DO NOT CONTACT YOUR NARCISSISTIC MOTHER!! #narcissist #mothersday

Hey guys, Spiritual Whistleblower here. This is my Mother's Day special. I'm actually in the bed because I have been running like a damn maniac all week and I'm going dancing tomorrow. So I wanted to rest up. How y'all doing? Happy Mommy's Day to all my moms. Dang, siren is interrupting my video already. And before y'all ask, my lips are not swollen. Well, they are swollen, but just for a little bit, I got lip fillers done. That was my Mother's Day gift to me. Yes, I do believe i get botox i get all that stuff done i only get a little bit but you know i'm approaching 50 so you will never catch me slipping you know i do believe in getting a little botox in the forehead just to get rid of the wrinkles and stuff just a little bit like a lot of women need a lot i don't i don't want to mess with my face i love my face but i just don't like certain you know when the little lines start showing it's okay to get you know get a little bit of botox and i do like my lip filler so that's my mommy's day treat to me I want to share with y'all what my daughter bought for me and listen I don't like designer anything I don't own designer stuff um you know with the recent trade war going on with China China exposing luxury brands to be fake and all that I'm so glad you know I'm not knocking anybody that purchases luxury designer brand but I've never been that type I like what I like I can go to a thrift store and find something used up and make it look just as good and people think it's expensive you know it's how you style stuff but let me show you my baby she likes designer you know she she's into designer everything my daughter is actually uh she's interning right now for a celebrity stylist so she's in that industry which I'm very proud of her so she's around celebrities that's all I will say I don't want to give up her job where she works her location but she is in the New York scene doing intern work she's an intern as an assistant stylist a wardrobe stylist so my girl is into all the fashions and into all that stuff and so this is what she got me for Mother's Day I just want to show y'all show y'all the bag okay we'll probably go out to dinner on sunday i'm not i don't do i don't celebrate big like i'm just me and her can go out to lunch something casual i've never been big on holidays so uh hold on here so here's the bag it says coach coach topia i didn't have to hold this phone hold on but anyway um while i'm trying to get this gift out of the bag i will be in toronto canada in just a couple days y'all next wednesday may 14th i will see all my canadians um you know shout out to those of y'all that got your tickets already i said you can bring a friend it's basically a two for one buy one ticket bring an extra friend for free and i have gifts to give everybody lord have mercy i can't get this damn thing out hold on a second so um Toronto I will see y'all on Wednesday and if you don't have tickets and would like to buy tickets uh the link is down in the comment section hold on here y'all this is so bad okay here we go here we go so my baby bought this for Mother's Day it is a coach bag isn't that cute it says coach topia this is authentic coach honey this is the real deal she went straight to the uh trade room is that what they call it and uh got this bag for me now i'm not into designer but i love it i think it's adorable that's my mommy's day gift for my baby i want to say happy mother's day to all y'all um you know every year i do a mother's day video y'all and um because i just really think mothers let me rephrase this abusive mothers narcissistic mothers sociopathic mothers I think they do extensive damage to both their sons and daughters yes you know dad can do a lot of damage but I think the mother wound that mother wound does way more damage to both male and female um you know right now one of the hot topics that I'm talking about on my tiktok is these men that are on the down low and the people that protect them now the down low man uh he could have a wife at home right and he's sneaking off with his gay lover whether it's a gay man or a trans woman which is a man that dresses up like a woman right now women are having these discussions about exposing dl men because dl men are abusive they abuse their wives their children they're destructive to everybody involved but they they don't want to be exposed because they fear you know what what will my mother and father think of me what will my family they're they're trying to hide their true identity from their family members while deceiving so many people their wife or whatever so the thing is you know the gay men are protecting these down low men and the trans woman they don't want to expose the download man because the download man is buying them gifts and paying their bills that's the side piece so the side piece has benefiting financially and at the same time that side piece the gay man or trans woman they're in this secret competition with the wife the wife don't know nothing about the side piece but the side piece knows everything about the wife and he's he hates her he's what I'm saying is a lot of gay men not all a lot of gay men and trans women are misogynist and they want to see women hurt and abuse and children so they will help to abuse women by protecting down low men anybody that threatens to expose a down low man the gay men the trans women will fight you because they you know if you mess up the dl man and and expose him then you're going to **** up his situation with the side piece and the side piece don't want that yeah it's real y'all um we're we're living in these days now where the mother wound those dl men are fucked up by their mothers and they hate women and they just won't come out the closet and live in their truth and those toxic gay men and the toxic trans women they also have mother wounds and they hate women they're all misogynistic then we got the pick me women the female