The Narcissist Doesn’t Level Up #npd #narcissist #emotionalabuse #domesticviolence #ex #loveadvice

Hey guys, Spiritual Whistleblower here with another video about narcissistic abuse. How are you guys doing? I'm excited to report that next month, June, I will be kicking off my national tour where I will be going to cities all over the United States from June all the way up until October. And I will be conducting support group meetups. I'll be signing books, autographing all my books. we're going to do a live podcast taping I got things for sale whistles and more importantly my brand new card game see this guys are you a narcissist see the questions are all on the back this is a card game that lets you play therapist whether you're getting to know somebody and you want to discern what their real personality is or if you know you're in a group of people this is a great game to help you raise your discernment when trying to learn people's real personality so I'm bringing these cards to all my support group meetups and we're all going to play if you come to the support group meetup you're going to be able to participate so you don't want to miss it June I will be in Charlotte North Carolina Greenville South Carolina Charleston South Carolina Memphis Tennessee Orlando Florida and Miami Florida so if you want to attend any of those you need to get in touch with me atlanta georgia is friday june 11th that's the big party i'm throwing a big party um downtown lounge private lounge there'll be a dj hookah bar food everything at the atlanta event you don't want to miss atlanta email me if you want to attend serious inquiries only chanel jasmine at gmail.com i'll pin my email down below now let's get into the video guys um ladies and gentlemen but uh you know i'm gonna direct this to my ladies uh when you apply pressure to a toxic man and fellas if you apply pressure to a toxic woman and you force them to be accountable you force them to be consistent you force them to level up and if they turn around and they run back to an old lover or if they cheat with a hood rat somebody that's not even on your level let that be your confirmation that you are to never give this individual another opportunity to waste your time ever again i say that because narcissists love to waste your time. That is the whole purpose of the relationship. They're going to string you along from the beginning to the end because while they're stringing you along, they're milking you of your finances, your energy, they're energy vampires. Sex, they will drain you of sex. They will destroy your social life. They will isolate you from friends and family. they're sucking you dry you don't even recognize your old self like i said prior to the relationship you had a social life you were dressing nice looking good uh you really didn't want to be in a relationship you wasn't looking to be in a relationship this person targeted you this person chased you down this person begged you for your time only to waste it so what normally happens when this person is love bombing you remember you know it when a narcissist is out to destroy you they they work in three components of an abuse cycle the first component is love bombing the second component is devaluation and the third component is discard so the love bombing is them in the very beginning and I'm sorry if I got to reiterate this guys because I get new subscribers every day that are just learning about this I know some of you guys a lot of you know this already but I got to teach the new the new the new pee newbies excuse me I couldn't get it out newbies the new people that subscribe so love bombing is when they're you know you're the love of my life you're my soul mate they bash their exes all my baby mama's crazy all my exes are crazy all my ex-wife is crazy all this one when they bash or talk down on their exes that is a huge red flag when someone is trying to start something new with you they should be at peace with their past even though they had bad breakups even though they may have you know not seen eye to eye with any of their exes they should be at a place in their life where they have closure from all of those relationships in the past okay because when you have made closure with the people from your past you don't bring it with you into your new relationships you don't even speak on it because you're totally indifferent to it but because narcissists are highly codependent they stay attached to all their former victims baby mamas ex-wives they don't want to let go even though they're out here in the streets talking bad about them they're codependent and stuck on all their exes okay because they recycle their exes they juggle them and rotate them for money resources sex whatever they can get out of their exes so it's like they're a circus clown juggling they're juggling all of their exes and if they're not juggling their exes they got their exes stored on a shelf so when they get tired of playing with their current victim they're gonna recycle and go back over here to the shelf and pull the exes that they had stashed and stored on the shelf. They all, all they do is rotate their victims. They don't ever want to let go of any of their victims. That's why they're always ******* with somebody from their past. So if they come to you like, oh, I love you. I want us to get married. You're the love of my life. All my exes are crazy. When you hear them bash their exes, yo, get the **** up out of here. That's no good. That's a very bad sign. When you come to a relationship, you should not talk down on any of your exes you should be at peace you should have that's a closed chapter you look into build with somebody in the future and you shouldn't be thinking about your exes so narcissists they all do it they will trash talk their exes run when they do that another thing too they like to flash money in the very beginning even if they're broke they're going to present themselves to have more than what they actually have they're going to try to impress you with dates flowers uh hey you need help with the bill let me pay your car note in the very beginning they're going to pretend to be financially stable and some of them have to have the best jobs i know narcissists that make money and they are terrible at managing their money they always have a gambling addiction or they're blowing money on all their side chicks but they're terrible at money but in the very beginning and they make