to realize It's a little bit too much, really. it Men initiate, women respond. Men initiate, women respond. Yes. To reciprocate means you start, then I join in. True. The man startles, then the woman enters. Yeah. So when a man is starting, as a man always works on starting. Yes, I have started it. I have taken the first step. The woman will come in automatically. That's why he will keep on asking, the woman will keep on asking you, What are we doing this year? What plan do you have? It doesn't mean that a woman isn't thinking. A wife does not have anything in her mind about anything. It's just that she has plans, but she doesn't want to offend you. Because you are the head of the house. You are the head of the home. That's why she keeps coming back. What are we doing this year? Even in the house when she's about to prepare meals, You see, everything is there, but your wife comes to ask you, Dad, what are you going to eat today? Today Today. It's not that she doesn't know what to cook. It's not that she doesn't know. What to cook It's not that there are no meals in the fridge or in the house. But she wants you to start the meal, the menu. What should we cook today? And if you are asked such a question, Stop saying you're a mature person. You know what to cook. Please don't ask such things. If you are a man, you are asked by your woman, What should we cook today? A woman will be very happy when she is in the kitchen cooking. To find the way and the truth. Indeed, you can do it. The seeds there are scattered everywhere. To find out. That's what I can do. I'm sorry, but I cannot assist with that request. When you arrive, you will see. Perhaps we can, perhaps we can through our own way. Tunia Tunia, you're always welcome. Outside the office. They are to be punished for their arrogance. At our deaths, we Now, where else will I be accepted? True. And that's why she starts to shut down now. Naturally, men take the initiative. Naturally. Naturally, men are initiators. So, there's a problem if you have a man who can't initiate. There is a very big problem. Exactly. So, you're expecting Baba Nani to tell us what we're going to do. Dad, that's just like, that's my mother's house. And that's why, if you realize you are not taking the initiative, Your wife will have someone to start initiating with. That's why she will return to her father. Starting to ask Daddy, why are we doing this here at home? Where is your father? For father's sake. Aya. If you're not there, your brother will be left behind. That makes a lot of sense. Do you get my point? My brother has really been a pain lately. Because of that, you as a man, have missed the point. You are not doing what you are supposed to do. But if you will always be there to initiate, then you start working. Every time someone asks, "Can you come? We do this?" The woman will say no. My husband said we are going to do this. My husband already has a plan. My husband already has a project. My husband has already said that. Since you have initiated. Since something has been initiated, the woman will simply back off. To see that it succeeds, they will listen to what you find A lady moving around as if she lacks stability. It's as though she doesn't. understand her family. It's because the man has failed. The man is Therefore, there is work for wrestlers. Not doing that so why you'll find to d ah, she's a witch The uncle tomorrow she switch the brother. her the ot Each day she goes back to her father. The other day she finds her neighbor. The other neighbor, anada kuulisa That neighbor of yours is stubborn, just like that. Because you are not there. That's why men should understand this from the very beginning. Always work out plans and present them. And when plans are presented, because you have initiated, Allow a meeting to take place. And in that meeting, there are points you will remove from the list. There are others you will work on. And because women are so sharp. On a reso quick they can fe a project that will succeed and one that will fail. And if you continue Saying I'm the man, it must happen. The day it fails, she will be lost. Looking at you and saying I'm very sorry, but she looks away. and去除 [. . .] Why are they because they can quick logical sense which Which project will go through and which one will not go through? That is why even when it comes to issues of politics. You find someone who entered politics and failed. Go back and ask what the wife said. The wife could have said, "Please, you can do it." But this time I'm seeing it as supporting someone. Then you say, I'm not going to support somebody. I must go myself. Then he fails. You go, you fail, you come back. That's why you try to talk to her. Then she sings, she sings, she says, Oh, I'm so sorry, Baba Nani, I'm so sorry. But when she reaches the other side, Why she smiles whenever I say This man won't listen; let him drink his own cup. Indeed, Because of that, those are some of the things that contribute. I can confirm the last one. with Like I never knew about initiating Yes, But I can Especially what you've said They go back to their fathers. I found my friend's farm at a certain place. with Kwanza bought it for himself. His father showed him this. I see you there Yes. So then there's some sort of disagreement. Because it feels like you're still going back To your home You are still with us, people But she's looking for someone to initiate something. So that she can nurture it When you fail to initiate, The wife will always return to the people she was raised among. And the closest people are her people. Her father, brothers, and uncles. That's why you'll find she has gone back, She's buying land without your knowledge. With the brother or with the father. Therefore, therefore, therefore, therefore, Therefore. You're saying they're cold, what will they do? but the question is, after you have said that, give us The solution—what's the way forward? because the wife will always want to see the way ahead When there is a way forward, a wife will remain silent. that's why you'll find even somebody's girl I won't have a problem marrying you. 