narcissist she's male-centered and she hates women too and she'll help she'll get in a relationship with a man on the down low she'll sleep with a gay man she'll sleep with a male pedophile she'll allow the pedophile to molest her daughter because she's obsessed with male validation so she's protecting the dl man too y'all and she suffers too from the mother wound so let me tie this together uh the mother wound i feel does way more damage to everybody if if a man has a mother wound he will spend the rest of his life jumping from woman to woman and he will harm a woman some type of way because of what his mother did to him he you know his family is pressuring him to forgive his mama stay loyal to your mama society pressures men to stay loyal to their mama even though mama's toxic and abusive mama may have molested him mama might have allowed somebody in the family to get away with molesting him and she didn't protect him or daddy could have beat the **** out of him and mama sat back and didn't protect him and mama didn't divorce daddy and protect her kids he has a resentment towards mom so he really wants to beat the **** out his mother for being abusive toxic maybe she abandoned him and read you know ran the streets maybe she left and never came back abandonment issues he's harboring some sort of resentment towards mom but he stays loyal to her because the pressure is on him by his family and society you only have one mother stay loyal to her no matter how abusive or toxic she is so he'll run he'll walk around with this resentment he has towards mom and instead of punishing her and beating her or going to therapy to deal with his therapy you know mommy issues and cutting mom off he'd rather just take his anger out on every other woman he doesn't know how to separate all women from his mama that's the problem he sees all women as his mother and that's why these men jump from woman to woman they're not looking for a partner they're looking for a mother that they can sleep with a slave a servant a a woman like their mother that they can sleep with and bully and take their anger out on because they can't take it out on mom and with our daughters a woman with a mother wound she goes around um you know thinking she's her mother's destroyed her self-esteem because i know firsthand her mother has destroyed her self-esteem so much that she goes through life um attracting abusive men and and female friendships that are toxic and that's because she's her mother was her first hater her first bully and her mother beat her down so much that she, she doesn't know herself worth. So I just think the mother wound does so much damage to both men and women. It is the narcissistic mother that destroys her children. I just want to say this to you guys, because you know, every mother's day I do, you know, a little video or something. If you cut your mama off, it's going to be hard at first because you're going to grieve, you're going to miss her and you really actually don't miss her. You're going to, you know, miss what she could have been to you. What, what would have happened if my mom really loved me? What would have happened if my mom really supported me, showed up to my college graduation, showed up to my beauty pageants, showed up to all my award ceremonies where I'm being awarded for community service, honored in the newspapers. You know, my mother personally has missed out on so much of my achievements. I have out, I've got more achievements than both my brother and sister combined. I'd be out in these streets killing it. I just, I'm very humble. I don't talk about my achievements, but I beat it by a long shot. My brother and sister cannot touch me on, on achievements. My mother, both my parents have missed out on everything. So when I say you have to grieve your mom, you're not grieving. She's not a good person. She's not a good person and she knows it but you're going to grieve what what would have been what could have been if my mom was a really good mom and she loved me like all other moms love their kids so when you get past that phase then it'll start to get a little easier because you've done the grieving and then all of a sudden you're going to just stop caring you're not going to care you're going to become indifferent the opposite of love is not hate because hate is a very strong emotion hate is is an emotion the opposite of love is indifference when you feel nothing that's where I'm at now I feel nothing for her I don't wish her bad but I feel nothing like I don't love her I don't love my I don't love my mother I don't care what happens to her I'm indifferent and that came with years and years and years of grieving grieving her as if she was dead you have to grieve the loss of your parents while they're still alive um it takes a lot of time it takes a lot of therapy it takes a lot you know you if you want if you really want some um some some support go to either Instagram or TikTok and I need you to hashtag baby boomer you can hashtag boomer parents you can hashtag narcissistic mothers you can click on the hashtag uh black sheep of the family anything with dealing with breaking generational trauma and you are going to find millions of people like yourself that cut their parents off y'all everybody is waking up to this and yeah you know sure there are a lot of support groups with these parents crying and playing victim. Oh, I don't know why my children are doing me like this. They're so ungrateful. Everything that I've done for them. I don't know why they're going to play professional victim. Let them, let them. They are self-sabotaging and they are what's happening is they are suffering consequences. The way you treat your children when they are young is how they're going to treat you when you become old that's just how it is if you're a good parent and by what I mean by good I'm not talking about financial roof over your head food on the table that is a requirement by law that that you're going to go to jail if you don't