The Narcissist “Downplays” Your Relationship to the New Supply #npd #narcissist #emotionalabuse

Hey everyone, it's the Spiritual Whistleblower. What's up guys? I'm feeling great. Today is Whistleblower Wednesdays. If you're not following me on Instagram or YouTube, please follow me now. Spiritual Whistleblower, one word. Spiritual Whistleblower, one word. Thank you. For Whistleblower Wednesdays, I'm doing my live Q&A on YouTube this evening, 7 p.m. Eastern Standard time i will be answering questions five dollar wednesdays and just for fun i will be giving away my brand new whistles yes my whistles are finally in stock they have my logo engraved on them these are my rape whistles so these are not these whistles are not for toys these whistles are you put them on your key ring or you know the chain that i have i wear around my neck and it's really to help you if you're in danger if you're being stalked or anything and you can even buy them for your children so i will be doing a giveaway i'm giving away some whistles tonight on my live so you want to make sure that you're subscribed to my youtube channel and you're locked in and you set your notifications again i'm available for private coaching if you think you're dealing with a narcissist and you need help whether it's your mother your family members your baby father baby mother ex-spouse whatever uh hit me up email me chanel jasmine no e on the end of jasmine chanel jasmine at gmail.com okay guys um i'm home in new york i'm back chilling um after uh lots of traveling i will be back on the road again to have my next support group meeting narcissistic abuse um support group chicago saturday september 19th shy town um i'm gonna be in shy town i love chicago uh the week after that friday the 25th i'm in kansas city missouri the 26th detroit michigan holla everyone's hitting me up from detroit detroit's going to have a great turnout uh sunday is denver colorado the entire month of october is domestic violence awareness month this is a very very important month to me um i'm going to be speaking doing a lot of public speaking on narcissistic abuse because narcissistic abuse is actually domestic violence okay so that is uh i'm going hard all month of october plus it's my birthday month and um i'm gonna be doing a lot of traveling in october too so you guys just just wait for the scheduling to um you know come up i got a lot of great stuff planned for october great let's get into this video i want to talk about uh how the narcissist downplays the status of your relationship to his next lover and and all his friends and family you know when they're doing all this ******* cheating on you and telling lies to put you against this other person they're planning to cheat on you with they're going to tell lies to this other person this is called triangulation this is the art of staging a cat fight between two unsuspecting parties you know he's always going to bring up one person's name all the time and you've never met this person but he's doing this with the goal to make you jealous and insecure so that you'll want to fight this other person or compete, uh, to get the attention of the narcissist who is your, your, your ex. So what he's going to do, um, he's going to talk bad. He's going to bad mouth you to this other person to the other person he's cheating on you with. So he's, he's never going to be like, you know, um, he loves you and y'all are in a happy relationship. No, he's going to tell this person ----'s going downhill or either he's going to downplay and say you're a side chick or you're a **** buddy. Oh, that's just somebody I'm *******. We was just fooling around. We weren't serious. He's going to downplay your relationship, knowing good and goddamn well y'all was living together. Y'all was planning to get married. All of that. OK, he's doing all this to love bomb this other person he's cheating on you with. But on the other hand, he'll turn around and he'll dog this person out to you. this is what they do they they play people against each other so you know um or after you break up everybody friends family you name it he's going to downplay and tear tear your ---- down to to family and friends i wasn't ever serious about her we wasn't going anywhere i i you know um she was just somebody somebody to do somebody you know somebody we was just ******* no one good and god damn well y'all were living together um he took you shopping for engagement ring and he was faking like he wanted to get married all this was a game but the moment you break up and move on all of a sudden he's telling his exes and baby moms and his friends and family oh one serious we won't you know not one serious one nothing like that you you know i love you though you know i i tried with this person but you know it was just something we was just ******* they lie y'all they lie about everything just like they'll sit up and talk about their exes and baby moms and dog the ---- out of them to you when y'all are pillow talking, his job is to put people against each other, so even even with with marriage you could be married to a narcissist I've heard crazy stories, you could be married to a narcissist and he he's cheating with his side chick and you know he's going to tell his side chick, yeah I'm married but but I don't sleep with my wife I'm not happy with my wife, we separated uh um i ain't been happy in a long time, but the ************ won't divorce his wife because his wife is is the financially responsible one of the house paying all the ******* bills and keeping a roof over the head while he's running the streets he won't tell the side chicks that he'll bad mouth his wife but he not gonna divorce her unless she up and leaves and divorces his ass, but he'll talk ---- about his wife, he will downplay his marriage, he's not happy, they're going through a separation, he slept with her in months, that's a ******* lie, he's still ******* his wife but he gonna tell side chick whatever she want to hear to keep side chick coming back, if you're if you get pregnant by a narcissist and he's laid up with his new chick after he didn't abandon you during your pregnancy, you know he's gonna tell the new chick i don't want the baby I never I told her to get an abortion I don't know why she won't listen to me he's going to downplay the pregnancy to his new hoe his new bitch, he's gonna tell her he he don't want the baby, he's gonna tell her you know I want us to get married but I'm sick of this bitch, this bitch you know won't let things go, she