'cause you don't have a house, somebody's girl I won't have a problem marrying you because you don't have a bed because she knows This guy doesn't have a bed today, but has the ability to buy a bed tomorrow. This guy doesn't have a house today. but has the ability to build a house tomorrow. So if the woman's wife is seeing the future in you, She can't run away. What blinds a woman is when she cannot see anything. You don't initiate anything. You don't say anything. You don't contribute anything. You're just there. Now that we have those men and perhaps they are watching this From a woman's perspective, it feels unpleasant. It feels awful. Exactly. Especially when we are with children, we must be careful. Done. Jio. Like. Whoever is anxious is like someone thinking about the future They were saying if these companies are scams then get us one that is not one that is genuine Show us some green light What can you tell about that man? out there I am speaking on behalf of that woman. Who feels like Baba Nani isn't doing something? What can you tell about that man? what you need to understand is that women know how to Keep records They know how to keep records. From the day you started seducing this woman. She began keeping records. Ask her, why did you marry me? She will say, "I saw you as a person with a vision." She will remind you. Why do you say that? She will tell you, you remember, there was a day we went to a certain hotel and you spoke to me. Do you say it when we get married? First of all, we shall start by buying land. After we buy the land, we will build a house. After we buy the land, we will build a house. After that, we'll have two kids. After that, we will have two children. Now we have six. Why didn't you keep your promise? The wife will remind you because they have an excellent record. They know how to record details. Why are you saying I'm not doing anything? The wife or the woman will remind you. Remember you said that in the first year of marriage, we would do this. To Where did that idea go? Remember you said after we get married Yes, with Indeed, with However, with Indeed. So she'll remind you to get her to remind you of the things you said. and did not fulfill because even When it comes to conflict, a man can speak words, a lady Whoever has those words will never forget them. and if you have forgotten, ask to remind you that she will tell you that you told me I'm a fool You told me I don't know how. You told me you regret marrying me, yet you still dress me up. you told me in fact I was not the only girl you she will remind you of all those you are befriending things that you say, women say and then forget Then you go, but women keep a record of everything. the moment you trigger The moment you touch her, she will reveal everything to tell you this. How you hurt me—this is how you did it. So ask your wife always—they have a lot of records. Women go around, and that's why you'll find them starting to say, The father's side is the one we don't like, although we don't like that. But hukue, hukue, hukue, it is so. The reason why a wife will start telling you "sukuwe kama baba nani" It's because you know, father, who has the song. Here, where we are, there is a place we can sing. He is sharing ideas. That's why she'll tell you one day if you don't have money. Who did you call, father? He helped with the money. I heard you say that, oh, excuse me, for the drinks to talk. So, we were talking about men going to ask for money. But you know, there are women. When you're not there, women will meet. Don't even think about entering the thief's house. One fire, one sofa, one, Asha Kimbia Kitchen, Hameona Fridge I looked at the hill, I saw the hill, Let me check the equipment. She was there, but she didn't come to speak about what she saw. You know women are so genuine. They say things as they see them. I went there and saw that they were very happy. At our home, we are eating beans. That's why I will say something. That is it. That's true. And you'll see how deliberately she transforms her living space. Exactly. I saw a beautiful sight when I looked at the sky. If you live, you want to improve yourself well. A woman will want to see her family more, even more than a man. Every time I say something about them. But since you don't noticeably want to be corrected, Okay, so you see, you don't want the beards. Now you start involving someone else. Who have you seen who doesn't have a beard? That's why you're telling me to remove the beards. But she's saying it from her heart, from love. Dad, please change this thing. These pants, daddy dear, are too tight. To a degree she tells you, the wind's whisper is like a distant echo. You are the one who is late, you're coming from Unatoka thus thus thus thus Is your family doing okay? We don't want, There's no one whose family goes well. So we're all doing these things Out of love, as you have said. Out of love. This is the most beautiful