provide and take care of your children so you can't use that as love and throw it in your children's face when I say love I mean emotional nurturing are you building your children's confidence and self-esteem if your child has a disability like I did when I was a little girl I had autism but my mother and father were too prideful or they were too busy fighting in the streets to get me diagnosed and get me the treatment they had treatment for children my age they had classes they might have called it special ed but damn it I would have received some sort of treatment or therapy for my autism my parents failed me. How do you bully, beat, abuse a child with a developmental disability? How do you make fun of them? Yeah. My hygiene wasn't the best as a little girl because I was autistic. I was a bit slow. I got beat for my poor hygiene because I didn't brush my teeth all the time, which is also a symptom. Autistic children have a bad habit of brushing their teeth, not brushing their teeth. excuse me I got beat for that I got my mother would take the toothbrush and scour my gums until they bled when I was a little girl I would scream and cry blood spit up blood she she's just awful terrible human being but you know when when you know let your let your mama because this is about mother say let your mama play victim I promise you she's gonna jump from this person and that person crying, complaining. What did I do to deserve this? All I've done. I'm not the best mother. I, there was no handbook on motherhood. I did the best I could let her play victim because she knows deep in her heart, the things that are required to love a child are not found in a handbook and it doesn't cost a dime. You either have it in your heart. It's called love. It's the very same thing that Jesus Christ had inside of him he gave us his love and unfortunately a lot of parents don't have love inside of them and what's crazy is their parents were abusive their parents didn't show them love so you would think because they went through it when they were were little children that they would grow up and learn that hey my mom and dad hurt me so if I ever have children I don't want to I don't ever want to put my children through what my parents put me through I'm a change change starts with me so the moment I have children I'm gonna give them twice as much love than what I was given you would think your parents would learn the lesson they didn't what they did was they recycled and they repeated the abuse that was taught to them and they passed that ---- right on down to to y'all to us and don't let me get on the baby boomers because the baby boomers are the most narcissistic, toxic, self-centered generation there is. I don't give a damn what nobody say. Okay. Listen, if you're a parent, I'm a mother. Nope. None of us parents are perfect. It's not an easy job. However, I'm going to say this again. It doesn't require a handbook to love a child. It's natural. When you push your baby out of your womb and the doctor hands your baby over to you and puts the baby in your arms that's the love the love that you feel in your heart and soul that is supposed to be the love that carries you throughout your child's entire life unfortunately if your mother's a narcissist she does not have that love she doesn't she's empty inside she's empty and then she will proceed to bully beat you she'll let she'll allow others to molest and bully you. She just has it out for you. She will parentify you. When I say parentify, if you've seen the Disney movie, Cinderella, Cinderella was parentified. Cinderella was turned into a parent and a slave and forced to take care of her stepmother and sisters. That's parentification. My mother did that to me. I was forced to work when I was in high school while she laid on the couch. She would not get a job because she was accustomed to a certain lifestyle that her second husband, you know, that drug money ran out. And you know, when he went to prison, she refused to get a job. She wanted to lay on the couch. She didn't want to, didn't want to work, but I had to work. Therefore I became the parent in the household. She took all my paychecks to buy groceries and pay the light bills. I wasn't allowed to take my paychecks and go out with my, my friends. I was a senior in high school. I should have been out, out at the mall shopping and buying my own things preparing for college no no and my brother had a job he refused to give my mother any money my brother said hell no so it all fell on my shoulders I just want to say this y'all get through the grieving because on the other side of the grieving is a world of happiness let me tell you something I have not been this happy in so long and the level of success I have achieved since cutting my mother off and realizing that she never wanted me to be successful she never wanted me to shine she never wanted me to be happy she she had it out for me and I honestly believe she blames me because had she not gotten pregnant with me she probably wouldn't have been with my father but it's not my fault she honestly needs to blame my nana my father's mother because it was my nana that pressured her to to get with my father it was my nana that wanted grandchildren that's where the blame needs to go and my mother should have been smart enough to realize that my nana was ******* miserable in her marriage and misery loves company and my nana didn't want to be alone in her misery and she saw that my mother was gullible and naive and my mother was in search of a mother's love because her mother didn't give her the proper love her mother was emotionally disconnected my grandmother Vera Kelly was a covert narcissist may she rest in peace but she was my grandmother I know for a fact and I dare anybody to ******* challenge me because I will eat them to ******* shreds she was a covert narcissist that's why she treated me she was able to give birth to my mother abandon my mother and run off and start another family somewhere