like they got money they can take you on dates and buy gifts and all that all that is to trick you into thinking that they're going to have your back financially in the long run it's a trick if they fool you into believing that they have money what's going to happen during the devaluation stage is you're going to learn that they're going to stop giving they're going to stop doing and giving all that good attention all the gifts all that's going to stop and you're going to be like well okay since he did all those things for me i guess i can help him in return since we're building a future together and we're going to get married so if he borrows money from me that's going to be my husband i don't mind giving him money it's a trick y'all it's a trick to get you to give your money and guess what the moment you give your money he's going to keep on asking and keep on demanding and keep on taking and keep on draining but you're not going to see him give back to you and if he does decide to give it's going to be this small it's not going to be what he gave in the beginning so he drastically starts breadcrumbing you and training you to give more of your money while he gives less and he's reducing you and breaking your self-esteem down to nothing so you're clinging on to the relationship you're trying to save the relationship you're you're you're you're like well if i keep giving and keep doing it'll save this relationship and all you're all that's happening is you're being manipulated into giving up your money and devaluing yourself losing your dignity and self-respect while he takes your money he blows it on gambling he blows it on the side chicks or he might have a boyfriend on the down low yes so your money is going everywhere you're gonna end up paying the bills he's tricked you into paying the bills he's tricked you into giving up your money and being his sugar mama and that's not what relationships are all about finally discard is when he gets rid of you that's when he usually introduces the cheating um there's always somebody either a co-worker old high school friend a baby mama he's gonna casually bring this person in and he's gonna keep throwing this person in your face and you're gonna be like why do you keep bringing this person's name up who is this oh you're tripping you acting crazy you being jealous they're gonna accuse you of being jealous but they are the ones that deliberately keep bringing this person's name up they're very much inadvertently telling you who they're sleeping with this is the person they're cheating on you with or they plan on cheating on you with and they're testing you to see how you'll react if you'll fight for the relationship if you'll get jealous they want to make themselves a prize they want to appear desirable they want to make like two people are fighting over them so this is why he's bringing this person into the picture and this person nine times out often knows who you are you're a piece of ---- just like he is so the important thing of this video I just had to break down the components again at the very beginning of relationship you both discuss life goals what you want what your intentions are and you make it understood what what he's to bring to the table and what his intentions are because you're smart you're confident you're already established you got your degrees you got your own money you really don't need him whatsoever so you got to make it known like sir what are you bringing to the table how are we building together all that comes out in the beginning because if we're going to move forward with this and we're going to get married we got to be on the same page and the narcissist is such a liar he's going to say yeah i'm going to get married we're going to do this this way and we're going to be okay and we're going to be the next Jay-Z and Beyonce we're going to be a power couple he's up there lying because he knows that's the only way you're going to pursue this relationship he's got to have a plan he's got to have his life goals in order he's got to want to build and stay consistent but what usually happens in these types of relationships, the narcissist will flip the switch midway in the relationship. He gets off track because he's entertaining distractions behind your back. He's cheating on you, which is why he cannot focus on the initial plan that you and him put together in the beginning. We're supposed to be building and focusing on our life goals, buying a house, saving money, you know, doing whatever so that we can build and be the best that we can be as a unit, as a couple. But because he's behind your back grooming other victims because he's greedy and he wants money from multiple people he's cheating so therefore he cannot concentrate on the plans he has with you because he's entertaining all the distractions behind your back but then he's going to falsely accuse you of doing the dirt that he's actually doing behind your back he's the cheater but he's going to accuse you of cheating he's going to be checking your cell phone because he knows while he's at work he has two cell phones checking both of them staying in touch with all his side chicks he's guilty and he knows he's guilty that's why he's paranoid that you're doing it as well so when he's inconsistent and you notice that he's no longer honoring that blueprint the plan y'all put together the life goals he switches up his behavior becomes funky and inconsistent get rid of him don't keep thinking that okay well because he bought me flowers and he spent money on me in the beginning i know he has it in him maybe if i just give him a little more time he'll come around no the moment that he shows you that he's inconsistent get rid of him you understand you're going to regret it if you don't apply that pressure because if he's weak he will fold and he will run back to the weaker woman on the back burner that toxic bitch the side chick the baby mama that knew all about you and she's helping him ******* creep behind your back. When you apply the pressure to a weak man, he's not going to level up. He's going to level down. He's going to go back to what he's comfortable with because she's not going to push him to be his greater self. She wants him to stay in a sunken place with her and they're both going to continue to harass you and hope that you entertain that toxic love triangle. Welcome to the toxic life of a narcissist. This is Spiritual Whistleblower. Take care guys.