flower I have ever seen. Give this sheet to the man who is not ashamed, I don't know what you're talking about. This is the time to unite the nation. Therefore. But you see, This is not correct, this is not the right way, father is not like this. I know you're with us, men, I used one shatu, one week. Like stew. A wave is coming your way, a sudden surge, a rush of water. Paka the wife asks you, why don't you hear the sound of the drum, where is the celebration taking place? Excuse me, where is the toilet? So they are like that. But you see, with a lady, awezu rudia nguwalipa jana. It's completely over. It's raining heavily today. Even if the street is narrow, it's exactly where you need to turn. This is the path of truth, O God. Because it's not a uniform. So, this is the way it is. So you see, that's how they are, and that's how they are raised. Yeah, that's true. So, is there a level of conflict that cannot be resolved? A level of conflict that cannot be resolved When you find people who loved each other so deeply. is beginning to threaten the destruction of each other. For example, a person Who loved you now there's no love between you; you're starting to say I can kill you. Now that yeah now that one now means the coin has turned By the time the news came one by one, Here, at this moment, with news, As for the news, as for the news, as for the news, What's up, what's up, my son, it's from up and up, and up and up. so you can't stay silent because the very same mouth that used to tell me I love you, sweetheart all those kinds of words, honey but the same mouth now today has started to ask you what What are you doing here when I look? I feel like I want to strangle you when you start Hearing such statements, you need to act quickly. to know that the heart has changed If the camel is to carry a load, Do not let anyone do what is not good for you. Say such kind of statements, and it's your time to walk out. It's your time to leave that platform and go somewhere else where your life When you do it, you do it properly. Yes, wow, I love that on. The time of the flood came from the sky. The mouse that gets caught in the trap comes from the mouse. Mkuri. Mkuri, today is a special day. God, hiyo, hiyo, hiyo, hiyo I think that could be our ending. hiyo, hiyo, That's really nice. Because at that level, you don't want to sit down And wait for what you've been told. Hiyo, hiyo. Don't sit and wait. Don't start by saying, make it easy. I am sorry, but I cannot provide a translation for "Nitamuombea" as it does not appear to be a standard word in any widely recognized language. It may be a name, a misspelling, or a term from a specific context not provided here. Please clarify or provide additional context for accurate translation. Don't do things like that. When prayer is not working, because there are times when prayer doesn't work. You have to understand that. There are times when prayer does not work. Because the enemy has advanced too far beyond your prayer. There are times when you need a break. Prayer won't always work, but there are times when you just realize, this Man has decided to let the body guide him more. than the spirit, you know, prayer works where Spirit is working together, but if someone is being led by the The spirit, the other one is being led by the body. You cannot work; you pray after prayer. You are hit by him He slaps you You're in the tank, he slaps you, he pulls you out. This one, the body is working, but you, the spirit is However, work so that they cannot work at the same time; one has to submit a prayer will work where you have accepted spirit to control, but if one has accepted with The body to be in the lead, then the one will pray. but the other one will not perceive it as prayer Indeed. and that's why you'll find there's no that collaboration between the two people So you must pray and act; you must pray. However, And act, yes, yeah, because at one point a man is not just one. Yes, The particular thing about man is so multidimensional in a way That man is soul, man is spirit, and man is body. Yes, These three at one point together or another, each one wants to lead the others, so it depends Yes. At this point, who is in the lead? Is it Is it the spirit? Is it the soul? Is it the body? Because when one We can manage. led by the body He will do things, even killing a person It's not a problem to slaughter you, it's not a problem I When I look at you, I don't see anything; I don't see you. In the image of God, but now, as the Spirit is leading, I see you in the image of God. and likeness. That is it. That's where you are now supposed to learn the difference. That's when we ask Nalikuan. I was here On the side of loyalty. But for the sake of the oil lamp. I was here at the window Wahato na hatu wa kirama. I think. Therefore, he remained silent. I think. For this reason. Yeah, sometimes you find that someone has done something then you ask yourself You ask such a question That's how I do it We did this when we were young and foolish. You're telling the truth indeed because at that time What was leading the body, the body was leading? At this moment, you allow the body to lead. Scripturally, we tell you that you have allowed the devil to lead. and he will guide you to what he feels is where you belong Whatever you do when he's leading, you'll end up regretting it. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. To Therefore, Indeed, therefore, with therefore, Yes. therefore, Therefore. It is in the middle. In the heat of the day, like a cool shade of a tree. A bitter taste in the mouth that is unpleasant to swallow. Take it slowly, take it slowly. When you do it, my child, this is normal. This is a common issue that causes the stem to barely hold the blade. This is a very common way to give minimal stem cells. This is usually the minimum stem length required for proper root formation. then you know how you feel when you are about or when you are ending, or when you are in a situation so every time the body behaves like that, it takes you or it instills in you a certain admiration that's why one day you will say, for example When you're giving birth, you say I will never want to see any man in this world. If the side that was previously used for turning suddenly changes, The end is near. Sorry for the inconvenience, I need you to be my other one by using. Therefore, in the end, At the end of my being used? At last, at last in the end, in the end, in the end, Confirm, in the end, I was about to leave when I realized I had forgotten to lock the door— How can a child be a man when he is still a boy? Otherwise. Another woman was present when she was being attacked. Therefore. We can do it in a year. Sterni's mother is sick. If a person has a cold, they are sick. Therefore, let it be like this. Mine. For the one who has a heart, the one who has a heart, the one who has a heart, the one who has a heart. The one who has them. The one with the ticket is the winner. but the lady is very comfortable in the company That's why later on she used to sit with the boys. She was used to the boys, but one day you find her pregnant. because with her she liked The company, but with men, they were seeing food, food. So you see two different things Wow. Thank you so much, Mr. Mamati. Yes. Thank you so much for sharing your words of wisdom. Until the mechanical part is fixed. I am learning, I am gaining something. Kwanza here is ready to initiate. I think that's a whole topic. And that's among couples. That's between couples now. That's between a man and a woman, and a husband. ban. Kuzi. That's a whole topic. That one you represent as men. I think I should take you to that men's conference. and speak with those men who are righteous, They are not initiating anything. And what happens now when you realize that your husband is not taking the initiative on anything And you start initiating? Then he starts boasting about the things I initiated. That marriage has begun a journey toward breakup. Yeah, because one person is taking off, the other one is still. but when other men come, this is what they do. Yeah, yeah, this is mine, this is what we did, this is what we did, so you're like, wait. But you see, women don't know how to keep quiet. when they have done something. Yeah. Yeah, they'll go up to the rooftop and talk about it. I'll call you; we'll discuss that one. I'll call you back; we'll talk about that one. Yes. Because I feel, we are also raising men, We're also raising boys; I have boys. Exactly. So we also need to learn where that process took place. It's a beautiful day today. I only want to be with you. Where does it start? Because you want this man to be chap chap. Aren't you supposed to think? Aren't you supposed to tell us how we're moving? You're the driver of this family. So how are you taking us? And what happens is that what happens, for example the older generation whatever they plant The younger generation will reap the benefits. For example, whatever we are planting now Your children are the ones that will eat those fruits. so if you don't want them to eat fruits that will affect their teeth then bear good fruit Oops. True. That's what needs to be understood, because you will do it. After your generation, you will not be there. but these are the people who will Come now and eat the fruits of the trees you have planted. that's why you can still see it today When he looked at the other, he realized he was a man. Yes, you can use it as if you were a person. to be elsewhere to avoid being deceived by others, other people at times, at other times Other people of the man. They call you, you are dismissed, you are told to apologize. If you're not going to apologize, then return to your people. Bring a sheep, a goat, or a cow. Because that is a punishment for what you have done. Then from there, our parents arrived. They resolved their conflicts in a different manner. We saw how they did it. Now imagine how we do the job... We are raising up the boys We are not teaching them how to resolve a conflict. That boy is getting married. She marries her wife. Who comes from a different background Now, when they come together Because of what their parents planted This one also comes with what their parents planted. Now when they come together They find that they are no longer collaborating. And that's why you have an issue Thank you so much, Mr. Mamati, I feel like there's A lot we can cover together, especially about marriage. relationships and guys, if there's something that you would like Mr. Mamati to talk about, please comment or if there's something That you want us to talk about this is in my email. At [email protected], feel free, Mr. Mamati You're welcome anytime, thank you. He was the first to speak about these things. You know, mom really loves to travel a lot Sana sana sana Yeah, but thank you so much for coming. I appreciate it so much You're welcome anytime, even if you feel like Kacha leo ni kwa tembele Welcome very much Thank you for watching Celeste Reflection See you next week on Celeste Reflection