won't get an abortion blah blah blah, he's gonna bad mouth the **** out of of you while you're carrying his child, your his unborn child, bad mouthing you to the next chick, and if she's ******* toxic and narcissistic she's gonna sit there and laugh how can you sit there and laugh at a pregnant woman in her pain going through that why would you want to be with a man that abandons his responsibilities huh you know what i'm saying um it's just it's just crazy to me he's gonna downplay the pregnancy he didn't want the baby he never wanted the baby he wanted you to get an abortion that's what he's gonna tell but truth be told all narcs they secretly want to trap all their victims why because trapping their victim through pregnancy will guarantee them to get you locked down so they can pop back up in and out of your life throughout your child you know you're trying to raise your child on your own and they're just going to keep popping up two years five years here oh I want to be back in my child's life okay it's constant and and it's it's calculated well you know they get you pregnant they abandon you and they jump into another relationship they're living double and triple lives with multiple people out here in the streets and they're creating more babies that's why mostly all narcs if if not all but most of them um have multiple baby fathers and baby mothers they're highly promiscuous uh very high sex drives and they have multiple baby mothers and multiple baby fathers why because they love to trap their victims but they'll be out in the streets telling everybody the victim tried to trap me i didn't want the baby i wanted an abortion blah blah blah blah blah same textbook ******* story across the board they all do it they downplay their relationships to their new people the new person they get in a relationship with they're always going to trash talk their exes, bad mouth the exes, downplay the status, we weren't really uh together i was just ******* her, she was just something to do y'all, i'm gonna just i'm gonna keep it real which i know it hurts and it is very fucked up it is very fucked up um but i i just want to remind you so what if they're out here telling everybody something different, a different story so what you know that all that matters is that god almighty the god, the creator he saw everything god knows the truth we give the narcissist a little too much power and control and uh over our emotions we we care about what the narcissist says and thinks when we shouldn't give two fucks about what the narcissist says it's all gossip it's all hot air it's all lies and and rumors it gives the narcissist something to talk about you know he feels important as long as he's tearing down his exes and he has a story you're you're you know you're you're you're the life story you know to his reality show you know you know like love and hip-hop everybody needs a storyline to survive on the show you're the storyline for the narcissist he can't keep your name out of his mouth even if he's tearing you down because it gives him some sort of validation it gives him something to talk about because his life ain't about ---- he has nothing nothing great going on for himself his life is just all about ******* over people and creating drama he loves the drama um you should not be concerned with these rumors if you're pregnant i'm telling you right now i'm giving you the best solid advice celebrate your pregnancy by yourself it's going to be peaceful and quiet um the more that you expose yourself to the narcissist while you're pregnant and you chase and you sit up and grieve and you're calling and stressing you are harming your unborn baby because you're stressing over someone who is tearing your name down and trying to hurt you further while you're carrying his unborn child you're better off just uh treating him like he's dead and staying healthy and stress-free during your whole pregnancy i wouldn't even invite his ass to the hospital he wouldn't be invited to watch me give birth i know that much but that's just you know that's just me um marriages to being married to these pieces of ---- they get out in the streets and they act like they're not married they're so disrespectful to their spouse um like i said marriage and pregnancy is how they lock their victims in so they they married this person if they marry you then it was not for love it was for financial stability that's it it's all about the perks with a narc um they treat their side chicks better than their spouses they have zero respect for the spouse and they trust me they are downplaying the marriage to the side chick that's my wife but i ain't slept with her in months i can't stand her we going through a separation i'm going to be divorcing her soon they're going to tear the wife down to the side chick yo it's really it's fucked up it's really fucked up i ain't i ain't gonna lie and you know you you got a boyfriend girlfriend but you ain't got no kids be grateful it's it's really it's it's a blessing it's really a blessing do you really want to be tied down to someone do you really want to be tied down to someone that that is um that reckless legally legally you're married to this person or you have a baby you are stuck you have this attachment and and it's hard to get out of it's a legal attachment a baby or marriage is legal and it's really hard to get out of okay so let me let me let me tell y'all something boyfriend girlfriend situation it is going to hurt but you can get up out of it you can get up out of it especially you ain't got no damn kids I'm telling y'all the narc is going to downplay downplay your relationship and everything you was everything you gave everything you did for them it's like it never happened they trash talk their exes so bad and they they they start fights they start cat fights and everything between the new person they're ******* and the person they're planning to leave it's real it's fucked up so i'm just gonna tell y'all um i know it hurts keep watching these videos to get your strength up you're not crazy you just got got involved with someone that was highly manipulative and they this is what they do they they call all their exes crazy they downplay all their relationships they gotta love bomb the new person you gotta remember that whoever they get involved with after you they got to love bomb and sweep this person off their feet and convince this person that all their exes ain't ---- but this new person is going to learn just like you did have a blessed day guys