else. That's what narcissists do. So my mother was looking for a mother's love and she found the mother's love with my father's mother, my Nana. But what my mother didn't know is that my Nana took advantage of that. And my Nana, because my Nana didn't have a daughter, she had three sons. She saw my mother's yearning for a mother's love and manipulated my mother and groomed her and sucked her into their dysfunctional family by setting her up with my father pressuring them to get married and have a baby grandchild and all that my mother needs to blame my nana and she needs to blame herself because that's why she's miserable and she took those anger the anger and frustration my father was a punk i believe my father's in the closet yes i do my father is 100% a misogynist I don't think he likes women because he hates his mother and he definitely hates my my mother. I don't think he wants to touch a woman. I don't think he's touched a woman in the last 30 years. 100 percent a misogynist. And he's also a covert narcissist. But my mother's anger towards him being a piss poor father figure. He was not a provider. He was lazy and he was a woman beater. he put his hands on my mother so she was angry and who else did she take could she take that anger she took it out on her oldest child I was the first born she probably looks at me like if it wasn't for you I wouldn't have married your father and the real blame she should take the blame and accountability for not being smart enough to vet my father and allowing my nana to force her and and and pressure her into a situation that she was not ready for nor was my father they were kids they were kids and getting married and having kids was a trendy thing nobody thought things over nobody had no money saved nobody they just jumped into the ---- listen behind my nana and and both of them were ******* miserable and and the children suffered now the children are adults and now that you know i don't know about my siblings but i can speak for myself that i've sorted through all my childhood trauma i've gotten therapy i've gotten a diagnosis of autism things that my parents should have done when i was young i'm just now finding out and i'm realizing now that yeah they had their trauma and i i show empathy because both of them you know my mother wasn't beaten the way my father my father got beat severely by his mother my mother's uh mother damaged her emotionally my my grandmother Vera abandoned my mother and that that abandonment left a scar on my mother which was you know my grandmother abused my mother it just wasn't a physical abuse it was an emotional abuse it was an abandonment a type of abuse narcissistic abuse and it left a scar on my mother so much that she ran out here seeking the love of a mother and she found it in my father's mother and my father's mother my nana took advantage of it so much that she she groomed my mother and sucked her into their dysfunctional family and my mother is so angry instead of her taking that anger out she will not cut my nana off she will not check my nana and I don't know she's just up my nana's ass but that's where the accountability lies you don't bully your daughter you you you don't allow anyone to get away with molesting your daughter you don't compare your daughter to any other woman including your other daughter my mother is a horrible ******* human being she is an absolute piece of ---- and you know she's got to spend the rest of her life knowing that she destroyed the relationships of her children none of her children are together and never will be and she is the blame for it now I just want to let y'all know this Mother's Day if you have your own children love on them start your own traditions don't pick up that phone and call your mama because she she doesn't care You can buy her a gift and you can wish her happy Mother's Day and she'll spit on you the next day after. She don't care about the gifts or the acknowledgement. She just wants the control. She just wants to know that you're going to keep running behind her like a ******* lap dog. She just wants to keep abusing you. Don't give her that anymore. It's time to set a permanent boundary and put a stop to the abuse. You understand me? Let her run her mouth. Let her, you know, let her do the gossip. up my mother has said all type of ---- about me I don't give two fucks I'm just glad the bitch is out of my life she's so done she's cooked she's cooked our relationship is done there will never be a relationship ever ever ever I know who she is I know what she is I think therapy will not help my mother she needs to be delivered she has a demon inside of her 100 percent she is demon possessed y'all got to get to a point where you stop giving a **** and it's not going to happen until you go through the grieving process that's where i'm at right now y'all happy mother's day if you have children enjoy your time with your babies if you don't have children maybe you have a dog love on your dog you're a dog mom a cat mom love on your cat if you you want go buy somebody else's mom dinner if you see a homeless woman in the street buy her some dinner go donate your time at a homeless shelter or women's shelter donate some clothes to a women's shelter just do something nice for somebody else tomorrow excuse me sunday all right i love you guys oh one last thing i have i have a couple new books but i'm not going to show them all today but this is my revised how to defeat a narcissist is the 2025 revised hardcover yes y'all i did that i'm gonna talk more about this book in in the next um video your girl been working i'm about to pump out like four more books gotta get that money bag keep the hustle going and and help my brothers and sisters at the same time that's what i've been doing staying busy toronto canada i will see y'all on wednesday may 14th i love you guys have a safe blessed wonderful mother's day to all my moms and stay narcissistic free this is the spiritual whistleblower good night y'all